{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F54a072e4-cdff-496c-a491-2e6a4d4e1524","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Showing Up As Your Authentic Self is More Important Than Fitting In l E26 Jay Williams","description":"Today\u2019s guest is Jay Williams, the Founder of Maskless Men, an community based organization built for men to discuss the things we normally don\u2019t get to talk about: break ups, emotions, family and parenting issues, sex, porn, the feeling of being inadequate, and more.\nJay started Maskless Men after he saw the need for men to have a place to open up, share how they\u2019re feeling, and gain some reassurance.\nIn this conversation, Jay will talk about his 28 years of wearing what he calls masks.\nAfter being the good child, the agreeable and pleasing boyfriend, the tough, macho man at work, the loud, confident, funny friend, Jay decided he had enough. He became exhausted acting as a different personality depending on who he was with. He built the courage to take off the mask, go on a journey of self-discovery, and start showing up as his true authentic self.\nBy listening to this episode, I hope you\u2019ll begin to reflect how your upbringing may be affecting your relationships today, why showing up as your authentic self is more important than fitting in, and making a claim against outdated, harmful societal norm that men can\u2019t express their feelings.\n\u00a0\nKey Takeaways:\n[2:28] How Jay\u2019s childhood influenced his commitment issues later in life\n[14:55] Wearing different masks to fit into your environment\n[23:57] Why can\u2019t men talk about their feelings\n[50:21] Having pride for being a male\n\u00a0\nFavorite Quotes:\n[6:57] \u201cI\u2019m terrified that what happened to my mom and dad is what is going to happen to me.\u201d\n[29:21] \u201cAnd he turned around and said...I want that too.\u201d\n[44:37] \u201cWhen you are in your head, you\u2019re dead.\u201d\n[53:20] \u201cWe are not our behaviors. Our behaviors are just a way of expressing what we are needing or feeling\u201d\n\u00a0\nMentions:\nThe 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman (https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X)\nThe Landmark Forum (https://www.landmarkworldwide.com/)\n\u00a0\nMore of TSIR:\nFind show notes and more at https://www.tsirpodcast.com/\nFollow us on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tsirpod/","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/89789204-5e45-40d9-8aa5-1d3ea0c523d4/cover-art-44-zsa8ke.png"}