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All right, we're gonna be in Proverbs chapter 13, okay?
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And we're, uh, not talking about dating.
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We're talking about friends.
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Uh, so we're, we're all in the
friend zone tonight, all right?
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Um, we are gonna be talking about friends.
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Uh, but I wanna tell you about some…
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They're actually not friends.
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They're brothers that I
learned about this week.
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Uh, one of them was named Wes,
and the other one was named Tony.
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And, uh, Tony and Wes, so,
uh, Tony's the older one.
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Tony was cool.
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Wes was like, "Tony is awesome."
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Tony, Tony had it all together.
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I don't know if you ever have
an older sibling like that.
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I was lucky enough to have an older
sibling who I thought was super cool,
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and, and I wanted to be just like him.
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And that's how Wes felt about Tony.
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Tony was, um, he was, you
know, he had it all together.
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He, he looked cool.
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He was athletic.
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He was strong.
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He was good-looking.
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He, you know, he was the guy that, that
Wes wanted to be when he grew up, right?
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And, uh, maybe some of you older
siblings think that to you.
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Um, you should ask your younger
sibling and find out later.
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But, um, Wes wanted to be just like Tony.
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And so then Tony, the problem was
is Tony, um, he, he had a lot of
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money even though he was young.
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And Wes was like, "Oh, I wonder
how he got so much money."
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Well, it turns out Tony was
involved in some bad stuff.
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Tony was involved in some, some gangs
and some, some drug dealings and…
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But Wes thought it was cool.
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Wes, younger brother, you know, he's
like, "Oh yeah, Tony's the best.
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Tony's so cool.
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I wanna be like Tony."
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And, um He started doing the same
things that, that Tony was doing.
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He started participating in all the
illegal things and, and all that.
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And Tony actually told his
younger brother, he said, "I
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don't want you to be like me.
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I know you wanna be like me.
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I know you think I'm cool.
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I know you think I have it all together.
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But I don't want you to get wrapped
up in all the stuff that I'm into,
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'cause I can't get out of it."
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Right?
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If you know anything about how this
stuff works, um, you can't leave it,
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because people wanna kill you, you owe
people money, people owe you money,
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and it gets really messy really fast.
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And, um, eventually, um, Tony, Tony, he
actually beat up his brother to j- get him
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to stop pursuing that same gang lifestyle.
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Um, but Wes didn't listen, and they
ended up actually going to jail together,
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um, down the road because they ended up
shooting and killing a police officer.
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Um, I hope you don't end up like
that, and maybe you're thinking,
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"Well, yeah, it's not me.
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I'm not gonna do that."
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But what I'm trying to illustrate
here is if you hang out with the
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wrong type of people, even if you're
not always doing all the wrong
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things, um, you end up becoming
like the people you hang out with.
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You become like the
people you hang out with.
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There's a, there's a stat…
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I don't know if it's a stat.
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There's a, there's a thing out
there that says y- you become
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like your five closest friends.
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So if you wanna know what you're gonna
be like at the end of this year, right,
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think about where you were last year
when you started your, your, whatever,
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your junior year, or your sophomore
year, or your seventh grade year.
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Think about what you were like last year.
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The reason you are who you are this
year, a big part of that, is because
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of the people you spent the most
time around this past school year.
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And if you wanna know what you're gonna
be like at this time next year, right,
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next summer, what am I gonna be like?
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Look at the people around you that
you're gonna spend the most time with.
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Right?
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Your teammates, your friends,
your classmates, your siblings.
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Those are the people that are gonna
turn you into who you're gonna be.
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And so that actually idea doesn't
just come from the internet,
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it comes from the Bible.
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It comes from our passage in Proverbs 13.
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So if you got your Bibles,
turn to Proverbs:
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you're not already there.
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I'll put it on the screen
for you if you need it.
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It says, "Whoever walks
with the wise becomes wise."
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Okay?
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You walk with wise people, you
become a wise person, right?
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That idea of walking with someone, it's
not just like, "Oh yeah, I go on a walk
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with a wise person every morning at 7:00."
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This is the idea of you
live life with them, right?
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When you talk about maybe you've been
in church, they, people will ask you,
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"Oh, how's your walk with Jesus?"
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Right?
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This is your lifestyle, your walk.
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It's just how you live.
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If you live with wise people, you
spend time with wise people, you talk
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to wise people, you, you watch wise
people online, you're gonna become wise.
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But the companion of
fools will suffer harm.
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And I don't know why there's two periods
there, but maybe just extra emphasis.
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I'm not sure.
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But, um, the companion of
fools will suffer harm.
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See, we need God's wisdom
for our friendships, right?
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Because the problem that we've
talked about for all of Proverbs
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is that you and I are really bad
at knowing what's good for us.
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You and I are really bad at knowing what
types of people we need to hang out with.
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You and I are really bad at
knowing what to place our value on.
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You and I are really bad at knowing
what's good for us, and that's why we
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need God's wisdom to help us live, right?
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We've talked about how wisdom is how we
use God's rules in everyday life, right?
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God gives guidelines, God gives
principles to live by, and wisdom
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is knowing how to execute it, right?
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Wisdom is, is knowing, okay, um, I know
that Jesus is God, but wisdom is knowing
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how that works in everyday life, right?
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So we want God's wisdom for
our friendships too, okay?
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And so our three points now
are gonna be really simple.
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We'll start with the first one, the
first one that I actually realized
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that I spelled wrong, but that's fine.
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It's supposed to be find good
friends, but that works too.
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Find God friends, 'cause
good friends are God friends.
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There you go.
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Um, you know, this is, like, probably my
least favorite part about typing things
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and spellcheck and stuff, is there's
some words, like, you know, like the
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becomes, like, they, or, you know, you
put the wrong there, and it doesn't tell
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you it's spelled wrong, so you have to
actually, like, proofread your own things.
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Pro tip right there.
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Um, so it's supposed to be
find good friends, okay?
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There you go.
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Find good friends.
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'Cause you become like the people
you're gonna hang out with, right?
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We've talked about this before.
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Um, but a lot of us don't
take it seriously, right?
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Paul, in 1 Corinthians 15, which we'll get
there probably in four years with Pastor
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PJ, um, he says, "Don't be deceived.
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Bad company corrupts good morals."
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Maybe your, your parents
have told you this, right?
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"Oh, don't hang out with those bad people
'cause you're gonna be like them and
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it's gonna not be good for you," right?
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You've probably heard that before.
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You have a question or something?
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What's morals mean?
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Great question.
