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DW181: How to Know if You are a Workaholic and How it’s Hurting You with Diane Rolston
Episode 18115th November 2022 • Dynamic Women® • With Diane Rolston
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Are you wondering if you're a workaholic? Or maybe you wear the badge of being a workaholic with pride? In this episode, Diane Rolston shares 10 different things to help you know if you are a workaholic. She also talks about the ways how each of those is hurting you as well. 

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Are you wondering if you're a workaholic? Or maybe

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you wear the badge of being a workaholic with pride? Oh, this

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episode is for you. If you think you are one or you know you are.

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You're listening to the Dynamic Women podcast. Each week you'll

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be inspired by our global community of women. They'll

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share with you tools and stories to help you be dynamic in every

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area of life. Here's your host, award-winning coach and the CEO

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and founder of Dynamic Women, Diane Rolston.

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Hello, lovely dynamic women. Welcome to the Dynamic Women

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Podcast. I'm Diane Rolston, your host. Today we're going to talk

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about how to know if you're a workaholic and how it's hurting

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you. So I encourage you, first of all, go to the show notes

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where you're going to be able to do the How Much of A Workaholic

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Are You Quiz. Because you probably if you're listening to

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this, have a strong inclination that you are a workaholic.

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Now in society, it's often time so workaholics it shows that

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you're passionate about what you do, you're proud of what you do.

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And we're kind of in the position where we clap for you.

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We go, oh, wow, you're so busy. And oh, you're doing so many

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great things. And workaholics are often rewarded at work, they

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often set the bar so high that it is like work, the company is

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going wow, there's such a model employee, they're working so

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hard, yet there could be damage that is being done to themselves

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and to others.

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So let me go through a bunch of the different aspects of how do

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you know if you're a workaholic, I also encourage you to do the

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quiz so that you know how much of a workaholic are you, I'm

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also going to go through the different ways that it's hurting

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you. And then in the next episode, I'm gonna go into more

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detail about some really clear really simple ways that you can

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stop being a workaholic, or at least reduce the amount of hurt

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that it's doing to you. So how do you know you're a workaholic,

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I'm gonna go through 10 different things, but I'll go

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through them pretty quickly. But with each one, I'm going to tell

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you how it's hurting you as well. And then hey, if by

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listening to this, you're inspired to stop being

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workaholic, wonderful.

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Number one, you work longer hours than others. So maybe the

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way this shows up, if you work in a company, as you show up

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first you leave last in your business, maybe you are still

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working into the night, where you maybe miss dinner, because

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you're working or you don't finish your day till seven, or

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maybe you finish at five, but then you go back to it for

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another round between maybe seven and 10. And for the moms

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out there, I know this often happens because your kids come

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home at three. And so you're working later in the day. Now

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working longer hours than others can lead to burnout, right?

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Plus, it's taking away the time that you have to be off. So you

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feel on all the time plus, it sets a precedence, especially if

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you are at a company where they come to expect you to produce

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that high level of work or that amount of work. Because you're

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at those amount of hours. And when you try to reduce the

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hours, you're not going to be able to get the same results.

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It's just not possible with the amount of hours.

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The second one is default is work, right? So you have a

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couple of free hours here or there. You directly go to work.

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And I see this a lot in my entrepreneurs. You got a couple

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of hours on a Saturday afternoon, what do you decide to

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do get assigned to work, right? And so you're always turning to

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work rather than other things. So how is that hurting you? When

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default is work, that's the thing that consumes most of your

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time, and your energy, rather than the other things. And I'm

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going to get into that one. Next.

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So the third one is your fun and recreation part of life is

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lacking. So if we look at the wheel of life, I do a wheel with

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10 different areas. And in that when your fun and recreation

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part is lacking, it means you're not having fun, you don't have

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hobbies or other interests. And the issue with that. You're now

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looking to work for all your fulfillment. You're not growing

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as a person in other ways. And you're not able to just chill

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out and have fun and develop yourself and be able to find I'm

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going into a lot of the other points. I'm trying to curve

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myself here. But when you don't have that fun and recreation,

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then it feels scary to take time off. I know that one of my

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clients in the past she had really a lot of hard hard time

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wanting to take time off because with no fun and recreation. She

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was worried about like what am I going to do when I'm not at

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work.

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The fourth thing is you're always thinking about work,

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right? So you're at a dinner with girlfriends, you're

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thinking about work. You're maybe hanging out with your

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kids, you're thinking about work. You are on vacation,

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you're thinking about work, and your brain is always on work, it

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just doesn't get a time off. It doesn't have that opportunity to

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say, okay, work is over here. And fun is over here and

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families over here, it's just always going on in the

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background, that's stressful. You maybe are always in that

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kind of high level, adrenal gland cortisol pump in place,

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that can lead to the next problem.

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Number five, your stress is high. It's hurting you right?

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When your stress is high cortisol levels are high, your

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adrenal glands are pushing. This causes you to hold weight. I'm

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not a doctor, but I've gone through this myself. And so your

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stress is high, you're getting maybe headaches, you're getting

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body pains, you're maybe getting sick more, because your body

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doesn't have that time to rest and your mind doesn't have that

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time to be off.

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Number six, you don't take proper vacations. Hmm, yeah,

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Have you have you taken like a 10 day vacation or a one week

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vacation? Or what I've seen in clients is that they will book

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time off, and they will fill those days with catching up on

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work, or planning for the next quarter. That's not the

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intention of a vacation. That's not the intention of taking time

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off. Time off means not time on your work. And you're like,

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Yeah, but that's that's what I liked doing with that time.

