What if motherhood wasn’t just about raising children—but about coming home to yourself?

In this heartfelt episode of the We Got You Mama Show, Carly Church sits down with international speaker, author, and mentor Mary Gooden for a powerful conversation about self-trust, self-love, emotional regulation, and the deeper transformation that motherhood invites.

Mary shares her belief that motherhood is one of life’s greatest gifts—not because it is easy, but because it calls us into growth, healing, and a more authentic relationship with ourselves. Together, Carly and Mary talk about what it means to feel lost in motherhood, how to reconnect with who you are beneath the roles and responsibilities, and why a mother’s emotional regulation becomes the foundation for emotionally grounded, loving children.

This episode explores the idea that our children may have chosen us not for perfection, but for our presence, our willingness to grow, and our courage to become the women we are meant to be. Mary also opens up about her own journey through panic, overwhelm, parenting, divorce, and healing—and how daily grounding practices, affirmations, movement, and self-connection transformed not only her life, but the lives of her daughters.

If you are a mom feeling depleted, disconnected, overwhelmed, or like you’ve lost yourself somewhere along the way, this conversation is a beautiful reminder that you are not broken—you are being invited back home to yourself.

In this episode, we discuss:

1. Why motherhood can be a soul-level invitation to grow
2. What it means to “come home to yourself”
3. How emotional regulation impacts your children
4. Why self-love is foundational in parenting
5. Practical daily practices for grounded motherhood
6. How healing yourself can change your family dynamic
7. Letting go of perfection and trusting your instincts as a mother

About Mary Gooden:

Mary Gooden is an international speaker, author, and mentor who supports women in living and leading from self-trust, self-love, and emotional alignment. A mother of two young adult daughters, Mary believes motherhood is one of life’s most powerful invitations to come home to yourself. Through lived experience and heart-centered insight, she teaches women how their relationship with themselves shapes the emotional foundation of their children and the overall connection within their families.

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00:03

hi everyone, welcome to the We Got You Mama Show. Thank you so much for joining us today. You are in for a treat. I'd like you to meet my friend, Mary. Mary Goodin is an international speaker.

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She's an author and a mentor who supports women in living and leading from self-trust, self-love, and emotional alignment. I feel like I just need to do this while we're—I don't know why, while we're talking.

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She's a mother of two young adult daughters, and Mary believes motherhood is one of life's most powerful invitations to come home to yourself. I think that's really beautiful.

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Through lived experience and heart-centered insight, she shares how a mother's relationship with herself becomes the foundation for emotionally grounded, loving children and a more connected family life. So let's just jumpright into all the things. Thanks for coming. Um, did I miss anything?

01:02

Do you want to add anything? I don't think so, Carly. You nailed it. I'm just so grateful to be here. And, uh, just, you know, when you get onto these wonderful shows and you hear, uh, you hear somebody read about who you are and what you, you know, your beliefs, and it just set—it just—you embody it even more. You just settle into it.

01:20

And I, I do. I believe motherhood is one of the—it is the biggest gift. Yeah. That I have ever received as a heart-beating, breathing human. I love that. Oh my gosh, I love that so much. It is. It's, like, one of the most challenging things and the most rewarding, beautiful things ever,right?

01:39

Um, so you talk about, um, "Why did they choose me?" So you think about that,right? So motherhood, you, you talk about this as a soul-level invitation. Um, you do a lot of soul work,right? Um, to become the woman your children came here to learn from.

01:58

I love that. They're here to learn from you,right? You're not here to—this is what I always say—I'm not here to be your best friend. I'm here to help you lo—grow and love and be kind. And, um, you're going to learn from me, and you're going to listen. Um, but you talk about it as through presence, curiosity, and, and growth.

02:17

So, um, let's talk a little bit more about that and, and this theme around, like, coming home to yourself. Coming home to myself. Well, I'll tell you the story. Uh, and it wasn't that long ago. Uh, I sat at a stoplight in Sedona. Maybe it was about four and a half years ago. And, uh, very present in my life now.