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Morals, that's like, uh, what you
think is good, what you think is right.
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Oh.
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Right?
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So your morals, that's like your, your
compass, your internal compass of, oh,
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this is good, or this is bad, right?
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Yeah.
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Great question.
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Uh, so bad company, right?
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If you're, if you're with bad people
who have bad morals, that's gonna turn
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your morals into bad morals, right?
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It's gonna break your, your compass, and
you're gonna start thinking good things
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are bad and bad things are good, right?
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That's, that's what happens here.
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Now, maybe you just know this part, right?
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Bad company corrupts good morals.
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You're like, "Great."
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Why do you think he starts with
this part, "Don't be deceived"?
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Exactly.
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Right?
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What the problem is, is every one of
us, we think, "Oh, but not for me.
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I can hang out with those people
and it won't ruin my life.
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I can hang out with those people and
it's not gonna be that bad for me.
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I'm the one that's different."
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All of us think that, and
that's why he puts this up here.
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Don't be deceived because you
and I think we can make it.
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You and I think, "Well, I'm the exception.
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I'm the person that can, that can just
not be influenced by the people around me.
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I'm the trailblazer.
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I'm the alpha.
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I'm the leader.
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I can do this, and they, uh, maybe
I'm just not like everyone else
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And that's especially true, I think,
usually the younger we are, is it's
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easier for us to think, "Well, I'm
the one that's, that's gonna make it.
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Those older people, my parents,
my, my grandparents, they don't
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know what they're talking about.
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The Bible is an old book.
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It, it's just a bunch of rules.
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They're trying to ruin my
life and let me not have fun."
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That's called being deceived.
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You cannot escape this.
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Bad company corrupts good morals.
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If you hang out with the wrong people,
you are going to become a foolish person.
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Right.
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And foolish, not just someone who's…
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Foolish has nothing to
do with intelligence.
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Right?
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There's very smart
people that are foolish.
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Being foolish has everything to do with
what you think about God and how you live.
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Is it His way or your way?
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It's foolish to live your way.
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We've talked about that all summer long.
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But you don't just become like
the people you hang out with.
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I want you to s- to notice the
second half of our verse, right?
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We've talked about how there's like
parallel things in Proverbs, right?
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There's like the first half
and the second half, right?
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So you're reading this verse
and you're like, "Okay, right.
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Whoever walks with the wise becomes
wise, but the companion of fools…"
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If you had to fill in the blank,
you would say, "Become a fool."
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Right?
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That's what you expect to see.
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Well, yes, you hang out with
wise people, you become wise.
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You hang out with foolish
people, you become foolish.
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But guess what?
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It doesn't say that, does it?
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It says, "You'll suffer harm."
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You will be in trouble.
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You'll get hurt.
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If you hang out with the
wrong people, you'll get hurt.
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That's different, right?
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That's, doesn't just mean
you'll become like them.
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It means there's consequences
for the people you hang out with.
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Maybe you've experienced this.
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Maybe you've experienced this
at school this week already.
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Right?
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You sit with the person who's
talking, who's messing around,
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and then you're sitting next to
them, and they make a joke, and you
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laugh, and guess who's in trouble?
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You are.
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Right?
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Not the person who made the joke.
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Right?
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The companion of fools got in trouble.
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Right?
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They suffered harm.
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Or maybe you were hanging out with
some people and, and maybe you've,
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you've been in a situation like this.
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You guys were breaking the rules,
maybe even breaking the law.
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Right?
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Think about like a car accident.
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Just because you're not
the one driving, right?
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Maybe, maybe the driver's
speeding and you're in the
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backseat, and they hit someone.
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Well, who's gonna suffer the
consequences of them hitting someone?
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Everyone in the car, not just the driver.
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So maybe you're not the driver
of foolishness, but maybe
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you're still in the car.
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You're a companion of foolish people.
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If you're still in the car of
foolish people, and maybe it's not
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an actual car, maybe it's you hang
out with them, maybe it's you,
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you spend a lot of time with them.
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If you're in the car,
you're gonna get hurt.
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If you spend enough time with people
who don't like God, who don't live
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according to the wisdom that He
gives us, you're gonna get hurt.
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Right?
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Living apart from God, living
independently, living our own
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way hurts people all the time.
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All the time.
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And so if you spend enough time
in the car of a foolish person,
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you will get in an accident.
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Right?
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You might go to the hospital.
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You might die.
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And I'm not just talking about
cars, I'm talking about life.
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And so the, the world wants to
deceive us about friendship, right?
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Your heart wants to trick you
about friendship and what types of
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people you should be friends with.
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There's a couple maybe lies that, that
I think would be good for you to, to
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be alerted to about friendship, okay?
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The first thing that I want you to, to
be worried about, I guess wary of, right,
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in terms of a lie, is that the world will
tell you, and maybe your heart will tell
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you this, that having things in common is
the most important thing about friendship.
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I need to have things in common with this
person to be friends with them, right?
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We need to like the same things.
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We need to be ha- be from the same,
the same area, or have the same
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personality, or think the same things
are funny, or have the same interests.
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Right?
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The world will tell you that, that you
should be with people that are like you
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And that's the basis for your friendship,
all of these surface level commonalities.
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But what I wanna ask you is what
do you base your friendships on?
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What do you build your friendships around?
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Are your friendships built around sports?
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Are they built around homework?
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Are they built around you
don't like that teacher?
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Are they built around you
guys like the same YouTubers?
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What do you build your friendships around?
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Because all of those things, if
you build your friendship on that,
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that's a very thin friendship.
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That's a very weak friendship, right?
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If your friendship is built around
playing the same video game together,
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that's not the type of friend
that's gonna help you be wise.
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That's, that's a paper thin friendship
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So what do you found,
or your friendships on?
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What do you build them on?
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Right?
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If you're gonna find good
friends, you need to build your
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friendships on substantial things.
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Right?
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Not just surface level commonalities,
but, oh, we both love Jesus.
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That's the foundation of our friendship.
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Right?
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In fact, we don't just both love
Jesus, Jesus has changed us, right?
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He's made us who we are.
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He's put us into the same family.
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Maybe another lie that you believe
about friendship is that the
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point of friends is to have fun.
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That's what the world tells you.
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The point of friends is to have fun.
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It's to do fun things together.
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It's to enjoy yourself.
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It's to, it's to do a lot
of unserious things together
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What I wanna ask you then is
what's the goal of your friendship?
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If the goal of your friendship
is to have fun, again, that,
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that's a weak friendship, right?
