What does it mean to interact in a secure way from a centered, wise space? According to Dr. Ann Kelley, co-author of Secure Relating and co-host of the popular podcast Therapist Uncensored, we all move in and out of secure and insecure patterns in our relationships. Ann’s modern take on attachment theory moves us from rigid categories into a more dynamic, evolving, and systemic look at our relational patterns.
Listen and learn:
What is the Modern Attachment Regulation Spectrum
How we borrow each other’s nervous systems
Why sometimes it’s better to speak in sentences, not essays
The difference between leaning “red,” “blue,” or “green” when it comes to relating with others
How our nervous system is shaped by our environment, history, and context
Join us in this episode to discover the key to secure relating: identifying your nervous system’s protective emotional reactions so you can find your way back to connection.
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112.Kids, Social Media, and Digital Thriving with Dr. Emily Weinstein
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111.How to Sit With an Uncomfortable Feeling
00:22:42
110.In This Moment, You Are Enough with Ofosu Jones-Quartey
01:02:22
109.The Confidence To Speak Up with Jane Chapman (Real Play)
00:24:35
108.How to Use ACT to Help Adolescents Thrive With Dr. Louise Hayes
00:57:11
107.What To Do When You Feel Like You Don’t Have Enough Time
00:14:50
106.What Do We Really Yearn For With PBT and ACT Founders Steven Hayes and Joseph Ciarrochi
00:54:41
105.Getting Out of Your Own Way With Jenny Schatzle (Real Play)
00:44:28
104.The One Skill You Need to Grow Wise
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103.The Hunger Habit With Dr. Judson Brewer
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102.Brain Health and Exercise Across the Lifespan with Dr. Jenny Etnier
00:56:15
101.Break Through Your Exercise Barriers using ACT with Dr. Jason Lillis
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100.100th Episode! Energize Your Life With Constructive Rest, Nutritious Movement, and Mindful Eating Featuring Katy Bowman, David Nutt, Pilar Gerasimo, Kimberley Wilson, and More.
01:05:33
99.How to Have a Better Year in 2024 With Dr. Diana Hill, Elissa Epel, Alexandra Crosswell, Rick Hanson, Brad Stulberg, Anna Lembke and More
00:47:12
98.Savoring the Good: A Short Meditation With Dr. Diana Hill
00:15:57
97.From Reviving Ophelia to a Life in Light: Growing Happier as We Age With Mary Pipher
00:39:37
96.It’s Your Mother’s Fault, Now What? How to Heal From Family Estrangement With Giulia Preziuso
00:56:56
95.The Art of Solitude, Creativity, and Secular Buddhism With Stephen Batchelor
00:54:26
94.Real Play: Use Creative Hopelessness To Break Free From Unhelpful Patterns with Rikke Kjelgaard and Diana Hill
00:59:34
93.Gentle Power and the Finnish Art of Sisu With Elisabet Lahti
00:42:52
92.The Power of Persistence and Compassion to Do What It Takes With Dalya Sarkees
00:43:32
91.How To Excel When Everything Is Changing with Brad Stulberg
00:51:52
90.Nourish Your Values Using Functional Contextualism and Interbehaviorism With Dr. Emily Sandoz
01:01:26
89.Two Simple Things To Do When You Feel Overwhelmed With Dr. Diana Hill
00:26:22
88.Sneak Peek of Wise Effort Together with Jack Kornfield, Trudy Goodman, Stephen Porges, Kate Johnson, Joseph Ciarrochi, Robert Waldinger, Christiana Figueres and more!
