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Welcome to the Co Creative Podcast.

I'm your host, Allie Rogers, entrepreneur, music psychotherapist, singer, songwriter and healer.

I truly believe we all have the power to co create the life of our dreams and I'm excited to share how creativity, personal development and spirituality can help you get there.

Each week I'll share stories, practical tools and insights to help you tap into your own creativity and live more intentionally.

Whether you're looking to spark new ideas, find deeper meaning, or simply bring more joy and passion into your life.

So let's dive in and co create.

Hello co creatives.

Who else is in shock that it's already the holiday season?

Oh my goodness, where is time going?

I do love this time of year and I'm very excited, especially as we get closer to the end of the year.

That's really my favorite.

Like that week between Christmas and New Year's.

It's so electric and buzzy.

I look forward to it every year and I'm sure you've heard me talk about the Vision Party and I really hope you'll join us for that.

I'm so excited.

Speaking of time, today's episode is a tad different than normal.

I'm kind of free flowing today.

I'm channeling today.

I have an idea of where this is going to go and it does have to do with time, but I have no plan.

So we'll see.

This week I am reflecting on some needs and questions that you all have sent me on social media.

A couple weeks ago I put out a poll, just kind of checking in, seeing what everyone needed and it seemed like a lot of y'all needed a kick in the butt and a lot of y'all needed some reassurance and some validation and just kind of talking about the messy middle, having patience when we're in that messy middle of things and we're not really sure what direction to take or if we're doing the right things.

And so that's where I'm headed with today's episode.

And it's so funny when I start to think about what would be important for you all to hear because I do this very intentionally.

I know I talk about intention a lot and it is very important I do this very intentionally in that I think about what does the co creative community need to hear?

And this week's message really came to me very, very hard, but not as fast as normal.

Sometimes I can just bleh an episode and know exactly where we're headed.

And this week I felt like it needed some more space, which is very on point for what we're going to talk about.

But it also was very emotional.

And I found that a lot of times, what you all need to hear, I also need to hear because we're all a part of the same energies and collective, and what we see in the world is a lot of times a reflection of what's going on in our small little microcosm of society.

So all that to say this time last week, I woke up and my husband and I had breakfast, and he asked me, what would you like to do today?

And now my husband's been out of town a lot the last few weeks, like about three weeks altogether, with a day or so to come back home and, you know, see me and the cat and change out clothes and all that, and then back on the road.

And so this was like the first weekend day that we actually had together where the whole day was ours.

And so he asked me, what would you like to do?

And I really have been craving time where it's not blocked out, it's not scheduled.

I feel like my whole life for a long time has just been, like, knowing exactly what is coming and, you know, just having almost every minute blocked out or planned out or having something, you know, quote unquote, productive to do.

And I'm.

I've been really coming out of that and craving flow.

And obviously, you know, I still have things I have to get done, and I can't just completely not have a schedule.

But on the days that I don't, especially weekend days, I try to allow myself to just go with the flow if I can.

All of that to say.

I told him I wanted to just see where the day would take us, But I really, really was craving a nice, long walk at the state park that we like to go to.

I.

I've just been needing this time out in nature.

So I said, whatever we do, we're going to wind up at the park at some point.

Like, I just need a walk.

And he said, okay.

So we go and we.

We do our thing and we stop at an estate sale.

And I know better than to go into estate sales.

I am a very sensitive person, and anytime I go into an antique store or an estate sale, I just feel so much energy.

I know too much about the space that this was in.

The people like their energy.

I just.

I know too much, and it makes me pretty emotional sometimes.

Not every time, but sometimes.

And this particular one, whoa, it hit me hard.

And we're walking around this beautiful home, and I start to realize there was so much Joy and love in this house.

And it was a really beautiful energy to be in.

You could tell that they loved their family.

There were kids toys everywhere.

This was obviously an older person's home and a couple at some point.

And they just loved beautiful things, loved art, but also you could tell were really about their family and spending time together because there was an entire room with full of kids things.

There was another space that was just full of holiday decorations and extra serving wear and dinner plates and all.

You could tell they liked to host and they liked to have people.

And I also figured out how one of the people that lived there, one part of the couple passed.

And I think just the combination of the love and the joy and the family, it being so close to the holidays, you know, it gets me thinking about my own relationships and loss and time and how precious all of, all of that is.

The relationships, the joy that we cultivate, the time that we spend doing the things we love.

They had.

You could tell that they were, you know, high up in like some kind of corporate position just from some of the items that were around.

There was a lot of like the same company brand everywhere, but that one of one or both of them also really spent a lot of time with hobbies because they had some beautiful speakers and things that.

And records.

Oh my gosh, the records.

It was incredible.

My husband and I were in audiophile heaven, musician heaven.

