Burnout isn’t a badge of honour. It’s a signal — and it’s asking you to lead differently.

In this episode of She Wears the Pants, Ashley Deland is joined by Paula Stachyra, PR powerhouse, media personality, bestselling author, and high-performance coach. Together, they unpack what it really takes for a high-growth woman to build success without self-abandonment and to protect her peace while still leading at the highest level.

If you’re a woman who is carrying a lot, building something meaningful, and quietly feeling the cost of constant output, this conversation will help you recalibrate before your body forces the pause.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to:

1. Recognize burnout early — before it takes you out emotionally, mentally, or physically
2. Rebuild your energy without diluting your ambition or lowering your standards
3. Address imposter syndrome at the level it truly lives — identity, visibility, and leadership
4. Create success rooted in service, community, and sustainability instead of pressure and overperformance
5. Use faith as an anchor for resilience and direction when leadership feels heavy

By the end, you’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of how to lead from alignment, protect your internal world, and build success that doesn’t require you to sacrifice yourself to sustain it.

Meet Paula

Paula Stachyra is a PR powerhouse, media personality, bestselling author, and high-performance coach. Through her work, she helps high-capacity women lead with clarity, build resilience, and create sustainable success without burnout - so their ambition is supported by alignment, not chaos.

1. Website: www.paulastachyra.com
2. Instagram: @queenofthegrill

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Welcome to she Wears the Pants, the podcast that celebrates and empowers female

founders at every stage of their journey, from launching groundbreaking startups to creating

lasting legacies.

I'm Ashley deland, business advisor with over

a decade of experience driving over 25 million in revenue for my clients and collaborating

with top industry leaders.

Together,

we're going to redefine what's possible.

Because it's not just about wearing the pants.

It's about rewriting the rules and becoming

unstoppable foreign.

Welcome back to she Wears the Pants.

I'm your host, Ashley Delant.

Today I'm joined by the wonderful Paula Stachira.

Paula is a PR powerhouse, a media personality, a best selling author,

award winning chef, and certified high performance coach.

She is the structure behind so many women's transformations,

helping them rewire their mindset, build powerful personal brands, and create a life

where peace and productivity can coexist.

Her latest book, the Creator's Playbook,

dives deep into reclaiming your subconscious power.

And today we're pulling back the curtain on what it really takes to become the architect

of your own success.

So, Paula, my love, welcome.

Thank you for having me.

I'm so blessed to be on your podcast.

I've listened to so many episodes.

Incredible empowering women on there.

So I'm blessed to be on here and be part of it.

Well, as you know, I'm a girl fan of yours.

Really?

1111.

As I say it to the world, I'm a girl.

Wow.

The first time that we met,

I really liked your energy,

your rawness, your aura.

You're like the real deal and so humble in all

of your endeavors.

Bestselling author, a wording chef.

I'm a no big deal.

But when, when people have the pleasure of meeting you in person, you're so

grounded and humble and down to earth.

And that's just my type of gal.

So I wanted everybody to get to know you on a deeper level.

So why don't you tell us how you got into the world of entrepreneurship?

Ooh, that's a good one.

So my background schooling is HR and business management.

I've always had a knack for business.

My parents, you know,

growing up, they tried to start businesses and whatnot,

but so I worked for companies.

I worked for Rogers as their HR recruiter and

I was working for them.

I was working long hours, you know, trying,

trying to make as much money as I can.

I was getting married, so doing all that.

And I thought to myself, why am I busting my

*** so hard for someone else when I Can just do this for myself, you know.

And so I said to my husband, I said, you know what, why don't we just start a business?

Let's open up a restaurant.

I love food.

It's such a big part of our lives.

He's Portuguese, I'm Polish.

So, you know, it was a no brainer for me.

So we,

we ended up opening up a Portuguese chicken place which has had all the traditional

charcoal chicken, the custard tarts.

You know, we had a full menu that, you know,

me along with the chef, we, we designed.

And I had no experience in business.

I had no idea what I was doing.

You know, we designed the interior of the business based on what we thought would work,

you know,

and so I thought, well, I'm just going to learn as I go.

