{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F6a71db78-6e5c-4fbb-bb17-4f94211310ed","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Attachment Theory: How Understanding the 4 Attachment Styles will Help Your Relationship | E47 Ed Coambs","description":"Nothing kills the mood like discussing money issues but as much as we don\u2019t want it to be a reality, money is a significant aspect of relationships.\nIf a couple isn\u2019t on the same page financially, you can almost guarantee a bumpy road ahead. There are countless studies that demonstrate money related issues being a major source of divorce and most of these issues aren\u2019t tactical differences, they\u2019re rooted in emotions.\nThis conversation today is about creating a common bond around money with your partner and there is no better person to join me in this discussion than my friend, Ed Coambs.\nEd is a financial therapist. He helps couples create collaborative conversation. His understanding of attachment theory, relational building, and financial planning gives him a unique skill set to serve couples looking to work towards financial intimacy.\nMost of our conversation will center around his book, The Healthy Love & Money Way, which dives into the four attachment styles that impact your financial well-being.\nEven if you aren\u2019t in a committed relationship right now, this is a great conversation to help you understand how your childhood affected your relationship with money. At the end of this conversation, we\u2019ll also get into the juicy topic of what to do when there are salary differences in the relationship.\n\u00a0\nKey Takeaways:\n[2:02] What stops couples from seeing eye to eye on personal finances?\n[3:13] Attachment theory and the 4 styles of attachment\n[11:44] How your attachment style will show up in your intimate relationship\n[14:57] What secure parents do differently\n[19:32] How Ed\u2019s upbringing shaped his attachment style\n[30:54] How understanding your partner's attachment style can help you anticipate their needs\n[40:30] What to do when your partner makes significantly more money\n\u00a0\nFavorite Quotes:\n[23:56] \u201cBut understanding people\u2019s intentions and understanding my own needs, I was very unaware.\u201d\n[31:36] \u201cThe next important thing is to not weaponize it. We don\u2019t want to make our partner bad for whatever attachment style they have. We want to stay in the space of empathy and compassion.\u201d\n[43:30] \u201cThere is no social status to being a client representative at Vanguard Mutual Funds.\u201d\n\u00a0\nMore of Ed:\nwww.healthyloveandmoney.com\nBook: https://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Love-Money-Way-Attachment-ebook/dp/B097Z2S911\n\u00a0\nMore of TSIR:\nFind show notes and more at https://www.tsirpodcast.com/\nFollow us on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tsirpod/","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/7374e359-6088-4a14-8f75-ecb63f224a6b/cover-art-65-64wj6.png"}