02:35

And I just closed my eyes, and I, I felt enlightened in that moment that I realized, "Oh my goodness, I carried two children in this miraculous body." Mm-hmm. Like, I know when I had my children, I n—the thought never even crossed my mind in this way.

02:53

It—I've never felt it so deep. And, and to that moment, I was sitting at that stoplight, and I thought, "You know, we are freaking miracles." Yes. And the fact that I grew life inside of me—and again, I'm—I'm turning 50 this year. We can all celebrate that too.

03:10

I just—I really had a moment, Carly, of, "Wow." To—and to think, like, yes, we can think of all the way—all the challenges that maybe we could have gone through, through delivery, through some people learning, "Oh my God, I'm pregnant," through all kinds of,

03:28

um, conditioned beliefs. Mm-hmm. And I sat there that day, and I was like, "Holy crap." Like, what a miracle it is to create a life inside of me.

03:40

And the understanding—so I do a lot of conscious work, very connected to Source, God, Divine, whatever—however you want to choose to call it. And I do.

03:49

I believe that my children, these souls, chose me, not really to, to learn from me, per se, but because they wanted me—I'm an example of—so that I would show them what I wrote on my first book title, the back of the book, "What Else Is Possible?" Hmm.

04:09

And if I can't step out of my smallness, if I can't get out of these preconditioned beliefs of what motherhood should look like or could look like, or you weren't there for this, but you didn't do thisright, if I—if I don't step out of those and, and understand my reality, that I came to show them something.

04:28

And maybe some of you might be thinking, "So are you saying that you can do no wrong?" Mm-hmm. Essentially, um, if I am in my own authority, my own authenticity, and my own wholeness, I—I really don't do any wrong. I show them the example that they chose me to show them. Right.

04:46

Um, now I can speak to that. What—so some of you,right? What—what do you think they chose you, Mary? Well, what I know from my heart of hearts of why I'm here is to create loving and lasting change. Hmm.

05:03

And so they should—they chose me to show them how to walk that out. Yeah. I have a story. I'll save it for a little bit later about just recently, after booking this podcast,right? And almost thinking, "What—what do I share here? Really, what do I share here?

05:19

How can I consciously help women mothers?" Mm-hmm. Just take a moment. I want you to do that now.

05:26

Just take a moment and put your hands on your heart and recognize that you created a life inside of you, something that lived off of you, that you created. That's—I mean, to me, sometimes it's unheard of. Right.

05:45

You're like, "Ow, but how?" How did, um, becoming a mother change the relationship you had with yourself?

05:52

Because I know there's a lot of losing yourself, finding yourself, um, getting, you know, a lot—we hear a lot of, you know, the terminology around lost in motherhood, or I lost myself, and how do I regain, you know, this—this version of who I was, you know?

06:10

And sometimes we live a little bit in the past and trying to get back something that is, um, no longer really. We're forever changed, and for the better, I think. But I think, as women, we beat ourselves up so often.

06:22

Um, how did that—how did that—that time period—and I know it's forever evolving, even having adult children—but how did, um, yeah, how did becoming a mother change that relationship you had with, with yourself?

06:34

Well, aside from realizing that I am a miraculous human being because something lived inside of me, um, I knew that I want—you know, we go into this, like, I want my children to experience something better than I had experienced. Sure. Right?

06:49

Show of hands, most of us, like, "Oh, I want them to have better than I had." Um, and so I started that way. I was in the corporate clime. I was—I was on the ladder of success. I was pushing, pushing, pushing, pressure, pressure, pressure, until I panicked.

07:04

And my children—I was a military wife, and so my first husband, my husband, uh, he was out, um, on a—on the ocean. He was out to sea. He was in the Navy. And, uh, I had my first panic attack, and I was running a bath for my children. I had just fed them the delicious quesadillas that they love.

07:21

I was, you know, I was just trying to keep up with this lifestyle that I had created because I wanted their lifestyle to look better than mine did. Right. Yeah. Right. So, uh, I was in the overachiever for, for them, uh, for me and for them.

