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Repair: The Most Important Relationship Skill You’ve Never Mastered (Part 1)
Episode 94 • 20th November 2024 • Master Your Marriage • Sharla and Robert Snow
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In this episode, we discuss the essential role of conflict and repair in relationships. Conflicts are not only inevitable but necessary for growth and connection. We explore the cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair, highlighting the importance of mastering the repair process to maintain a healthy relationship. We also delve into predictors of divorce, the rhythm of relationships, and the steps involved in effective repair, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace conflict as a means to deepen their connections.

Takeaways:

Conflict in relationships is necessary for growth.

Healthy relationships often experience more conflict.

Repair is a crucial skill that can be developed.

The cycle of harmony, disharmony, and repair is natural.

Small conversations are better than big conversations.

Humor can help diffuse conflict situations.

Repair attempts can happen even during conflict.

Understanding the rhythm of relationships can aid in repair.

The willingness to repair is the first step.

Teaching children about conflict and repair is vital.



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