Somatic venting is a powerful approach to releasing stored emotions from the body and restoring balance to the nervous system. In this episode, Jeanne Willson is joined by Jennifer Grove, a Venting Coach and expert in trauma informed coaching, to explore how somatic venting supports nervous system regulation for women navigating stress, burnout, and emotional overload.

This conversation dives into somatic healing techniques, mind body emotional healing, and emotional regulation tools that go beyond mindset work alone. Jennifer explains how healing emotions in the body can support women’s emotional wellness, reduce chronic stress, and create lasting relief through somatic coaching for stress, breathwork for emotional release, and holistic wellness coaching.

You will learn how somatic venting helps with burnout recovery for women, why releasing stored emotions is essential for long term healing, and how trauma informed coaching creates safety and sustainability in the healing process. These coaching insights connect personal wellbeing with leadership, growth, and six figure business coaching principles rooted in blueprints for brilliance.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, emotionally stuck, or disconnected from your body, this episode offers practical and compassionate tools for somatic venting that support real nervous system regulation and emotional freedom.

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Welcome everyone to today's episode.

I am absolutely thrilled you're here and I'm thrilled to have Jennifer Grove of Jay

Grove Wellness and she's a venting coach.

So I can't wait to hear more about what venting coach she is and she's gonna

tell us a little bit about her story.

So welcome to the show, Jennifer.

It's lovely to have you.

Thank you so much for having me on the show.

Janine Wilson.

I really appreciate it.

I'm not sure that most people actually understand what venting coach means.

Truly.

It's not something that a lot of people really are looking for

until they have nowhere else to go.

What I love to tell my clients a lot of times, or even people that I'm meeting

in public, is that when we vent to our girlfriends or to a group of people, to

our spouse, to our family, and we want to stay and ruminate in, that's not venting.

That's complaint.

That's getting people on board with what you are thinking and not

actually releasing the thought or the emotion that you're feeling from it.

So with a venting coach, especially in my practice, we actually move

the emotion out of the body.

So it's a little talk therapy with a lot of somatic work that goes along to it.

Because if we don't actually work with the body, the mind will just

circle it around and around and we'll hold onto it for a long time.

Wow.

So when you said venting coach, I thought there was something that,

I didn't know what it was that was called venting, but you're actually

talking about people venting.

Ah, I got these things in my head, in my body.

That to get 'em out, that's what you're talking, yeah, 100%.

Yes.

Like we are moving the body in particular ways.

I have had people truly ask me, what's the process you go through?

And while there is.

Somewhat of a guideline.

Every single person is unique and different.

So what works for one person might not work for the next.

So while I do have a guideline of how I want to work with a client, that's not

always going to be the case because if they have an issue with breath work, if

that brings up something for them, if there creates maybe too much emotion in

them and we're not releasing, then I'm gonna back off of that and I'm gonna try a

different tool that I have in my toolbox.

So it's not always.

The exact same with every person.

So yeah.

So that's a great visual.

So give us a few more.

When someone comes to you, how do they know that they need your help?

How about there?

Let's start there.

I love that question because I think that we all, as humans, need a village.

Like we try to do everything on our own.

We struggle so much with that a lot of times.

So that's when we start to look for a therapist or a coach or really

close knit friends that we can share what's going on in our lives.

So when they finally make it to me, they're looking for a shift of some sort.

They don't really know what they're looking for, but whatever they've

experienced hasn't been working for them.

And I love working with people because.

Especially women.

I have a few male clients, but not many.

Most of the women come in with one particular thing in mind, and by the time

they leave it's completely different.

I didn't know I needed to work on that.

Thank you.

Now we know where we need to start.

I love that.

And you're so right.

It's.

Especially women.

My business partner will say, men will outsource anything.

If they could outsource going to the bathroom, they would, can

you take care of this for me so I can finish what I'm working on?

True.

I know, right?

