{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Fef5ce73d-d0e7-4041-932d-c1fd07ed8b74","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"#087: Stop Keeping Score With Your Partner. Feat. Dr Abby Medcalf PHD","description":"Abby went from being terrible at relationships to being great at them. She\u2019s a psychologist who believes a leopard can change their spots and as a recovering heroin addict, she knows what she\u2019s talking about.\n\nWe cover:\n\n- We\u2019re as happy as our relationship.\n\n- To be good at relationships takes skills you're not born with but you can learn those skills. \n\n- We\u2019re mostly competing for attention and time - turning relationship into work:\n\n\u201cYou have to pull your weight.\u201d\n\n\u201cYou have to take this off my plate.\u201d\n\n\u201cYou have to do your fair share.\u201d\n\n- Being correct or effective: Which would you choose to have a more peaceful relationship?\n\n- Competing over Sex, Chores and Money, and what questions to ask your partner to help resolve it & how to reframe you perspective.\n\n- Abby\u2019s method of: don\u2019t S.A.C. your relationship, instead ask questions.\n\nMentioned in this episode: The work of Timothy Wilson \n\nFind Abby https://abbymedcalf.com/ \n\nFind me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit and follow @toooldforthisshitpodcast \n\nIf you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact \n\nP.S: Back on releasing an episode twice/month now.","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/6fac0bd5-c58f-4d88-93d3-11cc06ef898a/h4lcQaPMfOL0LFC5Nr9tGZCK.png"}