07:37

And once I panicked and realized, you know, here are these—I—I think they might have been five and seven at the time. I didn't tell them,right? I kind of whizzed through the kitchen, and I went to the neighbor's house and ended up calling 911, and, and the neighbor came and got them.

07:52

And the neighbor's just telling them, "Oh, she got gum stuck to her leg." Like, just—I realized in that moment, like, what are you teaching them? Yeah. What are you really teaching them? You're teaching them to go after a life that—that what makes you panic? Right.

08:13

And so along came a spider, or my three non-negotiables. It just sounded like a fun rhyme. So I really heavily started practicing the three non-negotiables that I share in this book, "Let It Be Easy, Let It Be Fun," um, and started coming home to myself. I had to come home to myself.

08:30

I—my heart was beating erratically, would wake me up at 2:00 a.m. Uh, I left the hospital that day with enough Xanax to put down an elephant. And in the same realization, like, this is not my life.

08:42

I can't raise two children as a, you know, as a very love—in a very loving marriage, but as a single parent most of the time. Yeah. Um, from a place of fear and discomfort and wondering, when is it—when is it going to be a heart attack?

08:58

So I knew at that moment I had to make a change. And if I kept on, Carly, they would just end up with the same experience. Our children watch us, whether they—they want to or not.

09:14

And sometimes they do completely opposite of what—what we want them to do, not because they want to be disobedient, because I think they have an inside knowing. And that inside knowing is, well, she really doesn't know what she's saying because she's not speaking from a whole self. Sure. Yeah.

09:34

They're just sponges. They're sponges their entire lives. You know what I mean? Like, we talk about, oh, they're just such little sponges when they're little, picking up words and all the things. But no, they're sponges their entire lives. You know, my teenager is soaking up just as much, you know, now as she did when she was little. She's—it just looks different,right?

09:50

And then we start to see ourselves maybe in—in our children. And that could either do this,right? Or you can lean in and do this and really come together with them. I know I've had to work through a lot of different things with my—with my 15-year-old in that—in that sense. Um, fun age.

10:08

It's such a fun age. Yeah. It's—it's, you know, there's so many hormonal changes, so many friendship changes, you know, they're kind of all over the place.

10:15

But if they don't have an example, something grounding to come back to, to relay information, to, you know, find some trust, like, it can be really scary for them as well, you know? And she's neurodivergent and highly sensitive, and—and that comes with just a lot.

10:34

That's a whole other episode. But, um, but you talk about, um, emotional regulation, and that's something I've leaned into a lot this last year about, um, with my late ADHD diagnosis and, um, with my daughter having the same.

10:50

Um, we've been studying more and learning more about just emotional regulation in life. And it is such a key part of parenting,right? Um, so share your—your wisdom with us, um, a little bit more about that.

11:05

So the ways that I regulate my emotions is basically my non-negotiable practice is grounding,right? The first thing I do before I get up, it's not who needs what or how they need it or what do I have to do. It started with a "Show me the way today,"right? Show me the way. Uh, I know that consciousness is here to support me.

11:22

Instead of me having to support me and all the kids,right? I know consciousness is here to support me. So I connect with myself. It's the first thing that I do, daily connection. Show me the way. Who am I? Sit down, ground in, great affirmations.

11:38

I shared those in another book and in a—in an affirmation deck that I have now. And I started—And did you say not pick up your phone first? Do not pick up your phone. Yeah. No phone. Gosh, I don't even look at my phone until—I mean, so many of us do. It's the first thing. And it's like, and now let's start our day off like that, you know?

11:54

And then, you know, especially if you're doing that and then you're telling your children not to. Right. Yeah. You have to be, you know, you're really the example of—they chose you to be the example of—and you—you have to practice what you preach before they're going to practice what you preach.

12:12

And they're going to see—they're going to see the falsehood in it too. They're going to feel a frequency,right? If we can all agree on one thing, it's all a frequency. And so when I was pumping it, when I was pushing it, when I was not emotionally regulated, guess who else wasn't emotionally regulated? Guess who was throwing tantrums?

