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Finally Dating a Good Guy but Feeling Anxious
Episode 42 • 12th November 2025 • Healing Anxious Attachment • Johanna Adriaansen
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In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic.

We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start soothing that part of you that expects love to be hard.

This conversation also touches on the difference between genuine connection and emotional intensity, and how to stay grounded when you want to run, overthink, or self-sabotage.

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