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Why Trying to Be Better Is Bound To Fail (I Do What I Don't Want To Do) (S4 E4)
Episode 4 • 16th March 2026 • The Spacemakers • SPACEMAKERS - Daniel Sih + Matt Bain
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How much is enough? And when have I done enough? It’s a question saints and mystics have wrestled with for millennia. As humans, we often set high standards for ourselves and fail to attain and maintain them. Perhaps even more unnervingly, if you haven’t done enough, maybe you aren’t ‘good’ enough.

Finding a satisfactory answer to these questions is critical to help us avoid overload, exhaustion, and the endless treadmill of self-help. Today, we dive into deeper questions about where we find a self-identity that is uncoupled from what we do where you can honestly and genuinely say “I am enough.”

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