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Friendship Bench. Humanitarian Danny Brown
Episode 13312th July 2021 • Your Positive Imprint • Catherine Praiswater
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We often overlook our human connections in the ‘offline world.' What do you notice when you venture out into the real world? Take a moment to pause and allow your soul to reconnect. Humanitarian Danny Brown emphasizes the importance of human connections.

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What's your P.I.?

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'Do not judge by appearance.

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A rich heart may be under a poor coat,' a Scottish proverb..What is it that you

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observe when you are on a walk or shopping?

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Do you think about the people whom you observe?

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What comes to your mind and through your own soul?

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Well, Danny Brown of Scotland is inspired by those around him, but not his friends and

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colleagues alone, but by those he observes or meets through eye contact or a friendly head nod.

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Part of being a proud Scott is to listen to the silence, be still and let your soul catch up.

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His work for those in need, non-profits, is globally known and his famous quote resonates worldwide.

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And I absolutely love this quote.

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'We forget human connections offline'.

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His soul was touched by a woman he observed eating ice cream.

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Danny Brown.

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I'm so anxious to hear your story.

Catherine:

And of course your positive imprints.

Catherine:

Welcome to the show.

Catherine:

Thank you Catherine.

Danny Brown:

And that's quite the entry you have that down, pat.

Danny Brown:

Whenever I do a podcast, I have to do like an intro 10 or 20 times, and then maybe get one snippet.

Danny Brown:

So I was pretty impressed.

Danny Brown:

Listen to you.

Catherine:

Oh, well, it's, it's about you and, and, , I love, I love featuring people like

Catherine:

you and, and having you share your stories and of course, positive imprints and inspiring

Catherine:

others so that they can go out and do the same.

Catherine:

So how are you today there?

Danny Brown:

I am good.

Danny Brown:

Thank you.

Danny Brown:

I'm in the Muskoka, , area of Canada, Ontario, Canada.

Danny Brown:

So we get a lot of snow and cold which is one of the reasons we moved here, , to get that proper winter.

Catherine:

Let's hear a little bit more about you.

Catherine:

I was on your podcast and that's how I met you.

Catherine:

And you also unbeknownst to me work for captivate FM, Mark Asquith'scompany, which is a podcast host.

Danny Brown:

That's correct.

Danny Brown:

We host the audio file is also help you distribute the show.

Danny Brown:

Promote, it , et cetera, for that.

Danny Brown:

Yeah.

Danny Brown:

Mark speaks highly of you as well.

Danny Brown:

I told him when you were on my show, I spoke to him about it and he says, oh yeah, Catherine's awesome.

Danny Brown:

Catherine's great people.

Danny Brown:

So you've got a big fan there.

Catherine:

Oh, that's so sweet.

Catherine:

Well, he and I have a very good working relationship and I absolutely love his input.

Catherine:

, I so much appreciate him.

Catherine:

And I appreciate you, and that you're on the team.

Catherine:

So, I think that, people would love to hear a little bit about the culture of Scotland.

, Danny Brown:

yeah.

, Danny Brown:

I mean, Scotland is a weird place.

, Danny Brown:

I'm sure like any country in the world, it's it's very much broken down into areas.

, Danny Brown:

So you have the lowlands, which is the, the border area, you know, border on England.

, Danny Brown:

Uh, you have the Midlands, uh, which is where I'm kind of from, from Edinburgh.

, Danny Brown:

And then you have the Highlands.

, Danny Brown:

So you get up into the likes of Inverness sky and all the islands beyond that, uh, Eila where the

, Danny Brown:

make amazing whiskey single-malt whiskey, um, and each, each section has its own little subsections.

, Danny Brown:

So you have in Midlands, you've got Adam Rover.

, Danny Brown:

Inaudible.

, Danny Brown:

It's a big sort of unspoken of rivalry there between which is the true capital of Scotland

, Danny Brown:

official Edinburgh but most people think is Glasgow.

, Danny Brown:

Um, so it's, it's interesting.

, Danny Brown:

And then I lived into borders for about 10 years.

, Danny Brown:

My parents moved down to the, the borders when I was 11, 12 year old.

, Danny Brown:

And I sorta went to high school there and sort of grew, went from my teenage.

, Danny Brown:

Uh, there before I left Scotland about 20, 21 and moved to England to, to work, et cetera.

, Catherine:

what are some of the things that you absolutely love about being a Scot?

Danny Brown:

Um, so, so the funny thing is , I also have a Scottish accent.

Danny Brown:

But I find it so soft compared to a lot of accents that you can hear.

Danny Brown:

And I certainly stronger accent when I was younger.

Danny Brown:

, Edinburgh Edinburghen Glaswegian accent is very similar as you grown up.

Danny Brown:

, Glaswegian is stronger.

Danny Brown:

It's more guttural if you like.