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Well, maybe if you had the opportunity to lay on a beach,

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or do an adventure, do a cruise, go sightseeing, I don't, learn

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how to cook Thai food, do yoga retreat, maybe if you had the

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opportunity to do that, then you'd allow yourself to have a

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proper vacation and you'd enjoy it. When we don't have that

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complete time off. It's hard to feel rested, you're not having

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something to look forward to, you don't have something

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different. And what I found in my recent vacation was, I was

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able to connect more with who I fully am as a person, which was

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really amazing.

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The next one, number seven, you choose work over personal

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commitments. And so maybe on a Friday, you see that you have a

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doctor's appointment, but there's a report that you want

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to work on a little bit more to finesse it a little bit more. So

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you skip your doctor's appointment. Or maybe you're not

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even making doctor's appointments at all. Or you're

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not giving yourself the opportunity to go to the gym

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because you have work to do you're not doing date nights,

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you're not going to your your kids, maybe events that are

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happening through school because you're choosing work. Maybe on

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the weekends you miss out on stuff because you choose to work

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rather than choose to do the things in your life that are

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more personal and important to you in that regard. Because

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you're choosing work now. Now does this hurt you? Well, it's

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kind of obvious that the doctor stuff, maybe you're in pain and

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you need to do physio or do massage and now you're not. And

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so you're hurting even more, right? And you're also telling

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yourself that you don't matter as much as work does that you're

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going to push these things aside that they don't they don't

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matter to you and so your circle and your bubble of what life is

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like and what your experiences are get very, very, very small.

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Number eight, you even work when you are sick or hurting. I'll

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admit I've been guilty of this I had a speaking engagement and I

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had food poisoning the night before and so the whole night I

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was hugging the toilet bowl. not literally but I was hugging the

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toilet bowl and was sick all night. And so I still showered

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in the morning got ready and off I went. Now not ideal I did push

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through but it was for that specific occasion. But when I

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got COVID I took a week and a half off basically reduced my

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hours. I cancelled things I just didn't try to push through and

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any other time now that I'm sick or hurt I'm really try hard not

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not to work but when you do that you risk the chance of, one

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making other sick but two, the thing is that you are going to

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extend the life of that illness or sickness or injury because

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you're not resting. Think you can figure out how that can hurt

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you, right?

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Number nine you work through your lunch, right? Lunch, what's

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lunch, I just sit and eat at my desk. And I'm super guilty of

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this, I actually right there have lunch dishes sitting there,

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and it happens, it happens. But when you don't take a break,

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then your brain doesn't have time to just reset and have

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quiet time. And so you fatigue a lot faster when you don't have

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that break. Plus, it's not good for your eyes and your brain to

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be staring at a computer or doing whatever you're doing

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repetitively, or over and over again, without having that

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moment of rest.

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And the last one, you have a hard time unplugging from work.

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Anyone guilty of that? Anyone been out and receiving messages?

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Or kind of sneak off to the bathroom at a dinner to try and

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take a work call? Or are you just oh, I just have to send

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this email or I have to do this thing. Well, when you have a

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hard time unplugging from work, it means you're always plugged

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in. And when you're always plugged in, you're too easily

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accessible. People get access to you people are constantly in

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your space, and you don't have any time to just let everything

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go to reset, to recharge, to rejuvenate. You're always on.

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So in these 10, which ones are the ones you have the most

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trouble with? I'd love to hear from you. Because what I'll do

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is not only will in the next episode, will I talk about some

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solutions that you can go through. But if you let me know

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which ones are most, the most hard for you to get rid of. And

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the ones that you want some more strategy around, I will create

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some specific training videos on how to get rid of those specific

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aspects of being a workaholic.

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Now, I mentioned about the quiz, please do the quiz, because it's

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gonna let you know how you know if you're workaholic and how

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much of a workaholic, are you? That's kind of important,

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because you're going to know if is this a problem? Or is this

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something that's I kind of haven't checked, I just have to

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watch it. So do that. That's going to give you some really

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great insight. And if you're thinking Diane, well, I'd love

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to not be a workaholic, I just have so much work.

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Please know that we do have the Virtual Assistant Made Easy

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Program where I hire a VA for you, a virtual assistant from

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the Philippines. I then help you and your VA to figure out what

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to delegate what to pass off. How do you train them all the

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tools, I set everything up for you in the Tools area, so that

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you can just jump in, use the pieces that I'm teaching you in

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order to be able to pass off and delegate work to your VA's. Some

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of the results my clients have had are being noticed and being

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invited to do a speaking engagement. I've had a client

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get three new clients in one week, another client in the

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program finished their book, another client is making their

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first course. And so there's so many opportunities to be able to

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not be a workaholic by passing off some work. If you want to

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know about more about that, please check the notes to find

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the link for not only the quiz, but for the VA Made Easy

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Program.

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And if you would like to pass off your social media content

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creation and social media management through scheduling of

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your posts, then please reach out personally to me diane@diane

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rolston.com. We have a very new, not fully launched program right

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now, where we are going to provide those services where you

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just provide me with a you know short piece of content and I'm

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we're able to repurpose that right across the board. So it's

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going to take you about 60 to 90 minutes a week total to have all

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of your social media content created and posted by my VA

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team. Sounds good.

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Okay, so stay tuned for the next episode, where I am going to

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give you some solutions to how to stop being a workaholic

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because it's hurting you and we want you to be at like the

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optimal level that you can be at. You liked the episode.

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Please hit subscribe, share with a friend and tell us what you

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think. Until next time, everyone. Stay dynamic!

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