📝 Show Notes

In this episode, I sit down with PGA professional and Raglan Golf Club manager, Tom Higson, to explore what it really means to enjoy golf - and why happiness and performance might be far more connected than most golfers realise.

🧠 What we cover:

• Why so many golfers struggle to separate their identity from their scores
• The hidden cost of becoming obsessed with performance
• How Tom's wife helped him rediscover perspective during his professional career
• Why half of on-course golfers don't even consider themselves "real golfers"
• What golf clubs can do to create a genuine sense of belonging
• Why process goals often matter more than handicap goals
• The surprising idea that could completely change the way you keep score

🏌️ A different kind of golf club

We also explore the remarkable story of Raglan Golf Club.

After closing completely, the club has been rebuilt around a simple philosophy:

👉 Golf is for everyone.

From mixed-gender competitions and flexible tee choices to creating a welcoming space for families, non-golfers and newcomers alike, Raglan is challenging many of golf's traditional assumptions.

🔑 The shift

Most golfers judge themselves through one question:

"What did you score?"

But what if that isn't the most important question?

Tom shares a fascinating example of a golfer who stopped tracking scores and started tracking whether she followed her process instead. That simple shift opens up a bigger conversation:

👉 Who do you want to be as a golfer?

Not just what handicap do you want.

Not just what score do you want.

But what kind of golfer - and person - do you want to become?

🎯 A preview of our coaching partnership

This conversation also introduces an exciting new coaching collaboration between Tom and myself.

By combining traditional PGA coaching with mindset coaching, our aim is simple:

• Help golfers enjoy the game more
• Build healthier relationships with golf
• Improve confidence and resilience
• Create performance gains as a natural by-product

Because happier golfers tend to become better golfers.

🌳 Stop and look around

Golf is one of the few sports we can play for a lifetime.

Yet many of us spend our rounds frustrated, distracted or chasing perfection.

Tom's challenge is wonderfully simple:

👉 Pause.

👉 Look around.

👉 Notice where you are.

You might discover that golf has already given you more than your scorecard ever could.

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🏌️‍♂️ Final Thought

Golf isn't who you are.

It's something you do.

The score is just the score.

So next time you play, don't just ask how many shots you took.

Ask yourself:

Did I enjoy it?

Happiness First. Handicap Later.