{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Fa3d43848-4eee-45c0-a2d0-6299529e3e82","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Episode 238: Be Your Own BFF","description":"Why are we so hard on ourselves? It's not a rhetorical question. This week, Janine and Shannon discuss self-compassion and treating ourselves as nicely as we treat our besties.\n\nDiscussion topics include:\n\n\u2022 The folly of harping on your past mistakes in an attempt to avoid those mistakes again\n\u2022 How constantly reminding yourself of your mistakes makes it hard to do the thing you're trying to do\n\u2022 A technique for letting go of past mistakes\n\u2022 Acknowledging a past struggle before asking yourself to do the thing again\n\u2022 Shannon's Boring Change technique that helps you understand the deeper need behind your behaviors (and can help you modify your behavior)\n\u2022 Understanding when you're struggling and being kind to yourself\n\u2022 Channeling your own BFF and thinking about what they'd say to you\n\u2022 Ask yourself, \"What would I say to a friend with this challenge?\"\n\u2022 Recognizing that you're not the only person struggling with something\n\u2022 Nobody is flawless!\n\u2022 Setting realistic expectations so you don't beat yourself up\n\u2022 How it's helpful to put a positive spin on things\n\u2022 An important reminder: How you choose to perceive things makes a big difference in how you experience them because it has a bearing on what you notice\n\u2022 The value of a gratitude journal to help you look for the good things in your life\n\u2022 A recipe for being your own BFF: Acknowledge the issues, looking for the good, and let the feelings that the good inspire in you help you move forward\n\nCheck out the show notes at www.gettingtogoodenough.com for some great links!","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/cd2e0d56-1e2f-481a-8571-c4663350c6a6/648i5bBT0OJL-jqDq5kKTfH1.png"}