In this episode, Jeri’s journey through loss, anxiety, and a dark night of the soul led her to discover the healing power of self-love and Ho’oponopono. She shares how forgiveness, presence, and compassion transformed her health, relationships, and life, reminding us all that love is the ultimate healer.
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Jeri Tourand, B.Ed, is a Self-Love and Relationship Coach, retreat leader, Soul Connection Guide, Trilotherapy Practitioner and Sensei. Known as “The Love Mentor” and “Dark Night of the Soul Doula,” she guides change-makers and visionaries to release limiting patterns, integrate shadow and light, and awaken to their truest essence. Through retreats, programs, and private coaching, Jeri empowers people to deepen self-love, lead from the heart, and live in harmony with themselves, others, and the universe, creating ripples of transformation worldwide.
About the Host:
Rev. DeeAnne ‘Rose Hope’ Riendeau B.Msc, HADM, PIDP, NLP is a thought leader in spiritual and business development whose mission is to elevate how we think and live. Experiencing a life of chronic illness, and 2 near death experiences, DeeAnne rebounded with 20 years of health education and a diverse health career.
She is known as the modern day Willy Wonka for giving away her company Your Holistic Earth, which is the first holistic health care system of its kind. She is currently the owner of Rose Hope International, in which she helps those who are seeking more joy, love, freedom, and a deeper meaning in life using your souls library also known as the Akashic Records.
She has spoken at Harvard University, appeared on Shaw TV, Global Television, and CTV and has been recognized as a visionary and business leader having been nominated for numerous awards including Alberta Business of Distinction. Along with being an entrepreneur, DeeAnne is a mom of 2 bright kids, publisher, popular speaker and international bestselling author who uses her heart and her head to guide others to create their best life.
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Rev. Rose Hope: This is when Spirit calls and you on your
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journey, are in the right place. This show is about magic,
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miracles and meaning shared through stories, interviews and
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channeled messages. We have so much to share about who you are
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and your divine mission here on the earth. Let's get to it when
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Spirit calls is right now.
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Our special guest on the show today is Jeri Tourand. Jeri is a
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self love and relationship coach, empowering visionary
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souls to bridge Heaven and Earth by embodying their authentic
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selves. A former school teacher and radio show host, she is now
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a dedicated Zen trilotherapy practitioner, integrating
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transformative modalities like ho pono, pono and mindfulness to
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awaken self love and inner freedom. Since 2009 she has led
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retreats and workshops, guiding deep truth and self love,
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helping clients release emotions, trust life's flow and
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live fully through Zen, travel therapy and unconditional love.
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Retreats, Jeri invites participants to experience
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heaven on earth. Her mission inspire you to embrace your
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divine essence, express your potential and live a life of
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love, vitality and freedom. Hey, hey everybody. I am so excited
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about our guests today. I mean, as you know, I'm always excited
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about our guests because we bring in the most magical,
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special people. And it is no surprise that we have Jerry here
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today, because she's one of the most magical people that I know,
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and I've had the privilege of knowing Jeri personally now for
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it's been a decade. Can you believe it? So I have had the
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privilege of watching this woman support people, help people,
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share her heart with the world, and so I'm thrilled that she
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agreed to come on the podcast today. Thank you, Jeri.
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Thank you Deanne. I am so happy to be here, and
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you always speak to my heart, and you've you've definitely
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been a part of my journey, even when you didn't even realize how
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much I was watching you.
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Rev. Rose Hope: And the feeling is mutual. Is that so beautiful?
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It's like we often don't realize the light we shine on the world.
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And so you know, with that being said, you know you have had a
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powerful life with some really significant turning points that
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have allowed you to get to this beautiful place of being a love
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mentor and a love guide for people. So I would love our
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audience to hear that story for you. What was it that catalyzed
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this journey and allowed you to step into this divine path?
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Would you start us off with that?
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Yeah, absolutely. It has been a journey, that's
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for sure, and I feel like I'm revisiting so much of it again,
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like anew. So, yeah, it's very alive in me. And some people
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have kind of referred to me as a dark night of the soul doula,
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just because I, you know, I have been through some really rough
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times, and I remember when I really had no idea who I was, my
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my journey. I mean, it's kind of been my whole life, since my
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childhood, I always felt like people should just love each
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other, like, how can they just not see what's possible here?
