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Why Letting Go of People-Pleasing Is the Boldest Thing You’ll Ever Do
Episode 3612th June 2025 • The S.O.F.T. Method Podcast • DeAndra Jalisa
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What if being liked was never the same as being safe? In this raw and reflective episode of The S.O.F.T. Method™ Podcast, DeAndra explores what it really means to release the need for approval and finally choose yourself, without guilt.

She opens up about her own journey with people-pleasing, the emotional cost of always over-functioning, and how healing her nervous system helped her reclaim her voice, energy, and peace. If you've ever found yourself shrinking to be accepted, this conversation is your invitation to soften, not sacrifice.


✨ In This Episode, We Explore:

  • Why your nervous system confuses approval with safety
  • The emotional burnout and identity loss that come from chronic people-pleasing
  • Four signs you're still performing for validation
  • What it really means to say “no” and still be a kind, good person
  • How to start practicing authenticity—even when it feels risky
  • The power of emotional safety, sacred boundaries, and self-advocacy

🧠 Journal Prompt:

Where in your life are you still saying “yes” when your soul is whispering “no”?


💬 Listener Love Assignment:

This week, honor one small boundary, even if it feels uncomfortable.


Then DM DeAndra @deandrajalisa and share what you chose.


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