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Your Brain Is Running in the Background 24/7
Episode 5 • 2nd October 2026 • Owning Pleasure As A Black Woman • Natasha Riley
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In this episode of Owning Pleasure As A Black Woman, we explore why you can be physically still and mentally exhausted at the same time.

I'll walk you through the invisible mental labor so many high-achieving Black women carry without ever naming it — and why your brain seems to "wake up" the second your body finally gets quiet. If you've been lying awake at 2 or 3am running through a to-do list you didn't ask for, this one is for you.

What You'll Walk Away With

→ Why mental rest is different from sleep, and why high achievers are especially prone to losing it

→ A reflection practice to name the mental labor you're carrying that no one else sees

→ Permission to rest your mind, not just your body — through brain dumping, monotasking, and scheduled mental breaks

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Not quite there yet? Download the free 7-Day Self-Care Reset → javerywellness.com/reset

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This episode is brought to you by Javery Integrative Wellness Services. Browse our digital downloads and tools designed to help you do this work between sessions → javerywellness.com/store

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→ Catch up on the last episode in this series, Physical Rest → [The Real Reason You Can't Feel Desire Anymore]

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Disclaimer

Owning Pleasure As A Black Woman is for educational and informational purposes only. This podcast does not constitute therapy, medical advice, or a therapeutic relationship. If you are struggling or in crisis, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional or contact the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988.

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