In this episode, I answer a listener question about processing repressed memories of childhood sexual trauma and how we can learn to trust ourselves. Throughout this episode, I discuss my own experiences with repressed memories of sexual trauma. I discuss how self-doubt is common when processing repressed memories of trauma, how to listen to your body, the importance of acceptance, and how to practice gentleness with yourself throughout this process. My intention is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself and your own process for navigating this trauma response.

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• Introduction: 0:15
• Listener Question: 2:47
• Outro: 30:44

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Welcome to New View Advice. I'm your host, Amanda Durocher, and I invite you to

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beautiful soul. My name is Amanda Durocher, and welcome to New View Advice. If you're

new here, this is a healing centered advice podcast where I offer guidance for the

healing journey. I do not believe I have all the answers you seek. I believe

you have all the answers. You just may need a new view and a little

help along the way. Thank you for joining me for today's episode. In today's

episode, I am answering a listener question about processing repressed

memories and how this process often creates self doubt and confusion.

Processing repressed and forgotten memories in my own life has been one of the most

confusing and painful experiences I have been through, So I very much

related to the feelings of this question. And in this episode, I

talk about my own experience processing repressed memories because, truthfully, as I

mentioned, it was an extremely confusing time for me, but I also

found it to be extremely liberating and helped me to trust myself on a deep,

deep level. So though this process is not a fun one to go

through, it's extremely hard. I'm not gonna sugarcoat it. It's

also very freeing because the memories that have been

repressed have always lived within us. So if you are someone

navigating this experience, though it is so painful and it can be

so hard to navigate, I want you to remember that the information that is

coming forward for you to look at, to process, to witness, to

feel, and to heal has always lived within you. And when our

bodies do bring this information forward for us to process, it is extremely

painful, but that pain has been in our bodies the entire time. And that's

why it is liberating to process this information. Because

what I have found is that when we process it, it's like burdens are

lifted out of our body. These rocks we have been carrying, we

no longer need to carry, but it takes time to

navigate this process. So in this episode, we discuss how though it's

a very confusing process and often creates self doubt, it teaches us

to trust our bodies and to trust ourselves. I also talk

about why acceptance is important for healing repressed memories and the

importance of gentleness throughout this process. My intention for

this episode is to offer you some solace if you too find yourself navigating the

stormy waters of repressed memories and to help you to trust yourself in your

own process for navigating this trauma response. If you haven't

already, I invite you to check out my website after this episode. This question

discusses childhood sexual trauma. And on my website, I do have a

resource hub for healing from sexual trauma, and you can find that at newviewadvice.

Com, and you can find today's episode show notes at newviewadvice.com/113.

So with that, let's jump on into today's listener question.

Dear Amanda, for the last couple of years, I've been processing early childhood

sexual traumas around my dad. I have a few memories of him showering

with me and trying on pantyhose. But about a year ago, I did a brainspotting

session with my therapist that pulled up a suppressed memory of my dad

taking me to a movie and him pleasuring himself during the film. I was

probably around 6 or 7. I'm currently 49 years old.

The brain spotting session was very intense, and it felt like I was back in

that event including physical sensations and smells. My question is

this, how reliable are memories we bring up during a brain spotting

session or EMDR session? I ask because I'm still conflicted in

knowing if this memory is truly real or something that I made up. For the

most part, I believe it happened, but I always have this thought that I may

have just made it up, probably because I'm having a hard time believing my dad

did this. Thank you so much for this question. I am so

sorry that you are currently navigating the experience of processing

childhood sexual abuse and repressed memories. As you know from the podcast,

I too went through this process, and it can be very confusing, overwhelming,

and truly heartbreaking. First, I wanna say that the process here you

described sounds very similar to my own, so I do wanna

validate that I believe this is part of the process of processing repressed

memories. And how I saw my own experience in your question is

that you mentioned that before this memory came up, you

were processing 2 other memories. That reminds me a lot of my

experience personally. What I have found throughout the process

of repressed memories is that we only get one

memory or one piece of the memory at a time. So from what

I'm personally hearing in your question is that your body gave

you the showering and the pantyhose first to process. And then

when you accepted those because in your question, it sounds like you accept those as

truth. Then you were given this next memory that sounds a little bit

more graphic, a little bit more traumatic for you likely. There were

likely new beliefs taken on in that moment in the movie theater. And I mentioned

that because I found that through my process is that as we're processing repressed memories,

we're only given what we can handle at a time. It's a very common trauma

response when we cannot handle something in the moment, especially as

children. I think this is very common in childhood experiences.