00:22:07
87.(Repost) What It Means To Accept And How To Do It With ACT Expert Dr. Diana Hill
00:43:29
86.(Repost) Five Mental Habits That Will Make Your Life Better With Dr. Diana Hill
00:50:51
85.Best Ways to Use Wise Effort With Nedra Tawwab, Jud Brewer, Kelly Wilson, Deb Dana, Sonya Looney, Marcela Matos, and Diana Hill
00:48:47
84.The Anxious Achiever with Morra Aarons-Mele
00:40:14
83.What Is the Eightfold Path? Wise Intention, Wise View, and Wise Effort With Gil Fronsdal
01:12:41
82.The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary with Dr. Ronald Siegel
00:42:53
81.Real Play: ACT for Parent Guilt with Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Emma Waddington
00:49:53
80.The Yoga of Parenting with Sarah Ezrin
01:00:27
79.How to Create True Happiness, and Understanding With Brother Phap Huu
01:02:51
78.Slow Down, Resist Busyness, and Other Lessons from My Family Retreat at Plum Village with Dr. Diana Hill
00:47:59
77.Getting Curious and Choosing Meaningful Passions With Dr. Judson Brewer
00:48:06
76.Real Play: Find Flexible Choice in Perfectionism and Productivity Anxiety With Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Rhonda Merwin
01:14:33
75.How to Transform Our Collective Consciousness Using Buddhist Psychology With Dharmacharya Shantum Seth
00:58:11
74.Real Play: A Bio-Psycho-Social Network Approach to Looking at Your Problems With Dr. Diana Hill and Emily Fan
01:03:07
73.Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Relationship With Love Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) With Dr. Russ Harris
00:53:26
72.Real Play: No Bad Parts and How to Do IFS With Dr. Richard Schwartz
00:55:48
71.Soulfulness and African-Centered Healing with Dr. Shelly Harrell
00:52:30
70.Real Play: Rad Dads and Brave Daughters with Isa Hendry Eaton and Diana Hill
00:51:30
69.What to Eat to Build a Healthier Brain and What You Can Do to Help Improve Nutrition in Your Community With Kimberley Wilson
00:55:36
68.Mix Things up and Evolve in Your Relationship, Career, and Lifespan With Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik
00:42:52
67.Replay: Let Go of Your Ego, Practice Non-Attachment, and Succeed With Dr. Joseph Ciarrochi
00:45:15
66.Replay: What is Neurohacking And How To Use Scientific Self-Help To Do It with Elizabeth Ricker
01:00:37
66. bonusApplying Wise Effort in Your Meditation and Your Life with Dr. Diana Hill
00:47:05
65.Putting ACT Into Your Daily Life With Dr. Debbie Sorensen and Dr. Diana Hill
00:50:15
64.Rethink your position and move nutritiously with Katy Bowman (live from Costa Rica!)
01:11:08
63.How the Indigenous Worldview Can Support Greater Harmony for All Beings on Planet Earth With Four Arrows and Darcia Narvaez
01:02:41
62.Growing Courage, Healing Shame, and Overcoming Fears of Compassion with Dr. Marcela Matos
00:56:20
61.How to Use Wise Effort to Pursue Big Goals, Know When to Quit, and Make New Friends with Sonya Looney
00:57:36
60.The Power of Chanting, Bhakti Yoga and Singing from the Heart with Kirtan Artist Jai Uttal
01:09:16
59.How to Have More Fun, Pursue Joy and Enjoy Life With Dr. Mike Rucker
00:51:05
58.Use Positive Medicine to Revamp Your Life and Grow Your Strengths With Dr. Jordyn Feingold
00:57:48
57.Supporting Teens in Healthy Relationships, Sexuality, Consent and Body Image With Leah Aguirre and Geraldine O’Sullivan
00:53:31
56.Making Great Romantic Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson
00:58:41
55.The Power of Both/And Thinking to Find Creative, Integrative Solutions to Paradoxes With Dr. Marianne Lewis
00:54:08
bonusA Meditation In Feeding Your Inner Demons with Lama Tsultrim Allione
00:35:52
54.Feeding Your Inner Demons with Lama Tsultrim Allione
00:40:14
53.Lessons From The Harvard Health Study on Happiness with Dr. Robert Waldinger
00:57:52
52.The New Science Of Alcohol and Why You Should Think Before You Drink With Dr. David Nutt
00:49:14
51.How To Use Polyvagal Theory To Re-Tune Your Nervous System And Feel Safe Enough To Be Yourself With Dr. Stephen Porges
01:10:40
50.Five Mental Habits That Will Make Your Life Better With Dr. Diana Hill
00:51:54
49.Find Your Strengths, Break Some Rules, and Reflect on the New Year with Diana’s Best Friend Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik
01:05:18
48.Slow Aging, Stress Better, and Rest Deeply with Dr. Elissa Epel
00:58:45
47.The Five Gates Of Grief With Francis Weller
00:45:12
46.Making The Best Use Of Your Time With Dr. Cassie Holmes
00:58:36
45.Unraveling Assumptions About Oppression and Privilege with Dr. Karen Suyemoto, Dr. Roxanne Donovan, and Dr. Grace Kim
01:09:32
44.Reclaim the Holidays, Stay on Track and Get Psychologically Flexible With ACT Expert Diana Hill
00:40:25
43.What To Do About Workplace Burnout With Dr. Christina Maslach
00:58:59
42.Identify Your Burnout Habit Loops with Dr. Judson Brewer
00:37:46
41.Help Your Kids Become Confident, Kind, Problem Solvers By Talking With Them With Dr. Rebecca Rolland
00:55:54
40.How To Change and Grow Stronger Using Process-Based Therapy with Dr. Joseph Ciarrochi
01:09:27
39.From Striving to Thriving with Jack Kornfield, Jennifer Payne, Dan Siegel and more!