Danny Brown:

But as you've grown up as a kid in Edinburgh, depending on which part of Edinburgh you live in

Danny Brown:

it can also be pretty strong, but I found it's gotten softer over the years because I've been

Danny Brown:

around in different countries and different places and, and you, you adapt with people.

Danny Brown:

People can understand what you're saying.

Danny Brown:

Um, but I think that's one of the bonuses of being Scottish is it's similar as one

Danny Brown:

of the most trusted accents globally.

Danny Brown:

So when you hear people speaking and you hear a Scottish accent and it's trustworthy like

Danny Brown:

the Irish, uh, I think is trustworthy, , so there's various accents across the world.

Danny Brown:

And it also helps spark up conversation because people say, oh, where are you from?

Danny Brown:

So that's a good icebreaker

Danny Brown:

. Catherine: It is an icebreaker and that's

Danny Brown:

our countries, our cultures, ourselves that is, is so absolutely wonderful.

Danny Brown:

, and something to be said for educating others as well in acceptance of each other.

Danny Brown:

We're going to get started unless you have anything else that you wanted to share about Scotland,

Danny Brown:

Uh, no, it it's funny.

Danny Brown:

You mentioned acceptance though, because one of the reasons, , I moved from Scotland to

Danny Brown:

England at the time was I was finding that the environment around me was becoming very

Danny Brown:

toxic, , very racist against England of all places.

Danny Brown:

There was a lot of nationalism coming to the Scottish, or the mindset because of what had been

Danny Brown:

happened during the Margaret Thatcher years, , and, seventies and eighties, in the UK and how that impacted

Danny Brown:

Scotland with stuff like the poll tax, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

So long story short, it was becoming a very toxic place, a toxic environment, and I

Danny Brown:

couldn't buy into that.

Danny Brown:

, it didn't feel right.

Danny Brown:

And so that was one of the reasons I moved up.

Catherine:

I think it's so fitting because I use that Scottish proverb in

Catherine:

the beginning, do not judge by appearance.

Catherine:

A rich heart may be under a poor coat.

Catherine:

Danny brown left Scotland and eventually made his way to his new home in Canada.

Catherine:

While visiting Niagara falls with his wife, Danny noticed a woman eating an ice cream cone in a cafe.

Catherine:

He watched her and even after leaving the cafe.

Catherine:

He could not get her off his mind.

Catherine:

This one observation changed his life.

Catherine:

Forever.

Danny Brown:

On my, , my 30th birthday my wife took me to Niagara falls, , I moved to Canada when I was 37.

Danny Brown:

It was an amazing weekend.

Danny Brown:

We did all the touristy things.

Danny Brown:

We went under the waterfall, everything was amazing.

Danny Brown:

Uh, and so it was just on the last day we were having some breakfast.

Danny Brown:

I think we had gone to a diner for some late breakfast, and preparation for coming back home.

Danny Brown:

And we just sat there, uh, talking away and diner was pretty busy and I noticed that an older lady to

Danny Brown:

me, maybe at the time she was older or looked older.

Danny Brown:

, but she came in and she sat down and got a little coffee and she had an ice cream.

Danny Brown:

Um, and she just sat there . All by her own.

Danny Brown:

For whatever reason.

Danny Brown:

It just, it caught my eye that of all the hustle and bustle there was this

Danny Brown:

lady, eating an ice cream on her own.

Danny Brown:

, I I'd like to think of myself as someone that, that you mentioned a little about, you know,

Danny Brown:

connecting with people and, and sparking up conversations, et cetera, or getting to know people.

Danny Brown:

But at that time I didn't, I, I didn't go over to say hi, you know, how's life, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

And it bugged me all the way home.

Danny Brown:

It bugged me that nothing was said.

Danny Brown:

And I, I wondered about the story of this lady sitting on her own in a packed dining area.

Danny Brown:

in a packed restaurant.

Danny Brown:

So I spoke to my wife about it, and I think, the, the thing that really bugged me about not initiating

Danny Brown:

any conversation, I'm one of these people like to sit down on a park bench and a wide open park in

Danny Brown:

the summer and just people watch and watch and go by , and make up, I don't know if you've ever done

Danny Brown:

it, but make up little stories about their lives.

Danny Brown:

Complete Balderdash.

Danny Brown:

And so I was thinking about this lady afterwards and I was thinking, well, maybe she was in there

Danny Brown:

because possible her husband had just passed or maybe it's a place that has certain memories for her.

Danny Brown:

Oh a hundred other reasons that she was there on her own.

Danny Brown:

. , and the more I thought about it, the more I got frustrated, I hadn't got across because at that

Danny Brown:

time I was really into blogging and my blog was very much about the community, like the online community.

Danny Brown:

We should all be connected and we should all welcome each other.

Danny Brown:

But I didn't do that for this, this lady.

Danny Brown:

, so for whatever reason, I was thinking about that.

Danny Brown:

, and I was, I'd been giving to various charities at that time.

