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The Male Bag | Self-Worth & Taking Action after a Fertility Diagnosis
Episode 5 β€’ 4th February 2026 β€’ The Male Fertility Podcast β€’ Ciaran and Shaun
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This week, we open up the Male Bag to tackle a deeply personal and important question: How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after a male fertility diagnosis? A listener diagnosed with azoospermia shares his struggle with identity and feeling like he is failing his partner, a sentiment that both Shaun and Ciaran know all too well.

From the initial shock and loss of confidence to the long road back, this episode is a candid conversation about deconstructing who you thought you were and rebuilding from the ground up. We discuss practical strategies like discipline, journaling, and the power of community, offering hope and a reminder that you are not defined by your diagnosis.

πŸ’¬ Key Topics Discussed

Identity Crisis: The common feeling of losing your sense of self and masculinity after a diagnosis.

Deconstructing Self-Worth: How to peel back the layers of societal expectation and find your true value.

The Power of Discipline: Why keeping small promises to yourself is the first step to rebuilding confidence.

Action Over Rumination: The importance of taking action, no matter how small, to get out of your own head.

Journaling & Gratitude: Practical tools to shift your focus from comparison to your own journey.

The Role of Community: Why connecting with others who understand is crucial for healing.

πŸ• Timestamps

[00:01:20]: The listener's question: How do I rebuild my sense of self-worth after an azoospermia diagnosis?

[00:04:05]: Deconstructing Identity: Shaun discusses the long, painful process of figuring out who he was after his diagnosis.

[00:07:05]: Discipline Over Motivation: How doing hard things, like cold showers, helps build self-worth and integrity.

[00:14:10]: The Power of Journaling: Shaun shares his daily practice of writing down three things he's grateful for.

[00:21:00]: The 'Lucky Man' Analogy: Shaun explains how lyrics from The Verve helped him understand that self-worth starts and finishes with you.

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