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That's a, that's a, that's
a diet friendship, right?
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That's a low sodium friendship.
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That's a gluten-free friendship, right?
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That's a sugar-free fri…
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You know, have you ever
had sugar-free ice cream?
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It's like the worst thing ever, right?
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You don't want a sugar-free
friendship, right?
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You want a friendship that's meaty,
that lasts, that satisfies, right?
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If your friendships are all just about
having fun, you never have any serious
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conversations with your friends, that
friendship is not going to really
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matter to you in the long run, right?
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When your parents are going through a
hard time, when you get really sick,
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when your girlfriend or boyfriend
break, breaks up with you, when you
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fail that class, doesn't matter how
many good memories you have playing
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Rocket League with your friends, right?
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You want a friend who knows God's word,
who cares about you, and who loves you.
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Doesn't matter how many jokes they can
tell, because you need a friend who's
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really gonna be there and care for you.
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So what is the goal of your friendship?
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Is the goal of your
friendship just to have fun?
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Or is it to really have someone who's
gonna walk through life with you?
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To be there for you when
things really matter
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Another lie you might think about
friendship is that friendship shouldn't
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take work, it should just come naturally.
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You won't have friends for very long
if you don't put in work, right?
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And if you make friends with people,
right, you don't want a friend who's
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only gonna be friends with you when
it's easy to be friends with you.
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Because if we're honest, it's not
easy to be friends with all of us
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for very long . It's not easy to be
friends with someone, a sinner, for
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a super long time because guess what?
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Guess what sinners do?
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They sin, right?
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And so if, if you think, "Well, I'm
only gonna be friends with this person
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when it's easy," or, or this person,
"I just wanna be friends with people
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when it's easy to be friends with
people," then you're not gonna find
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any good friends, 'cause they're gonna
be gone as soon as your life is hard.
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As soon as you're, you're busy, or as
soon as you're going through something,
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they're gonna be like, "Well, it's too
much work to be friends with this person.
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I'm not gonna do it anymore."
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As soon as you really have real problems,
they're just gonna be like, "Oh, I'm out."
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And it doesn't matter, again, how
much fun you had with them, if
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they're not gonna stick around when
it takes work to be friends, when they
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have to forgive you, when they have
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when you have to confess
sin to them, right?
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You want a friend who's
gonna be there then.
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You don't just want a friend
who's gonna hop on your game
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together online and, and hang out
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Maybe a lie you think about friends
is that you don't need them.
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Maybe you're just like,
"I don't need friends.
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I'm good."
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And I, I- God, from the beginning
of the Bible, has said it's not good
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for you to be by yourself, right?
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He hasn't designed you
to be a lone ranger.
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So maybe you're thinking, "Well,
I don't need to find good friends,
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'cause I'm fine on my own," right?
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Well, you're going against the
design of the person who made you.
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God made you, and He made
you to, to have friends.
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He made you to have people
to help you because you…
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we need help.
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And that's, that's what
a lot of this comes from.
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A lot of this comes from us
being uh, not being honest with
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ourselves of, "I need friends.
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I really do."
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It's not just a…
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Friends aren't a luxury.
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Friends aren't optional.
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Your life requires friends, because
you're gonna have real problems and
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real struggles and real sin, and
you need real friends to help you.
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You don't just need fun friends.
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You don't just need flaky friends.
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You need real friends.
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So find good friends.
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Well, we talked about some lies
about friendship, but what makes
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someone a good friend, right?
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What makes someone a good friend?
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If you're gonna look for friends, if
you're gonna find friends that are
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really gonna be there when you need
them to be, who are really gonna help
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you grow in wisdom and, and love Jesus,
well, what makes someone a good friend?
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Well, the first thing, I wanna
ask you this, is, is do you even
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want the friends that you need?
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Because you might not want
these type of friends.
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You might not want friends who
are going to be the friends
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you need them to be, okay?
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Let, let's start with this.
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Proverbs 17:17 says, "A friend
loves at all times, and a
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brother is born for adversity."
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Adversity is, like, when
things are really hard.
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"A friend loves at all times.
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A brother is born for adversity."
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Right?
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You…
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The, the…
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One of the things you should look for
in a friend is someone who's loyal.
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Right?
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Someone who, who cares about you,
not just when it's easy to care about
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you or when it's convenient to care
about you, but at all, all the times.
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Right?
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A brother is born for adversity.
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A, a best friend, a close friend is made
for those situations when life is really
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hard, or when you don't know what you're
gonna do next, when you don't know how
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you're gonna keep trusting the Lord,
when you can't keep fighting that sin.
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That's when you need friends.
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:
Right?
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You, you want friends that
actually love Jesus more than you.
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:
And what I mean by that, I don't just
mean friends that, "Okay, I love Jesus
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this much, and they love Jesus more."
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I mean friends that care about
Jesus more than they care about you.
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Because those are the friends that
are gonna care about you more.
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Does that make sense?
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Because you need friends that are loyal to
your good, not just what you want, right?
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:
In our, in our culture right now
especially, but in general, we like
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surrounding ourselves with people
that just affirm everything about us.
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:
That I heard, um…
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It was actually the same interview
I mentioned at Revival about
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Tom Brady and his psychologist.
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He was talking about how all of
these young athletes, their whole
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life, they're surrounded by people
who just say, "You're the best."
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Right?
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They- they're in high school, and
they're the best player on their
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team, and all their teammates are
like, "Oh, yeah, you're so good.
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You're so…
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You're, you're great.
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You don't need to listen to anyone."
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And their coach usually is like,
well, they're the star player, so he's
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like, "Well, you're, you're the best.
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You're awesome."
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And, and then they get an, an, an agent,
and the agent is like, "You're so good.
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You deserve all this money.
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You're gonna g- do all
these great things."
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:
And they're just surrounded by people
that say, "You're great, you're
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great, you're great, you're great."
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:
And then these people never
learn how to actually grow.
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These, these athletes, they, they…
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Whenever…
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Then they meet a coach who actually
says, "You need to work on this," and
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they get offended because the coach is
actually trying to coach them, right?
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:
The coach is actually trying
to help them grow and they're
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:
like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.
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You don't think I'm the greatest
baseball player of all time?
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:
What's wrong with you?"
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All right, you need friends
who are committed to your good.
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:
They're not just committed
to what you want to hear.
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:
Right, you need friends that are
gonna be honest with you, right?
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:
And that's where this next
thing goes in Proverbs 27:5-6.