Danny Brown:

, I know a lot of people in the nonprofit charity space, um, but it struck me that it was easy for me to do

Danny Brown:

something like give, but that's a single transaction.

Danny Brown:

There's no follow on.

Danny Brown:

There's no tangible effort that you're putting in.

Danny Brown:

You could automate it from your bank account and never know where the money

Danny Brown:

is gone or who's benefiting from it.

Danny Brown:

So I think there was a whole bunch of things came together that just tied in at the right time.

Danny Brown:

And I thought, you know what I've got at the time, I had a fairly decent presence on social media.

Danny Brown:

, I was in the fortunate position of having a voice and a platform where I sort of of influence other people,

Danny Brown:

if you'd like for one of a better word or description.

Danny Brown:

So speaking to my non-profit friends, I was just curious what their biggest problem

Danny Brown:

was when it came to the nonprofit world.

Danny Brown:

And the biggest problem was getting donations because of all the admin side

Danny Brown:

and how difficult it was to get people

Danny Brown:

to donate because of the, the red tape and the loops you had to go through and how to reach these

Danny Brown:

people because traditionally at that time, uh, this was back in the very early days of social media.

Danny Brown:

Traditionally people would bang on the door or stand on street corners or down in shopping Plaza.

Danny Brown:

And basically

Danny Brown:

trying to collect donations.

Danny Brown:

And that does so much, but I'm with social media and the opportunities that had, there

Danny Brown:

was a huge opportunity to cut a lot of that and really connect the potential donor with the

Danny Brown:

organization and really help the organization get their story across in a really human way

Danny Brown:

that touches more than just 50 people on a shopping Plaza or the odd person walking down the street.

Danny Brown:

So, so that's where that really came about.

Danny Brown:

Um, and as I thought more about it, that's where the, the 12 for 12 K project, , came about

Danny Brown:

back in late 2008 and then launched in 2009.

Catherine:

The lady eating the ice cream cone will never know the positive

Catherine:

imprint she instilled in Danny that day.

Catherine:

Danny worked hard and became known as the one man who used social media to raise

Catherine:

$91,000 for charities around the world.

Danny Brown:

That's 12 for 12.

Danny Brown:

I actually, the journalist that wrote the piece, I actually reached out because the article title I

Danny Brown:

felt was misleading because it was very much a team.

Danny Brown:

Yes.

Danny Brown:

I, I kicked off the project and I was the, the figurehead, if you like, but it was very

Danny Brown:

much a team that was a core team of us of eight people that were all volunteers and

Danny Brown:

every single person had their own strengths.

Danny Brown:

So I had John Hayden who sadly passed from cancer a couple of years back.

Danny Brown:

He was my go-to for my nonprofit expertise.

Danny Brown:

He's amazing.

Danny Brown:

And John Hayden's hugely respected in the nonprofit world.

Danny Brown:

Amazing guy.

Danny Brown:

, Susan Murphy, over an Ottawa.

Danny Brown:

She did all the, the videos with Cheryl Game, and Rachel Key, who she did all the PR and communications.

Danny Brown:

So it was huge team that does.

Danny Brown:

And then you had the, the supporters themselves.

Danny Brown:

And what I liked about the 12 for 12K project is , you could donate as little or as much as you wanted.

Danny Brown:

There was no minimal effort.

Danny Brown:

We want the buy-in to be easy.

Danny Brown:

And if you couldn't donate it because you were under your own hard times, just help be a blogger, a blog

Danny Brown:

partner, , share the charities on social media, get your social media and online community involved.

Danny Brown:

so there was a huge team and community behind it, and I felt the, as much as the article really

Danny Brown:

helped focus attention on the project I thought it was a bit disingenuous to the rest of the team.

Danny Brown:

So unfortunate that title is still there, but it was very much a team effort.

Catherine:

I love that you explained.

Catherine:

It I so appreciate that you're sharing and that you are inspiring others to also see that view because

Catherine:

positive imprints come from every authentic person.

Catherine:

So could you for listeners explain the 12 for 12 K

Danny Brown:

yeah, for sure.

Danny Brown:

The 12 to 12 K project, the idea was to create, an ongoing, uh, non-profit or charitable

Danny Brown:

initiative, over the course of 12 months.

Danny Brown:

And we'd pick 12 charities with the goal of raising, $12,000 for each charity.

Danny Brown:

So you've got your 12 charities, 12 months $12,000.

Danny Brown:

So that's kind of the 12 for 12 K idea.

Danny Brown:

And the idea behind it is to purely raise donations and raise awareness using social media.

Danny Brown:

And having a , a core website so the 12 or 12 K website where everything sort of came into and we, we

Danny Brown:

shared what the new charities were, how to support, how to get involved on a local level, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

And then we use a little platform called chippin, which, you know, things that aren't

Danny Brown:

anymore, but it was really effective at the time.