And so just like you said, as women we're like, no, we're a failure

if we can't do it all ourselves.

We feel like we have to, and actually that's what we do.

We help our clients outsource different things in their business and help

them understand that they can do it.

Stop brain surgery.

It's just a skill that you have to learn, but oftentimes it is also a mindset

involved in that, that I don't know if they think I'm not a good person if I

can't do everything, but what we've.

Find is that they feel so much more confident.

Wow, I can do that.

And I did it and it's working and it's taken all those pressure off me.

It's amazing.

Tell me some of your experiences with your clients.

See, I love how you mentioned that outsourcing for women and how they

really feel bad about themselves for that, because society has helped us to

understand that our worth is tied to our output, and that is so not the case.

We are worthy no matter what.

So when I'm working with clients, whether I'm working one-on-one or we're on a

retreat, we will truly have a session where we're talking about something.

What are we feeling at the moment?

What's on the surface?

And then once we get to that surface level, we start to move

some of that energy outta the body.

Because if we don't work with the physical body and energy from it,

no matter what that energy is, no matter what that emotion is.

Then we can't actually work with the mind.

'cause the mind's always there to protect us no matter what.

It's such a smart tool, but the body needs consistency.

The body needs to be able to move through whatever it's working with,

whether that's joy, whether that's anger, whether that's sadness, happiness.

We have to allow that emotion to physically move throughout our

body because we're a frequency.

I'm not sure the complete statistics of this.

The numbers may have shifted some, but they say that at least.

65% for women and 55% for men were water.

So our bodies are at 55 to 65% water.

That number may have shifted over time, but that being said, if we're

65% water, we're majority water.

And we've seen how the ocean moves, how the waves move with the temperature, the

shift in weather, why would we think that?

Our body, our emotions don't shift.

If that's the case, then we need to allow them to move where a lot of times

women specifically want to hold on to whatever emotion they're feeling because

it's not okay for us to feel them.

Yeah.

Yep.

I can see that.

Do you think too, I know endorphins have things to do with it too, but

do you think that's why people who do yoga or exercise or walk on a

regular basis overall feel better?

Yes, because you're moving endorphins in your body.

You're out in nature.

That's a very big substance if you're walking, if you're exercising outside

Now, if you're like in a studio, because I also teach clients yoga and Pilates.

So if you are in a studio, your energy is binding with the other energies in the.

So think of it like walking into a room of people that you have no idea who they are.

You instantly can tell, your body can tell, oh my gosh, this

doesn't feel comfortable, or This is gonna be the best event ever.

Your body already knows.

Your mind is just gonna take over whichever direction just to keep you safe.

It's so true and.

Speaking of yoga, I did hot yoga a few times and it was such a different vibe

than doing just like a soft, gentle yoga.

And the people in there were different.

But yeah, as soon as I got in that room, I could feel this weird kind of

energy with these people who were rr.

That's so funny that you said, then I just put those two together.

Yeah.

Our bodies tell us a lot more than.

What we truly listen to because we've been so desensitized throughout

society, there's so many things.

It's instant gratification.

We have to hurry up, we have to do this, so that we can receive that.

All of that starts to desensitize how we're really listening to our body.

So rituals are such an important practice for every single one of us, and if we

don't have a ritual in place, that's where I love for people to start.

Okay.

So that's great.

How would you suggest that people start a ritual to start moving

or to start feeling better?

If right now everything is clenched up and they're frustrated, what

would you tell them at least?

Like a first step or first two.

Let it out.

Edit it out.

Speak it out.

Scream, yell.

Hum.

Sing whatever you need to do to get it from here to here out into the ether.

That's gonna be the first step, because you're gonna

feel a release instantaneously.

It may be the smallest release, but you're going to feel it.

I would suggest not doing it around a lot of other people.

At first if you're not comfortable with it.

Yeah, we used to have a punching bag because my daughter is a third

degree black belt in karate, and so I used to love just putting on her

gloves and just beating this thing up.

