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I'll Deal With It Later... When Self-Neglect Becomes a Habit
Episode 21128th July 2026 • It's About DAMN Time • Jarratt DAMN, DaWholeDamnShow
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Sometimes burnout doesn't look like falling apart.

Sometimes it looks like saying, "I'll deal with it later."

That's exactly what I did.

For over a month I ignored a cough. I convinced myself I didn't have time to go to the doctor because there were bills to pay, work to do, and a daughter to prepare for college.

Then one nurse practitioner asked me a simple question.

When she found out I already had the medicine I needed at home, she looked at me and said:

"It doesn't do any good staying in the bottle."

That sentence had nothing to do with ear drops.

It had everything to do with me.

In this impromptu episode, I talk about survival mode, self-neglect, and why knowing you should take care of yourself isn't the same as actually doing it.

If you've been putting everyone else first...

This one's for you.

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