Danny Brown:

Chipping as a, like a payment gateway for nonprofits if you like that, you could

Danny Brown:

essentially embed on your website and people could use that with either credit card orPaypal

Danny Brown:

to make donations to the charity.

Danny Brown:

And the great thing with chippin is it allowed you to have a running total of how much you'd raised that

Danny Brown:

month for that charity, but everything went straight to the charities, financial income, if you like.

Danny Brown:

So there was no middleman.

Danny Brown:

There was no admin from our side..

Danny Brown:

It made it really simple.

Danny Brown:

And the fact that you could see how much was raised was a, a great visual cue for us to,

Danny Brown:

to try raise more awareness, to get more, donations or whatever for that particular month.

Danny Brown:

So it was, it was cool to just use social media and we create a lot of sort of a frame for your

Danny Brown:

social media avatars that mentioned 12 for 12 K

Danny Brown:

and that got a lot of buzz online.

Danny Brown:

People were asking what it was and once they started asking, you could explain, they got real

Danny Brown:

interested in what it's not how they could help.

Danny Brown:

So, because social media was so nascent at that time, I think it was done at the right time.

Danny Brown:

I don't think something like that today with all the different platforms and

Danny Brown:

all the different ways you can do stuff

Danny Brown:

I don't think it would have had the same effect as something that was, ah, the early days.

Danny Brown:

And probably one of the first sort of, nonprofit initiatives the sole use social media.

Danny Brown:

So I think we were more fortunate in the time and, and the limited platforms that

Danny Brown:

were available with that time as well.

Danny Brown:

We learned a lot of mistakes going along.

Danny Brown:

We'd never done it before.

Danny Brown:

Like I mentioned, we had John who was our nonprofit expert.

Danny Brown:

But even John had limitations, as to knowledge for certain areas or certain or

Danny Brown:

non-profits, so we'll learn by mistakes as well.

Danny Brown:

And how we approached, fundraising campaigns, how we approached promoting how we approach creating

Danny Brown:

media, how we approached, , taking donations.

Danny Brown:

And so there was a lot of things that people learn from.

Danny Brown:

I know, John heard from, non-profit organizations that had watched the 12 for 12

Danny Brown:

K project and had adapted some of our stuff.

Danny Brown:

So for example, for , , the 'no kid hungry'.

Danny Brown:

I think it's 'no kid hungry' campaign in the U S um, we Tweeted nonstop.

Danny Brown:

We got a gentleman in Canada called Scott Stratton who tweeted nonstop for 12 hours.

Danny Brown:

Uh, got a lot of his connections to donate prizes like iPods and, you know, video cameras and stuff.

Danny Brown:

It was amazing what he did.

Danny Brown:

And you start to see more 'Tweeter-thons' after that, that event.

Danny Brown:

That 12 hour event raised about $15,000 for the 'no kid hungry' charity in one day.

Danny Brown:

So it was, it was crazy.

Danny Brown:

It was amazing.

Danny Brown:

So I, I know in speaking to people that it certainly helped pave the way for some, I think some would

Danny Brown:

already been thinking about it anyway, in the mobile land, from our mistakes and made it, made it

Danny Brown:

better with their own stuff, but it's cool to see.

Danny Brown:

And 12 to 12 K was inspired, by a wonderful woman called Stacey in the U S

Danny Brown:

uh, I forget her sur name unfortunately.

Danny Brown:

It's been a while since we've connected.

Danny Brown:

um but she had , an online platfrom

Danny Brown:

purely using Twitter, that raise awareness for various non-profits and organizations,

Danny Brown:

but she was more solely dedicated to Africa.

Danny Brown:

And, uh, the kids growing up in Africa, , that needed schools and libraries, , and

Danny Brown:

buildings and fresh water, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

I saw that and I got inspired . So I think everybody gets pulled something from somewhere.

Danny Brown:

, tweetsgiving.org was the organization that was all Thanksgiving month of November in the U S.

Catherine:

We all have something in our souls that lights a spark to become motivated.

Catherine:

Sometimes that inspiration comes from our experiences.

Catherine:

And those experiences may be positive in nature, but we also learn from our struggles

Catherine:

or even struggles of those around us.

Catherine:

One of Danny's many positive imprints was building a friendship bench for his community.

Danny Brown:

Yeah.

Danny Brown:

So the friendship bench came about, through a personal tragedy of a close friend, , Sam Fiorella.

Danny Brown:

And he lost his son to depression.

Danny Brown:

, he was 19 year old and he took his own life in 2014, I think

Danny Brown:

. And nobody knew that it was depressed.

Danny Brown:

He was a bright, bubbly, outgoing person.

Danny Brown:

, he was getting great grades at college.

Danny Brown:

Everybody spoke highly of him, , and he seemed very happy.

Danny Brown:

Like a lot of people that suffer from depression, it was eaten away at him inside

Danny Brown:

and he didn't publicly acknowledge it.

Danny Brown:

So unfortunately he, he took his own life.

