{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F7d581e95-e318-4906-82b4-4f99ff7eab1d","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"<iframe style=\"width: 100%; height: 200px;\" title=\"Just Like Me\" frameborder=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" allow=\"clipboard-write\" seamless src=\"http://player.captivate.fm/episode/7d581e95-e318-4906-82b4-4f99ff7eab1d\"></iframe>","title":"Just Like Me","description":"\"Realizing that the other person is also just like me is the basis on which we can develop compassion, not only toward those around us but also toward our enemy. Normally, when we think about our enemy, we think about harming him. Instead, try to remember that the enemy is also a human being, just like you.\"<br />\r\n<br />\r\n-- The Dalai Lama<br />\r\nA few years ago I interviewed former Lead Hostage Negotiator for the FBI, Chris Voss.\u00a0 He has turned his decades of negotiation experience into a bestselling book and consulting practice.\u00a0\u00a0<br />\r\n<br />\r\nOne of his best techniques was that \u201call terrorists have moms\u201d.\u00a0 This is meant to say that we all have common ground, regardless of where our decisions have placed us in life. Tupac noted that \u201cwe all came from a woman, got our name from a woman and our game from a woman.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0<br />\r\n<br />\r\nSimilarly, there\u2019s a mindfulness practice called \u201cjust like me\u201d.\u00a0 When approached with a difficult interpersonal situation, it prompts you to find common ground.\u00a0 <br />\r\n<br />\r\n\u201cJust like me, this person has a mother.\u201d \u201cJust like me, this person wants to be happy.\u201d \u201cJust like me, this person has worries, fears, and imperfections.\u201d\u00a0 And so on.\u00a0\u00a0<br />\r\n<br />\r\nWhether you\u2019re dealing with a tough client, a moody significant other - or an international terrorist - there is always common ground to find.\u00a0<br />\r\n<br />\r\nNow is as important of a time as ever to find it.<br />\r\nThis post is from our new series, Daily Momentum.\u00a0 Each morning, we send a short, inspirational post via email, blog and podcast.\u00a0 You can get it\u00a0directly to your email here.\u00a0 You can\u00a0subscribe on iTunes here.","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/84060626-235a-42dc-9a40-a1eead6830e0/eAA1TPwy9oTcEamuijU4gpev.png"}