Joanna Krupa is back—but this time we're putting her to the test.
In this bonus game episode of The Iconic Midlife, Joanna plays Hot or Unhinged?, where she weighs in on dating, relationships, red flags, modern romance, animal rescue, and some seriously questionable life choices.
No overthinking. No filter. Just instant reactions and plenty of laughs.
In this episode:
• Dating younger: Hot or Unhinged?
• Sliding into DMs
• Sleeping with your ex
• Reality TV drama
• The biggest dating red flags
• Animal rescue and relationship deal-breakers
• Joanna's funniest rapid-fire takes
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Transcripts
Joanna Krupa:
Life's too short. You really see that hot guy, you're like, oh, I want him.
Roxy Manning:
Go for it, go for it. Go after what you want.
Joanna Krupa:
The worst I can say is no or I'm married or I'm not single. If you go through your partner's phone, you kind of know it's not going to go anywhere. It's like, why open a can of worms?
Roxy Manning:
Women making the first move.
Joanna Krupa:
Hot.
Roxy Manning:
Hot, right?
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah, I've definitely done it in the past. Not recently, but I definitely have done it. I wouldn't be so against younger.
Roxy Manning:
So soulmates hot or unhinged?
Joanna Krupa:
Hot. But you know, I'm still searching for mine.
Roxy Manning:
So this game is called hot or Unhinged.
Joanna Krupa:
Okay.
Roxy Manning:
Yes. So I will read a situation, a trend, a relationship behavior to you and you tell me if that's hot or unhinged.
Joanna Krupa:
Okay.
Roxy Manning:
Are you ready?
Joanna Krupa:
Yes.
Roxy Manning:
Okay. Dming your ex after a few cocktails.
Joanna Krupa:
Oh, unhinged. It's like I've done that before. Way back in the day when I was younger. But yeah, yeah.
Roxy Manning:
True men who called themselves alpha.
Joanna Krupa:
Unhinged.
Roxy Manning:
Unhinged.
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah, yeah.
Roxy Manning:
It's different. Maybe younger, I would have liked that.
Joanna Krupa:
But now, yeah, Yeah. I think when I was younger I would have been okay with it. But not. Meh. Yeah, yeah.
Roxy Manning:
Sleeping in separate bedrooms than your partner.
Joanna Krupa:
Oh, gosh. Well, now I would be okay with it, I guess. But I mean, it is cute to cuddle, so I don't know. That's a hard one. Hot if you're really into somebody.
But unhinged if you're just like there with somebody because you have to be, but you're not really sexually attracted to them anymore. Or if they snore.
Roxy Manning:
Oh, yes, snoring.
Joanna Krupa:
If they snore. Yeah. But I guess it just depends.
If I'm not happy with somebody, I would want them to be in a separate bedroom, but otherwise, yeah, I like to cuddle and have somebody next to me.
Roxy Manning:
Oh, very sweet.
Joanna Krupa:
Not at the moment, but you know, when it. When in a relationship. Yeah, when?
Roxy Manning:
Exactly. Okay. Dating younger men.
Joanna Krupa:
I haven't.
Roxy Manning:
Okay.
Joanna Krupa:
I haven't. And I've for a long time. I said I wouldn't want to, but you know what? Hey, never say never. Never have.
But if it was like the right type of guy, maybe, maybe as long as not immature. As long as somebody not too much into their looks. You know, maybe like a rugged.
It's funny because last year on Top Model there was this hot 10 year old. 10 Year difference. He was 10 years younger than me. He actually won the show last year. He was one of my favorites. Like, tattoo, dark hair, super hot.
Like somebody like him I probably would have a fling with. Not him, because obviously it'd be too awkward. But I'm like, that was for like the first time. I'm like, huh?
I wouldn't be so against younger and like, tattoo bad boy.
Roxy Manning:
Yes.
Joanna Krupa:
That direction I've never taken in the past, so maybe that would work. Well, yeah.
Roxy Manning:
It's nice to like, not do, like, not do the clean cut necessarily.
Joanna Krupa:
Right.
Roxy Manning:
Like the dirty, sexy.
Joanna Krupa:
I'm into it.
