{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F1bae13d2-c4a1-4477-af39-ee04c134cc80","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"#028: Did You Just Gaslight Me? With Shannon Higgins, M.A., LPC-S","description":"Have you been told you\u2019re insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with \u201cit\u2019s only a joke, you\u2019re too sensitive!\u201c? Well then you\u2019ll want to listen to this.\n\nShannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone.\n\n*Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist*\n\nWe go over:\n// What is a narcissist? There\u2019s a spectrum, including the healthy kind.\n// What is gaslighting?\n// I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode.\n// You don\u2019t have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslighting.\n// Not all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists.\n// Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it?\n// How & why people become gaslighters.\n// How to deal with a gaslighting parent.\n// Complex PTSD.\n// Why we think it\u2019s our fault when we\u2019re being gaslighted.\n// The signs that you\u2019re being gaslighted.\n// The Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding Syndromes.\n// Why gaslighters thrive on targeting successful people.\n// Abuse amnesia and cognitive dissonance.\n// The importance of not throwing the label out \u2018just because\u2019 someone doesn\u2019t cater to our every whim or just isn\u2019t a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren\u2019t malicious.\n// The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslighting.\n// Why some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationship.\n// What specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent).\n// It doesn\u2019t always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator.\n\nFor current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies:\n// Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefits.\n// Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.\n// Somatic Experiencing Therapy.\n// EMDR.\n// Brainspotting.\n\nShannon\u2019s recommended resources:\n// \"Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People\" & \"Whole Again\" Jackson MacKenzie.\n// \u201cWhy Does He Do That?\u201d Lundy Bancroft.\n// \"Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse\" Shannon Thomas, LCSW.\n// \"The Empath's Survival Guide\" Judith Orloff, M.D.\n// \"In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People\" George K. Simon, Ph.D.\n// \"Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement\" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder).\n// \"Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists\" Sandra Brown, M.A.\n// \"The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse\" Debbie Mirza.\n// \"Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving\" Pete Walker, M.A.\n// choosecourage.org\n\nFind Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpc\n\nFind me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/22c51bad-f0e7-4302-af77-8c1862095da9/p3ycwpwH8Wut7AXpiX1GPNZ4.png"}