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How to Prioritize YOU When Everyone Needs Something from You
Episode 16325th March 2025 • It's About DAMN Time • DaWholeDamnShow
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Ever feel like you’re the emotional support system for your entire world?

Like everybody depends on you for motivation, guidance, and advice—but when it comes to you, there’s nothing left in the tank? Same.

In this solo episode, I break down the hard truth: if you aren’t the rock for yourself, you will erode.

This week, I share my personal breaking point, the moment I realized how much energy I was giving away, and what happened when I finally poured into myself instead.

From setting boundaries to reclaiming your time and energy, we’re talking about how to still show up for others without losing yourself in the process.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

✔️ Why being everyone’s go-to person can drain you more than you realize

✔️ The breaking point that forced me to prioritize myself

✔️ The power of pouring into YOU first (and what happened when I finally did)

✔️ How to recognize when you’re overextending yourself

✔️ Practical ways to set boundaries and take your time back

✔️ Why prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary

Related Episode:

🎧 If you enjoyed this episode, check out Living in Your Truth: Embracing Authenticity to Strengthen Connections for more on prioritizing yourself and staying true to who you are.

It’s About DAMN Time:

👉🏾 It’s about damn time I put myself first without guilt. To stop waiting until burnout to take care of me. My dreams matter just as much as the people I help.

This Week’s D.A.M.N Challenge:

💡 Do ONE thing for yourself this week—no guilt, no excuses. Prioritize YOU. Then hit me up and tell me what it was!


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📲 DM me on Instagram, Facebook, or Threads and tell me how you’re putting yourself first this week!

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