Two home group members, one lost meeting space, and Twelve Traditions put to the test. This immersive A.A. radio play brings us along on one group’s search for a new location while teaching the spiritual principles that keep Alcoholics Anonymous unified and alive.
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Speaker:during this podcast are
those of our guests.
Speaker:No one person speaks for A.A. as a whole.
Speaker:- Get In The Car: An A.A.
Traditions Radio Comedy (In Stereo),
Speaker:produced by Our Primary
Purpose, the official podcast
Speaker:of the General Service
Office in the US and Canada.
Speaker:- My name is Kate, and I'm an alcoholic.
Speaker:My home group is Mixed
Nuts, and true to our name,
Speaker:we are a diverse mix, and we're all nuts.
Speaker:Fortunately, we're not
all nuts on the same day.
Speaker:Except the day the
church told us we'd need
Speaker:to find a new meeting place.
Speaker:Everyone was crazy that day
Speaker:* Background conversation *
Speaker:- Oh Mon Dieu! Our home
group will be homeless.
Speaker:- I can't believe they're throwing us out.
Speaker:- Yeah, well, I've been throwing out
Speaker:of better places than this.
Speaker:- But how could they do this to us?
Speaker:- No one is doing it to us, Helen.
Speaker:- It's against the Traditions.
- Which Tradition, Jake?
Speaker:- It's gotta be against one of them.
Speaker:- Let's all calm down
Speaker:and sit down so we can
start the business meeting.
Speaker:- I just love this old
basement. The musty smell.
Speaker:The stained linoleum.
The beige folding chairs.
Speaker:- It's a dump,
- But it's our dump.
Speaker:- Not anymore.
Speaker:- Kate? Do
we know why we must leave?
Speaker:- Because the church doesn't
like how it looks with all
Speaker:of us smoking out front.
Speaker:- That must be why the
pastor's always yelling,
Speaker:"Get your butts off the lawn."
Speaker:- What if we just refuse to leave?
Speaker:Make them drag us out of the basement.
Speaker:I could see the headlines:
The church versus A.A.,
Speaker:Who does God love more?
Speaker:- It has nothing to do with us.
Speaker:The church is selling the building.
Speaker:- But why does the church
need to sell the building?
Speaker:Huh? Let's talk about that.
Speaker:- Do I have to read Tradition ten?
Speaker:- No, you don't. Rebel
Speaker:- Too late already got
the Service Manual out.
Speaker:"No A.A. group or member should ever
Speaker:and such a way as to implicate A.A.,"
Speaker:- Oh no. It's the long form.
Speaker:- "Express any opinion on
outside controversial issues,
Speaker:particularly those of
politics, alcohol reform
Speaker:or sectarian religion."
Speaker:- Yeah. Well, each group is autonomous,
Speaker:so we could do whatever we want.
Speaker:- Tradition four is in a past
Speaker:to ignore the rest of the Traditions.
Speaker:Read the long form. It's mostly about
Speaker:consulting with others.
Speaker:- Traditions are just peer
pressure from dead people.
Speaker:- Traditions ensure our survival.
Speaker:Did you ever hear of the Washingtonians?
Speaker:- No.
- Yeah, no one has.
Speaker:They were a huge movement, just like A.A.
Speaker:They helped thousands of
hopeless drunks get sober,
Speaker:but instead of sticking
Speaker:to the one thing they
did best, helping drunks,
Speaker:they also got involved
in political affiliation
Speaker:and alcohol reform.
Speaker:This caused so much division
Speaker:and disunity among them
that they disappeared.
Speaker:- Good reminder. Rebel.
Speaker:We have twelve Traditions to guide us
Speaker:through all our group problems,
Speaker:including finding a new place to meet.
Speaker:- Oh!
Speaker:- Someone is actually raising their hand
Speaker:to speak, as if this is a
meeting and not a free for all.
Speaker:Go ahead, Selena.
Speaker:- I'd like to volunteer
to get the search started,
Speaker:see what's out there and bring
Speaker:information back to the group.
Speaker:- For those of you who don't
know Selena, she is organized,
Speaker:energetic, and grounded in our traditions.
Speaker:I know because I'm her sponsor.
All those in favor?
Speaker:- Aye.
Speaker:- Opposed?
Speaker:- Well
Speaker:- Yes, Rebel?
Speaker:- For those of you who don't
know me, I'm disorganized,
Speaker:lazy, and grounded in the Traditions,
Speaker:and I'd like to help with the search.
Speaker:- All those in favor?
Speaker:- Aye.
Speaker:- Who else wants to be
on the committee? Dave?
Speaker:- No, I'm raising my hand
Speaker:because they got a spare room at the pool
Speaker:hall you should look at.
Speaker:Then we can shoot a few
games after the meeting.
Speaker:- I also have an extra
room at my patisserie.
Speaker:- I'm writing that down.
I love your coffee.
Speaker:- The courthouse is free at night.
Speaker:We could sit on those
benches in the gallery.
Speaker:- I wanna sit in the jury box,
Speaker:decide who's innocent and who's guilty.
