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So I really enjoyed that
conversation with Benjamin and
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I'm really grateful to him for.
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Coming on and giving up his
time to talk to us like that.
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Yeah, I found it brilliant.
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I found it.
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So enthraulling and.
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I just loved listening to him.
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Well, I guess that's a good
thing for hypnotherapist.
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But he didn't put me to sleep.
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And we found out what
hypnosis was all about.
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So that's, that's good.
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Yeah.
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And.
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And that idea that actually
when you bring it down to its
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simplest form, It's suggestion.
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And suggestions are around us.
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All the time.
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Other people are suggesting things But
also we suggest things to ourselves.
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Exactly and, you know, that's the.
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What they try to do is to reverse
the thoughts that people have.
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I can't pass my test.
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Well, let's change that thought
and thought may well have been
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going around in your head.
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I can't pass my test.
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I can't pass my test.
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I can't pass my test.
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But changing that to, I can pass my
test may take a little longer, but you
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know, just changing that thought process.
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Yeah, definitely.
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And that.
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Light bulb I'd say that that really
was a light bulb for me, that idea
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that actually people are using.
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Exactly the same process when
they're telling themselves those
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stories again and again, and again.
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And every time you tell the
story, it becomes stronger.
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It becomes more embedded.
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And that's a form of hypnosis.
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In a really unhelpful way.
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And, so what Benjamin saying that he's
doing is just reversing all of that.
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That made so much sense to me.
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It sounded quite simple.
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Didn't it?
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He did make it sound quite simple.
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But then you think about it
and it's like, Well, yeah.
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That is isn't it.
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You have those.
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Unhelpful thoughts.
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Well, what is the helpful thought that's
opposite to Then have that more often.
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Yeah.
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And we often say when you know anybody
who works with us, we'll say all over
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the place, thoughts are not facts.
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And, you know, those stories that you tell
yourself so often they get embellished.
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They get added to, they become
more entertaining almost.
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They're not always true.
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They're not factual very often.
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Her and look at the process as well
That's one thing I'm going to take away
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from that is I'm going to start looking
at the process that people have, you
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know, what is their process for dealing
with a situation, whatever that may be,
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It's a maneuver or.
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Um, driving on a motorway.
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Um, yeah, what's the process that,
they've that going along with?
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I think that'd be really interesting too.
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Unravel.
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Yeah.
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Maybe find out a bit more about
that would be a good thing.
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Detective.
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comes back to detective
work and reflection.
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This is both of those things.
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One of the other points that Benjamin
made, which really resonated
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with me was that when somebody
has got a phobia, it's often.
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Their reaction.
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That they're trying to avoid is often not.
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So he used the example of a spider,
so somebody sees a spider and actually
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when it really boils down to it,
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Somebody is more scared of
their reaction to the spider.
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Then they are of the spider itself.
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And that rings true for do maneuvers.
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That rings true for driving tests.
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But the other thing that, that.
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Reminded me It's people
who have panic attacks.
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And it's really clear that actually
people will do anything to,
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Having a panic attack is
a horrible experience.
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and, people become more
scared of the panic attack.
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Than anything else.
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Yeah.
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And so that's exactly the same thing
that trying to avoid having those really
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uncomfortable unpleasant feelings,
physical feelings and emotions.
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Recognizing that, being able to
unpick that and recognizing that
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it is the response, that actually
is what people are most scared of.
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And just remember as well, you.
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It's not a magic wand.
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You have to put some of
the work in yourself.
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And we got all these tools tricks
and whatever we can But it's down
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to the individual at the end of
the day to go away and practice and
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put them into operation, I suppose.
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Yeah.
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And it doesn't matter who you're
seeking help from when it comes to.
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Well, when it comes to nerves,
anxiety, phobias, not just in driving
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in anything, it doesn't matter who
you're seeking help from actually
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it's you who has to do the work.
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So somebody else can
introduce you to the tools.
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They can help you see some patterns
in your stories or your processes.
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But in the end, it's you, who has to
put that effort and engagement in?
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Yeah, like you say, there is no magic
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We love it.
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If that was, yeah, it
would be really good.
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So we hope that you found that
episode is as interesting as we did.