That's the only way to really live life and be successful is learn as you go, learn from

people.

And so, you know, I worked with the chef in the back.

I learned all about temperature and food safety, handling, cooking,

all of, you know, all the signs behind the food.

And then I worked in the front as well.

I learned how to use a cash register.

And at first, you know, I thought I knew what I was doing.

And one of my employees sort of looked over my shoulder and said, you're not charging anyone

tax.

And I thought, oops,

you know, and so I had to learn what are taxable items, you know,

wants versus needs and all of that.

So it was such a great learning process.

And in the meantime, we were learning business.

We had, you know, friends that had their own businesses, so we were always able to tap into

them and ask questions.

And so it was such a learning process.

But the biggest thing for us why, why we were

so successful is that we were immersed in our community.

We were always coming from a place of service.

You know, if people said, you know, this would work great, we immediately did it.

And it worked.

It's what people wanted.

You know, we always had community events when the soccer was on because that's such a big

part of the Portuguese community and bringing people in.

And so that's really where our success came from.

And, you know, we also had a sauce that we put onto the chicken.

People fell in love with it and they, they said, well, you know, you guys should really

consider getting it into stores.

And so my husband, you know, his, his background is retail, so he knows all about

the retail world,

has had and still has friends in the retail world.

So he's like, well, let me try to get it into their stores and see how that goes while they

were flying off the shelf.

And so, you know, we were sort of at the crossroads of, what are we going to do?

Are we going to continue the restaurant? Because it's 247 holidays, you're constantly

there,

you're not able to really live life, or do we venture into the sauce world where we have

more flexibility and we can, you know, grow off of that?

So we decided to sell the restaurant and then get into the sauce world.

And right now, we're all across Canada.

We're in the US as well, and expanding into Europe.

So that's really where entrepreneurship started for me and learning as I went.

You know, trials, tribulations.

You're, you know, you're falling on your butt,

picking yourself back up and making it work.

And so I've always been really driven in that sense.

And, you know,

once we had more time with the sauce, I thought to myself, well, what can I do now?

I still want to do something else for myself.

And so I got onto social media, started

sharing my recipes, and that led into cookbooks, media, you know, flying all around

the world curating recipes and doing all of those things.

And then, you know, one topic we're going to talk about is, you know, the burnout creeped

in because I was doing so many things,

and then that led into doing all the empowering women stuff I'm doing and the

coaching throughout all of that.

So business has always been predominant in my

life and in the forefront because I always come from a place of service and thinking, the

next thing I'm doing, how is this going to serve people?

Right?

I was actually going to pull those two moments to highlight them again.

The fact that you said you're here to build in community and you're here to lead in service

over self,

which is two of the main points that I coincide my success with as well, which is

taking yourself out of the mix, leading with service and community building.

It's just so important to both of us, which is why I think we're so kindred.

You are the epitome of a self starter,

really.

And we have such similar paths with the going

into corporate,

being like, I'm not gonna make this dude another dollar.

And then both of us coming into restaurant ownership as if it's not like one of the top

three industries you do not go into as a newbie.

Sold it.

We were like, oh, this looks like a fun challenge.

You know, sold it.

And then went into different arenas in our

life.

What I find interesting, because I know.

I know enough about you is the way that you

then took that energy, that stamina and that drive and became a huge media personality.

And that was also a self starting story.

Can you tap everybody into that story?

Cause I. I find it fascinating.

Yeah. So starting my Instagram page is really what got people.

What got people noticing me, really, especially media.

And I.

When I did that, I wasn't thinking about, oh, I'm going to be on TV and I'm going to do all

of these things.

I did it because I loved it and I wanted to

share it with people and have people thinking outside of the box to create, you know,

different recipes and make them fun.

And so, you know, I think it was about eight months into being on Instagram,

one of the producers from Global Toronto just happened to reach out to me and she was like,

hey, we'd love for you to come on and showcase some burger recipes for National Cheeseburger

Day.

Are you interested? And I thought, wow, this is amazing, but scary

all at the same time.

I've.

I had no media experience,

and I never showed my face on Instagram,

so no one even knew what I looked like.