Speaker:- Laughter
Speaker:- No one wanted to serve on the committee,
Speaker:but everyone wanted to
tell them what to do.
Speaker:Selena noted it all while Rebel scowled.
Speaker:I wasn't sure how it would
go with the two of them,
Speaker:but I got a clue when Selena
called the next morning.
Speaker:- I've been sitting
outside Rebel's apartment
Speaker:for 10 minutes.
Speaker:No sign of him.
Speaker:- Yes, I got the feeling he
marches to his own drummer.
Speaker:- We're going to be late
for a first appointment.
Speaker:Ugh. Here he comes. Finally.
Speaker:- Well love and tolerance of others.
Speaker:- He's stopping to light
up a cigarette. Ugh.
Speaker:I'll call you later, Kate.
You can't smoke in my car.
Speaker:- Good morning to you too.
Speaker:- We're going to be late
for our first appointment.
Speaker:- Sorry, I'm not a morning person.
Speaker:- Whoa!
*Tires screeching*
Speaker:- We need to show we'll
be reliable tenants,
Speaker:- So maybe we don't get a ticket on the
Speaker:way. Where are we going?
Speaker:- The civic center.
Speaker:- R 8 3 4.
Speaker:At counter number 12.
Speaker:- You're late and you
didn't fill out the RT form.
Speaker:- RT? does that stand for red tape?
Speaker:- Could we possibly fill
it out with you? Now?
Speaker:- Ugh, I suppose. Group renting the room?
Speaker:- Mixed nuts.
- Excuse me?
Speaker:- It's an A.A. group.
- Hmm. Number of members?
Speaker:- We don't keep membership lists.
Speaker:- But it's about 2 million.
Speaker:- The room only fits 60.
Speaker:- That's perfect for our group.
Speaker:- I'll need your mission statement.
Speaker:- To help the alcoholic who still suffers.
Speaker:- A written statement.
Speaker:- Fine. I'll write it out for you.
Speaker:- Ugh
Speaker:- To help the
Speaker:- Really?
- Alcoholic,
Speaker:- Here's a copy of A.A. Twelve Traditions.
Speaker:It should suffice.
Speaker:- So you're employed by A.A.?
- No. We're volunteers.
Speaker:- I'd rather talk to
the professionals.
Speaker:- It's right there on that page.
Speaker:Tradition eight. A.A. should
remain forever non-professional.
Speaker:- Well, you certainly are unprofessional.
Speaker:What kind of entrance
fee will you charge?
Speaker:- A.A. has no dues or fees and
no membership requirements.
Speaker:Everyone is welcome.
Speaker:- Hopefully not everyone.
Speaker:- Yes, everyone. Beggars,
tramps, asylum inmates.
Speaker:- What?
- I'm quoting the Tradition Three essay.
Speaker:- I know, but
- Prisoners, queers, plain crackpots,
Speaker:- Ugh
- And fallen women.
Speaker:- Also, doctors, lawyers, teachers.
Speaker:Every kind of person you can imagine.
Speaker:- The Mayor won't like it if
we end up with a bunch
Speaker:of drunks downtown.
Speaker:- You already have a
bunch of drunks downtown.
Speaker:At least our drunks are
trying to get sober.
Speaker:- We don't wanna take any
more of your valuable time.
Speaker:I'll finish filling out the
RT form and send it to you.
Speaker:Just call me if you have any questions.
Speaker:- One more thing.
- No more things.
Speaker:We'll see ourselves out. Thank you.
Speaker:- Slow down. You walk
as fast as you drive.
Speaker:I had more to say in there.
Speaker:- I think you said more than enough.
Speaker:- They need to know everyone
is welcome at an A.A. meeting.
Speaker:Any age, race, social status.
Speaker:- Right, but you know the
expression "Leading with the chin" ?
Speaker:- They're not gonna rent us space anyway.
Speaker:Or if they do, it'll take months.
Speaker:- Fine. You stand here smoking in
Speaker:front of the no smoking sign.
Speaker:I'm going to make a call in my car.
Speaker:* Walking on gravel noises *
Speaker:* Car door opening and closing *
Speaker:* Phone ringing *
Speaker:- Hi Selena. How'd it go?
Speaker:- * Spanish cursing under breath *
Speaker:- That good, huh?
Speaker:- Rebel should be called rubble.
Speaker:He leaves everything in ruins
and he thinks he wrote the
Speaker:Traditions.
Speaker:- He is very passionate about them
Speaker:and about helping alcoholics.
Speaker:- Well, he's not helping this alcoholic.
Speaker:- You are reminding me of a
line in Tradition Three essay that -
Speaker:- Please don't
say beggars, tramps and
Speaker:Fallen women.
Speaker:- No. The line about troublesome people.
Speaker:How they can be our best teachers
of patience and tolerance.
Speaker:- Hmm. Well, here comes my
teacher. I'll talk to you later.
Speaker:- Did you call your sponsor
to complain about me?
Speaker:- Ugh. Get in the car.
- So what's next?
Speaker:- A beautiful loft space.
It's where I practice yoga.
Speaker:- Yeah, I've seen you at
the meeting in your outfit.
Speaker:- My outfit?