12:29

Guess who I was having to yell at every day? This is why it's so important. Can you give yourself—you are the beholder. You are the creator of this life. It was in your belly, okay? So I'm speaking to the moms that actually delivered.

12:45

And so let's just stay with that, because I know the people say, "Well, I'm a stepmom," whatever. Sure. You created this, and you created it from the frequency, perhaps that—that where you were when you were pregnant. What—what was life like when you were pregnant?

13:01

So you can kind of witness and get a good idea of what frequencies they're carrying based on where you were and what frequencies you were in. What emotional regulation did you have when you were pregnant? What was going on then? But outside of that, that's what I—I wasn't frustrated.

13:16

I really was—I can't say that I was ever really frustrated at my children. I was frustrated, which would leak out to my children. And then they would—I—I believe they are forever corded to me. And so whatever I'm going through, you bet your sweet pair of pants, they're going to go through it.

13:34

So if I wanted something of them to change, guess who got to change? Mm-hmm. First, me—I call it a me first movement. It is not selfish. It is not even selfless, friends. I call this being soulful.

13:51

I call this, like, I—I need to be the soul that I came here to be, the soul that they chose. And so that's what I did. Every morning, I would get up. I would sit. Now, mind you, I was having—I had started with the panic attack. So it really was like, "You do this now," or—and so even when I would sit, I would get heart pain.

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I would, you know, I feel anxious, but I just kept doing it. And, um, the second step was movement, because I, you know, I could probably claim A through Z. So after I would sit and I would connect and I would ground, just saying nice things to myself, even if it was only 30 seconds,right?

14:28

I made the change. Instead of getting up, "What do I have to do today? Who do I have to feed?" I would pause. I would connect to me. Then I'd go out and do the movement things.

14:40

Even if I just do 60 seconds of shaking in my prayer closet, I would shake my body, and then I would go celebrate something. After those two things, I walked out a happier person. They could see it. Now, they could see it. So I'm just going to fast forward.

14:56

Uh, we ended up going through a divorce after a 25-year marriage. They were 8 and 12 at the time.

15:03

And only one time did—did one of my daughters ask, throw something at me and said, "Well, it's no wonder that Dad..." And I looked at that child and I said, "Do you want me to tell you what happened between your father and I?" Uh, because at some sense, they wanted to put blame on me, because I was always—I was the mom,right? Mm-hmm.

15:22

I—from what they were seeing is I was managing everything. I was the cruise director. Yeah. And so when I asked her that at age 12, and she said no, so I—I've never told them what happened. But they don't seemingly haven't had any concerns.

15:40

Now they're 22 and 19, but I haven't watched them go through any real defeat, because I never talked about it. I never made anybody feel bad about it. Getting choked up. Pardon me.

15:58

And, um, to this day, like, I'm not—they don't seem affected by it. Now, evolution is a real thing, so things could change. Yeah. I just got a little nugget in here. It's fine. Tears to my eyes.

16:18

But emotional regulation, me today, 15 years later, it's my number one: sit with yourself, connect, get some movement in, create a space for whatever you heard, whatever you connected with, to actually land in your body.

16:36

This is a frequency,right? This is a body. And then by the time you get up, you're ready to share with somebody, "Do you know what I just thought? Do you know what I just felt? Do you know how expansive I feel?" Yeah. And, um, I wrote about it. I don't know that they've read—both of my girls have a copy of this book.

16:55

17:05

And so I would notice—I would pay attention instead of being bent out of shape because we became a blended family, or, um, I had to split custody. Mm-hmm. That was rough on me for a minute. Like, I've been with these children their whole life. What do you mean I have to share them? Yeah.

17:23

I realized they got four parents, you know? So the way that I started seeing things, like, now they've got double the love, because I remarried about three years later too. They have double the love. They have more people loving them. And their stepmother, she couldn't have her own children.

17:41

So what a blessing. So, like, this is the frequency I took. Yeah. And so they felt it through the cords. They felt this regulated space. Sure. What a blessing. She now gets a chance to raise children. Yeah. So it just became a big celebration.