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And how can people be so mean to one another and how, you know,
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and as a school teacher, bullying was always really one
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of my, I guess my biggest triggers, wow, is not really
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understanding how kids could be so mean, and where does this
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come from, and then Starting with those questions, starting
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on this whole journey recognizing, you know, that we
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really just don't love ourselves, and recognizing that
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I was included in that, that I really didn't have any idea how
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to love myself, what that even looked like. I thought it was
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all about self care, you know, I eat well, I exercise, I'm kind
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to people. And after my father died in 2001 of a terminal
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illness, I really did start to question everything, and I
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started to ask all the deeper questions, why am I here? What
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is life all about? Who am I? Careful what you wish for. You
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know that started me on on an amazing personal development
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journey to find Jerry. Know what? Who is this? What is this,
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really? And. I had already recognized that I fell into the
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people pleasing category, not really living for myself, but
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doing what I thought I had to do in order to survive, in order to
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be loved and lovable and all the things. So then I dove into
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taking courses and listening to they weren't podcasts back then,
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they were teleseminars, like every single day, just traveling
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all over North America, going to various retreats, personal
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development workshops. And that rattled to the surface
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everything that wasn't true about me. Wow, it's actually
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quite devastating, because it was just like a whole
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dismantling, a whole unraveling of everything I always believed,
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wow. And it actually started this dark night of the soul era.
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So 2007 I started to question marriage. I started to question
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my marriage, my parenting, like everything, my chosen career,
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where it just felt like nothing was really me, and I was
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questioning whether any of it was aligned, wow. And I ended up
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having a full blown anxiety attack where I felt like I was
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dying of a heart attack. I couldn't breathe. I had chest
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pain. My face went numb, my limbs went numb, my legs went
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numb, and I was in and out of the hospital for a couple of
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years, having episodes these attacks. I had to quit teaching
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because I could barely get out of bed. Wow. I was so scared. I
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thought I was gonna die, and I was so worried that my three
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daughters were gonna find me dead in the morning because of
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the crushing chest pain, the numbness, I didn't know what was
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going on, and I wasn't fully convinced that it was an anxiety
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panic attack, as the doctors had said, but I was willing to
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entertain the idea that it was okay. And I tried everything. I
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went to the traditional doctors and naturopathic doctors, a
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chiropractic that, I mean, I was juicing non stop. I was painting
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my feet with iodine. I, you know, I, and I'd already
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identified that there was some sort of autoimmune something
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going on here, yeah. And then, ultimately, yeah, I mean, some
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doctor said, Okay, you're positive for lupus, mitral valve
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prolapse that I had, like, my heart valve got really weak, and
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they said it was minor mitral valve prolapse. But I thought,
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wow, there's the ultimate not listening to my heart, yeah, and
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then my thyroid and I went down to under 100 pounds and like, so
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it was very physical, mental, emotional. So I thought, okay,
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all of it, yeah, this is like a total breakdown, and nothing
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that I was trying was working. Kind of start to question, okay,
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so what am I looking for here? I'm obviously attached to you
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some kind of a result. Ah, you know, it's not working. It's not
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working to get rid of, to change, to fix this part of me
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that I'm judging is bad. It's wrong. It shouldn't be here. I
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shouldn't be like this. I must have done something wrong. Like
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and then I started to hear that voice and how judgy it was, wow,
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and how critical it was and recognized, this is not what
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love would say.
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Rev. Rose Hope: This is not what love would say, yeah.
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And then the voice continue just, you know, because
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I've, I got to this point of surrender where I finally just,
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I remember just kneeling down and sitting in the shower and
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just letting the water beat down on me and crying and saying,
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like, I can't do this. I can't do this anymore, like take me or
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heal me or help me, because I can't see what I can't see. Wow.
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Don't know what I don't know. I don't know what else to do, what
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else to try? And the answer was just that I received is you have
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to love yourself. Wow, it already kind of identified, but
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then I was pissed off, because I'm like, right? I'm doing
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everything right, like,
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Rev. Rose Hope: I'm doing all things.
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Yeah, and that I remembered the whole pono, pono
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mantra that I, you know, read about and used a little bit. So
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the first thing I did was forgive myself for not knowing
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how to love myself. And I'd already recognized that what I
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was saying to myself, that there was something wrong with me, was
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not helping. I. Right? You know, I need to fix this. I need to
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change this. And so I decided that I was going to continue
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using this whole pono, pono, remembering a course in Miracle
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says it's either love or cry for love. Whatever it is is love or
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cry for love. So I'm like for love, this numbness, these
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aches, these pains, the heart palpitations, this is all a cry
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for love. Whoa. And what am I meeting
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Rev. Rose Hope: it with resentment, way, frustration,
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anger, all the things, right?