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:
It says, "It's better to have open
rebuke," right, it's better for someone
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:
to call you out for something, "than
to love you and not tell you about it."
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It's better for someone to
say, "Hey, you know what?
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:
Um, the way that you talk to people is
… It comes across as really prideful."
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:
Maybe you need someone to tell you that.
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:
But if they never tell you, but they
really care about you, but they never,
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:
they never show you that they care about
you, that's not very helpful, right?
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:
It's better to have someone who's gonna
tell you what they think and how to help
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you than to not say anything at all.
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:
And in verse six, this
is one of my favorites.
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Faith … So the wounds
of a friend are faithful.
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I know it's kinda backwards.
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It's like Yoda.
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But faithful are the
wounds of a friend, right?
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The wounds of a friend are faithful.
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:
And then profuse, that means,
like, a lot, like overflowing,
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:
right, are the kisses of an enemy.
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:
Right?
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Someone who doesn't like you, they're
gonna act like, "Oh, wow, you're so good."
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They're gonna overflow
with flattery, right?
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:
But a- someone who really cares
about you, they're gonna wound you.
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:
That's what this proverb is saying.
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They're gonna tell you hard things,
not because they wanna hurt you,
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:
but because they wanna help you.
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:
Um, Pastor Rod said it to me
actually when I was in high school.
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:
He said, "You need friends
who stab you in the front."
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:
You need friends who stab you in the
front, not stab you in the back, right?
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:
You don't just want a bunch of friends
who are gonna say, oh, uh, who are gonna
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:
lie to you and tell you how great you are.
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:
That might feel good for, for a little
bit, but if you just surround yourself
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:
with friends who are, who are never
gonna tell you hard things, who are never
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:
gonna call out sin in your life, who
are never gonna challenge you to help
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:
you grow, who are never gonna disagree
with you when you're being dumb, who
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:
are never gonna say, "You know what?
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:
We … You actually shouldn't, shouldn't
go to that party," or, "You know what?
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:
You actually are really
reckless with, with your words.
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:
Uh, you, you really should stop
talking about that right now," or,
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:
"You really need to delete that app
off your phone," or, "You're really
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:
lazy with your Bible reading," right?
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:
You need friends who will tell you that.
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:
Those are the kind of friends
that care about your soul, right?
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:
They're loyal to you, to your good.
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:
They're not just loyal
to you feeling good.
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:
They're loyal to actually
what's good for you, right?
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:
They, they make you eat your vegetables.
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:
Now, you need friends like that.
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:
But you also need friends that,
that know God's word, right?
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:
Um, later in this chapter, it says…
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:
All right, and the thing about
back in the day, right, oil and
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perfume make the heart glad.
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:
Right, things that smell good.
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:
'Cause if you think, like, back then,
they didn't have deodorant, they
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:
didn't have scented candles, they
didn't have air fresheners, right?
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:
And they didn't have plumbing.
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So things that smelled good were great.
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:
Right, you loved things that smelled good.
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:
And what makes a friend smell good to
your soul, right, is earnest counsel.
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:
What does that mean?
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It means they, they care.
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:
They're earnest, right?
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:
They, they, they care.
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:
And counsel, they're, they're wise.
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:
Right, they know God's word,
and they care about you.
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:
And that's really what makes
a friend a good friend.
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:
So I guess our point isn't that bad when
you need to find God friends, right?
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:
You need to find friends that, that
know God and that want you to love
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:
God, and they care more about you
loving God than you liking them.
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:
Right?
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:
If your friends care about you liking
them more than they care about your
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:
relationship with Jesus, that's not a
good friend, 'cause they're never gonna
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:
risk anything to help you, 'cause they
don't wanna mess up your relationship.
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:
But if they really care about you,
right, they're gonna use God's word.
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:
They're gonna know God's word
and, and use it in your life.
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:
Right?
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:
You need friends that, that are
doing the things that we're talking
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:
about, right, that, that are applying
God's word, taking things that God
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:
says and actually living it out.
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:
'Cause those are the friends
that are really going to help you
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:
One thing that you maybe probably
never thought about with a friend
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:
is, do I wanna be like this person?
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:
Not do I wanna like this person,
but do I wanna be like this person?
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:
All right, think about your friends.
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:
You don't have to look at them right now.
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:
But think about them, and I want you
to think, do I wanna be more like
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:
this person by the end of the year?
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:
Do I wanna, do I wanna act like them?
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:
Do I wanna talk to my parents
like they talk to their parents?
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:
Do I, do I want to drive like them?
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:
Do I want to do my homework like them?
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:
Do I want to love Jesus
the way they love Jesus?
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:
Do I wanna respond to hard situations
the way they respond to hard situations?
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:
Do I wanna handle my emotions the
way they handle their emotions?
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:
'Cause if you spend enough time around
them, that's what you're gonna be.
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:
You're gonna be like them.
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:
So maybe when you think about who should
I be friends with this year, or who
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:
should I be close friends with maybe, you
should think about who do I wanna be like?
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:
Or when it's 2027, who do
I, who do I wanna look like?
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:
Who do I wanna sound like?
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:
Who do I wanna talk like?
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:
Something else that you might not
have thought about with friends
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:
is do I respect this person?
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:
Do I actually value this person?
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:
Right, uh, uh, what they say, right?
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:
Do, when this person gives
me advice, would I listen?
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:
That's the person you wanna
be friends with, right?
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:
You don't wanna be friends with
the person who's, who you're like,
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:
"Oh, I don't care what they think.
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:
It doesn't matter."
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:
Right?
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:
That's not someone you
wanna be friends with.
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:
'Cause they're, your friends are gonna
give input into your life, and if you,
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:
if you don't respect them and their
opinion, if you wouldn't listen to them,
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:
then why are you friends with them?
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:
And I'm not saying you sh- when I talk
about friends, I hope you understand,
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:
I'm not trying to say you should
never talk to these people, right?
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:
I'm saying that these are the
people that you're, you're doing
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:
li- you're walking with, right?
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:
You're, you're running with.
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:
These are the people that you're spending
your most time with, you're talking
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:
about your problems with, that you're
sharing your happiness with, right?
566
:
These are the people that are always
at the top of your, your text message
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:
thing 'cause you're, you're texting them.
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:
They're involved in your life, right?
569
:
You don't have to pin them
'cause they're already there.
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:
Right?
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:
I remember Shay and I
were talking about this.
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:
She's like, "Why don't you
have me pinned on your phone?"
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:
And I was like, "'Cause
I'm always texting you.
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:
I don't need to pin you.
