You started strong.
You were motivated.
You were clear on who you wanted to become.
And then… it got uncomfortable.
In this episode, Andrew and Cat walk through what actually happens after the excitement of change fades — when reality hits, resistance shows up, and consistency feels harder than you expected.
This is the messy middle.
If you’re building your Five Year You and feel like quitting, this episode will normalize the discomfort, explain what’s happening neurologically, and give you practical strategies to stay the course.
Why Change Feels So Hard
When you try to change your habits, you’re not just changing behavior — you’re challenging your identity.
Your nervous system prefers familiar patterns. Even if your old patterns weren’t ideal, they were predictable. And your brain is wired for safety, not growth.
So when you:
- Wake up earlier
- Set new boundaries
- Start eating differently
- Launch a business
- Speak up differently
Your brain sounds the alarm.
Discomfort doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.
It means you’re doing something new.
The 4 Types of Discomfort
- Emotional Discomfort
- Guilt, doubt, awkwardness, imposter syndrome.
- Social Discomfort
- People reacting to your changes. Feeling misunderstood.
- Internal Discomfort
- The voice that says: “Who do you think you are?”
- Physical Discomfort
- Fatigue, soreness, brain fog while building new neural pathways.
All of this is normal.
Why Most People Quit
Consistency doesn’t fall apart because you lack discipline.
It usually happens when:
- The excitement fades
- Results aren’t immediate
- Old habits start calling you back
- You hit the “identity dip”
The identity dip is the space between who you were and who you’re becoming.
The beginning is exciting.
The end is rewarding.
The middle is messy.
That messy middle is where growth actually happens.
The Real Key to Consistency
It’s not intensity.
It’s not perfection.
It’s not even discipline.
It’s emotional tolerance.
Can you tolerate:
- Doubt?
- Delay?
- Frustration?
- Being misunderstood?
- Not seeing results yet?
The people who stay consistent aren’t perfect — they just return faster.
How to Stay the Course
1. Drop the Perfection Standard
Ask yourself:
What would 5% consistency look like instead of 100% perfection?
2. Increase Your Return Speed
Missing is normal.
What matters is:
- How quickly you come back
- How fast you re-anchor to your identity
Miss one.
Try not to miss two.
Always return.
3. Expect Resistance
Anticipate it.
Prepare for it.
When resistance shows up, you’ll recognize it instead of panicking.
4. Anchor to Your Why
Write it down.
Revisit it daily.
Visualize your Five Year You.
The clearer the vision, the easier the consistency.
5. Celebrate the “Boring Wins”
Consistency feels unexciting because it’s repetitive.
But your future self is built in quiet, repeated actions — not dramatic breakthroughs.
Celebrate:
- The workout you didn’t skip
- The boundary you held
- The sugar you didn’t eat
- The sale you made
- The morning you showed up
Every swing at the rock matters.
Powerful Reminders From This Episode
- Discomfort doesn’t mean you’re off path.
- The middle is supposed to feel messy.
- Your identity is updating.
- Consistency is about staying the course.
- You are not behind.
- You are becoming.
Thrift Find of the Week
A $3 Janessa Leoné hat valued around $500 — found in 10 minutes between swim practice and workouts. (Because dopamine doesn’t have to be expensive.)
Glimmers of the Week
- Cat: Watching their daughter win first place at a swim meet after consistent effort.
- Andrew: Getting back into the studio and celebrating small progress (and barbecue motivation).
What’s Coming Next
Next episode:
What to Do When Other People Don’t Support the New You
Because change doesn’t just challenge you — it challenges the people around you.
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Disclaimer
This podcast is for educational and inspirational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice.