Danny Brown:

, so that also had a huge impact on Sam and his family.

Danny Brown:

, and when at the funeral of Lucas, who was a young, the young kid took his life other kids

Danny Brown:

that went to university with Lucas went up to Sam and his wife to tell them how Lucas had reached

Danny Brown:

out, in the corridors of university or whatever.

Danny Brown:

There was some like almost whether it was an empath or something, you had to sum any (inaudible)

Danny Brown:

knowledge that something was wrong with this person.

Danny Brown:

So he would reach out and, just say, 'hello, how are you doing?' You know, and just talk about anything.

Danny Brown:

And through that, he learned that they're suffering from depression or

Danny Brown:

thinking about taking their own lives.

Danny Brown:

And so he'd stay with them.

Danny Brown:

He'd he talked to them, he'd encourage them to get help and they'd get help.

Danny Brown:

And so, at Lucas's funeral, a lot of these kids from the university came up and told Sam this.

Danny Brown:

And this, this was amazing to hear because A.

Danny Brown:

, nobody knew that Lucas was suffering, but B to know that he'd himself saved a bunch of lives

Danny Brown:

through the single action of just saying 'hello'.

Danny Brown:

It was incredible, inspiring to hear.

Danny Brown:

So we wanted to, to continue that legacy.

Danny Brown:

So what we did is we, we came up with the idea of the 'Friendship Bench.'And this would be a

Danny Brown:

bright yellow bench that sits on campus as a focal point to remind you to speak about your

Danny Brown:

mental health and that it's okay to not be okay.

Danny Brown:

And that you're not alone.

Danny Brown:

There are people here that are going through the same things as you or , can help you not

Danny Brown:

overcome, but, but deal with what you're going through better and understand it's natural.

Danny Brown:

And this is how you can cope.

Danny Brown:

And these are the daily things you can do, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

So the 'Friendship Bench'was born.

Danny Brown:

And it wasn't meant to be a bench where you sit

Danny Brown:

to say I'm suffering from mental health issues.

Danny Brown:

We didn't want to make it a focal point and it could lead to potential bullying or, people being

Danny Brown:

sarcastic - oh look, somebody's sitting there.

Danny Brown:

They're not right in the head or whatever.

Danny Brown:

We don't want to make it like that.

Danny Brown:

It just needs to be a focal point to say there's people on campus that can help.

Danny Brown:

All you need to do, come back to Lucas's approach is say 'hello', and that's the whole campaign.

Danny Brown:

We built a campaign out of it called 'yellow is for hello'.

Danny Brown:

So if you see a yellow bench, you know it's okay to say hello, and either open up yourself or

Danny Brown:

just check in on your roommate, check in on your classmates, check in on your friends on other

Danny Brown:

campuses and just ask them how they're doing.

Danny Brown:

Let's spark a conversation about mental health and mental health issues amongst the youth.

Danny Brown:

Because in Canada, teenage suicide is the second leading cause of death amongst, 18 to 25 year olds.

Danny Brown:

And it's, it's crazy.

Danny Brown:

It's, it's scared of the numbers.

Danny Brown:

Um, so this is where we sort of, we built the friendshipbench.org organization,

Danny Brown:

and the, the impact is as being

Danny Brown:

amazing.

Danny Brown:

There's about on average, it's about an 18% increase on- so on campuses that have the

Danny Brown:

'yellow bench' installed was about an 18% increase in kids coming forward and speaking

Danny Brown:

to someone, it could be a health counselor.

Danny Brown:

It could be the teacher, the friend, but there's been that rise.

Danny Brown:

We've also seen uh, Uh, really cool mental wellness features being installed on these

Danny Brown:

campuses to compliment what they already have.

Danny Brown:

And it's just, again, it's a way to continue the conversation and make sure that nobody ever feels

Danny Brown:

alone, you know, especially college and university, which can be a stressful time as it is without life

Danny Brown:

that we have to deal with at themoment as well.

Catherine:

And there is a lot of life that we are dealing with.

Catherine:

So has the 'friendship bench' gone global, so are our other universities, or even other organizations

Catherine:

across the world, putting up these yellow benches?

Danny Brown:

So at the moment, it's just Canada only.

Danny Brown:

Um, it's, uh, again, it's a purely volunteer driven organization.

Danny Brown:

There's no funding behind it or anything.

Danny Brown:

We do it on top of our normal day jobs.

Danny Brown:

So it's purely Canada based, but we do offer templates.

Danny Brown:

We've got a couple of people in the U S I've taken a template and they're doing similar

Danny Brown:

in the U S where they're creating a program around it.

Danny Brown:

And it may not be the bench.

Danny Brown:

It may be like, um, one of the things that we saw, which was really cool in some of

Danny Brown:

the campuses was having a yellow wall.

Danny Brown:

And on the yellow wall, you would put post-it notes or stickers or whatever of positive messages.