- The fancy yoga pants
Speaker:and carrying the mat so
everyone knows you're spiritual.
Speaker:- That's it. You're going home.
Speaker:- Whoa. Wait. I think yoga's
great. I've read all about it.
Speaker:- Well, you have to actually do it.
Speaker:- I know. My sponsor thinks
it would help me to not be
Speaker:so much up in my head.
Speaker:My brain has always run the show.
Speaker:My body was just a transport device.
Speaker:My brain used to get
Speaker:to the liquor store.
What's this place called?
Speaker:- Willow Yoga. She's a huge fan of A.A.
Speaker:- Who is?
- Willow.
Speaker:- That's her name?
- Yes.
Speaker:- Does she do the tree pose a lot?
Speaker:- You really think you
should be making fun
Speaker:of people's names,
Speaker:Rebel?
Speaker:* Banging of gong *
Speaker:- Selena. Namaste.
Speaker:- Namaste. This is Rebel.
Speaker:- No. Namaste for me.
Speaker:I'm not into the whole
Sanskrit appropriation thing.
Speaker:Ow you stomped on my foot.
Speaker:- It would've hurt more if
you weren't wearing shoes.
Speaker:- Why wouldn't I be wearing shoes?
Speaker:- Because the sign says
"Please remove your shoes" ?
Speaker:- Footwear tracks in all sorts
of bacteria and chemicals.
Speaker:And since we are so close
to the floor on our mats.
Speaker:- Yeah. What about the seating?
Speaker:I'm not sitting on some sweaty yoga mat.
Speaker:- I could get us folding chairs.
Speaker:- Anything we can do to clarify.
Speaker:This is not a yoga class
for people in A.A.,
Speaker:it's an A.A. group that happens
to meet in a yoga studio.
Speaker:See, Willow. We have these
Traditions that were born out
Speaker:of A.A. experience in the early 1940s.
Speaker:- Which we do not expect non-
alcoholics to know about.
Speaker:- Which is why I'm explaining them.
Speaker:- You both need to breathe.
Together, breathe in peace,
Speaker:* Inhale *
Speaker:- Breathe out tension.
Speaker:- I like tension. So our Traditions urge
Speaker:that we not let anything distract us from
Speaker:our primary purpose.
Speaker:- To carry the A.A. message
Speaker:to the alcoholic who's still suffering.
Speaker:- And I'm looking at all the tapestries
Speaker:and the posters of chakras.
Speaker:The place screams yoga.
Speaker:- I like to think that it whispers yoga,
Speaker:but let me ask you this.
Speaker:In the churches where
you meet, do the crosses
Speaker:or stain glass distract you?
Speaker:- We've had decades to get used to them.
Speaker:- But don't you think
the wider the variety
Speaker:of places we meet,
Speaker:the more it says everyone is welcome, no
Speaker:matter where we meet?
Speaker:- Hmm. Maybe? What kind of
rent are we talking about?
Speaker:- Whatever you can afford.
Speaker:I didn't start a yoga studio to get rich.
Speaker:- We have another Tradition
that we pay our own way.
Speaker:The irresponsible need to be responsible.
Speaker:And we don't look for
any special A.A. discounts.
Speaker:- That's the first time
anyone's negotiated with me
Speaker:to make their rent higher.
Speaker:- I'm going to take some
photos to show the group.
Speaker:- Make sure you get a
picture of this sign.
Speaker:- "Please remove your shoes" ?
Speaker:- Tradition Three says, we
must never compel anyone
Speaker:to pay anything, believe
anything or conform to anything.
Speaker:- We have this nice bench
Speaker:where people can sit while
they take off their shoes,
Speaker:and cubbies to store them in.
Speaker:- But what about the newcomer
who sees that sign and is ashamed
Speaker:of the holes in his socks and leaves?
Speaker:Or doesn't see the sign
and just sits down?
Speaker:Do we need a sergeant at arms
Speaker:or feet to go make her take her shoes off?
Speaker:- You're going to make this about feet?
Speaker:- They're important in
A.A. There's that quote.
Speaker:"Our heads can be in the clouds,
Speaker:but our feet need to be on the ground."
Speaker:- Don't.
- And where does this simple kit
Speaker:of spiritual tools get laid?
Speaker:Huh? At our feet.
Speaker:- Stop.
- The only requirement
Speaker:for A.A. membership is a
desire to stop drinking.
Speaker:There's nothing about removing your
Speaker:shoes in Tradition Three.
Speaker:- Well, Tradition Two says our leaders are
Speaker:but trusted servants.
Speaker:The final authority is
the group conscience.
Speaker:So the group gets to decide, not you.
Speaker:- That's good, Selena,
Speaker:- But will he leave the group
if we move to the yoga studio?
Speaker:- Not your problem.
Speaker:- Can you pray the
Serenity Prayer at someone?
Speaker:You know God, grant
Rebel the serenity to...
Speaker:- No. You need to come with
me to some Al-Anon meetings.
Speaker:- Not now. We have to go to the library.
Speaker:- Okay, go tell him
the four most spiritual
Speaker:words in A.A.
Speaker:Get in the car.