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:
You're always at the top of the,
the li- message list, right?"
576
:
Right?
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:
Those are the people I'm talking about.
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:
These are the people that you need to…
579
:
You need to respect these people.
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:
You need to be willing to
listen to these people.
581
:
You need these people to care about you.
582
:
They need to be there for you.
583
:
And that's what the time, that's what
you, you wanna look for, um, in a friend.
584
:
Maybe you're thinking, uh,
I don't have good friends.
585
:
Maybe you've, you've heard this and
you're like, "I don't, I don't have a
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:
lot of good friends," or maybe you're
thinking, "I wish I had friends like
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:
that, but all my friends stink."
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:
Maybe that's what you're thinking.
589
:
I hope not, but maybe you are.
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:
Um, the best way for you to find
good friends is to be a good
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:
friend, and that's our second point.
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:
Be a good friend.
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:
I spelled it right this time.
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:
That's proof that I can spell.
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:
Be a good friend.
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:
Right, the best way to make friends
is to start being a good friend
597
:
because good friends will respond
well to good friendship, right?
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:
If, if you take friendship seriously
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:
The good friends in your life
will respond to that and follow
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:
your lead and take it seriously.
601
:
Right?
602
:
If you start talking about serious
things, the good friends in your
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:
life will say, "Yeah, sign me up.
604
:
I want more of that."
605
:
Right?
606
:
If you start taking your faith seriously
and, and taking your relationship with
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:
God seriously, the bad friends in your
life are gonna say, "Oh, you're weird now.
608
:
You're not as fun as you used to be."
609
:
The good friends in your
life are gonna say, "I, I…
610
:
This is great.
611
:
I want more of this
612
:
So if you start being a good friend,
the good friends in your life will, will
613
:
find you because they want more of that.
614
:
And that's what makes them a good
friend, is they want good friendship
615
:
So God says a lot about what it
looks like to be a good friend,
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:
and we talked about some of that.
617
:
But we talked about being committed to
the best interests of your friends, right?
618
:
My mom always told me, "To love someone
means you want what's best for them."
619
:
It doesn't mean you have
warm fuzzies about them.
620
:
It doesn't mean that, that, you know,
you get heart eyes when you see them.
621
:
To love someone means you
want what's good for them.
622
:
You don't necessarily want what they
want, you want what's good for them.
623
:
You want what's best for them.
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:
And that's what, really what friendship
is, is I am committed to your good.
625
:
I don't care if you like me,
I don't care if you want me.
626
:
I care about your good.
627
:
That's what good friends do.
628
:
Right?
629
:
Friendship is hard work.
630
:
People are, are sinners.
631
:
People…
632
:
Uh, it's hard to be friends with me.
633
:
I'm sure it's hard to be friends with you.
634
:
People are hard to love, and so
a good friend loves their friend
635
:
when their friend's not lovable.
636
:
That's what good friends do.
637
:
Right?
638
:
If you, if you're gonna be a good
friend to someone, you should love them
639
:
when they're at their worst, right?
640
:
When they're mad at you, when
they're not treating you well, when
641
:
Things aren't going the way
you want them to go, right?
642
:
That's when good friends step up
643
:
Um, good friends are, are humble, right?
644
:
That's part of it, right?
645
:
You have to care about the
other person and their interests
646
:
more than your own a lot.
647
:
Right?
648
:
Philippians 2 says, um, that
we should count other people as
649
:
more significant than ourselves.
650
:
That we should say, "You know what?
651
:
Your good is more important than my good."
652
:
Right?
653
:
Good friends are, are humble, right?
654
:
No one wants to be friends with
someone that's all about themselves.
655
:
No one wants to be friends
with a selfish person, right?
656
:
A good friend is gonna put
the other person's interests
657
:
ahead of them- themselves.
658
:
They're gonna say, "You know what?
659
:
You need this more than I do right now.
660
:
I'm here for you.
661
:
I'm not in this friendship for me.
662
:
I'm in this friendship to love you
and to support you and for your good."
663
:
Right?
664
:
And that's humility.
665
:
Right?
666
:
If, if you're in your friendships
for what you can get out of it-
667
:
Someone might say that
you're a parasite, right?
668
:
Someone might say that, that you're just
in the friendship to, to suck all the, all
669
:
the energy out of the other person, right?
670
:
You're not there to, to
give anything to them
671
:
Selfishness and envy will
kill your friendships.
672
:
They'll kill your friendships
673
:
And it's really hard, right,
to, to not be selfish.
674
:
I mean, if you think about this,
um, I don't know if you've…
675
:
how deeply you've thought about
this, but American sports are
676
:
actually built on selfishness.
677
:
Uh, because if you think, if you,
if you really wanted to, right?
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:
'Cause you know how all the s-
all the NFL players, all the NBA
679
:
players, they say, "Oh, yeah, you
know, my number one goal every year
680
:
is to win the Super Bowl," right?
681
:
"And I'm all about the
team," whatever, right?
682
:
Well, guess what?
683
:
If you, you know, the, all the, all
the best N- uh, NFL players, if they
684
:
wanted to, they could all join the
same team if they just took less money.
685
:
You understand that, right?
686
:
Like Miles Garrett and Patrick
Mahomes and, um, Puka Nacua, and they
687
:
could all just say, "You know what?"
688
:
I guess half of them
are on the Rams anyway.
689
:
But they could all just
say, "You know what?
690
:
We're all gonna get on
the best team together."
691
:
If we all took $5 million a year,
which is a lot of money, they could
692
:
all just join the best team and,
and get on the same team together.
693
:
But you know why they don't do that?
694
:
'Cause they're selfish.
695
:
'Cause they don't wanna be a
third-stringer on the best team.
696
:
They'd rather be a starter and make more
money on a okay team than form the, the
697
:
Monstars, right, the, the All-Stars.
698
:
And, but the Dodgers, they
don't take less money.
699
:
They just spend more money.
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:
Speaker 2: They, they don't
701
:
Speaker: have to pay them back.
702
:
Yeah, well, they, yeah,
they defer all the payments.
703
:
That's the Astros actually Weston, it's
not, it's not the Dodgers' fault the
704
:
Royals don't wanna spend money, okay?
705
:
But anyway, even like any sport, right?
706
:
The…
707
:
If they wanted to, right?
708
:
Like think about, think
about basketball, right?
709
:
Think about, think
about basketball, right?
710
:
All the good players, if they
wanted to, could all get on the
711
:
same team and just dominate.
712
:
But they don't.
