Each of us has a powerful but untapped resource within us waiting to be discovered and utilized. We all have the potential of living a life with little or no stress—a life that is full of joy and fulfillment. This power lies in the ability to hang on to thoughts that empower us and let go of those thoughts that are disempowering to us. We become what we think about all day long. Much has been written about this fundamental building block for explaining why some people always seem happy and why others rarely are. Mary Kay Ash said, “If you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right.” For the most part, we decide what is going to happen before it happens. If you say to yourself, “I’ll never be able to complete that 10k run,” guess what? More than likely you won’t even begin to train. If you say to yourself, “Gee, look at all those people my age who are actually finishing that 10k run,” you are more likely to give it a try. If you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right! 

Start to notice your thoughts throughout your day. Most of us think the same thoughts day after day. Most of our thoughts focus on “what is.” It can be a real breakthrough just to be able to separate yourself from your thoughts. When you are able to step back and observe what thoughts you are hanging on to, you will start to understand why your life is the way it is. 

Let’s say you are thinking about your financial situation. You may be saying to yourself, “My parents always struggled to make ends meet.” “I didn’t have the educational opportunities 

that others had.” “I guess I’m lucky to have my job, but I am still not able to get ahead.” Your thoughts about “what is” in your life are going to get you more of “what is.” If you want things to change, you have to change something. Start by changing your thoughts. In his book, You’ll See It When You Believe It, Wayne Dyer asserts that we can manifest what we want in our lives as long as we believe we can. 

Take something in your life that you want to improve. Focus your thoughts on how you want things to be. As you focus on your desired result, notice how good you feel. Bring to mind your desired result and accompanying good feelings as often as you can during the day. Observe when the thought of the lack of your desired result enters your mind. Also notice the accompanying bad feelings. This is the exact moment to replace the thought of lack with the thought of fulfillment. Take charge! Make that thought of your desired result your dominant thought. Your life will start to move into the direction of your desires. Begin to fashion your own life. We become what we think about all day long.