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Rewiring Your Brain for a Better Marriage: The Power of Neuroplasticity
Episode 113 • 30th April 2025 • Master Your Marriage • Sharla and Robert Snow
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Sharla’s back after a month-long break, sharing a deeply personal story of recovering from decompression sickness caused by a scuba diving trip in the British Virgin Islands. Her rapid brain recovery, thanks to hyperbaric oxygen therapy, inspired this episode on neuroplasticity—the brain’s incredible ability to rewire itself. Joined by Robert, Sharla explores how the brain’s adaptability can transform your marriage, drawing on therapist Terry Real’s framework from his book Us. Learn how to make unconscious patterns conscious, harness emotional “recoil” moments, and act quickly to build new, healthier habits in your relationship. Packed with science, practical tips, and heartfelt insights, this episode will inspire you to tap into your brain’s resilience to become the best version of yourself for your partner.

What You’ll Learn:

- How Sharla’s cognitive recovery showcases the brain’s neuroplasticity.

- Terry Real’s two-step process for rapid change: making the implicit explicit and using emotional shock to rewire behaviors.

- The science of memory reconsolidation and why acting fast after an “aha” moment matters.

- Three practical steps to rewire harmful patterns in your marriage, with real-life examples from Sharla and Robert’s journey.


Try the episode’s tips: reflect on an automatic pattern in your marriage, have an honest talk with your partner, and practice a new behavior right away. Share your story or insights on Instagram @masteryourmarriage—we’ll repost our favorites! Loved this episode? Leave a 5-star review and share it with someone who’d benefit. Got topic ideas or feedback? Email us at masteryourmarriage@gmail.com.


References:

Want to dive deeper into neuroplasticity? Check out these resources:


- Books:

- Doidge, N. (2007). The Brain That Changes Itself. Penguin Books. Inspiring stories of how neuroplasticity transforms lives, perfect for understanding change in relationships.

- Hanson, R. (2013). Hardwiring Happiness. Harmony Books. Practical exercises to rewire your brain for positivity and stronger connections.

- Ecker, B., Ticic, R., & Hulley, L. (2012). Unlocking the Emotional Brain. Routledge. Explains how emotional insights drive rapid behavioral change.

- Siegel, D. J. (2012). The Developing Mind (2nd ed.). Guilford Press. Shows how relationships shape the brain for healthier dynamics.


- Scientific Papers:

- LeDoux, J. E., & Schiller, D. (2010). “The Human Amygdala and the Control of Fear.” Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 11(11), 761–769. Research on rewiring emotional memories through “recoil” moments.

- Nader, K., et al. (2000). “Fear Memories Require Protein Synthesis in the Amygdala for Reconsolidation After Retrieval.” Nature, 406(6797), 722–726. Study on the 4–6 hour window for memory change.


- Website:

- Coherence Therapy (coherencetherapy.org). Articles and videos on using emotional insights for lasting change, based on Bruce Ecker’s work.


Find these at your local library, bookstore, or online. Share what you learn with us on Instagram @masteryourmarriage!

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