You get the energy out.

I love to do that with my retreat clients.

When I take 'em on retreat, we will break things.

I intentionally have a space.

Set up that they go and they can pick a certain item and they break it because

it just gives you this ability to release what you're feeling, that pent

up energy, that anger, that frustration.

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I just wrote down break things.

Love that.

I know I've heard the statistic about water, but that is so interesting because,

and topical, 'cause this time of year we have our VAs work in the Philippines and

so they tend to get typhoons and so it's just like this angry water overflowing

and moving and thrashing and it's.

Just such a crazy kind of visual.

And I also was thinking about maybe when you're angry, like your water is boiling.

I get boiling angry.

Yeah.

Those are good visuals.

And the water visual.

Yeah.

The other thing I was thinking of is a friend of ours, I can't remember

who it was said, but if you think about how water travels down like down

a hill, it creates a ravine, if you will, and it carves us out in the.

And then if you wanna change that direction or stop that from happening,

you've gotta do something pretty drastic because you can't just cover it up.

'cause it's gonna dig it out again.

And so I think that's how they described how your mind goes, because

we tend to do the same thing and the same thing when we're frustrated

or angry and we don't get anywhere.

Yes.

One of the reasons behind that is because we feel safe, albeit not so great.

It's still something that we feel so familiar with.

So we tie that to safe.

Even when it's not working for us.

Yeah.

The safety, the ego.

Yes.

Back to that.

So tell a bit about your clients.

You said they're mostly women.

Are they of a certain age?

Are they typically business people?

Are they women who don't work and stay home and take care

of the kids in the house?

Is there a commonality between them?

I think there is.

I work with a lot of women who are entrepreneurs or in the

corporate world and the age ranges.

From the mid thirties to upper seventies.

Yeah.

We have a lot of entrepreneurs in our program who are in their

seventies and they're fantastic.

They're so excited and anxious to keep learning and keep growing,

and it's really inspiring.

That is extremely inspiring.

Yes.

I love to listen to people that are older than myself just 'cause

they've been on this earth longer.

They have more knowledge, whether they know it or not, because they can share

something through a story that will.

Fire the next person.

Yeah, I love that.

That is so true.

You obviously work with your clients one-on-one and you do retreats.

I heard you say that as well.

Do you work with them in groups as well, or does this type of

work not quite work as well?

I will do one-off workshops with groups, but this type of work really is for

an individual because there could be quite a bit of motion that does come up.

Throughout their sessions.

So I feel like it's more intimate setting with one-on-one, although

workshops do take place, but that is a very limited space and time for those.

Yeah, that makes sense.

So tell me a couple of the techniques, if you can share some of your secrets.

When you work with your clients, do you first ask them like, where are you?

What's happening in your mind?

Or do you just jump right in with.

Let's work on some breath work.

Oh gosh, no.

That would just freak out their nervous system.

Just jumping right in.

All right.

Let's do this.

No, I love to have the rapport.

I love people, so I love to learn about them and I love for them to share what's

happening in their mind, in their body.

So we definitely have an intake process.

Then when I actually meet with them one-on-one, whether it's

in my office or virtually, we're talking and I'm just letting them.

Share whatever's on their mind, whatever they're thinking,

whatever they're feeling.

And I may ask questions in between just to feed and drive out some of

what was really happening behind the scenes of what they're telling me.

And then we'll start to move into maybe breath work, or could be tapping it.

It could be some other somatic form.

I am an LP practitioner, so there's a variety of different outlets that I use.

It could honestly be just a conversation where use particular words that

they're not understanding but their subconscious can, can truly get to.

This whole subconscious thing is fascinating to me.

Absolutely fascinating how you gotta not manipulate it, but move

it so that it doesn't keep doing the same thing or telling you the

same thing over and over again.

Yes, most definitely.

Some of the funniest times when I know where a client is.

