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Caring for an Ill Spouse and Children—Including Yourself
Episode 38 • 22nd October 2025 • ParentEd • Focus on the Family Singapore
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Caring for an ill spouse while raising children can be emotionally and physically overwhelming.

In this heartfelt episode, our host, June speaks with Alicia Yah—a mother of four, early childhood educator, and devoted wife—who shares her journey of balancing caregiving, parenting, and personal well-being. 

Alicia opens up about the grief of losing control, the exhaustion of constant responsibility, and the importance of finding space to rest. She reflects on how community support helped her stay grounded and why emotional stability became essential for her family. 

"I'm a person who likes control, especially at home. The hardest point for me was to grieve over the loss of control." – Alicia 

This episode reminds caregivers that self-care is not selfish—it’s necessary. Taking breaks, seeking support, and allowing space to feel can help you regain clarity. When you return refreshed, your family benefits from a healthier, more present you. 

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