They had instruments.

I got a lovely auto harp that was in almost perfect condition.

I'm really excited to have that.

But they also just had a lot of different hobbies and things.

So I don't know, it's just.

Maybe I sound a little weird saying all of this, like making predictions about a couple that I have no idea who they are, but you can just see people from the things that they have, right?

And feel the energy of a space.

And it did make me very emotional.

So we left with our things and I thanked the house and the family that lived there and thanked them for allowing us to walk away with some of their possessions and that I was excited to carry those on and to make music with them.

And again, I know sounds kind of silly, but I think, you know, we're all energy and I always like to have gratitude for that.

And we're continuing on our little journey, our free flowing journey.

And I said, let's go to the park, I'm ready.

And it was a lot later than I wanted.

I had wanted to go earlier in the day, but I said, you know what, let's go, let's go.

To the park.

And we get there and there's this long line.

And it's really rare like that there's a long line at this park.

There's a.

If you are listening to this and you're in Nashville, you probably know what park I'm talking about.

But there's a very small parking lot and maybe, I don't know, 20, 30 cars that can fit there.

And it's a Sunday that we're there Sunday afternoon.

So it just seemed like there were a lot of people doing engagement pictures and taking videos and just having a really nice Sunday.

The weather was beautiful, so it made sense when we got there why there was a line.

But I had never been there with that long of a line.

And of course I'm sitting in the car going, I just wanna walk.

I just wanna, I don't wanna wait, I just wanna get out.

And so my husband and I sat there and it was a good 20, 20, 25 minutes that we sat there.

And I just, we had the windows down and I was feeling the breeze of, from the wind and watching people walk to their cars and listening to.

There was a car, a few behind us that had a dog that was just like so excited and barking the whole time and listening to that and talking to my husband and we had some music on.

But I was feeling this like impatience.

Like I really, I had been wanting to go to the park all day and I just wanted to go.

So finally it's our turn and we're walking around and just chit chatting and it was a really nice walk.

We.

My husband stopped me and he's like, look.

And I look over and there was a bald eagle and I've never seen one in the wild.

I've only ever seen one at a zoo.

And we have protected spaces at this particular park where there's bald eagle's nest and we're watching and it was like across the lake from us.

So he looked just like this tiny little bird.

But I zoomed in on my phone and was able to see him.

And then they actually had a set of binoculars that you could look in and like a viewfinder where you could find them.

And it was so cool to look through the viewfinder and just see the details of the beak and the feathers.

And it was incredible to see that kind of majestic bird in the wild.

So that was really incredible.

And just taking time to sit and watch the bird.

And I was talking to him about this practice that I started that one of my friends was telling me that she's been doing and has been very.

It's been very helpful for her.

Very, very successful for her.

Essentially, where you spend at least three minutes a day visualizing exactly what you want in certain areas of your life.

And, you know, I talk about that, all the, you know, visualization, the power of asking for exactly what you want.

But I've never thought to do it in that kind of, like, potency and that frequently.

And it's been a very powerful practice.

And I've noticed a shift in my energy and my mood when I've done it.

And so I'm telling my husband about this part of my visualization where I was just curious what ChatGPT would come up with for me.

So I typed in our home.

We have always wanted to build a home.

And so we're starting to put the plans together to build this beautiful dream home, right?

And So I told ChatGPT exactly what we're looking for and what I envisioned for a morning and for it to create a snapshot of a day in that life just so that it gives more power to my visualization.

A really incredible tool.

If you haven't tried that yet, it's super fun.

And maybe I'll do an episode on, like, what exactly you could do with it.

So we're walking through the park and I'm telling him, reading off this, like, perfect day of us sitting on our deck with our coffee, because we always do morning coffees together and looking out over the lake and the sun shining off the deck.

And, you know, you go and do this and that and your.

Your day ends looking like this, and you have, you know, time together as a family, blah, blah, blah.

And, you know, both of us are feeling really happy and.

And grateful for this vision that we're starting to create.

And, you know, we're.

We're about 20 minutes towards the end of our loop, and the loop takes about an hour.

So we've been walking for a little while and I decided to stop amongst some trees because there perfect view of the sunset and just, you know, feeling incredibly grateful for the life that I have.

And that's another thing that I've been really reminding myself is that I really do love my life.

And there have been so many moments in my life that I haven't felt that way.

And so to truly be happy and grateful for even the small things, the fall leaves and the beautiful colors and the sunset and quality time with my husband who I'd missed.

And we're just standing there and I'm taking it in and, you know, I'm still thinking about this estate sale and thinking about time and loss and just feeling a bit emotional.

I was a bit weepy that day when all of a sudden, I promise the story comes too a point.

All of a sudden, there's this family that had been walking behind us, and I realized that it was an older couple, grandparents with their grandchild.