Because for me, it was all about the food,

right.

And curating that experience.

And I thought, oh, yeah, of course I'll come on.

When? And she's like, tomorrow.

And I'm like, what do you mean, tomorrow? You know, so it was two in the afternoon.

I had to go to the store,

create these recipes in my mind as I went and get onto Global without any experience.

And,

you know, I went on and I was so nervous.

I was.

I felt like I was gonna throw up because I was just so nervous.

And I said to them, I'm really nervous.

I've never done this before.

And they're like, oh, fine, it's great.

And I'm like,

great, yeah, okay.

And so,

you know, it's.

It was one of those things.

You have to dive into it head first, like, go into the deep end, and you learn as you go in.

So that's the simulations I curate for myself,

is going into something and learning.

And so I went on, and she was right.

I was fine.

Because when you're in the moment, your

passion just comes through and the nervousness goes away because you're talking about

something you love.

You're not thinking about the cameras in your face right when you're doing.

And it goes by so quickly.

It's four to six minutes, it goes in a breeze,

and you just have this dopamine hit.

And right after, you're like,

you know, when's the next one I want to do more.

And so really it started from there.

And so that's really what took notice.

And the host on there, Jennifer Valentine at the time, she took a bunch of videos with me

and posted me on her socials.

And then I had people reaching out from them, from there saying, I saw you on there and all

of these things.

And then,

you know, after that with my book,

I started reaching out to all the different media saying, hey, I've got a book I'd love to

come on and showcase, you know, my recipes.

And they started getting me on there and it

just flowed from there from CP24 Breakfast Television,

the Social,

Rogers TV and I did ABC in or MSNBC and I did a few different ones, Arizona Midday in the US

and it just sort of catapulted from there.

And I just, I did it because I loved it and it

always came through.

Anytime I went on,

the hosts were like, wow, this is amazing.

This is so great.

And I'm like, that's the exact feeling that I want everyone to feel when they're trying my

food and my recipes.

Yeah, I love that.

I'm trying to like, I know how you operate,

which is on a really humble level.

And it's, it's again why I love you.

And I'm trying to like lean into just, you know, how big of a deal you are and how much

of a self starter you are,

which are two things that I admire deeply.

And now I obviously want to talk about all of.

Because we've had these deep discussions, all

of the fears and the limiting beliefs and the anxiety and the panic.

Um, you're somebody that I go to when I have nervousness about being in front of a camera

or you know, a TV show, et cetera, et cetera.

And your advice is just so,

so filled with wisdom and experience.

But what I do want to talk about is how that transition went for you from,

yes, you dove into the deep end and you did it,

but afterwards I'm sure you had, you know, spiritual warfare and you had the fear,

anxiety and beliefs.

And I just want people to know that about, you

know, you, me, us in general, is that you do have to face the demons, new levels, new

devils, you know,

and I, I want to bring that into the light a little bit.

So talk to me about like how you transitioned through that.

I know you have modalities,

mindset training, but like talk to us about those.

You know, in the beginning it was great.

I was so excited I was on there.

You know, I was doing all of these different

medias.

And then all of a sudden, you know, I'm doing all of these things and I take a step back and

I think to myself,

who am I to be on tv? You know, I, I looked at all of these other

chefs and I started comparing myself.

I'm like, they, you know, they're certified,

they've gone to school,

and they're Michelin star, and they've been on, you know, the Food Network and all of

these competitions.

And here I am,

this little girl who, you know, left a communist country, went to Italy, lived in

refugee tents,

came to Canada,

had no experience or business opening up a restaurant, and I'm on TV doing these things,

you know, and so it was really my own self talk.

Everybody else around me was like, wow, that's incredible.

And, you know, people were saying to my husband, how does it feel to have, you know, a

celebrity wife? And, you know, he's like, oh, it's so great.

And I'm like,

you know, it just wasn't registering.

I didn't see myself that way because I knew

who I was at the core, you know, from being that little girl and, and always having fear

being that little girl.

And, you know, anytime I went on, you know, after that started, when I started again going

on to media, that was always in the back of my mind.