713
:
They don't because they
want more money, right?
714
:
Selfish.
715
:
They're selfish, exactly.
716
:
If, if that's you in
your friendships, right?
717
:
If, if your whole friendship
is, "Well, I care more about my
718
:
wellbeing than my friend," you're,
you're gonna tank your friendship
719
:
We talked about this before, but your
friendships need you to be honest.
720
:
Proverbs 17:9 says, "Whoever covers an
offense seeks love, but he who repeats
721
:
a matter separates close friends."
722
:
Right?
723
:
This is gossip right here, right?
724
:
"Oh, did you hear about so-and-so?
725
:
Did you know that so-and-so did this?"
726
:
Right?
727
:
A good friend is trustworthy, right?
728
:
If you can't keep a secret,
you're a, y- you're a bad friend.
729
:
If you just have to tell everything
about your friends to everyone, you
730
:
are failing them as a friend, right?
731
:
If you wanna find a good friend,
find someone you can trust, right?
732
:
When, when you tell them something,
they need to be trustworthy.
733
:
They need to be able to
handle it well with wisdom
734
:
But you also need to be honest, right?
735
:
And that's this part right here.
736
:
"Whoever covers an offense
seeks love," right?
737
:
You need to love people, your friends,
enough to forgive them, right?
738
:
If, if you are keeping score in
your friendship, your friendship
739
:
isn't gonna last very long, right?
740
:
If, if you're easily offended, you're
gonna be really hard to be friends with
741
:
If you hold on to bitterness, you're
not gonna be a very good friend.
742
:
A few verses later, "The beginning
of strife," right, conflict, "is
743
:
like letting out water, so quit
before the quarrel breaks out."
744
:
I, I thought of this.
745
:
So when I was a kid, um, at the
beach, I didn't wanna surf or boogie
746
:
board or go in the water or anything.
747
:
I just wanted to, to build
sandcastles when I was a kid.
748
:
And so I would try to build sandcastles
that would, like, survive a really
749
:
long time after all the waves.
750
:
And see, what happens with sand,
right, is if there's, like, a hole
751
:
in your wall, it just gets bigger and
bigger and bigger and bigger, right?
752
:
You have to, you have to cover
the hole immediately, right?
753
:
You c- you can't wait.
754
:
You gotta cover it right away.
755
:
The longer you, you let the hole grow,
and the more water you let come in,
756
:
it just destroys the whole thing.
757
:
And that's kinda like if you have conflict
with someone, right, someone offends you,
758
:
you gotta deal with it right away, right?
759
:
You can't just hold onto it and s-
and just get angrier and angrier
760
:
and more upset about it, right?
761
:
You, you deal with it there instead
of saying, "Well, oh, can you
762
:
believe that they said this to me?"
763
:
And you tell your other friend, and
then you tell your other friend.
764
:
Or, "Yeah, this person did this
to me, and c- you know, have they
765
:
ever done this, like, to you?"
766
:
Right?
767
:
You spread it, and it, it, it ru-
it just destroys everything, right?
768
:
You need to be able to resolve
conflict with your friends.
769
:
You need to go to them and say, "Hey,
you know, that was really hurtful.
770
:
You know, I'd appreciate if you
didn't say things this way."
771
:
You know?
772
:
Is … Or maybe you talk about it.
773
:
You say, "Is there anything that I need
to do to be a better friend to you?"
774
:
Right?
775
:
You have to be quick to address conflict.
776
:
Uh, you also need to be vulnerable
to be a good friend, 'cause being,
777
:
being a good friend is risky
because you're putting yourself
778
:
out there to, to get burned, right?
779
:
You pour yourself into someone.
780
:
You care about their good.
781
:
You pray for them.
782
:
You, you invest in them.
783
:
You ask them questions,
and then they leave you.
784
:
They burn you.
785
:
They let you down, right?
786
:
It's risky to be a good friend.
787
:
You have to … You, you're setting
yourself up to, to get hurt, and you
788
:
have to be vulnerable to do that.
789
:
Um, but you also have to be
willing to put in more than
790
:
you'll get out sometimes, right?
791
:
Friendships are not 50/50.
792
:
They might be, but they might not be.
793
:
Right?
794
:
If, if you're going into your
friendship trying to get out what you
795
:
put in, if that's your goal, that's
not gonna go very well because you're
796
:
gonna be constantly thinking, "Oh,
well, this person's not doing this,
797
:
they're not doing this, they're not
doing this, they're not doing this."
798
:
But also, it's okay if
you're not a perfect friend
799
:
No one's a perfect friend.
800
:
Right, one of the best ways
to make friends is actually to
801
:
share that you're not perfect.
802
:
Right?
803
:
One of the best ways to get to know
someone is to confess your sin, right?
804
:
To be vulnerable, to be open.
805
:
And sometimes you have to take initiative.
806
:
Maybe you're saying, "Well, I, I,
no one ever gets to, to share stuff
807
:
with me, and I don't feel like my
friendships are getting deep, and I'm
808
:
not growing and to get to know people."
809
:
Well, maybe you need to start.
810
:
Maybe they're waiting for you to open up.
811
:
So don't wait until you're perfect
to be a good friend, right?
812
:
Maybe you're thinking, "Well,
I'm just not a-- I'm not-- I
813
:
don't have my life together.
814
:
I can't be a good friend."
815
:
Well, if you just keep waiting
till you're perfect, guess what?
816
:
You're never gonna be a good friend at all
817
:
And the last thing to being a good
friend is, uh, you need to love Jesus
818
:
more than you love your friends.
819
:
Because if you love your friends
more than you love Jesus, you
820
:
are doing them a disservice
821
:
Um, when Shay and I got married, our
first vow, or at least my first vow
822
:
on, when I wrote them out was, "I
will love Jesus more than I love you."
823
:
Right?
824
:
That's what I, I promised
to her almost two years ago.
825
:
And the reason I said that is not because
I don't care about her, but the best
826
:
thing I can do is to love Jesus most.
827
:
And the best thing you can do
as a friend is love Jesus most.
828
:
Because if you need your friends more
than you need Jesus, you're putting your
829
:
friends in a position that they can't be.
830
:
Your friends can't be Jesus for you.
831
:
Your friends can't be your savior.
832
:
Your friends can't fix all your problems.
833
:
Your friends can't forgive your sins.
834
:
Your friends can't give you
the peace and comfort and
835
:
security that you need from God.
836
:
So if, if you love your friends more than
you love Jesus, that's called an idol.