We repress it. We forget it. It's a way our mind and body

can continue to move forward. So as a child, you're experiencing

trauma and abuse, and you did not have the choice

to leave that home. You were a child. You were 6 or 7, you mentioned

in your question. And so your body did what it had to do in

order to protect you at the time. And then we repress that

memory. We forget those memories. And then when we are ready, when

we have created enough safety within ourselves, those memories are able to

come up to the surface to be processed. I mention this all

because the concept of repressed memories is honestly sort of a crazy

concept when you first learn about it because it often is about

things that happened years or even decades ago, and it's

mind boggling. It's mind boggling that we could forget such traumatic

things. You know, when I was first coming to terms

with my own repressed memories, I couldn't believe that I could quote,

unquote forget these experiences. Wouldn't

I remember these in great detail because they're the most painful things

I've ever experienced? No. Actually,

the body and the mind are wired for survival,

and they do what they have to do to survive. And for some of us,

that includes repressing this trauma. And so,

unfortunately, today, if you Google repress memories,

it's still debated by researchers because memory isn't something we can

exactly prove scientifically. Memory is personal.

It's within our minds. Right? We can't exactly prove a memory.

I googled repressed memories before answering this question, and the Internet has

improved since I first googled repressed memories in 2018 when my

memories began returning. But it's still not the most helpful

Google results, so I do hope to offer you a new point of view on

this through my own experience. It's a process that I don't think

I've dived super deep into before on the podcast

because, as you know from your experience, it's

not really an explainable process. It's very,

very difficult to articulate. I will try my best here to

articulate it, but it's a process where you learn to

trust yourself because you know what your body

is communicating to you. And when we begin healing, it can

feel like a rabbit hole that we've fallen down and we wonder

when will this ever end? Will this ever end? Trust me. It does end. The

rabbit hole, there is a bottom to it, but it takes time and it often

takes years as you mentioned. I mention this because you said you've been

processing sexual trauma for years, and it took me years as

well. Think about how long you repressed this trauma. Truthfully, if you

heal this in 10 years, that's still so much shorter than the

30, 40 years you were living with this repress. So be

patient with yourself. It's a big part of the process. But in today's world, we

want everything to move fast, fast, fast, and we can't even fathom something

taking years. For me, it took 6 years to process my

repressed memories, and it's the process is going to take as long as it's going

to take because your body is not going to give you any information

or any more pieces of the puzzle or any more of the trauma that needs

to be processed until you are ready. I truly believe

that we do not get more than we are ready for. And it can be

very frustrating, but I just wanna reassure you to trust yourself

throughout this process. And for you, this trauma involves your father, so

that adds a very complicated layer. And so there's likely a lot of

beliefs around your father. As you mentioned, you're actually struggling to believe this

happened because you're struggling to believe what it means about your father, not what

it means about your life and your experience. My guess is when this came

up, you felt truth in your body, but you are grappling

with having to rewrite a truth about your

father. Because we have stories that we live throughout our life, beliefs that we

live by, ways we see the world, And processing repressed

memories involves you unraveling all the beliefs you had about the

world. That's what makes it so freaking confusing. So for

me, when my memories came back of being sexually assaulted in my childhood, the

most mind boggling part of it was that my entire

worldview shattered, and I had to rewrite the way I saw the

world, the way I saw myself, the way I saw life, the way I saw

everyone who was a part of my childhood, the way I saw my relationships in

the present. Everything was from a new lens.