Roxy Manning:
I'm like, yes. Going through your partner's phone.
Joanna Krupa:
Oh, on him.
Roxy Manning:
On him?
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah. No, that's like, if you go through your partner's phone, you kind of know it's not going to go anywhere.
Roxy Manning:
Urge.
Joanna Krupa:
It's like, why? Like, why open a can of worms?
Because, you know, sometimes people like, you might find something that's not really what it is and it just comes into an argument. And obviously if you are looking at your partner's phone, something's already not going well.
Roxy Manning:
That's like your gut telling you.
Joanna Krupa:
I was always against that. I never, never liked that. Maybe when I was in high school and. Stupid, right? Yeah. With my first boyfriend. But yeah, no.
Roxy Manning:
Yeah, not so much. Right?
Joanna Krupa:
Not hot.
Roxy Manning:
Posting thirst traps after 40.
Joanna Krupa:
Posting what?
Roxy Manning:
Thirst traps after 40.
Joanna Krupa:
Thirst traps. Like sexy photos of yourself after 30.
Roxy Manning:
After 40, I think it's hot.
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah. I'm like, as we said earlier, age is just a number. If you feel hot, you look hot. Why not?
Yeah, it's like, it makes me so angry when I see comments of people like, you know, like, jlo, she looks super hot. Amazing at her age. And it's like, if you see people commenting like, she's so old to wear that. It's like, why?
Roxy Manning:
Yeah, why?
Joanna Krupa:
Exactly. She looks hot. Like, who cares?
Roxy Manning:
Yeah, she's like so hot.
Joanna Krupa:
Like, who cares? Yeah.
Roxy Manning:
Women making the first move.
Joanna Krupa:
Hot.
Roxy Manning:
Hot, Right?
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah. I've definitely done it in the past. Not recently, but I definitely have done it.
Roxy Manning:
Right. I mean, why not?
Joanna Krupa:
There's nothing wrong with you. Zero. You know, sometimes guys get intimidated or they're shy or for some reason they might think you're taking.
You're in a relationship so you have nothing to lose. Who cares?
Roxy Manning:
Who cares?
Joanna Krupa:
Who cares?
Roxy Manning:
Right? Do it.
Joanna Krupa:
Life's too short. When you see that hot guy, you're like, o, I want him. Go for it, Go for it.
Roxy Manning:
Go after what you want.
Joanna Krupa:
The worst he can say is no, or, I'm married, or I'm not single. Who cares?
Roxy Manning:
Totally. Friends with benefits in midlife.
Joanna Krupa:
I think it's hot. Nobody in my, you know, my circle that could be a friend with benefits, but if it came to it, it'd be hot.
Roxy Manning:
You know what you want. You go into it.
Joanna Krupa:
I don't have to, like, deal with the everyday drama. Yes, Totally for it.
Roxy Manning:
Totally. Reality TV feuds. Hot or unhinged?
Joanna Krupa:
Unhinged.
Roxy Manning:
Unhinged, Right. Yucky.
Joanna Krupa:
Yucky. Depending what feud. If it's like a, you know, like a stupid drama, you know, like feud, it's fine. But going under the belt is not hot.
Yeah, unhinged for sure. Getting back together with an ex, for me, unhinged. But, you know, for some people might be hot. You know, sometimes we get wiser as we get older.
Maybe somebody dated somebody 10 or 20 years ago and they rekindle their romance. That's hot.
Roxy Manning:
Yeah.
Joanna Krupa:
Yeah. But none of my exes, actually, there's one, but he's married with kids, so that would be the only one I think would be really hot.
But, yeah, you're like, dang it. That one. That one. Yeah, that one. I probably wouldn't say no if he. If he ended up being single.
Roxy Manning:
Last one. Soulmates. Hot or unhinged?
Joanna Krupa:
Hot. But, you know, I'm still searching for mine, so.
But I think it's hot when people, you know, like, when you meet friends or just people, they're like, oh, he's my soulmate, or she's my soulmate. It's so cute. It's adorable. It's hot. It's cute.
Roxy Manning:
It's cute. Oh, my God. Amazing. Well, hopefully, whatever you decide if you meet somebody or not meet somebody.