Speaker:- I did, but it wasn't very spiritual.
Speaker:I think she's the librarian
I talked to on the phone.
Speaker:- The woman with the tats.
Speaker:She's a librarian?
Speaker:- Hi. I called about renting
a room for A.A. meeting.
Speaker:- It was Selena, right? I'm Jasmine.
- Hey Jasmine,
Speaker:I'm Rebel. This place is nice.
Speaker:- Wait, you've lived here years?
Speaker:You've never been to the library?
Speaker:- Well, no,
Speaker:but if we had a meeting
here, I'd come all the time.
Speaker:- We'll need you to fill out this form.
Speaker:- Oh, Rebel hates forms.
- No, I don't.
Speaker:- Well, I may be able
to save you the trouble
Speaker:of filling it out.
Speaker:We don't accept groups charging admission.
Speaker:- We'd never do that.
- You have to be nonpolitical.
Speaker:- We run screaming from politics.
Speaker:- Also, any event at
the library has to be open
Speaker:to everyone.
Speaker:- We are an open meeting.
Speaker:- Is A.A. religious?
- No.
Speaker:A lot of people think so, but.
Speaker:- The only reason we ask is
the library can't be seen
Speaker:as favoring any one religion over another.
Speaker:- That's how it is with
us. This is amazing.
Speaker:- And the library likes to make it clear
Speaker:that we do not endorse any organization.
Speaker:- Perfect. We don't accept endorsements
Speaker:or give them. I can't
believe how much the two
Speaker:of us have in common.
Speaker:- You and Jasmine, - What? *
Shushing Sounds* - I meant,
Speaker:the library and A.A.
Speaker:- Would we be able to serve refreshments?
Speaker:- Yes. What night of the
week are you looking for?
Speaker:- We were actually hoping
for three nights a week.
Speaker:- I'm sorry,
Speaker:the board won't approve more
than one night per week.
Speaker:- Oh no.
Speaker:- We just have so
many groups holding events.
Speaker:The book club, the garden
club. Senior nights.
Speaker:- Senior nights!
Speaker:You can come here all the time, Rebel.
Speaker:- Not senior nights.
Speaker:Maybe we can meet online
the other two nights.
Speaker:- Maybe we're putting our
personal desires ahead
Speaker:of the common welfare, but
let's fill out the form
Speaker:and we'll see what the group says.
Speaker:- That night Selena called
Speaker:and was asking what else she
could read on the Traditions.
Speaker:- I'm sure there's more
than just the Twelve and Twelve?
Speaker:- Oh yes. I love the essays.
Speaker:Introducing each of the Traditions
Speaker:that appeared in our magazine,
Speaker:Grapevine, back in the mid forties.
Speaker:They're collected in the
book Language of the Heart
Speaker:and on the Grapevine app.
Speaker:Is there something specific?
Speaker:- To be honest, I'm
looking for ammunition.
Speaker:- To use against Rebel?
Speaker:Hmm. Our Traditions are not
only about relationships
Speaker:with the outside world,
Speaker:they're also about
relationships with each other.
Speaker:You should probably look at
the Traditions Checklist.
Speaker:- What's that? - It's a list
of questions on each Tradition
Speaker:that members can ask themselves.
Speaker:I keep a copy on my desk.
Speaker:So for example, under
Tradition One it asks
Speaker:"Am I, in my group, a healing, mending,
Speaker:integrating person?
Speaker:Am I sometimes divisive?"
Speaker:- Obviously Rebel has
not read the checklist.
Speaker:- "Am I as considerate of
A.A. members as I want them
Speaker:to be of me?"
Speaker:- Hmm. - "Am I gentle with
those who rub me the wrong way?
Speaker:Or am I sometimes abrasive?"
Speaker:- That's on the checklist?
- Yes.
Speaker:I know Rebel is one of
those sandpaper people,
Speaker:but sometimes they come into our lives
Speaker:to help us smooth out our sharp edges.
Speaker:- Well, I need to get to bed.
We're back at it tomorrow.
Speaker:10 minutes late again.
Speaker:- I strive for consistency. Whoa.
Speaker:* Engine Revving *
Speaker:I never eat anything before
going on a rollercoaster
Speaker:or getting in your car.
Speaker:- Then you're in for a treat.
Speaker:Our first stop is on Henri's Patisserie on
Speaker:- Awn-REE?
Speaker:You mean Henri from our group?
Speaker:- Yes. He's an amazing pastry chef.
Speaker:- Hmm. We'll see.
Speaker:* Bell over door rings *
Speaker:- Selena! Bonjour!
Speaker:* Kiss noises *
Speaker:And who are you again?
Speaker:- Very funny. You gonna
lay a kiss on me too?
Speaker:- It is two little ones.
Follow me down this hall.
Speaker:It is full of dusty tables and chairs,
Speaker:but I hope you can see what it could be.
Speaker:- Oh yes, this is lovely.
All the windows and light.
Speaker:- Except we meet at
night, so it'll be dark.
Speaker:- I do need to talk with you about that.
Speaker:I live right upstairs
Speaker:and I must wake up at 4:00 AM
every morning to start baking.
