{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Fb24c4c64-3108-45d3-a78c-da67ce2c73f9","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Episode 98: Stop With the Shoulds","description":"In this episode, recorded in early March before the COVID-19 crisis started keeping us at home, Janine and Shannon discuss one of their least favorite words, \"should.\"\n\nDiscussion topics include:\n\n\u2022 Janine\u2019s delight that her RootsTech talk is behind her and her admiration at how well organized RootsTech is\n\u2022 How \u201cshoulds\u201d can weigh you down\n\u2022 That should is one of Janine\u2019s least favorite words, and one that she tries not to use with her clients\n\u2022 How should can sneak into one\u2019s self talk\n\u2022 The judgmental, mean nature of the word should\n\u2022 Thinking about words you can substitute for should\n\u2022 The irony that people think that Shannon and Janine tell their clients what to do\n\u2022 Recognizing resistance when you bristle at the word should\n\u2022 Getting in touch with why something is important to you to get past resistance\n\u2022 Allowing yourself to move forward with that information\n\u2022 Newsflash: There are no bonus points for making something more difficult than it needs to be\n\u2022 Letting go of preconceived ideas about the right way to do something\n\u2022 Figuring out how you can get things done with as much ease as possible\n\u2022 Editing the shoulds out of our to-do lists\n\u2022 Choosing to do things rather than feeling you should do them\n\u2022 Putting yourself back in a place of choice","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/cd2e0d56-1e2f-481a-8571-c4663350c6a6/648i5bBT0OJL-jqDq5kKTfH1.png"}