837
:
And the best thing you can
do for your friends is love
838
:
Jesus more than your friends.
839
:
There was one author, the way he
put it is, "You need to start loving
840
:
people and stop needing people."
841
:
Right?
842
:
If you just need people, you need
people to fill all the emptiness in your
843
:
life, that's turning them into an idol.
844
:
You're asking them to
do what God needs to do
845
:
But all of your best friends, even if
they're awesome, will let you down, right?
846
:
And that's why our third point
is to make friends with Jesus.
847
:
Make friends with Jesus
848
:
I know some people, this is
weird to them for a few reasons.
849
:
Right?
850
:
You can't see Jesus.
851
:
You can't give Jesus a high five.
852
:
You can't go play soccer with
Jesus, which that would be his
853
:
favorite sport if, if he had one.
854
:
Um, but this is kinda weird for some…
855
:
Some people, this is even
potentially dangerous, right?
856
:
Because they, they, they don't want
you to call Jesus their friend because,
857
:
um, or your friend, because they
think that's lowering Jesus, right?
858
:
Jesus is the king.
859
:
Jesus is the Lord, right?
860
:
He's not just your buddy.
861
:
Which is true, he is the king.
862
:
But King Jesus
863
:
Says that if you are trusting in
Him, you're His friend, right?
864
:
You get to be friends with the King.
865
:
And that's why when we talk about
following Jesus, we don't just say, "Oh
866
:
yeah, do all the things Jesus says."
867
:
Right?
868
:
When he says jump, you say how high.
869
:
It's true.
870
:
Right?
871
:
If Jesus says do something, you do it.
872
:
But there's also a closeness.
873
:
There's a personal just, there's
a friendship that you have
874
:
with Jesus when you follow Him.
875
:
It doesn't lower Him, it's
just you're adding, right?
876
:
You're not taking away from
his kingship, his authority.
877
:
You're just adding on
friendship to that, right?
878
:
He says this in John 15.
879
:
He says, "You're my friends
if you do what I command you."
880
:
Now, that sounds really weird, right?
881
:
None of your friends
should ever tell you this.
882
:
None of your friends that are human
should ever say, "Yep, you'll, you can
883
:
be my friend if you obey me," right?
884
:
That's, don't, don't be friends with…
885
:
If, if anyone else says that to you,
don't be friends with them, right?
886
:
You should probably run away.
887
:
If they say, "Yeah, if you obey my every
command, you could be my friend," right?
888
:
That's weird.
889
:
No one should say that.
890
:
But the reason that Jesus says
that is 'cause when you think about
891
:
it, why does God give us commands?
892
:
Why does God give us commands?
893
:
Right, maybe you think, okay,
well, He gives us commands 'cause
894
:
they're for our good, right?
895
:
They protect us.
896
:
They help us.
897
:
It's one reason.
898
:
Another reason God gives us commands is
because it helps us be close with Him.
899
:
Maybe you've never thought about that
before, but God's commands, right,
900
:
the, the things that Jesus asks you to
do, are to help you be close with Him.
901
:
They're to develop your
relationship with Him
902
:
Now Jesus gives you commands
to help you love Him.
903
:
So obeying Jesus is the same thing
as being close with Jesus, right?
904
:
Sometimes I think we can make those
things separate in our heads, right?
905
:
Well, some things I do, I obey Jesus
because He's the Lord, and then some
906
:
things I do because it's personal, right?
907
:
Maybe you think, "Yeah, I read my
Bible because I'm obeying Jesus,
908
:
but I sing songs to Jesus because
I'm being close with Jesus."
909
:
It's like, well, that's,
is all the same thing
910
:
And maybe you're someone out there,
maybe you think I am friends with
911
:
Jesus, but you don't do what he says.
912
:
Well, Jesus would say, "Sorry,
you're not, you're not my friend."
913
:
Right?
914
:
If, if you call Jesus your friend
and you don't do anything he says,
915
:
if you're disobeying him, you're
dishonoring him, you're disrespecting
916
:
him, you're not his friend, right?
917
:
You're gonna, you're gonna stand
there and say, "Oh, Jesus, my friend,
918
:
it's time for me to go to heaven."
919
:
And he's gonna say, "Depart
from me, I never knew you."
920
:
So don't trick yourself into
thinking you're friends with
921
:
Jesus if you're really not, right?
922
:
But he gives us this great privilege
of, hey, y- if you're following me,
923
:
you're not just my servant, you are
his, his slave if you follow Jesus,
924
:
but you're also his friends because
he, he lifts you, he brings you up from
925
:
your, your position of, of slave and
says, "I, I'll be your friend too."
926
:
And so I just want you all to see
how amazing of a friend Jesus is.
927
:
Um, in John 13:1, this is one of my
favorite verses in the Bible actually.
928
:
Um, now before the Passover, right,
so Jesus, he's about to die, right?
929
:
When Jesus knew that his hour had
come to depart from the world to be
930
:
with the Father, having loved his
own, the disciples who were in the
931
:
world, he loved them to the end.
932
:
Which this is, this is just
the, the coolest thing, right?
933
:
Jesus lived with these
people, his disciples, right?
934
:
Peter, James, John, Matthew, Judas.
935
:
Judas, not Iscariot.
936
:
The other Judas, right?
937
:
Bartholomew, Nathaniel, all these
people, and he, he loved them to the end.
938
:
Right?
939
:
Jesus loves you if you're his friend.
940
:
He loves you more than you could
even comprehend, and maybe you don't
941
:
even care, but Jesus loves you more
than you think someone could love you
942
:
And that's why he's the best
friend, 'cause he, he cares
943
:
about you more than all of your
friends care about you combined
944
:
Right?
945
:
Jesus cares about you and your good
more than anyone else possibly could.
946
:
He'll be more patient with you, right?
947
:
You never…
948
:
I, I know sometimes I worry, "Man, I,
I can't believe this person's friends
949
:
with me because I'm such a loser."
950
:
Right?
951
:
I, I feel that sometimes.
952
:
But I can say, "You know what?
953
:
Jesus will never be so impatient
with me that he'll just say,
954
:
'Sorry, Lewis, I'm done.
955
:
I can't be your friend anymore.
956
:
You're too hard to love.'"
957
:
Jesus will never feel that way
about you And Jesus is the most
958
:
kind person you could ever meet.
959
:
And maybe that's hard for you
to comprehend because you don't
960
:
know him that well, right?
961
:
And that, and that's why he's
given us his word, right?
962
:
You can meet Jesus and
hear from him every day.