18:00

Now, to sum up that emotional regulation in my morning routine, I pull my two daughters in. We get with Jesus, Mary, and Saint Germain, like, real deal. We are hearts of humanity. We hold the highest vibration of unconditional love within our body.

18:19

And we came here as a team, the three of us, to create loving and lasting change. How do I know this? Because it's what I started hearing when I sat down and connected with myself. Yeah. So my daughter, Emily, who lives in California, and she works at Starbucks. Quick story.

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This is what I wanted to share with you after I said yes to the podcast. How do I know this stuff works? She calls me up. She gets an award. A woman sends—this is the second or third time somebody has sent a review or a compliment through corporate Starbucks.

18:54

She gets down the chain. They give her a pin to put on her hat. But this woman, on the day that she knew this woman was going through chemo, you know, some—if you ever go to Starbucks and you've got a daughter like mine in there, they love their regulars,right? They take care of their people. They make great coffee when my daughter does.

19:13

And so she wrote on her cup that day, like, all these things: "You're strong, you're loved," you're all this stuff, this whole list. I got a picture of it. And the woman got the cup and instantly sent this thing. And she said, "What Emily didn't know is that that was my last day of chemo." Wow.

19:29

So my daughter's really intuitive, because she's—she's watched me be super intuitive. Yeah. So she called me the next day, and she started crying. And she said, "You know, Mom, I was asking Tyler, my fiancé, what—what am I here for? I was just wondering a couple days ago, I was asking, what is my purpose?

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And after I've just went through this experience, Mom, I realized that I think my purpose is to just love people and smile at them and help them understand they're cared for." And I'm sitting here as a mother with a 22-year-old, like, "Oh my God, I

20:06

did so great. Oh my God, this thing I hear in my daily connection, it's real. It's the real deal. Yeah. It's the real deal. It's those of us that have been blessed enough to create life. It's the real deal.

20:26

And the sooner it—it—it doesn't mean put yourself to—it doesn't mean serve these children to your own demise. It means come home to yourself." Yeah. What would you say?

20:40

What would you say to a mom that's like, "I don't even know how to get there anymore," you know, that they're—they're so disconnected from themselves that they are, you know, lost in a sense? I mean, we hear about the overwhelm, you'reright, that women are facing.

20:58

You're going to love the answer, or you're going to hate it. And I'm going to tell you the truth. This is my walk. I lived in fear of panic. So one day, I just had to change that, and I had to repeat it. This is a daily gig, y'all. Yeah. This is going to want it. There's no overnight fix.

21:16

There's no—like, it's—it's constant work on yourself. Yeah. If I say, "If I—and you know, I love you. I love all of you. But if I'm going to wake up every day and say, 'I have ADHD. I have this,' guess what? I'm going to have the rest of my life.

21:30

It's not until I say, 'Thank you,' that I don't have anymore. Thank you for the clarity." And that—that's what I'm talking about, the daily connection. And it was—it becomes a 30-second practice. And then I just started paying attention. Yeah. How quickly do I go back to my old ways? Mm-hmm.

21:50

And when I started—when I started measuring that, then I would realize, "Oh, I'm staying in—I'm staying in the positive. I'm staying in the good. I'm staying in it." I wrote it on my mirror. And I'm serious. It had—that's why I wrote my first—my first affirmation book.

22:06

I had to drill it in me, because guess what, y'all? It's no different than the thing you're drilling in youright now. There is no separation between that. I'm either telling myself I'm good, or I'm telling myself I'm bad.

22:21

And get a good mentor that's going to help you stay on track with that. Sorry. Right. Don't expect to do it by yourself. Yeah. We are not meant to do things by ourselves. Surround yourself with women who are willing to go to that step. Seek them.

22:38

But you know, you just—it's a daily thing. And I did it in the morning. It was a daily thing. And sometimes daily. Let me—can I share? Can I just share the way that I use Archangel Michael every day? Every day, I do this, okay? And that day, I call upon Archangel Michael.

