{"href":"http://player.captivate.fm/services/oembed?url=http%3A%2F%2Fplayer.captivate.fm%2Fepisode%2Ff3e5078b-f77e-43d3-9332-4e1615dbbfab","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Captivate.FM","provider_url":"https://www.captivate.fm","width":600,"height":200,"type":"rich","html":"","title":"Episode 81: Ambivalence","description":"Sometimes when you can't get started on something or you're dragging your feet making a decision, ambivalence is the culprit. It can be sneaky, lurking in the background without your even realizing it. In this episode, Janine and Shannon discuss ambivalence and provide some guidance on clearing it up, so you can make more conscious decisions. (Because not making a decision is actually making a decision.)\n\nDiscussion topics include:\n\n\u2022 Our relief over NaNoWriMo being over and what we\u2019ll do with our time\n\u2022 The ambivalence we felt about the novels we wrote in November\n\u2022 The dictionary definition of ambivalence\n\u2022 The ambivalence Shannon used to feel about her goal of walking the Camino de Santiago\n\u2022 How you can feel ambivalent without even realizing it\n\u2022 A clue that you\u2019re feeling ambivalent: You use the phrase, \u201cOn the one hand\u2026\"\n\u2022 One way to clear up ambivalence: Dig into the positive intention of each side\n\u2022 Shannon\u2019s Boring Change tool (see link), which can help you discover underlying ambivalence\n\u2022 Questions to ask yourself when clearing up ambivalence\n\u2022 How Janine is going to apply this during her annual winter goal-setting retreat\n\u2022 How you\u2019re making a decision when you don't make a decision\n\u2022 The relief of making a decision, even if it\u2019s \u201cno, for now,\u201d rather than living with ambivalence\n\u2022 The fact that \u201cmaybe\u201d is a \u201cno\u201d until it\u2019s a \u201cyes.\u201d\n\u2022 Another clue that you\u2019re feeling ambivalent: You\u2019re trying to talk yourself into doing something\n\u2022 Clearing the ambivalence so you can make a decision from a conscious place\n\u2022 The importance of knowing what\u2019s important to you in getting to the bottom of ambivalence\n\u2022 Shannon\u2019s verbing of the noun \u201csurface\"\n\u2022 How identifying ambivalence takes away its power\n\nVisit the show notes at www.gettingtogoodenough.com for links.","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300,"thumbnail_url":"https://artwork.captivate.fm/cd2e0d56-1e2f-481a-8571-c4663350c6a6/648i5bBT0OJL-jqDq5kKTfH1.png"}