There's a script around Mother's Day that doesn't account for any of us.
You're meant to want a candle, a coffee, a sleep-in, and to look visibly grateful at the end of it. If you can't name what you want, you're ungrateful. If you do name it, you have to manage it. If you stay quiet, you spend Sunday night cleaning up the wrapping paper from your own gifts.
This episode is the one underneath that script. The maths nobody's saying out loud. The reason your brain blanks. And one small thing to try this Sunday — not to fix the year, just to notice what the silence is actually doing.
This episode is for you if
- He asks what you want and your brain just stops
- You always say I don't mind, whatever's easy and then feel a bit hollow when Sunday's over
- You've spent Mother's Days managing other people's mothers and have nothing left for your own
- You're a single mum and Sunday is just another Sunday, except this one's worse
- You're grieving — your own mum, the version of motherhood you wanted, or both
- You've been telling yourself for years that you're just too sensitive
Related episodes
S2 EP88: I Made the Lunches, Booked the Table, and Still Felt Invisible (Mother's Day)
S3 EP35: You Were the Good Girl. That's Why You're Falling Apart Now.
S3 EP18 Quick Reset: Why You're Bad at Asking for Help and What to Do Instead
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