Danny Brown:

So it could be, you know, you're not alone.

Danny Brown:

And again, it's just a visual focal point that really lets people know, you know, I'm not alone.

Danny Brown:

So we're seeing that adapted, uh, some colleges and campuses outside of Canada.

Danny Brown:

We'd love to be global

Danny Brown:

. Realistically speaking, we'll probably stick

Danny Brown:

Right.

Danny Brown:

We'll probably stick with Canada, but we're more than happy to advise if you like, or,

Danny Brown:

or help colleges outside of Canada get a similar program set up for their, their campus.

Catherine:

That's one of the positive things about getting messages out via podcasts.

Catherine:

Your message is there.

Catherine:

There's people all over the world who work at universities.

Catherine:

Maybe that is something that will spark their soul, their interest, and

Catherine:

bring about their own friendship bench.

Catherine:

It's providing an outlet and, that's something that has been missing that is still missing because we don't

Catherine:

know how to target these folks because they are so

Catherine:

depressed inside and we don't know it.

Catherine:

Thank you so much for sharing that and for taking the steps with the team to move

Catherine:

forward with the friendship bench and.

Catherine:

You don't have to talk about this, Danny, but I know that you could have been a statistic.

Danny Brown:

No, that's true.

Danny Brown:

Yeah.

Danny Brown:

I, I, um, I attempted to take my own life when I was 19.

Danny Brown:

So the three co-founders of the 'friendship bench', their son, two lost his son.

Danny Brown:

There's myself and then Robert, who attempted to take his life at 19.

Danny Brown:

So yeah, I did that at 19.

Danny Brown:

Thankfully my sister found me, got me to the hospital and here I am today.

Danny Brown:

Um, yeah, so, yeah.

Danny Brown:

It took me a long time to be public about that.

Danny Brown:

I, I did a blog post, they think 10 years ago, maybe, uh, for a friend of mine

Danny Brown:

in the U S Sarah Robinson, who's got

Danny Brown:

I think she's still got the blog.

Danny Brown:

Um, but at the same should a blog or a website that was about, um, positive stories of redemption.

Danny Brown:

I'm sure I gave the description wrong.

Danny Brown:

So Sarah, if you're listening to this, I do apologize.

Danny Brown:

We got talking and this came out and she asked me to share that and it got such a huge

Danny Brown:

reception, where people opened up and talked about their own struggles that they

Danny Brown:

had gone through or were going through.

Danny Brown:

And I think that's when it, it made me realize that, you know holding it inside it doesn't help anybody.

Danny Brown:

It doesn't help you because you've got this like guilty, dirty secret, if you like.

Danny Brown:

Um, and that, again, that's the goal with the 'friendship bench' to show that, you know, there

Danny Brown:

is absolutely no shame in not feeling okay.

Danny Brown:

And if you need somebody to talk to.

Danny Brown:

One of the things I, like, you mentioned podcasts, Catherine.

Danny Brown:

One of the things I like about today's world is we do have access to various

Danny Brown:

medias, platforms and technology.

Danny Brown:

Uh, so one of the cool things that happens when you go to the friendship bench

Danny Brown:

website, for example, whether you're on your desktop or your smartphone is it'll ping.

Danny Brown:

It asks you , if we can have your IP, like your address, what location you're at.

Danny Brown:

Um, uh, so then what we'll do is there's an interactive map on the website

Danny Brown:

and if you all have access to your IP, we'll ping where you are on the map, and we'll

Danny Brown:

bring up the nearest, , resources for you.

Danny Brown:

There could be health clinics, the on-campus support team, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

So it's a cool way to make it anonymous cause all we're saying is your IP.

Danny Brown:

We're not seeing your details, your name, your demographic, your gender, or anything, just purely

Danny Brown:

on IP, but as a quick way to get help without even needing to ask anybody, it just, okay.

Danny Brown:

I can now go to this clinic again, over to this campus resource.

Danny Brown:

Just having technology available, but being willing to speak about something that happened to yourself.

Catherine:

Things happen in our lives where we could be having a very good day today and then

Catherine:

tomorrow, a really bad day and our whole body, our chemical balances changes and that changes, you know,

Catherine:

messages to the brain and changes the way we think.

Catherine:

And so those are times when we do need someone to talk to.

Catherine:

But also most definitely people that are going through something really horrific in their life.

Catherine:

You know, and doctors always ask, when you go in and you've had this big change in your, your

Catherine:

blood pressure and, and your anxiety levels are up and they, what is their first question?

Catherine:

Have you had anything stressful take place in your life lately that could cause these changes.

Catherine:

So.

Catherine:

Uh, the friendship branch, obviously something that is needed worldwide and I commend

Catherine:

you and your team for putting it together.

Catherine:

And you might want to mention to Sam that there is an organization Alliance of

Catherine:

Hope, which is for survivors of suicide.

Catherine:

He's a survivor of a family suicide.

