{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F7b1dec14-9e00-4e07-9273-569547265cb1","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Episode 159: Relinquishing Control","description":"It can be so frustrating when you don't have control over things in your life. This week Shannon and Janine discuss relinquishing your desire for control over things you can't control. It's a recipe for living with more satisfaction and less frustration.\n\nDiscussion topics include:\n\n\u2022 The frustration we can feel about not having control over things\n\u2022 Focusing on the things we do have control over\n\u2022 The feeling of control over our money that YNAB gives us\n\u2022 How feeling you're not in control can be particularly difficult for people who struggle with perfectionism\n\u2022 One particular frustration: Lack of control over other people's behavior or responses\n\u2022 What you actually have control over: How you react to other people's behavior or responses\n\u2022 Negotiating tricky spousal issues, particularly in relationships between perfectionists and non-perfectionists\n\u2022 How this is really about relinquishing your desire for control\n\u2022 Shannon's experience building a house and how relinquishing her desire for control over everything allowed her to get the project done\n\u2022 The utility of deciding upfront that she would not micromanage the project\n\u2022 The mechanism Shannon used to make all the house-building decisions easier\n\u2022 Letting go of control when you're delegating tasks\n\u2022 The value of knowing why your outcome is important to help you pinpoint those things you don't need to control\n\u2022 Happy third anniversary to the podcast!\n\u2022 Communicating clearly to try to get the response you want\n\nVisit the show notes at www.gettingtogoodenough.com","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/cd2e0d56-1e2f-481a-8571-c4663350c6a6/648i5bBT0OJL-jqDq5kKTfH1.png"}