And it just ruined the experience for me.

I didn't love doing it anymore.

I thought, you know, this, I don't want to do

this anymore.

This isn't for me.

And it wasn't because I wasn't good at it.

It wasn't because, you know, anything else but just that self talk talk.

And so I then started pulling away from media.

I didn't want to go on.

I had media reaching out to me.

I just wouldn't respond.

I thought, you know, I'm not going to do it.

Or I responded, said, I'm not available.

And I really just took a step back and, and that's really when.

When the mindset just started really.

I guess that burnout started creeping in because that imposter syndrome was really at

the forefront, you know, and even doing recipes for big clients,

I was still thinking, you know, who am I to do this for them?

And then I started refusing work.

I started saying, no, I'm.

I'm not available to do it, you know, and I ended up breaking a contract because I was

just so in my head.

I was at a point where I was starting to do this recipe and I just bawled my eyes because

I thought, I can't do this anymore.

I just, I can't.

And then, you know, they were like, well, you're in a contract.

And I thought,

I. I can't.

Really, mentally, I just can't do.

And they understood, which I was grateful.

And then, you know, I took some time and I thought, let me try this again.

So I. I go and try it and just my soul, I just, I couldn't do it.

And I went to film and I remember hitting record.

I had everything set up.

I had all the food, everything ready.

And my phone says, the camera says, this is not a legitimate Apple camera or something

along the lines.

And I think to myself, wait a minute.

I didn't change the lens on my camera, on my

cell phone.

I didn't do anything.

And it just wouldn't work.

And so I thought, okay,

God,

okay, I see the sign, I hear the sign.

And so really that's when I was at this severe

burnout.

Like, really severe burnout where, you know, my body was just rejecting food I couldn't eat

most meat, fish, fruit, vegetables, turmeric, ginger, black pepper.

And so the mind really takes a toll on your body and it just sends all these signals.

And so that's, you know, really.

I went through being hospitalized for severe dehydration, which didn't make any sense

because I was drinking so much water.

You know, I was at the hospital and I think I

drank six bottles of water.

They had me test and they're like, you're severely dehydrated.

We really need to get you on iv.

And they ran all these tests and they're like,

we can't find anything.

So do more tests.

And it was testing after testing after

testing.

And my body was just doing things where I really thought I was at a point that I was

going to die.

That's, you know, really how severe it was.

And I thought, this can't be it.

This can't be the end.

This.

This really can't.

And so I just, I dropped to my knees, I bawled my eyes out and I said, God, please help me.

This. This can't be it.

This really can't.

I know there's more for me to do.

I know I'm here for a purpose.

And you know, it was just really overnight I just.

I started seeing my purpose and I started seeing the bigger picture of why I was here.

It wasn't.

It was bigger than me.

It wasn't.

My mind was getting in the way of purpose.

And so that's when I started meditating,

taking time for myself, self care Reading, breath, work,

and then just really nourishing my body, because I never did that.

I was always working so hard and people pleasing and saying yes to everything while I

was saying no to me and my mind.

And, you know,

there was people around me that knew something was wrong,

but they never asked.

And so I learned from them.

And I'm always the one to ask people because

had someone asked me, I would have said, no, I'm not okay, I need help, you know, what can

we do?

And so I went through it alone.

And I always say, I never want any woman to

experience this alone and how can I help them? And that's when I really started getting into

women empowerment and the coaching.

So I'm able to walk women through that and see the signs of burnout and say, hey, you know,

this is what I went through.

This is what I'm seeing in you.

This was my end result.

If, you know, you sort of don't look into it,

that's where it can lead you.

And,

you know, I think it's just so important to talk about it and bring awareness to what

burnout really looks like.

And it's not a mental health epidemic that

these doctors try to put on us and give us pills.

It really isn't.

It's just looking into the mind and really the

subconscious and what's really what's happening in there that's creating the

exterior illusion, if we want to put it that way, because the mind is creating these

simulations.

I always say the most powerful person, but I'll claim it woman.

The most powerful woman in the room is the one who has full control over her inner world,

knowing she has no control over the external world.

