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The One About Hypnosis 🌀
Episode 3424th December 2025 • But For Real • Valerie Martin & Emerson Ryder
00:00:00 00:51:52

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Ever tried hypnosis and thought, “Cool… nothing is happening,” while everyone else in the comments claims their soul left their body?

Same.

In this episode, we’re pulling hypnosis out of the movie version and into real life. No clucking like a chicken. No blacking out. No dramatic “going under.” Just an honest, funny, science-backed conversation about what hypnosis actually is, why it often feels subtle, and why your brain isn’t broken if you’re still aware of everything.

We talk about blinking aggressively during guided sessions, noticing every swallow, wondering if you left the dryer running, and why all of that is way more normal than you’ve been led to believe. From stage hypnosis myths to clinical hypnotherapy reality, we break down what’s actually happening in your brain and nervous system when you’re in a trance state.

This episode blends clinical insight, nervous system education, pop culture references, and variety-show chaos, because learning about mental health shouldn’t feel like homework.

We cover:

  • What hypnosis really is (and what it definitely is not)
  • Why hypnosis often feels calm, subtle, and very awake
  • The myth of “going under” and where it came from
  • Why overthinkers, anxious minds, and neurodivergent brains are not bad at hypnosis
  • How hypnosis overlaps with meditation, NSDR, EMDR, and brainspotting
  • Why watching TV, driving on autopilot, or losing your keys is already a trance state
  • The difference between stage hypnosis, clinical hypnotherapy, and coaching-based hypnosis
  • When self-hypnosis can be helpful and when working with a trained practitioner matters
  • Why ethical practice and scope of care actually matter in this space

We talk about:

  • 00:00 – New setup, unhinged hypotheticals, and stage hypnosis chaos
  • 03:15 – Why hypnosis fascinates us (and confuses everyone)
  • 06:05 – Listener question, “Why does hypnosis feel like nothing is happening?”
  • 09:10 – Am I not hypnotizable? Overthinking, awareness, and myth busting
  • 12:40 – What hypnosis actually is (clinical explanation without the snooze)
  • 16:30 – The brain science, trance states, and nervous system regulation
  • 20:10 – Why watching TV, driving, and losing your keys is already hypnosis
  • 23:15 – Stage hypnosis vs clinical hypnotherapy (and why movies lied)
  • 27:20 – Hypnosis, ADHD, anxiety, and neurodivergent brains
  • 31:05 – Self-hypnosis, YouTube videos, and what actually helps
  • 35:40 – When hypnosis is helpful (and when it needs clinical support)
  • 40:10 – Pain, gut health, IBS, and what the research actually shows
  • 44:30 – Common myths, fears, and losing control concerns
  • 48:20 – What hypnosis usually feels like (heavy, light, time distortion)
  • 52:10 – Why subtle doesn’t mean ineffective
  • 55:00 – Final thoughts, nervous system wisdom, and reframing “nothing happened”

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