{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2F9fc52d73-3aba-4d2a-a00f-14de06ed8122","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"#051: Why Incompatibility Is What You Need In A Partner - with Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari PhD","description":"*Talking can be the most dangerous thing couples do. Today with the magnificent Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari, a relationship therapist, Chairperson of Imago UK, author, speaker, therapist supervisor and parental advisor, we cover:\n\nWhy compatibility isn\u2019t what we think it is.\n\n+ The first year is not always a smooth sailing, problem-free honeymoon, Kalanit explains why some of us stumble in the first year whilst others on the seventh. Neither are a good or bad sign but it\u2019s how you handle it that\u2019s key.\n\n+ How to deal with conflicts with our partners and why they are \u201cgold\u201d in the IMAGO philosophy. \n\n+ How to grow and become a better partner for them or the next one (they leave, they lose).\n\n+ How to forgive ourselves and our partner - feelings of guilt and shame, anyone?\n\n+ Why it\u2019s important to not paint your partner as the bad one during conflicts but to remember the good parts.\n\n+ How to express an issue without it being a big deal aka without your partner feeling attacked.\n\n+ How to not lose yourself in a relationship and why it happens.\n\n+ Knowing the difference between: Needing space in service for yourself or in service for the relationship?\n\n+ Is breaking up always the end? \n\nReference used for this episode: Getting the love you want by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt\n\nCome find Dr Kalanit at kalanitbenari.com Books on Amazon: Small Steps to Great Parenting & The Lost Book\n\nFind me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com \n\n*Recorded in Nov 2020","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/bf5160e6-130a-4ec0-a801-6714c02ef459/g1f9wXPYzf9l1e0_x_Ob1aOT.png"}