In their process that I will maybe as they're speaking, just start counting

out loud while they're speaking and it starts to throw them off so that then

they get out of the critical brain.

They're like, okay, wait a minute.

I lost my train of thought.

Okay, great.

Let's start again.

So you're breaking that habit.

You are.

You are breaking the habits.

That's really good.

Anyhow, how long do people typically work with you?

Is there a certain amount of time or does it depend on the person?

Yeah, it truly depends on the person, what they're going through.

I start off with a particular program.

I have a 30 day, it's like my signature program.

It's a 30 days, and it's to get them from where they're at when

they pretty much walk in the door to where they want to truly be.

In that 30 days, we're clearing out the clutter.

They're starting to take a little bit better.

Care of themselves.

They're starting to maybe look at things a little differently, and by that last

day, they're like, okay, whatever I came in with 90% of the time is not

what they wanna work on afterward.

Oh, interesting.

So you're clearing the clutter to get to the meat of it.

Yes.

And then from there.

They can work with me for three months or six months, but the caveat is

they have to do this 30 day program.

It's called the Art of Wellbeing, because it's truly about the self-care that a

lot of us tend to put off to the side.

And it's the small things like enjoying music for an hour, just enjoying.

Listening to music, maybe dancing, maybe singing with no other agenda in mind.

How often do we truly do that?

We're sitting in our car.

I was gonna say that I usually sing in my car.

It's things like that.

It's another task that I have.

'cause I have, it's like a daily task.

Every day.

There's a daily task.

And then I also give them subliminals and hypnosis to go along with really

letting go of what is holding them back.

And so every day there's a particular task and it's.

So small.

Maybe it's making a cup of tea, but in making that cup of tea, you've got that 10

minute span where you're not checking your phone, you're not talking to anybody else.

You are truly focusing only on that cup of tea from the time the hot water

starts to boil to the time you take that.

Sip that you've got 10 minutes of just pure nothing.

And how did that feel?

A lot of times for most people, that feels really uncomfortable.

Why?

Because we're not used to that.

I don't have 10 minutes to sit and just wait for a cup of tea.

But we do, we prioritize some things that are not priority over our wellbeing when

our wellbeing is the most important thing.

Because if our cup is not full, we can't fill others.

Not in the way that we really want to, and that is such a huge thing.

It's such a big proponent for me and for what I do, because I see so many women

struggle and be frustrated and shut down because they can't speak their truth.

They don't feel safe enough in their own body to speak their truth.

And so I give them the opportunity to start to feel safe, to not be judged,

to be okay saying whatever it is they wanna say and not feel as if though

someone is going to be mad at them or judge them, but then they start to say

it in a little softer way because they're no longer upset or frustrated or angry.

Now have a clean slate of emotions that they know how to move through their body.

I love that.

Jennifer, this has been so fantastic and you got me thinking all kinds of

different things that good routines that I need to get into myself.

I know there's people listening who are thinking this absolute same

thing, so what is the best way for them to reach out to you and find

out more about what you can do?

I have a website called J Grove Wellness.

I'm all over social media as.

Again, j Grove Wellness.

I even have a podcast myself called Getting in the Grove.

I love that.

That's so fun Getting in the Grove.

I should have known you had a podcast.

I can.

Last question for you is the same that I asked my guests, and it is

if there was one thing or one tip you could give the world to make it

a better place, what would that be?

Let it out.

Let.

It out, holding it in does nothing for anyone.

It does more harm for yourself, for those around you because nobody

understands what you are going through, so allow yourself to let it out.

I love that.

What a great way to end this episode.

Let it out.

Put earmuffs on or.

Outside or Don't Neighbors though.

Jennifer Grove, this has been an absolute delight.

I am so grateful that you came and spent some time with me today with

myself and my audience, and I know that they're walking away thinking

about all these ways that they can improve what they're doing every day.

So thank you.

Thank you so much for having me.

I really appreciated it.

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