Speaker:So, it would be better
for me if we met earlier.
Speaker:- No, we're not doing that.
Speaker:- Well, it would be up to the group.
Speaker:- Changing the time we meet
Speaker:to fit one member's sleep schedule?
Speaker:Tradition Twelve says we
need to put principles
Speaker:before personalities.
Speaker:- I know, but
- Then there's Tradition Six
Speaker:that says we should avoid
affiliation or endorsement,
Speaker:actual or implied.
Speaker:So should we be sitting in
a meeting drinking from cups
Speaker:with the name of your business on them?
Speaker:- We can use different cups.
Speaker:- Why don't we just make
it a morning meeting
Speaker:so you can get your sleep
Speaker:and we can all buy your
pastries and coffees?
Speaker:- I'm not doing this to make money.
Speaker:The place will be rent free.
Speaker:- No, the group needs to pay rent.
Speaker:- I know we can't accept
outside contributions,
Speaker:but Henri is a member.
Speaker:- So then it becomes Henri's meeting?
Speaker:- No it doesn't.
- We're getting the room for free.
Speaker:We should do what Henry says.
- Shh.
Speaker:I have customers
- See, it's happening already.
Speaker:So do we even bother passing the basket?
Speaker:Tradition Seven? Forget the money
Speaker:and forget that spiritual aspect
of self support, that sense
Speaker:of belonging we get when
we contribute to our group.
Speaker:- Okay. Okay.
Speaker:- We should give all that up for free rent
Speaker:and some croissants?
Speaker:- Kwah-SAHN!
Speaker:- We're disturbing Henry's customers.
Speaker:- Oh, let's not disturb
anyone over some silly
Speaker:little principles.
Speaker:- Just forget it. I'm
sorry I even brought it up.
Speaker:You cannot use my patisserie.
Speaker:- Hmm, probably for the best
Speaker:because what if we're meeting
here three times a week
Speaker:and you decide to start drinking
again? That'd be awkward.
Speaker:- Rebel? How could you say that?
Speaker:- Was that insensitive? Oh,
I'm sorry. Come on Henri.
Speaker:Let's hug it out. Or should we kiss?
Speaker:- Just go. - But Selena says
the pastries are so good.
Speaker:Let me just get a coffee
and a... kwah-SAHN?
Speaker:- Out the door.
Speaker:Now!
Speaker:- Rebel! Henri is a member of our group.
Speaker:How could you attack him like that?
Speaker:- I was defending our Traditions.
Speaker:Without them the group dies
and without the group I die.
Speaker:- Yeah, or I kill you.
Speaker:You accused Henri of putting his personal
Speaker:interest before the group.
Speaker:- Yep. Tradition Twelve.
Speaker:- Meanwhile, you personally
don't want the group
Speaker:to meet at Henri's place.
Speaker:So, you bloviate about the Traditions
Speaker:until he withdraws his offer.
Speaker:Now the group has one less option.
Speaker:- You're right. If there's any
way you can patch things up
Speaker:with Henri, let's include it as an option.
Speaker:I bloviate. Really?
Speaker:- Now and then. Next up is that
new apartment complex on Oak.
Speaker:They have a common room and,
don't worry, it's not free.
Speaker:Hi, I spoke with Madison about
renting this common room?
Speaker:- I've had so many
calls. Who are you with?
Speaker:- Alcoholics Anonymous.
Speaker:- Right? Well guys, guys,
Speaker:this would be a perfect
room for your meetings.
Speaker:Not that I've ever been to one,
but they're in so many shows,
Speaker:and you should pick a fun room like this
Speaker:so A.A. doesn't look like
it's some leper colony.
Speaker:- We'd get this whole
area, plus the kitchen?
Speaker:- Yes. So you can make coffee.
Speaker:I know you people live for coffee!
Speaker:And I can give you a code
for 10% off matcha lattes.
Speaker:- Could you reduce the
rent? It seems high.
Speaker:- What I can do is
arrange some sponsorships.
Speaker:I know you're big into sponsorship.
Speaker:- Not the kind you're talking about.
Speaker:- Okay? Okay. You see
that window? A bus stop is
Speaker:that close, for all your
people who have DUIs
Speaker:and can't drive!
Speaker:- Good, but back to the rent.
Speaker:- Okay, like, what if a lot more
people came to the meeting?
Speaker:- You're saying we'd collect more cash
Speaker:so we could pay more rent?
Speaker:- OMG! Who still takes cash?
Speaker:But yes, because I have
like 80K followers
Speaker:and most of them drink too much.
Speaker:So I can promote your hot new meeting.
Speaker:- We believe in attraction, not promotion.
Speaker:- Eleventh Tradition.
- You know what I could do?
Speaker:My cousin started going to meetings
Speaker:and he's on this sitcom
that is just blowing up.
Speaker:I can put it out on the socials
Speaker:that he'll be at your meeting.
Speaker:- Your cousin would let you do that?
Speaker:- I'm sure he would.
Speaker:- Then I need to talk to
him about the traditions.
Speaker:- Okay, let me show you guys
Speaker:how many people I can get in
the room in like 10 minutes.
