{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Fbe23a88f-ea92-4207-9eb5-26ad6f927f6a","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"First Date Tips, Single Girl Bucket List, and Exploring Sobriety | E43 Cara Hays","description":"After college, Cara Hays found herself battling with two identities. Her future self that prioritized her values and her past self that continued to distract with bad habits.\nOne day Cara decided it was time to look forward without looking back and she made a commitment with herself to accelerate that decision.\nFor the next 6 months, Cara decided to say no to drinking and dating. Two areas where she knew a hard stop would give her clarity. On top of that, each month she\u2019d focus on another area of her life that needed attention.\nAt the time, this commitment didn\u2019t have a name but it became known as 6 Months of Me and this time period fundamentally changed the perception Cara had of herself.\nIn this episode, we get into a lot of fun details like why Cara started a single girl bucket list, first date tips that I think are genius, and Cara\u2019s exploration on being \u201csober curious.\u201d\n\u00a0\nKey Takeaways:\n[2:38] Cara\u2019s relationship with her younger self\n[12:30] How Cara\u2019s first 6 Months of Me lead to self-love\n[16:22] Single girl bucket list\n[21:33] How to stay motivated while dating\n[23:53] First Date Tips & Parameters\n[29:32] Dating Apps\n[34:37] How to know when it is the right time to start dating again\n[39:01] Cara\u2019s decision to go from \u201cthe shot girl\u201d to sober curious\n\u00a0\nFavorite Quotes:\n[22:53] \u201cI definitely got down on myself but I was so proud that I wasn\u2019t falling back into a relationship that wasn\u2019t right for me.\u201d\n[0:00] \u201cI believe you have to learn how to love yourself and be alone before you can ask someone to love you.\u201d\n[47:54] \u201cThere were times I went to parties and I didn\u2019t know what to do because I was sober.\u201d\n[55:15] \u201cYou either find love or you find a lesson.\u201d\n\u00a0\nMore of Cara:\nwww.carahays.com\nInstagram: @carahays\n\u00a0\nMore of TSIR:\nFind show notes and more at https://www.tsirpodcast.com/\nFollow us on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/tsirpod/","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/41e5accd-6cb4-484b-b9bd-e8bb4b76c9b7/cover-art-61-679qi.png"}