22:55

Thank you for dissolving anxiety, fear, doubt, anger, bitterness, wrath, guilt, shame, and illusion. Thank you for cutting all cords, binds, chains, negative imprints, old karmic ties, expired soul contracts across all timelines and all lifetimes.

23:15

I thank—I thank Source for it. I thank God for it. I don't say, "I wish I—I even moved beyond the I am statement." Thank you for—yeah, every day, every day. It's my first morning. It's not, "Oh my God, what's going on?

23:31

Who needs me?" It's, "Thank you for—" and then I step in. It's—it's radically changed my life. It has changed the life of my children. Still, to this day, they just are so empowered in themselves.

23:48

And with Kristen, my youngest, who was 15 when I started traveling all the time and doing the thing, and she moved in with her dad full time, because Mom was, you know, was in Arizona, because Sedona, you know, my soul was calling, like, "Come to Sedona. Bring people, bring women here.

24:04

Do the self-love, do the self-trust, show them they're capable." All the while, my daughter was like, "You're never home." Like, I had to go through this impact too. And I would look at her—I looked at her one day, and I said, "You know why I do this? It's because you chose me to show you what was possible." Yeah.

24:24

And when I send her pictures, this—this 19-year-old, even when she was 16, I would send her pictures in Montana or Sedona. And this kid would text back, "Mama, you're so beautiful." Aw, like this kid sees me. Mm-hmm.

24:43

And I only get this—let me land this plane real quick—because I decided not to—to—to worry so much about what they were doing and what—what I needed to tell them, or how they were doing it the way I thought they should, or how I thought they shouldn't.

25:02

What I did is I tuned into me. Mm-hmm. And I started walking my walk. I practiced being me, coming home to me, because I knew they chose me. They didn't choose the facade of me. They didn't choose the idea of me.

25:19

So my daily connection, me, became my priority. And in that, I have watched for the last 10 years how they prioritize themselves. Right. And trust themselves,right? How they walk with them, trusting you, trusting your instinct.

25:37

You know, sometimes my kids will be like, "Are you psychic?" I'm like, "No. I know myself, and I trust my instincts.

25:44

And I trust my instincts areright when they are—when they are regarding them,right, in their path, or some decisions, or how I'm guiding them, or how they're, like you say, learning from me." And it teaches them to do the same. Like, "Well, okay, I'm not going to answer this for you, but what—what's your inspiration?

26:02

What—what's your gut telling you? What are your instincts telling you?" And man, if you can teach them from an early age to trust that, it's huge. And the easiest thing is to just trust yourself. Yourself. Yeah. Show them. Yeah. There's no magic in it, aside from doing your own work. Yeah.

26:21

Getting out of your own way, which is work. It is. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And you know, to me, it's a blessing that I get—again, it's a blessing that I have a breath in my body. It has—it has come so far to me. And if you ever meet me, you'll feel all of this.

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Like, I am just the happiest thing to be alive.

26:44

I think that being, even with all the things that we are seeing in humanity, even with all the programs that are being thrown in our face, I'm on the program that really does say, "No, I'm a blessing. This experience is a gift.

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And I'm going to walk that out, regardless of what—what's happening in this corner, in this corner, in this corner, because,right, we're all different. And I'm in the—I'm in the different place where I'm a—may I be a blessing? May I see a blessing? And may I share a blessing?" Yeah.

27:21

Can you imagine if we were all in that space of, you know, practicing those three things? I think we would be so much happier. I think we would be so much more connected,right? It's—and what is the secret,right? It's a daily choosing. So maybe write that on your mirror today.

27:37

I had little notes on my—in my car, little post-it notes with, I think, just affirmations that would come through, because I would sit with myself. Because I'll be honest, the first 38 years of my life, the last thing I wanted to do was sit with myself. Right. Right.

27:58

You're like, "No, thank you." You know, I hate for people to wait until you have a panic attack. And so that's what I stand for.

28:06

Like, we don't have to wait until our heart chakra says, "Hey, sister, this is your life." And it's certainly the life that they chose,right, you for. Yeah. Yeah. It's a daily practice. It is a daily practice. And like you said, you have a lot of those things memorized now.