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Just reinforcing that it's not good enough. It
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shouldn't be here, you know, pushing those parts of me away.
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And no wonder I was so split. Wow, yeah. And then I started to
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and then I got just those, those deep truths, just like, You know
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what? You resist, persist, yeah. I'm like, Yeah, I've been
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resisting these parts of me. I've been by judging them. And
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then I that was a huge light bulb moment where I realized
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that judgment is a form of resistance, yes, and what you
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resist persists. So I was like, I'm judging it. I'm trying to
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fix it, I'm trying to change it. I'm trying to get rid of instead
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of welcoming, these parts of me, No wonder I'm not healing, or
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whatever I perceived healing to be at the time, which is
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completely different now. And so instead of judging, I decided,
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what's the opposite? What's the opposite of judging? It's
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welcoming. So then I used the whole pono, pono mantra. For all
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those different parts of me that were crying for my attention,
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wow. And then ultimately, it just boiled down into I'm here.
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I love you. I'm listening, wow. So I would meet the heart
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palpitations that way. I would meet the fear, the frustration,
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the impatience. I'm here for you. You're allowed to be
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impatient. You're allowed to be frustrated. I love you. I'm
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listening. I love you more. Sometimes I'd ask, wow. And
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every night, that was my routine. So it became this self
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love ritual, wow, every single night to just do a body scan.
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And, yeah, yeah, welcome it all. And then I one day, I noticed,
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geez, I haven't had any attacks. I haven't been to the hospital
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for a while, and I don't know when the turning point was,
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like, it just, you know, it just shifted, yeah, and then within
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like, a year, I didn't have any symptoms. Wow. I felt amazing,
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and I and so I know that that self love ritual, very being
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very committed to myself and to prioritizing myself and
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everything that was showing up outside of me, you know, like
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people don't prioritize me. I don't matter to anyone. I'm not
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good enough, right? That was all, all those beliefs that were
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actually causing the external experience of that, right,
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reinforcing my beliefs, right? I really do believe that, you
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know, our beliefs are out pictured in front of us, and you
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know that we're, we're inadvertently the cause of our
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experience, right, in our reality, which is a beautiful
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gift, yes, because otherwise we wouldn't even see what our
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blocks are and what those beliefs are that are, you know,
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blocking us from really being the love that we are expressing
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it, really Opening to it. And that really did become my
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purpose. Wow, was always kind of in me thinking like, Why can't
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people just love each other? But then that that split, thank God
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for it. Yeah, because I developed the tools that I know
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work self love and forgiveness. So first I became a self love
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and forgiveness coach, because that's what, what worked to
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integrate, that was the those parts Yeah, and heal that rift
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between my head and my heart, this, this self judgment,
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judging myself and not, not prioritizing myself, yeah? And,
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you know, all these things that cause this big split, and where
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I didn't trust myself, I kept I had so much self doubt, so we're
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seeking outside myself all your time, right? And then so
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frustrated and pissed off that it's not working. Yeah, nobody
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else does have your answers, Jeri.
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Rev. Rose Hope: you have the answer.
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gee, who are you? Right? There's a reason that
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Guru is spelled that way.
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Rev. Rose Hope: Oh, my God, I love that. Yes. Oh, Jerry,
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there's so much about your story that I want to talk about. The
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first that I want to highlight, because to me, this is such a
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potent realization. Is that everything that happens either
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comes from love or a cry for love. And I love that you
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brought that up from A Course in Miracles, because I think a lot
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of times it's very easy for us to see somebody showing up in a
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way and being like, what are they doing? How could they be
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so? Mean, how could they be this or that? But if we understand it
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from the position that that's a cry for love. Oh, boy, does that
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ever allow us to step in to support that? So that's the
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first thing. The next piece you spoke about was this whole idea
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of this like self love ritual and HO pono pono. And I want to
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make sure our audience knows what ho pono pono is, and what
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your self love ritual was, because I have a feeling that a
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lot of people are like, Well, what does it look like to love
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myself? Like, what does that even mean? And you said, you
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know, I'm eating healthy, I'm exercising, I'm showing my body.
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I love it, but yet rejecting these parts of yourself, and I
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think that's a big problem for most of us, you know, we love
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the juicy, alive, good pieces, and then some of the shadow
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pieces of us were like, oh, you know, pushing those away, and
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that causes, even on a cellular level, this battle that ensues,
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and your body was fighting for your attention, that cry for
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help. So would you share with us a little bit about the whole
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pono? Pono and your self love ritual?
