We’ve taught young people how to achieve but have we taught them how to feel, struggle, and grow? Host Anna Donaghey is joined by consultant Joanna Lilley, who works with young adults at the crossroads of high school, university, and early adulthood, to explore why so many high-achieving students feel anxious, overwhelmed, and unprepared for life.
Together, they discuss the emotional blind spots shaping a generation, from overprotection and crisis-driven support, to the relentless pursuit of perfection and the lure of numbing out through tech, alcohol, and quick fixes. You’ll also hear practical ideas for building genuine resilience, supporting emotional growth, and redefining success for both parents and teens.
Here are the Highlights:
00:00 Welcome back & why helping kids handle stress matters
02:08 Why record numbers of students are struggling
04:09 Tech, overstimulation & the accountability gap after leaving home
05:27 Why current university support often misses the mark
10:22 Are parents unintentionally “fixing” too much?
11:29 Why adversity and struggle are key to building grit and resilience
15:22 Coping, numbing, and the pull toward quick-fix behaviors
18:10 Alcohol, substances, and the hidden culture of self-medication
21:00 The emotional blind spots that make numbing so tempting
23:12 How parents and schools can nurture real emotional intelligence and self-awareness
29:02 Why Gen Z are the anxious generation
33:57 How to support your teen without being a human shield for difficulty
35:09 Letting go, empty nests, and finding your own path
45:54 Why recovery, reflection, and even a gap year matter more than ever
47:43 How intuition, creativity, and downtime build long-term resilience.
Anna’s book "What Are You Thirsty For? Rethinking Alcohol and The Life You Want", is now out in the world for you to buy!
The Thirsty For More Mindset Lab is Anna’s ‘inner circle’ - a calm, thoughtful space where conversations continue, patterns are explored, and things begin to make sense. Find out more at: https://thirstyformore.substack.com/
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About the host Anna:
Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.
Joanna Lilley runs LilleyConsulting and, since 2016, has been helping young adults (18+) find mental health, substance use, and wellness resources. Joanna dedicates herself to working solely with emerging adults who unravel in college or aren’t thriving in adulthood. She also hosts the "Success is Subjective" podcast, available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and iHeartRadio.