Danny Brown:

I can never understand what that would be like for them.

Danny Brown:

And to your point, I think it needs people in the same situation that can actually have

Danny Brown:

true empathy , as opposed to the generic empathy for one of a better word, um,

Danny Brown:

where you're trying to say your best.

Danny Brown:

You're trying to say the right things, but it doesn't matter.

Danny Brown:

I know Sam mentioned it in a blog post that he did, , about the aftermath of losing a child

Danny Brown:

and, and everybody wants to say the right things.

Danny Brown:

The organization sounds amazing for sure.

Catherine:

Danny continues, his positive imprints with many different nonprofit organizations.

Catherine:

He cannot even attempt to discuss all of them.

Catherine:

But here is one more.

Danny Brown:

The second charity, I think that we got involved with, with the 12th, 12 K project,

Danny Brown:

um, was one that dealt with, uh, child abuse.

Danny Brown:

And it was about providing support and resources and shelter to kids have been

Danny Brown:

sexually abused or physically abused.

Danny Brown:

And sometimes both.

Danny Brown:

As a human being, any kind of abuses is bad, but I think there's a raw

Danny Brown:

emotional connection if it's children or animals, because essentially they're helpless, they're

Danny Brown:

innocent and they don't have a clue what's going on.

Danny Brown:

Animals, I think have a better clue and they know when they're getting abused . So I really connected.

Danny Brown:

It happens in our backyard.

Danny Brown:

It happens at our streets.

Danny Brown:

Uh, it happens in our countries.

Danny Brown:

It's an awful horrible thing, obviously.

Danny Brown:

You've got organizations like a BACA.

Danny Brown:

BACA, which is bikers against child abuse, amazing organization.

Danny Brown:

And they're essentially.

Danny Brown:

For one of a better description, Hell's Angel Bikers.

Danny Brown:

All the gear, all the dress up, all the bikes, et cetera.

Danny Brown:

Um, and they go and they help families, help moms get, the kids are getting abused, sexual abuse.

Danny Brown:

They also form a line of protection when these cases come to court.

Danny Brown:

So you can imagine being the abuser come into court and you've got 20 or 30 hairy, heavy-set dudes in

Danny Brown:

leathers looking angry as hell, just staring you down.

Danny Brown:

And it's a way to provide support and comfort and strength to the victim and show them, you know what?

Danny Brown:

We've got your back, your dad or your mom.

Danny Brown:

Cause obviously sometimes it can come from both fronts, but we've got your back.

Danny Brown:

Your parents can't hurt you anymore.

Danny Brown:

Not in here.

Danny Brown:

Not outside.

Danny Brown:

And now with two kids of my own, obviously I'm very wary of, of stuff that can happen.

Danny Brown:

I was getting a good visual of those bikers and I certainly commend Baca, ' bikers against child abuse'.

Danny Brown:

So thank you for sharing that.

Danny Brown:

So much appreciated.

Danny Brown:

, so take the time to give us the name of the podcast which is basically sharing the voice of

Danny Brown:

us podcasters behind the scenes and in our lives.

Danny Brown:

Podaster stories where I get to meet, you know, amazing folks like yourself, that,

Danny Brown:

that share your personal stories as well as your podcasts in general, which has been

Danny Brown:

really eye-opening for me from as a podcast.

Danny Brown:

Again, to know the stuff that you do is as a podcaster

Danny Brown:

. But getting to know all your stories.

Danny Brown:

I'm sure I'll have you back on the show to continue, because there's a lot more, a lot

Danny Brown:

more to talk about on top of the stuff we already spoke about in the initial episode..

Danny Brown:

Yeah, and it was fun.

Danny Brown:

And I do enjoy your, your show because, you know, podcasters, we, we hear their voice and,

Danny Brown:

but we don't know much about them I'm one of them I'll get emails from my listeners...

Danny Brown:

What can we learn about you?

Danny Brown:

, it's nice to be able to share a piece of, of our own lives because it, it provides , more

Danny Brown:

of a personal aspect for the listeners.

Danny Brown:

I was on, I think it was season two, episode seven.

Danny Brown:

And I thank you again for doing that podcast, Podcaster Stories.

Danny Brown:

And where can listeners find you

Danny Brown:

? if you want to check out the podcast that

Danny Brown:

PodcasterStories.com, and I'm online at, uh, Twitter Twitter, like four slash username, Danny brown CA

Catherine:

Well, Danny, is there anything that you are wanting to share that we haven't talked about?

Danny Brown:

Um, it's like a job interview, right.

Danny Brown:

Um, is there anything else you want to ask about the company or anything and, you know, I'll

Danny Brown:

get back to in three or four days, I'm sure.

Danny Brown:

I'll think of something.

Danny Brown:

No, it's been really enjoyable.

Danny Brown:

Good.

Danny Brown:

what I like about your format it's, it's, it's just really easy goin and like two friends

Danny Brown:

conversing , um, which, which I real enjoying.

