{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Fa852c31a-074c-4d84-b0ee-73f9e7d6f686","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"This Question Changes Everything","description":"It\u2019s kind of our human nature, especially with people we love, for us to want to rush in and fix things when they have a problem. We instinctively want to take their pain away every time they struggle with a situation. \n\n However, this isn\u2019t always what they need. Sometimes, the people in our lives just want to be seen, heard or understood and they don\u2019t need us to show up with our \u201ctoolbox\u201d full of solutions. \n\n\u201cWhat do you need from me right now?\u201d In asking this simple question we move from the position of \u2018problem solver\u2019 to someone who truly cares about what the other person actually wants or needs from us. Do they just want us to shutup and listen? Or are they actually looking for our advice and input? \n\nToday on The Karen Kenney Show, we\u2019re looking at ways we can be there for someone without automatically stepping in and trying to fix their situation without their permission. When we ask people the question, \u201cWhat do you need from me right now?\u201d, we\u2019re giving them the opportunity to check in with themselves first, so they can tell us what it is they actually want. \n\n It\u2019s not enough to just be silent when they come to us with a problem either because perhaps they do want advice or for us to share a part of our story that could help them figure out their own.\n\n There\u2019s a skill when it comes to being there for the people in our lives that involves paying attention, listening deeply and asking them what it is that they truly need. If we don\u2019t, we run the risk of being overbearing or not being the one they come to with their next struggle. \n\n When we lead with this one question and truly tune into what the people in our lives need from the standpoint of being helpful rather than fixing, it can change everything!","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/22c50850-e75c-4734-b25e-87faf90de9ff/2026-Podcast-Artwork-512KB.jpg"}