Speaker:'Sup chat! I'm here live with my friends.
Speaker:- Don't do that.
- Shh! We are live at the Uncommonly Cool
Speaker:Common Room on Oak,
Speaker:and I have a couple of
spokespeople from A.A.
Speaker:- We're not spokespeople.
Speaker:A.A. doesn't have spokespeople.
Speaker:- That's Rebel. What's your
last name, boo? Wait, wait.
Speaker:What are you doing with my
phone? Gimme back my phone!
Speaker:* Drops phone into drink *
Speaker:- What did you do? Rebel.
Speaker:- He dropped my phone in my Americano.
Speaker:That phone cost two thousand dollars!
Speaker:- I bet you got it free.
Speaker:* Police sirens *
Speaker:- Selena called me from
the Sheriff's office.
Speaker:Surprisingly calm,
Speaker:actually, amused about the whole thing.
Speaker:It turns out Rebel knew the Sheriff
Speaker:for bringing meetings into
the jail, so it all went away
Speaker:once Rebel offered Madison
some cash, which she took.
Speaker:He and Selena even made it
to their last appointment.
Speaker:* Car pulling up into driveway *
Speaker:* Car doors closing *
Speaker:- This is a funeral parlor.
Speaker:- Yes. Riley and Son's funeral home.
Speaker:- We can't have A.A.
meetings at a funeral home!
Speaker:- Contempt prior to investigation, anyone?
Speaker:- Newcomers already feel like their life
Speaker:is over when they come into A.A.
Speaker:This would just confirm it.
Speaker:- What happened to Let's
let the group decide.
Speaker:* Knocking on door*
Speaker:* Door creaking *
Speaker:- Hello? Are you here for the viewing?
Speaker:- We are here to view
a room. Are you Mr. Riley?
Speaker:- Oh no. I am his apprentice, Adrian.
Speaker:I got my degree in embalming.
Speaker:But to become a funeral
director, I need to work
Speaker:with living people, too.
Speaker:The bereaved.
Speaker:- How interesting.
- I'll get Mr. Riley.
Speaker:* Door slowly closes *
Speaker:- I am Damien. I work with the dead.
Speaker:- It's Adrian.
- You think they teach them to talk like
Speaker:that in mortuary school?
Speaker:The "I'm dead, too" voice?
Speaker:- Let's just see the room, okay?
Speaker:- But how can we say we're not a glum lot
Speaker:and then meet at a mortuary?
Speaker:We'll have to change our name
to the "Bunch of Stiffs" group.
Speaker:- Well just listen the address.
Speaker:No one will know it's a funeral parlor.
Speaker:- Until they get here and they're greeted
Speaker:by the Four Horsemen.
Speaker:- Mr. Riley said there'd
be a side entrance
Speaker:that would be just for us.
Speaker:- I see it, with a hearse parked outside.
Speaker:* Door creaks open *
Speaker:- Welcome. You must be Selena.
- It's the same voice.
Speaker:- Kate has told me so much about you.
Speaker:Excuse my cold hands.
Speaker:I was working in the
freezer. And, uh, you are?
Speaker:- Rebel.
Speaker:No need to shake hands.
Speaker:- I know Kate from Al-Anon
Speaker:and she was telling me your A.A.
group needs a place to meet.
Speaker:We have a room we rarely use
that might be just right.
Speaker:It's at the end of the hall.
I'll get the keys and meet you.
Speaker:- Thank you.
- I get it now. He's an Al-Anon
Speaker:and his revenge is making
alcoholics meet in a crypt.
Speaker:- Stop it. - I wouldn't want
to be an old timer coming here
Speaker:to celebrate my anniversary.
Speaker:We have lots of flowers for you, Joe.
Speaker:- My father was an A.A.
Speaker:and do you see the placard above the door?
Speaker:He named this "The Serenity Room".
Speaker:- How about that?
Speaker:- I'm sure he's smiling
in his grave right now.
Speaker:* Unlocks door *
Speaker:* Door creaks open *
Speaker:This is our cheeriest room.
Speaker:- I love the warm colors
and all the plants.
Speaker:- It would come with 60 of these
chairs. Try sitting in one.
Speaker:- Ooh, that's comfy.
Speaker:- It's the same cushioning
we use in the caskets.
Speaker:- Just sink right in.
Speaker:- You can keep your supplies
in these two closets
Speaker:and the kitchen has a
high-end coffee machine.
Speaker:- Isn't this wonderful, Rebel?
Speaker:- Uh, we can get pretty
loud with the laughter
Speaker:and cheering at anniversaries.
Speaker:Won't that conflict with the graveness?
Speaker:- All the celebrations
Speaker:of life we hold can get
lively too. It's not a problem
Speaker:- Now and then
Speaker:we'll get someone
who's drunk and disruptive.
Speaker:- Now and then we hold an Irish wake.
Speaker:- I am not sure we could
afford such a nice room.
Speaker:- We can make the rent. What
you paid at your last place.
Speaker:- Is there a bathroom?
- There are several.
Speaker:- I meant, I've gotta go.
Speaker:- Oh, down the stairs and to the right.