Danny Brown:

And I feel that's a nice, relaxed way to talk.

Danny Brown:

Yeah.

Danny Brown:

You know, share stories and stuff.

Danny Brown:

Um, I guess the only thing maybe would be if anybody's getting married or has a special event or a birthday

Danny Brown:

, and you need someone, you, you don't need to lay a whole bunch of money on like a band or a DJ or

Danny Brown:

whatever, if you want someonewho can play any tune

Danny Brown:

using a pencil and just their teeth.

Danny Brown:

Give me a shout and I'll be there.

Danny Brown:

Whoa.

Danny Brown:

There you go.

Danny Brown:

I'll do a zoom call and then I'll do the wedding dance or whatever, using my H two lead pencil.

Catherine:

Oh my gosh.

Catherine:

That is so interesting.

Catherine:

So are you able to play anything for us?

Danny Brown:

Um, I do have a pen.

Danny Brown:

I've got a pan, I guess, and this might work.

Danny Brown:

It has to be something I knew obviously, but, uh, what, what tune , so what are the

Catherine:

copyright laws on this?

Danny Brown:

I know, well, it's Phil used, there was only 10 seconds.

Danny Brown:

Um, how about just for like a, a silly thing, like, um, you know, like that music where like

Danny Brown:

the little cartoon guys chasing someone, right.

Danny Brown:

Okay.

Danny Brown:

I'm ready.

Danny Brown:

Let's try and not bump the microphone.

Danny Brown:

Okay.

Danny Brown:

Or something like that or not

Catherine:

so interesting.

Danny Brown:

I have no idea where I even learned that I've been doing that for years.

Danny Brown:

I don't know.

Danny Brown:

Maybe I was just bored one day tapping a pencil class.

Danny Brown:

Probably right from the one that, Hey, if the podcast doesn't work out, I can always fall back on this.

Catherine:

Ah, that's funny.

Catherine:

So, and, and thank you for your comments about my own podcast.

Catherine:

I do like the, the very raw conversation and nothing's scripted.

Catherine:

So yeah.

Catherine:

Thank you for that.

Catherine:

Yeah.

Catherine:

And again, thank you for, for all that you do with captivate FM and of course, mark Asquith.

Catherine:

So.

Catherine:

Inspiring words do you want to end, as you inspire the listener?

Danny Brown:

Hmm, I'm going to, I'm going to use a quote.

Danny Brown:

My grandad said it's not a court as such.

Danny Brown:

It was just my granddad, who was my pretty much my all-time hero.

Danny Brown:

Um, and I think granddads get away with a lot of stuff or grandparents get away with

Danny Brown:

a lot of stuff because they can do things that parents wouldn't allow kids to do.

Danny Brown:

They're like the little devil on your shoulder cause they know come back to the parent afterwards.

Danny Brown:

Um, but my granddad was really supportive of a lot of things of what to do as a kid and stuff.

Danny Brown:

Um, and he used to come up with the weirdest sense.

Danny Brown:

You just you'd be talking away and he'd say something that would just take your back, but

Danny Brown:

you think backwards and you think, you know what?

Danny Brown:

That actually made sense, maybe not at the time, but it made sense, but there was something

Danny Brown:

he said, and I don't know what the reason was behind it, but he just said that 'this is why

Danny Brown:

you should always stand up before you flush.

Danny Brown:

Which I, at the time it was funny.

Danny Brown:

I just thought that's ridiculous.

Danny Brown:

And course you should stand up before you're flush, but then you, you suddenly think, I

Danny Brown:

mean, this, this thing sort of come back to me a lot over the years for different situations.

Danny Brown:

And it's, I think it's a simple saying it's obviously a very simple saying , but I think it

Danny Brown:

has a deeper meaning where, you know, you might think you're in control, but unless you take

Danny Brown:

action a whole bunch of mess is going to happen.

Danny Brown:

So it's up to you to take that action to either prevent that mess or at least mitigate

Danny Brown:

some of the fallout.

Danny Brown:

And I re I realized that fallout , when we're speaking about toilets and flushing, it might

Danny Brown:

not be the kind of visual you want at the moment.

Danny Brown:

But, um, yeah, I, I, it's just something that's always stuck with me and I've used it in various

Danny Brown:

blog posts I've used, I've got a picture somewhere that I printed out and framed and just put that up

Danny Brown:

. So it's just something that stuck,

Danny Brown:

multitude of environments and surroundings.

Danny Brown:

. So I guess that would be always Stand Up Before You Flush.

Catherine:

Danny brown always stand up before you flush.

Catherine:

You have been standing up for organizations and you've been standing up for people who are not online.

Catherine:

Danny brown.

Catherine:

Thank you so much for your positive imprints and what you're doing globally.

Danny Brown:

Thank you, Catherine.

Danny Brown:

It's been a pleasure.

Catherine:

Your positive imprint.

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