{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F48d2a21a-e2a1-4fb8-8704-2800eab1770d","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"396.1: Bonus Episode: Think Before You Assume \u2013 Rick Clemons","description":"We all assume and too often that makes an ass of ourselves. When we assume to know why someone does what they do, it creates a false sense of security, of superiority, and sometimes it at least seems to heal the wounds.\r\nThis is short episode that brings something very close to my heart to the forefront. It\u2019s about what people assume are the reasons that guys and gals like me, did what they did. Got married and then came out of the closet. Too often these assumptions are unfounded instead of looking at how society views the LGBTQ community and makes us feel like 2nd class citizens.\r\nTake a listen, put yourself in our shoes, and then ask, \u201d If I was in their shoes, would I really be able to have come out given the circumstances of the world.\u201d All you have to do is watch what is going in the world and in the United States around LGBTQ rights and then ask yourself, \u201d Could I do it? Could I be me against all odds?\u201d It\u2019s not as cut and dried as some people think, like the cowardly reviewer who left the following review about Life (UN)Closeted without having done the research before making the assumption that I have done numerous shows about the people who get hurt when a spouse comes out of the closet.\r\nThe Podcast Review\u2026\r\n\u201cWhile searching for information on Straight Spouses, I found this. While it\u2019s great to come out, I think you should also cover the topic of the people they hurt when they do come out if they are married. This is a growing trend and there are a lot of people whose lives are destroyed because of this.\u201d\r\nMy Hope\u2026\r\nI trust this person is finding the healing they need to realize, they\u2019ve been hurt and they too can heal, just like every LGBTQ person has been hurt and can be healed.\r\nIf you\u2019re struggling to be yourself\u2026\r\nTake the time and visit my Coming Out Coaching Page and see if it might be a fit for you, and time for you to quit hiding and live your truth.\r\nVisit the Page!\r\n","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/4b9b6c41-474a-4fd0-a374-cbb2a7aa23a4/1400x1400_uncloseted_artwork-01-573.jpg"}