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I love Ho’oponoponoo. It absolutely
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changed my life. And so that, you know, it's a Hawaiian
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forgiveness mantra process to return us to our original form,
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which is love, yeah. And so the four phrases are, I'm sorry,
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please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. Those phrases, it's a
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frequency, it's a vibration. And some people take it a little bit
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too literally, like, I'm sorry. I'm saying I'm sorry to the
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perpetrator. Like, but it's not that, like, maybe it's, you
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know, I'm sorry for for hating you, for wanting bad things to
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happen to you. Like, that isn't who I am. So it's really
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returning to that original form, that original self, just like,
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you know, the story of Michelangelo and the David, you
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know, chipping away at all the blocks until the David revealed
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itself. It was already there, right? This love you already are
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that already there? Yeah. So, like Rumi says, It's not about,
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you know, finding love. It's like seeking for the blocks and
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releasing the blocks to the love that you already are. So what is
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preventing you from freely expressing being and receiving
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this love that's already infinitely present? It's already
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here. We just are all blocked up, all these protectors and all
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the safety, augmented beliefs,
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Rev. Rose Hope: all the stuff, yeah,
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totally, it's a whole Ho’oponopono is the is the
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one that chips away at that beautiful and just, you know,
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I'm sorry for believing that I should be different than I am.
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Ah, right. I forgive myself for believing that my mother should
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have been different than she was and my father. I forgive myself
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for believing that life should be different than it is. Ah,
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right? And so there's your resisting. You know, we suffer
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in direct proportion to how much we resist, what is
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Rev. Rose Hope: yes we let me say that again, we suffer in
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direct proportion in resisting, what is
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yeah to how much we resist, what is and so what
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if we could just welcome what it and the foundation is trust,
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right? Trusting that really the universe does have your back,
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that the source that I know, Gus, right, what you call it,
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God with your sword, you know, really is always supporting you.
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It's to grow and evolve and to become more of who you already
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are by helping you identify. What are those blocks? What are
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those belief systems that are holding you hostage, like we're
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holding ourselves hostage we are, and then when we start to
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just, you know, acknowledge it, welcome it, apologize to our
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inner child for holding on to this hatred, this anger, this
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for being mean to ourselves, and, you know, projecting it
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onto others, and you know, all this crazy that happens that
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isn't even crazy, because it's we were a child when it first
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started. So we're innocent and so. Really, you know going back
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and embracing your innocence, that we really did the best we
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could what we knew, so did our parents and men apologizing.
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Geez, I'm so sorry for carrying this for so long, for hurting
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myself with this. So we're really, we're not if we're
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someone hurt us and did something that wasn't loving
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toward us, and we say, I'm sorry, please forgive me. No,
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I'm sorry for hating you. I'm sorry to my inner child for
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carrying this vibration of anger and hatred that prevented me
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from receiving love, that prevented me from moving on. So
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it's about freeing yourself to move forward. It's not do they
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deserve forgiveness.
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Rev. Rose Hope: It doesn't really have much to do with
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them. The whole pono pono is for you, for us.
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I deserve to be free, yeah. And so I started to
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slowly release the blocks through a whole Ho’oponopono
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meeting those parts of me that were crying for my love and
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attention, whether it was mental anguish, emotional anguish, a
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physical ailment or pain, and you know, and apologizing for
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whatever I might have done or failed to do, or for not seeing
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and not arriving for it sooner, and asking for forgiveness and
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then having gratitude, like thank you for showing me you
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know like that you are that you're suffering, yeah, and for
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helping me to learn how to love you more like every single part
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of me. Can I love it? Can I welcome it? Can I bring it back
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into my heart
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Rev. Rose Hope: and have appreciation for it.
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Totally, yeah,
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Rev. Rose Hope: that's what I love about this methodology. The
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thank you is the receiving, the receiving, the wisdom, the
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growth, the knowledge, whatever it was in that experience, even
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if we don't exactly know what that is yet.
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So like, so I that with each of the phrases like,
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Okay, I'm sorry. That's like the frequency, the vibration of
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compassion, yes, and responsibility, you know. Please
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forgive me. It's like taking your power back. Yeah,
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accountability and yeah, you know. And then thank you.
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Obviously, we all know that gratitude is is huge to
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incorporate some sort of a gratitude or appreciation
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practice into your self love ritual. And then, then it's also