And with that said, you were one of the friends that actually called me out on

teetering with a burnout a few months ago.

And I'm so thankful for that because it was really eye opening for me to be like, okay,

she cares about me and she's bringing this to the table, which I'm sure was difficult.

And then like sitting with it and then scaling back my workload and getting more and more

tired.

The more I scaled back, I was like, oh, yeah,

****, I'm working definitely in a burnout.

So I would love us to not just talk about the signs of a burnout, because,

I mean, it could be obvious for some, it could be not obvious for some,

but signs of a burnout and then really some tools to use to come back into balance.

Because I think we share a similar modalities and sometimes we just like,

you know,

Graze over like meditation and tapping.

But it, they're like ******* life changing.

I'm.

I'm in that season right now, preparing to pour over into other people's cups.

So I'm pouring into my own.

Talk to me about the signs of burnout and some modalities you use to go back into balance.

Well, the biggest one is the imposter syndrome.

For me, when you're in a point of your life that you're picking apart everything that

you're doing and thinking you're not good enough and you're not enjoying what you're

doing anymore right away.

And if you're starting to pick on what other people are doing, that's always a mirror.

So if you're picking on a spouse, on a friend, on an whoever, you know, when you're starting

to have that dialogue, when you're like, why are you doing it this way?

Or why are you being that way?

That's a reflection of what's happening inside as well.

You know, you're questioning yourself as well.

Why am I doing that?

That is the biggest one for me.

Frustration and irritation when you're, you know, when I was in the middle of doing

something, you know, say, for example, I was on my phone and I was posting something and I

was trying to focus on it, and my husband is asking me a question.

I would just give him this death stare, like, why are you talking to me right now?

You see, I'm doing something,

you know, and, and I was taking out my burnout on him, and then I had to catch myself and be

like, you know what? I'm so sorry.

I.

You know,

when you're starting to be irritated with people when they're talking to you, that's a

big sign for me.

And then when you're starting to distance yourself from people, I mean, isolation,

taking time for yourself is healthy, but when it becomes that you're not wanting to go

anywhere, you're not wanting to be around friends or family, you're not responding to

texts you're not getting back to,

I would say it's, it's time to look at that, because that's, that's a big sign for me.

And then crying,

emotional, being emotional.

You know, people say it's a time of year, it's

that time of month, but when it's not,

even if it is, when, when the emotions are overtaking, that's a big sign for me as well.

You know, the way I manage that is through just pulling back and breathing.

I do simple breath work and through the nose out through the mouth and just very slow

breathing.

I don't like the intense breathing because I don't want to elevate my nervous system.

You want to try to,

you know, that's a way to, to tell your nervous system, I'm safe, everything's okay.

Just, just slow breathing is important for me,

really.

Going out in nature, taking walks, being by

the water.

I have to be by the water.

It is so grounding for me.

You know, barefoot in the grass is discharging because our brains are constantly charging.

That's what the brain does.

We're like batteries.

You're charging, charging.

You're constantly going.

But how do you discharge so that minus on your battery is the feet.

So going barefoot in the grass and standing and you know, I just stand there, put my arms

out.

I'm in receiving mode.

I'm taking a breath and I'm just.

It's gratitude for me.

I'm.

I'm saying thank you for my day, for my life, for everything.

And that is discharging for me.

I've also done Reiki, which is energy movement in the body from a facilitator.

You know, they can feel where there's heat in the body and that's, you know,

ultimately showing the chakra system.

What is it pointing to? Is it pointing to your sacral?

Is it pointing to your solar plexus? If it's your solar plexus,

that usually means, you know, it's your gut, your intuition is off, it's your willpower.

You know, it's really that,

that self awareness isn't there because you're just questioning everything.

That's really, that's the soul.

Your solar plexus is your soul.

So there's a disconnect when there's heat coming from there.

If you're having gut problems,

I would suggest to look into that.

You know, that was an important part in my

life or important modality in my life is doing Reiki for a few months and then understanding

how the body worked.

Once I knew how it worked, I was able to do it on myself.

Yes,

yes.