963
:
And you b- you can befriend him and
talk to him and hear from him and live
964
:
life with him and be close with him.
965
:
And these are…
966
:
It's so hard for me to explain this
to you if you're just out there
967
:
and you're saying, "It's not real.
968
:
I don't want this.
969
:
I don't like this," because
it's, you just feel it.
970
:
It's one of the things you
know when you know, right?
971
:
If, if you follow Jesus and you
really do it, you'll get there, right?
972
:
You, you'll, you'll come to know Jesus,
that he's, he's so faithful, right?
973
:
Jesus never forgets
about anything about you.
974
:
He doesn't show up late to something
that he was supposed to be at.
975
:
He doesn't forget to, to send you
the thing he's supposed to send you.
976
:
He doesn't, he doesn't forget about that.
977
:
A- and what I love about Jesus too
is, uh, he's like us, but he's not
978
:
like us at the same time, right?
979
:
He's, he's like you.
980
:
He's human.
981
:
He knows what it's like to be human.
982
:
Jesus knows what it's
like to have parents.
983
:
He knows what it's like to
have people let him down.
984
:
He knows what it's like
to, to stub his toe.
985
:
He knows what it's like to eat vegetables.
986
:
Jesus knows what it's like to get sick.
987
:
He knows what it's like to
have friends that, at school,
988
:
that, that make fun of him.
989
:
He knows what it's like to, to
have parents misunderstand him.
990
:
He knows, he knows what
it's like to be you.
991
:
He knows what it's like
to be 14 or 16 or 12.
992
:
He knows everything, right?
993
:
He's, he's literally
been there and done that.
994
:
But then at the same time, he's totally
unlike anyone you'll ever meet, right?
995
:
Because he's, he's, he's God, right?
996
:
He's, he's so wise, and he's, he's
perfect, and he cares so much more than
997
:
you could care, and he knows so much
more than you could know, and he always
998
:
does exactly what he says he's gonna do.
999
:
And it's, it's amazing
to be friends with Jesus.
:
00:46:18,021 --> 00:46:21,511
And so maybe this is
totally foreign to you.
:
00:46:23,121 --> 00:46:26,221
And I, I, I want you to know
that you can have Jesus this way.
:
00:46:27,461 --> 00:46:30,821
You can have Jesus as your friend.
:
00:46:32,141 --> 00:46:33,702
Still your king, yes.
:
00:46:33,991 --> 00:46:36,131
Still your Lord, but your friend.
:
00:46:37,211 --> 00:46:44,391
And he will be with you and walk
life with you every day, right?
:
00:46:44,391 --> 00:46:50,481
And you can have him just like
that for your good forever.
:
00:46:51,141 --> 00:46:53,801
And then one day you get
to be with him and see him.
:
00:46:54,201 --> 00:46:56,232
And again, the, the whole
point, this is what being a
:
00:46:56,232 --> 00:46:58,461
Christian is all about, right?
:
00:46:58,461 --> 00:47:01,191
It's not about, "Oh Jesus, I just want
you to get me to heaven so I can forget
:
00:47:01,191 --> 00:47:02,581
about you and not need you anymore."
:
00:47:03,871 --> 00:47:06,862
Being a Christian is all
about being friends with Jesus
:
00:47:08,729 --> 00:47:11,199
'Cause I, I, I want Jesus.
:
00:47:11,289 --> 00:47:11,989
I know him.
:
00:47:11,989 --> 00:47:15,189
I, I've heard from him my whole
life, and, and one day I'm gonna see
:
00:47:15,209 --> 00:47:16,669
him, and we're gonna be together.
:
00:47:17,669 --> 00:47:18,549
That's the whole point
:
00:47:21,217 --> 00:47:24,237
And so maybe for some of you, you're
just like, "Yes, I love-- This is it.
:
00:47:24,277 --> 00:47:25,677
This is, this is what I'm here for."
:
00:47:26,627 --> 00:47:28,547
And maybe for some of you, you're
like, "I, I kinda get some of
:
00:47:28,547 --> 00:47:31,557
that," and I just invite you to l-
lean in to friendship with Jesus.
:
00:47:31,557 --> 00:47:33,087
And for some of you,
this is totally foreign.
:
00:47:33,087 --> 00:47:34,197
You're saying, "I don't, I don't get it."
:
00:47:35,907 --> 00:47:38,597
And Jesus is-- They call him
the friend of sinners, right?
:
00:47:38,597 --> 00:47:40,937
You're not below anything.
:
00:47:42,657 --> 00:47:45,857
Jesus will befriend you if you let him.
:
00:47:45,857 --> 00:47:49,457
Let's pray, and we'll talk
about that more in small groups.
:
00:47:54,563 --> 00:48:01,073
God, we are amazed that you
would want to be friends with us
:
00:48:04,153 --> 00:48:05,923
You don't need to be friends with us.
:
00:48:06,403 --> 00:48:08,603
You didn't make us
because you were lonely.
:
00:48:09,393 --> 00:48:12,163
You didn't make us
because you needed help.
:
00:48:12,753 --> 00:48:14,903
You didn't make us because you were bored.
:
00:48:15,563 --> 00:48:17,853
Um, you made us so that you could love us.
:
00:48:17,953 --> 00:48:22,353
And so I pray for, for all of us
here that we would be able to have
:
00:48:22,353 --> 00:48:23,693
a closer relationship with you.
:
00:48:23,693 --> 00:48:26,433
For some students here, I pray that
they would start a relationship with you
:
00:48:26,723 --> 00:48:31,953
today, that they would turn from their
sin, put their trust in Jesus to remove
:
00:48:31,953 --> 00:48:37,003
their, the hostility between them and
you, that they would let go of living
:
00:48:37,003 --> 00:48:38,473
for themselves and start living for you.
:
00:48:40,153 --> 00:48:42,653
I pray for students here who maybe
it's hard for them to be friends
:
00:48:42,653 --> 00:48:44,113
with you, uh, but they want to be.
:
00:48:44,173 --> 00:48:45,133
I pray that you help them.
:
00:48:45,443 --> 00:48:48,233
I pray that they trust you, that
they cry out to you and ask for help.
:
00:48:49,583 --> 00:48:52,973
And I pray for all of us
here that we would just enjoy
:
00:48:52,993 --> 00:48:54,303
closer friendship with you.
:
00:48:55,123 --> 00:48:58,103
So we're grateful for you, and we
pray all these things in Jesus' name.
:
00:48:58,283 --> 00:48:58,633
Amen
