{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F77d2c9e9-dfa2-4704-8626-440a765ab74b","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Leading a more autonomous life with Max St. John","description":" For much of my life I\u2019ve been a worrier. I\u2019ve worried about whether I was making the right decision or whether people thought I was doing the right thing. My mind fills with thoughts and judgements that can turn into a cacophony. This stops me from being able to listen to my body and therefore be able to follow my intuition. As Max St. John, founder of Being Wild Things, tells me in this episode the body will whisper to us what we should do, and then nudge us and then at some point shout. Recently I\u2019ve been crippled by back pain which I guess is my body shouting. I guess I haven\u2019t been listening well enough. I haven\u2019t been creating enough space to be still. I hope you enjoy this podcast as I hear about how we can lead more autonomous lives by listening more to our bodies.\r\n\nExtracts from this episode:\r\n\n\n When you\u2019re really listening to the body you\u2019re just responding to intuition and instinctive self.\r\n\n One of the myths of meditation is that you should be able to clear your mind.\r\n\n But the mind will just do what it\u2019s going to do.\r\n\n Don\u2019t push the thoughts down with judgment.\r\n\n Young children live in the moment and aren\u2019t conscious of what they should or shouldn\u2019t do.\r\n\n The conscious conditioned self is the self that worries about the future, past and present.\r\n\n The subconscious is the awareness of being alive in the body. It\u2019s always there but drowned out by the conscious self.\r\n\n Worry, stress and anxiety is the tension between what your conscious self is telling you and what your subconscious self knows what you need.\r\n\n The conscious self needs conceptuallise and put stuff in boxes.\r\n\n The fears of the future and the shackles of the past are stopping us from working well in the present.\r\n\n The moment we try too hard to listen to the body so that it can tell us what to do next is the moment that we lose the point.\r\n\n We need to let go of the expectation that listening will get us some where - \u201cAbandon all hope of progress\u201d Charles Davies\r\n\n By feeling into our bodies we can stop ourselves from jumping onto the train of bad thoughts and remain on the platform of presence.\r\n\n The judging, planning, plotting and scheming mind are just a reflection of tension in the body. If we focus on them we just reinforce the tension.\r\n\n If you experience tension, don\u2019t focus on it, just focus on the possibility of letting go.\r\n\n The things you give attention to will grow.\r\n\n Rather than chase each urge to respond to everything that comes your way just, let go and then trust that you can deal with whatever comes up in the way you need to.\r\n\n You can\u2019t control how other people behave, the only thing that you can control is how you respond.\r\n\n We should strive to live a autonomous life and stop listening to the chatter and doing what people say you should do.\r\n\n\nGet in touch with Max via email on max@beingwildthings.com.\r\n\nMax will be talking at Summercamp and he\u2019ll be leading a morning neigong session to help get us more in our bodies.\r\n\nFind out more about Summercamp at http://happystartupsummer.camp/ (http://happystartupsummer.camp).\r\n","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/aec71650-4cbc-4c4d-bbfb-d36559f6d786/1433674-1584371230236-3da1602d3223a.jpg"}