Meditation is a huge,

huge deal for me because I live in my mind so much and eft tapping with the affirmations and

the mantras.

I love a good red light.

Therapy on my face and hermitting is like my neat self care.

I love to be with myself now.

And it took me a really long time to

understand that, that I needed to recharge my own batteries because I just thought I'm an

extrovert, like I Get filled up by other people.

But as I grew older and went into bigger rooms and, you know, more stages, et cetera, et

cetera, I was like, whoa,

I'm depleted.

And also faith.

I have really long conversations with God daily,

and then I sit in that energy of gratitude for a bit.

And we recently put on an event together called Faith and Founders.

Admittedly, you did most of the work,

so I'll just put that out loud.

But it was a concept that we feel is really important in the world of women, leadership,

entrepreneurship, empowerment.

And that is how much our faith has influenced us and guided us to get to the levels we are

and we are becoming.

And I'd love to touch base on your relationship with being a founder in Faith.

Yeah, I'm.

I love that you brought that up.

Her. Such a big part of my daily life as well,

you know, it's.

Faith has been the driving force behind everything that I do.

I believe that there's a divine force behind everything that we do.

Whether you believe in God, the universe, it doesn't matter what you believe in, doesn't

matter what religion you are, part of what you believe in,

it all comes back to the same source.

There is a source driving everything behind what we do.

Our belief system in that source is what carries us, it what carries our businesses.

It's what creates success.

And that's why I was able to turn my

restaurant into such a successful business, because I had faith that it was going to be

successful no matter what.

And I knew I was going to learn everything I needed to anytime I took a step forward.

Because you have to take a step forward in order for the universe to bring in what you

need.

If you're sitting idle, it's not just going to come in.

You have to make the move.

You have to move your feet.

And so faith has always been a big part of my life.

And anytime I'm going through anything, I always think I know there's a reason for it.

I know there's something I need to learn here.

Whether it's for myself.

Usually the way I think about it is when I'm going through something, I know I'm here to

teach someone what I learned from this experience.

Because anytime I go through something,

within a week, I meet someone who's going through it, and I'm like, I just went through

that.

This is, you know, what happened.

And I love that it makes me happy.

So any experience I go through, I'm grateful for that.

And so I always have faith in that.

I faith in the people I Meet, they're there

for a reason.

Whether they're there for a season or for

life.

It is what it is.

And I don't get attached to outcomes because I

know there's a bigger purpose for everything.

So, you know, that's really what the event was

or is for women that have faith that they believe in something bigger than them, greater

than them, and they're out there serving because that's what really what it's about is

service,

having faith that there's something driving you towards helping others.

And just really talking about that because there's, it's, it's so taboo.

You know, you talk to people about,

I believe in God or I have faith, and right away they put their backs up, you know,

against the wall and say, well, I,

I don't believe in this.

I believe in that.

That's great.

At least you believe in something.

And I think when people are more open minded about just letting people be who they are and

believe in what, what they believe in, but just know that there's one force driving us

all and connecting us all and,

and believing in that oneness, I think is such a big thing in the world.

We have so much separation.

It's an illusion.

It really is.

It's, it's all, it all comes down to one source.

And you know, the women that were there, they all,

they had, you know, similar beliefs.

Some had different beliefs, you know, some

different religions.

But when we all came together, it didn't feel,

I didn't feel a separation or disconnection.

We're all there to serve and talk about faith.

Exactly.

And sometimes, you know,

to me,

the aha in that is to always be walking in faith and not in vision.

Because,

you know, we are the creators of our own destiny.

And as you mentioned before, our energy depicts our reality.

And we're here for a purpose.

We don't always see it, but we're just meant to be guided towards it.

And on a human level,

it's just not possible.

It's just not possible to predict, to see,

to,

you know, say that you have the control.

What's next for you?

Boo.

Well,

I'll be sharing this here for the first time because you're actually the only person that

knows other than my family.

So my husband and I,

we have decided that we are going to move to Portugal.

And so we are in the process of doing that.

We've got our sauce business, which is doing

really well here,

and we've always wanted to expand into Europe, but, you know, Covid happened and we were in

the process of starting that at that point.