And he was maybe, I don't know, 10 or 11.

And they start getting closer to us, and he.

You can tell he's very excited.

He's speaking very loudly.

He's moving his arms really fast, and he's just so excited to be there.

And as they come up behind us, I pause and I'm listening.

And normally I wouldn't care, but for some reason, this.

I really caught this.

And I remember him saying, can you please stop and sit here with me for a little bit?

I really just want to look at this and be with you.

And I was like, oh, that's so sweet.

You know, this little boy wants to spend time with the family.

That's.

That's sweet.

But then all of a sudden, that moment is cut with the grandmother saying, no, we don't have time.

We're not here to sit.

We're.

We're here to walk.

When we get back, you can watch Netflix.

And he just says, but I don't want to do that.

I.

I want to stand here with you.

And the grandparents just keep walking.

And he's kind of just trailing behind them, like, you know, waving his arms at his side and walking like a little boy does.

You know, the little hop.

And I just broke down crying, and Brian looked at me and he just gave me the biggest hug, and I just said, that makes me so sad to think that you don't have enough time to sit with your grandchild and just be with them for five minutes.

You know, at that age, they still want to be around you.

And as he's going to get a little bit older, that's not going to last very much longer.

And my heart just sank in that moment.

And so I say all of this in that we think we don't have enough time.

We are constantly rushing from one thing to the other.

Kind of like what I was talking about earlier, where I just have this schedule and I have these things, and if I'm not doing something, then I'm not contributing enough.

I'm not being productive enough.

There's always too much.

There's never enough time.

And I say all of this because you have time.

You have so much time.

You have time to accomplish the things that you want to accomplish.

You have time to put yourself first.

You have time to sit with your loved ones and give them a hug or watch the leaves fall.

Even if it's for five minutes, you have time.

If you're feeling like you're not there yet and you're in this kind of, like, messy middle and wondering, like, oh my gosh, when is it my turn?

You have time.

The answers come from being present.

The answers come from listening to your body.

The answers come from the people around you and giving them the space and the time to share the things that you need to here, I think in all of this comes the question of why do you think you don't have the time?

And where are you blocking yourself?

Are you filling your schedule and creating all these busy tasks because it feels uncomfortable to pause and to acknowledge that maybe there are some things that need to change or that maybe the path that you're on just needs a little realignment, or that maybe you have been blinders on getting things done and there's nothing wrong with that.

I've.

I've done that.

I still do that sometimes.

But is it in alignment with your values?

Is it in alignment with the kind of life that you want for yourself?

Do you want to be the person that says, no, we don't have time.

We're here to do this productive thing and no time for being present and pausing for a second.

Your body and mind need you to rest.

Your body and mind need you to pause sometimes and check in.

When we're feeling frustrated, anxious, scared, sad, content, excited, it doesn't matter what emotion it is.

The emotion is trying to tell us something.

But we can only get that information if we're present and we pause and we connect.

But if you're always walking around saying, I don't have time, especially not for myself, then how are you ever going to figure out what's going on?

How are you ever going to check in and truly feel what you're feeling, which is then going to give you the information that you need to make the right decision to have the right conversations, to take care of your body?

So I really want you to think about what's important for you.

This is a time, a perfect time for reassessing, realigning, refocusing, reconnecting all the RE's.

And I also, because some of you asked for a kick in the butt, I also want you to take some risks.

And if taking some time to sit on a bench in a park and not be quote, unquote productive is taking a risk for you, then do it.

If that means that you're gonna have a special bonding moment with someone that you love, or even with yourself because you're important too, then fucking do it.

It doesn't matter what kind of risk it is.

It doesn't have to be some big investment.

You know, it could literally be just rethinking your schedule, rethinking your like super blocked out calendar, rethinking some of the habits that you've created for yourself.

We always think about taking risks as like making some big life altering decision.

It could be as simple as just taking a different walk to work, taking a different drive to work.

I try to change up my routine of the places that I park just so that I'm seeing a different viewpoint.

It could be starting a conversation with someone at the coffee shop.

You really truly don't know who you're going to meet when you're out and about.

So taking those small risks.

But those small risks can then build your confidence enough to take on the big risks.

So if you've been pondering that, here's your little kick in the butt to try something new, take a little risk.

But also remember that you have time and you do not have to have it all figured out.

It's okay to pause and reset.

So I hope this was the message that you needed to hear and I'm curious to hear your thoughts.

As always, send them my way.

You know where to find me at Iamalirs on TikTok and Instagram.

I love you all.

And be on the lookout for a few extra episodes in the next week since we're coming up on the end of the month.

If you are celebrating the Thanksgiving holiday, I hope that you enjoy some restful time, grateful time with people you love, chosen family or family.

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