28:25

So like, until then, write them on your mirror, you know, purchase Mary's stack of affirmations, you know what I mean? Have those up.

28:32

My daughter has a ton of pink sticky notes up on on her mirror that she wrote herself, you know, about herself, about who she is, about who she really is, because she has a very—she recognized from a very young age, she had a very negative, negative Nancy self-talk in her head.

28:49

And so ways to combat that was just constantly reminding her of the truth,right? And sometimes we, you know, some of us are very visual people. We need those visual reminders of what is true when, you know, when your mind is feeding you negative things.

29:04

Let's, you know, let's counteract that, which I think is really important. I mean, we can all—we can all benefit from feeding ourselves all the gratitude, all the positive things, like you said, because there's so many things going on in so many corners. There's enough negativity out there. And we don't need to join in on the negativity.

29:23

We need to be, you know, I was listening. I was on a call. It was like with 8,000 other women. And it was some of the greatest quotes on there was, "You don't need to be the loudest advocate or whatever, whatever thing, whatever purpose.

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You need to take care of yourself." And like, and it wasright back to, like, what you're saying, like, come home to yourself, be good to yourself. Can you be healthy? Can you be strong? Can you, you know, love yourself? And then how much that will benefit those around you,right?

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And you can then love others better and serve others better, again, bless others better. And I think that's so true. Sometimes we feel like there's so much to be done. Like, what can I do? Where can I volunteer? What can, you know, how can I—how can I—how can I? It's like, bring it home, sister. Bring—bring it home to you.

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And that is how you serve the world, by—by really being healthy with yourself,right? Coming home to yourself. And then your capacity can only grow to influence, you know, being that example to those around you, your kids, family,right?

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We build up those families, and then those families go out in the world, you know, and our Starbucks baristas and are blessing other people's lives because they're intuitive and they're present. You know what I mean? It's like it changes. It changes the world.

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And I think we forget how it's hard work, but those simple things compacted,right? Change yourself. Instead of hard work, it's just a—it's a daily choice. It's a daily choice. And I just keep choosing until something shifts.

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But, you know, I don't know who the quote is from, but it is somebody else's. But, you know, I dare you. I dare you to really anchor in to being the change you wish to see. Don't worry about what's going on in the world. Be the change that you want to see. Be that.

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Because, you know, at the end of the day, in the beginning of the day, if you don't love yourself, do you even really know what love is? Do you even—are you really even giving love? It's just a—it's just a word you're saying. It's not anybody that you're—it's true.

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There's a quote I have on my fridge that says, "Love yourself so much that when others look at you, they will know how it's done." Which I really love. Chills. Yeah, I love that too. That—that part. Thank you. Yeah. It's so important. It's so important. Oh my goodness.

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I could chat with you all day about all the things. But we're going to wrap up. And my goodness, you can reach out to Mary. All the things are going to be in the show notes. She has a free little gift for you guys.

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So click on that link, How to 10x Your Impact. Check that out. You guys buy her book. It's amazing. And don't forget, Let It Be Easy. Remind me the title again. It's Let It Be Easy. Let It Be Easy.

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Let It Be Fun. Let It Be Easy. Let It Be Fun. Unleash your—let it be simple. Let it be fun. Let it be easy. Yep. I've got stickers too. I'm bringing them to Calabasas. So anybody up in California, yeah, I just got some stickers made, all the stickers. Let It Be. Let It Be. Let It Be Fun.

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And then play that, you know, play John Lennon's song, Let It Be, and come back to yourselves, Mama. Right. So thank you, Mary. I love you so much. Thank you for coming on.

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Thank you for inspiring us mamas to really get back to ourselves and how vitally important that is for ourselves initially, and also for our families and our littles. We are all blessings. And you are a blessing, Mary. Thank you for blessing my life.

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And I can't wait to hug you in person very shortly. And if this episode resonates with you and you think it would resonate with someone else, you find that maybe someone needs this in their life, go ahead and share it. That would be great. Just share it. It's a free share. And don't forget to like and subscribe.

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And we'll see you next time. Bye.