But God had other plans, and, you know, he

thought, not yet.

Just you'll have to stay here for a little longer.

And I understood why there was things for me to do here, to serve and help, you know, the

communities here.

And so, yeah, we've.

We've decided that we're going to move to Portugal.

So we're going to have someone that will be looking after the distribution in North

America, and we're going to venture off into Portugal.

Do we know what that's going to look like? Absolutely not.

You know, do I know where I'm going to live? Absolutely not.

You know, it's.

I have faith, and I believe that we will be

led to where we need to go.

And you know how that's going to play out.

That's in God's hands, and it's always in our

highest good and in our best interest.

You know, everything always works out the way

it needs to be.

You know, it's.

It's a process.

It takes time.

You know, bureaucracy, paperwork, all of these things.

You know, we touched on that.

It's delay after delay.

They need this, they need that, but there's always a purpose in every delay.

So I believe that.

But, yeah.

So the next move is Portugal.

You know, I don't know how long that's going to take.

I would think a year, based on the bureaucracy and the paperwork and how all that is taking.

But I still have, you know, things that I'm doing here that I'm going to continue on doing

and, you know,

my purpose work here.

So that's not going to change until we go and see what that looks like.

Exceptional.

We're film.

We're recording this August 28th.

It's not going live until November, so you have time tell everybody.

Yeah.

Let people know the name of your sauce and where they can go purchase it.

Yes. It's called Portugalo sauces available in all major chains, grocery stores

across Canada.

You'll either find them in the sauce section or in the international section with the

Portuguese food depending on the grocery store.

And you'll be able to recognize it by the iconic Portuguese rooster on the label.

I have, obviously all the flavors in.

My fridge, and my nanny was like, oh, my God, I love that stuff.

And I was like, oh.

Oh, wow, that's amazing.

I know.

I have to tell Paula to wrap this up.

Our signature she wears the pants question.

Looking back on your journey of wearing the pants,

what message do you want to relay for future generations of women in business?

Never take no for an answer and never doubt yourself.

And always believe in the intuition in your gut.

Always.

When people are telling you no and it's a yes,

go with that.

You know, I think a lot of women don't do what

they love because there's so many people around them giving fear based advice anytime.

You know, it's great to hear advice.

Take it with a grain of salt.

Discernment, discernment, discernment.

Anytime someone gives you advice, they're coming from a place of where they are in their

journey doesn't mean they understand yours.

Take the advice, but always do what your heart calls you to do,

even if it doesn't work out in the end.

You needed to do that to learn whatever you

had to learn.

100%.

Okay, where can people find you on all social

platforms?

At Queen of the Grill is my main page.

I also have my power women to rise, where.

That's,

that's where I post all of the events to empower women.

Do we have a date for the next empowerment rise event?

No, we do not.

But I guess I have to think about it now that you.

Now,

now that you brought it up, I guess I have to think about it.

Maybe one more before.

One more before I go.

Yes, the last hurrah.

Exactly.

All right, girl.

Thank you for sharing your truth, your

honesty, your faith, your rawness.

The reason that she wears the pants exists is to tell authentic stories like this.

And I'm very blessed to know you and to be able to have you on this show to share your

wisdom with so many of the listeners.

So thank you so much.

Thank you.

It was my pleasure.

I'm grateful to be on and be in your world and get to know you.

You're such an incredible woman.

And you know, you talk about me being humble.

That's why we get along.

You're just as humble.

You know, the first time I met you, you're like, oh, yeah, I do this.

And I was like, cool.

And then someone's like, oh, she does this,

this and that.

And I'm like.

Then I was like, so I heard you do all of these other things, you know, and you're just,

you're so humble.

You come from a place of service and more

people just need to experience you as a person and how humble and giving and just loving you

really are.

And I'm, I'm grateful to have met you and, and be.

And call you a friend.

And you have so many incredible things on the

horizon, and I, I can't wait for the world to see,

it's.

You're such a blessing.

Such a blessing.

And you've.

You've made such an impact on the world and more to come.

So you stay tuned to Ashley.

I love you.

Thank you so much.

My pleasure.

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