And so not only are you grappling with trauma that

deserves its time to be processed, to be felt, to be grieved, you

are also seeing the world in an entirely new

way. And you're seeing yourself in an entirely new way. And for you, you're seeing

father in an entirely new way, and that is a lot to go through

at one time. And before I dive into a few

suggestions for you in how to trust yourself, I just wanna say that at the

end of the day, people can and maybe will call you crazy or they won't

believe you. I know that's been true in my life. But this process is

gonna be about you trusting yourself and trusting your body.

Sadly, knowing the truth of what happened isn't going to take away

the pain, and it's not gonna take away what happened. As pain has been living

in your body. It has always been there. Even though

it feels like you just learned this information, it truly has

always been there, and a part of you always did know this. A

deep, deep part of you that has been suppressed and repressed for

a very long time. An example I wanna use for how

I see processing repressed memories is that, say you have a car

and this car has a warning light on, and you can't figure out

why this warning light is on, But it's pointing you that something's wrong.

The car still functions. You're still able to drive it. You're still able to move

about your day, but there's something off, and you can't identify what

it is. You may even bring it into mechanics. You may ask other

people. No one can tell you why this warning light is on.

And then one day, you figure it out. You figure out what the problem with

your car is, and shoot, it is so much bigger than you

expected, and it is gonna take a lot of time and resources for you

to fix this problem. But the problem was always there,

and it was getting worse and worse until you knew what it

was. And once you know what it is, though it's gonna take time and

resources to fix this car, you are able to fix it, or in a human

example, you're able to heal it. And when you do, your car will be running

brand new. You'll have a brand new car, and this car will move

better than ever before. And so processing repressed memories is

like having a warning light on. You didn't know what the problem was, and now

you do know what that problem is. So I also wanna say here that I

don't know if it helps in any way, but I wanna say that I believe

you. I know this process, and I believe that you went through some horrible and

traumatic experiences in your childhood. I do believe that you are

processing repressed memories, and I do believe it's a very confusing

process and that this too shall pass, and you will

know your truth at the end of this. I do wanna mention to anybody

listening, if you're like, what is brain spotting? What is EMDR? These are 2

psychotherapy techniques that are used to help

individuals process trauma, emotional distress, and other psychological

issues. I'm not gonna talk too much about what those are today, but I do

invite you to do your own research and to Google brain spotting and EMDR if

you have experienced trauma and you think maybe something like this could be helpful for

you. But today, I'm really gonna focus on the repressed memories part of this question.

So the next thing I wanna discuss is I really wanna dive into this self

doubt, because I believe self doubt will always arise when processing repressed

memories, and you are not alone in believing what happened to you and also

doubting yourself. I think self doubt is very common for many reasons. It's

so hard to articulate the process of repressed memories. The only way

I have ever been able to say it is that it's a process of feeling

the most sane and the most insane at the same time.

Maybe that resonates for you or maybe it doesn't. But for me, when new memories

arise that I've repressed or new layers of trauma, it's so

affirming when they first arise. It's also so painful.

Because as I mentioned with that car example, there were red flags and signs and

feelings in my body that I could not explain for so long, and

these are validated and affirmed by the

repressed memory coming to the surface. And I mention this because

with my experience processing repressed memories, I have this

affirming moment, and then quickly after that affirming moment, I usually

begin doubting myself. I start having thoughts of, is this true?

How do I know this for sure? Am I crazy? Maybe I made this

whole thing up. Am I being overdramatic? Am I sure?

And I find that many of these thoughts arise because I think the mind is

trying to keep us safe, but I also think we live in a world

that has solidified in our minds the importance of facts

and hard evidence. And when processing repressed memories,

it's something we have to accept is that our body is

the only hard evidence we're going to have that these

experiences happened. And with this, there's a quote I

heard that I wanted to share. I watched the documentary On the

Record, and it's about sexual assault allegations against

Russell Simmons, who was a hip hop mogul. And

this documentary mostly features the story of Drew Dixon, who is a

survivor of sexual assault. And she had this amazing quote that I've thought

about over and over again. And she says in the documentary, my

body is a crime scene. And this has stuck with me

for so long because all the proof and all the evidence of what we

experience throughout our lives lives in our bodies.