Speaker:* Footsteps *
Speaker:So what do you think, Selena?
Speaker:- Very nice, but it
will be up to the group.
Speaker:- Of course.
Speaker:You know, if you've got
someone who's in denial,
Speaker:we could always bring them
downstairs where the bodies are
Speaker:and show them what
cirrhosis really looks like.
Speaker:- I don't think we'll do that, but
- Ahhh!!!!
Speaker:- It's okay.
Speaker:Your friend just walked
into the restoration room.
Speaker:* Footsteps on gravel *
Speaker:- You're white as a sheet.
Speaker:- I'm fine?
Speaker:Just saw more than I needed
to see. What places are left?
Speaker:- The courthouse.
- So people can feel sentenced to A.A. ?
Speaker:I've seen enough of that courthouse
Speaker:to last my lifetime. What else?
Speaker:- Dave said the
Speaker:pool hall had a spare room.
Speaker:- Right? Let's check
it out. Get in the car.
Speaker:* Closet door opening *
Speaker:- This isn't a spare room. It's a closet.
Speaker:- Yeah. Too bad as long as we're here,
Speaker:you want to play a game of pool?
Speaker:- Sure. We also need
Speaker:to talk about the
business meeting tomorrow.
Speaker:I'm putting together a
spreadsheet to go with the photos.
Speaker:- A spreadsheet?
Speaker:- But my question is,
Speaker:do we, the committee,
make a recommendation? If
Speaker:we can agree on one.
Speaker:- Let's play first, then we'll talk.
Speaker:- Okay, I'll pick a table and
sticks. You get some balls.
Speaker:- I don't like the sound of
Speaker:that. Mind if I break?
Speaker:- Go ahead. I'm sure you
love busting up that nice,
Speaker:neat triangle and sending everything
Speaker:flying in different directions.
Speaker:- Yep. That's me.
Speaker:* Pool balls scatter *
Speaker:Looks like I'm stripes.
Speaker:* Pool cue hits ball *
Speaker:- You're quick on the trigger.
- Yep.
Speaker:- So, no pausing to plan where you want
Speaker:to leave yourself for the next shot?
Speaker:- Nope, that's boring.
Speaker:* Pool cue hits ball *
Speaker:Ugh your turn.
Speaker:- I like to plan ahead because
then I get easier shots.
Speaker:* Pool cue hits ball *
Speaker:There's a reason we have the slogan
Speaker:"Easy does it," because easy
is what gets it done.
Speaker:* Ball goes into hole *
Speaker:- Where'd you learn to play?
- Where do you think in bars?
Speaker:* Pool cue hits ball *
Speaker:- Okay, you were on a roll,
but what are you gonna do now?
Speaker:- Bang. Shot six in the side pocket.
Speaker:* Ball goes into hole *
Speaker:All part of the plan.
Speaker:Yoga's helped my game. Better
balance and focus. Combination.
Speaker:Four ball corner pocket.
Speaker:* Balls goes into hole *
Speaker:- Wait, you can't sink two
of your balls with one shot?
Speaker:- I just did.
- Well then you lose your turn.
Speaker:- No, I called the four. It
went in. I get to keep shooting.
Speaker:- I think I'm getting hustled.
Speaker:- It was your idea to play
pool. Eight ball corner pocket.
Speaker:- Don't scratch.
- I won't
Speaker:* Ball goes into hole *
Speaker:Another game?
Speaker:- No.
- Okay, let's talk.
Speaker:- I've gotta go.
- But we need a plan for tomorrow?
Speaker:- No, we don't.
- But then you'll be pushing
Speaker:for the library and I'll be
pushing for the yoga studio.
Speaker:What the group needs now is unity.
Speaker:- Yes. Unity, not uniformity.
Speaker:Passionate debate and
clashing opinions are
Speaker:signs of a strong group.
Speaker:What we don't want is mindless
conformity. I gotta go.
Speaker:- I had no idea Selena was a pool shark!
Speaker:We had a good talk that night.
Speaker:- And Tradition Twelve
says to put principles
Speaker:before personalities.
Speaker:- That doesn't
Speaker:mean no personalities.
Speaker:Concept Three
Speaker:empowers trusted servants
to use their own judgment.
Speaker:Concepts Four and Five ensure
diverse voices are heard.
Speaker:- Don't be throwing Concepts at me.
Speaker:I'm barely getting the Traditions.
Speaker:- How about some Al-Anon?
It's okay to disagree.
Speaker:Just don't be disagreeable.
Speaker:And it's okay to make mistakes.
Speaker:Our Traditions weren't
based on what we did right?
Speaker:They're based on what we
learned from our mistakes.
Speaker:Even the group conscience can be wrong,
Speaker:but, we usually fix it.
Speaker:A.A. is like a self-cleaning oven.
Speaker:So. don't worry about
the meeting tomorrow.
Speaker:We'll work through it all together.
Speaker:- And for that, I am
Speaker:- Responsible! Yay!
Speaker:* Group chatter *
Speaker:- Photos of the sites are up here along
Speaker:with copies of the spreadsheet.