00:27:17
38.How To Be A Healthy Deviant With Pilar Gerasimo
00:59:01
bonusBreathing In, Breathing Out Meditation by Zen Monk Brother Phap Huu
00:10:14
37.The Way Out Is In with Zen Monk Brother Pháp Hữu
01:00:46
36.Busting Brain Myths With Dr. Judson Brewer
00:36:22
35.How to Use Polyvagal Theory to Shift Your Nervous System with Deb Dana
01:07:23
34.How To Grow Psychologically Rich with Dr. Erin Westgate
00:52:11
33.Values, Vulnerability, and Forgiveness with ACT Co-founder Dr. Kelly Wilson
01:18:08
32.We Were Burned Out So My Family Went to Plum Village Monastery. This Is What We Learned with Dr. Diana Hill
00:53:15
31.How to Give and Receive Effective Feedback With Dr. Abby Diehl and Dr. Diana Hill
00:51:54
30.Getting Past You and Me to Build a Better Relationship with Terry Real
00:58:03
29.(Most) Everything You Want To Know About Psychedelic-assisted Therapy with Dr. Brian Pilecki
00:54:21
28.The Power of Regret with Daniel Pink
00:53:10
bonusSmile To Your Body Meditation with Dr. Diana Hill
00:11:41
27.ACT for Body Image Flexibility with Dr. Diana Hill
00:40:11
26.Mom Brain, Mom Guilt, and The Motherhood Complex with Melissa Hogenboom
00:52:26
25.The Psychological Science of Yoga with Dr. Julie Kangas
01:02:56
24.Mindfulness and Right Effort For Athletes with George Mumford
00:44:33
23.Overcome Overeating Using Behavioral Neuroscience with Dr. Judson Brewer
00:46:13
22.Extend Your Mind Beyond Your Brain with Annie Murphy Paul
00:51:02
bonusA Meditation For Physical Pain: Zooming In And Out by Dr. Christiane Wolf
00:10:49
21.From Ultra Marathons to Chronic Pain: How You Can Live Freely With Pain With Dr. Christiane Wolf
00:46:47
20.How To Move Your Body More Nutritiously with Katy Bowman
01:04:12
19.Getting Grounded with Brad Stulberg
00:50:30
18.Rethink Your Mental Health with ACT Founder Dr. Steven Hayes
00:54:16
bonusA Note For You On Rest From Dr. Diana Hill
00:03:18
17.Unhook From Feeling You’re Not Doing Enough With Dr. Judson Brewer
00:37:25
16.Get Back In Balance With Holistic Psychiatry with Dr. Ellen Vora
00:55:04
15.Let Go of Your Ego, Practice Non-attachment, and Succeed with Dr. Joseph Ciarrochi
00:50:11
14.How to Set Boundaries and Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab
00:56:33
13.How To Revive From Parental Burnout with Julie Bogart
00:53:29
bonusA Visualization to Get Perspective on a Problem
00:18:15
12.Use ACT to Strive Better with Dr. Diana Hill
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11.What’s Up With Dr. Jud? Digital Distraction
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10.What Is Neurohacking And How To Use Scientific Self-Help To Do It With Elizabeth Ricker
01:00:30
9.Interested In Therapy? Here’s What To Look For With Dr. Nicole Siegfried
00:55:21
bonusBonus: Guided Loving Kindness Meditation With Dr. Trudy Goodman
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8.America’s Racial Karma And A Tribute To Thich Nhat Hanh With Dr. Larry Ward
00:42:25
7.What It Means To Accept And How To Do It With ACT Expert Dr. Diana Hill
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6.How To Raise An Intuitive Eater With Sumner Brooks
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5.How ACT Can Help You Be A High Achiever Without Losing Yourself With Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona
00:50:18
4.How To Meditate And Why It Matters With Trudy Goodman
00:50:22
3.What’s Up With Dr. Jud? Anger
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2.Dopamine Nation: The Neuroscience Of Our Everyday Addictions With Dr. Anna Lembke
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1.How to Become Psychologically Flexible and Thrive with ACT Expert Dr. Diana Hill
00:34:08
trailerWhat You’ll Learn From Your Life in Process and Why It Matters
