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Soulmates Or More Like Roommates?
Episode 9723rd December 2025 • This Complex Life • Marie Vakakis
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Do you want to feel closer to your partner, but feel unsure how to bring it up?

Many couples care deeply about each other and still drift apart. Life gets busy. Conversations become practical. Emotional connection fades quietly. Not because people stop trying, but because the harder conversations get avoided.

In this episode, I talk about why relationships drift even when there is love and good intention. I explore why low conflict is often mistaken for connection, and why avoiding check ins can slowly create distance.

I also share three simple questions I use with couples that help change the tone of conversations. These questions focus on understanding rather than blame and can be used straight away.

If you are feeling disconnected and do not know where to start, this episode offers a calm and practical place to begin.

In this episode

  1. Why couples drift without realising it
  2. Why love alone is not enough to stay connected
  3. How avoidance shows up in well intentioned relationships
  4. Three questions that help couples check in and reconnect

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