Speaker:- A spreadsheet? Doesn't Tradition
Nine say A.A. ought never be organized?
Speaker:- Yes. But then it says
we may create committees
Speaker:responsible to those they serve.
Speaker:And this spreadsheet
is our committee being
Speaker:responsible to us.
Speaker:- For the record, I had nothing
to do with the spreadsheet.
Speaker:Selena did it all.
Speaker:And it's really helpful for
comparing the different places.
Speaker:- I don't know how to
read this freaking thing.
Speaker:Just tell us what to do, Selena.
Speaker:- Well, Tradition One says to
put the common welfare first,
Speaker:that we're each just a
small part of a great whole.
Speaker:But it's like when you buy
that furniture you have
Speaker:to put together, you need to
use every single part of it
Speaker:or it won't come out right?
Speaker:Every screw.
Speaker:- Every nut.
Speaker:- Yes. We need participation
Speaker:of all our mixed nuts!
Speaker:And Tradition Two says
somehow a business meeting run
Speaker:by a bunch of drunks
will come to a decision
Speaker:through an informed group conscience.
Speaker:- If we trust our Trusted
Servants in the process.
Speaker:- Here's something you can trust.
Speaker:Rebel looked at every place we visited
Speaker:with Tradition Three in mind.
Speaker:There can't be any barriers for newcomers.
Speaker:Everyone needs to feel welcome.
Speaker:- We also had Tradition Five in mind.
Speaker:Picking a place where we can
focus on our primary purpose:
Speaker:helping the alcoholic who still suffers.
Speaker:- Because that's how we stay
sober, by helping someone else
Speaker:- And how we stay unified.
Speaker:Our common solution binds us together.
Speaker:- Traditional Six,
Speaker:- Right.
Speaker:We don't want to be distracted by money,
Speaker:property, or prestige.
Speaker:- I found this a hard way.
Speaker:- And Tradition Seven,
Speaker:we should pick a place we can afford
Speaker:because we need to be self-supporting.
Speaker:- If it's too expensive,
we'll get distracted
Speaker:by money.
- But if
Speaker:it's too cheap, it will be unattractive.
Speaker:Whatever Tradition that is.
Speaker:- Eleven.
Speaker:- And it shouldn't feel
like a professional office
Speaker:because we're amateurs doing
this for free and for fun.
Speaker:- Tradition Eight and Tradition Nine.
Speaker:It should feel relaxed
Speaker:and casual, the least
possible organization,
Speaker:the fewest spreadsheets.
Speaker:- And we leave our politics at the door.
Speaker:Our bumper stickers
stay in the parking lot.
Speaker:Our political t-shirts stay at home.
Speaker:- Now I get what you've
been saying to me, Kate,
Speaker:about the spirit of anonymity.
Speaker:I'm feeling it in this room.
Speaker:- And let's remember A.A.
is about one alcoholic
Speaker:talking to another.
Speaker:We can do that on a curb,
in a parking lot, anywhere.
Speaker:It's the message
Speaker:and the people, not the place.
Speaker:We talked about it all at that meeting.
Speaker:The photos, the feet, the pastries.
Speaker:And should I tell you where we ended up?
Speaker:Where we're meeting now?
Speaker:* Door creaking open *
Speaker:- Welcome. The meeting is
at the end of the hall.
Speaker:You don't want to go downstairs.
Speaker:- And who did I run into
at Henri's the other day?
Speaker:Selena and Rebel, having coffee
Speaker:after yoga class.
Speaker:- But why do they have
to name all the poses
Speaker:after farm animals?
Speaker:The cow? The horse? The chicken?
Speaker:- There's no chicken pose.
There's a warrior pose.
Speaker:- Yeah, I call that the "worrier" pose.
Speaker:I'm always worried I'm doing it wrong.
Speaker:- Well, good for you. Giving yoga a try.
Speaker:- I'm hoping it helps my pool game.
Speaker:Hey, when are we playing again?
Speaker:- Any day of the week.
Speaker:- Uhm, yeah maybe we will
try miniature golf though,
Speaker:one time? Do something a little different?
Speaker:- What, are you scared?
- Darts? I don't know, uh? Bowling?
Speaker:Maybe we'll take a walk?
Speaker:- And that's a wrap on season
two of Our Primary Purpose,
Speaker:the official podcast of
the General Service Office
Speaker:of the US and Canada,
Speaker:made possible thanks
Speaker:to your Seventh Tradition contributions.
Speaker:We hope you've had as much fun
Speaker:as we have on this journey, from
our International Convention
Speaker:in Vancouver, to the virtual
spaces in which some members
Speaker:meet and, everywhere in between.
Speaker:While you wait on news about season three,
Speaker:come see some folks from
GSO in person at a Regional
Speaker:Forum near you.
Speaker:These events are a great
avenue to have your voice heard
Speaker:by the General Service
Board, AAWS, AA Grapevine,
Speaker:and the General Service Office.
Speaker:The four regional forums taking
place this year will be in
Speaker:the Western Canada,
Eastern Canada, Southeast,
Speaker:and Pacific regions.
Speaker:To see the schedule of
upcoming regional forums,
Speaker:visit AA.org.