And when we are processing sexual assault, repressed memories,

childhood sexual trauma, our body is the crime

scene. Our body knows what happened. Our body

remembers. And with this, I wanna say here that I always

recommend the book, The Body Keeps the Score, for people processing

sexual trauma, but specifically repressed memories. This book is

very dense, and it has a lot of information in it. But for

me, when I read The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk,

he talks about repressed memories in it, and it was the first time I

felt so validated in my experience. I was reading why my

body responded the way it did. Because repressed memories is our trauma

response. It is a way our body and our minds know how

to process trauma in the moment. Most people don't

experience experiences like you and I where we feel like our

life is threatened, like our world is being shattered,

and our bodies and minds have to respond within the moment.

It is not until years later that most trauma

survivors are able to process that trauma. Most people are not

given a safe space within the moment, so the body and the mind have to

find a way to cope, especially as children and for you especially

that this was abuse done by your father. Your body and your mind

did the best it could when you were 6 or 7. I want you to

reassure yourself that. That though right now, you are

processing some really painful things, That this happened to you

when you were 6 or 7. Picture how young you

were. I have tears coming to my eyes right now. No child

deserves to be treated that way, and no child would ever

know how to process that in the moment.

And the fact that there are people in this world who look at childhood

trauma and just don't get what it would be like to be a child,

that's unfortunate for them. That's unfortunate for them. Anybody who judges

this process, that's unfortunate that they don't understand what it

would be like for a 6 or a 7 year old. Unfortunately, we live in

a world that really isn't that empathetic or understanding in a lot of different

ways. So when navigating this process, it's important for you

to be empathetic towards yourself and very,

very empathetic and gentle with that young child

self. So when you are asking yourself how reliable these

memories are, I obviously can't say for certain. Only you

can. But I can say that to me from your question, it makes sense

that this next memory arose. And as I've mentioned, I

see my process and your process. I think they sound very similar with how

more memories tend to come back as we process 1. The next one can

come forward, and oftentimes, the next one can be a little bit more painful than

the first one. It's almost like our body's like, here's the lightest one. Can you

handle that? Here's a darker truth. Here's an even

darker truth. Wow. You were able to process that? I'm gonna give you a

darker truth. That's what I found with mine is that they tended

to become a little darker, a little more painful, but I also had

the tools. I was able to process them, and my

body never gave it to me until I had those tools in place, until

it knew, okay. You were able to process that. Now you can process this. I

think our bodies are so intelligent. And

navigating repressed memories connects us to our bodies, which is something we

were disconnected from. Because when we live with repressed

trauma, it disconnects us from ourselves. And so connecting

back to ourselves is one of the gifts of going through this extremely painful

process. And I don't call it painful to scare anybody

off. I'm just assuming and maybe I'm making a bad assumption here, but

I'm assuming that everybody who's going through this process understands how

painful it is because you're navigating it yourself. And so this leads me

into wanting to talk a bit more about the body and your relationship with your

body. In your question, you said, the brain spotting session was

very intense, and it felt like I was back at the event, including

physical sensations and smells. So here you

describe a very detailed and visceral reaction to your brain spotting

session, and I find this very interesting. I've also found that when

processing these experiences that it could be very visceral,

and it's like you're back there. And I believe that's because

the body has held on to this trauma for a very long time. It has

held on to this experience. You disconnected from

it in that moment, and so it's so visceral because none of it has been

processed yet, and you are processing that now, and it takes time to

process that. I think that part of healing

repressed memories is, as I've said multiple times, it's learning how to trust your

body. When I was grappling with self doubt throughout the process

of repressed memories, I would go back to over and over again how

the information landed in my body. So for me, truth feels

grounding. These truths would elicit a lot of hard emotions, but

I would feel grounded in my body when I received this information.

And for me, when repressed memories come in, I have, like, a flash of insight.

It's a full body knowing that, yes, this was true, and then my

mind would come in and fight me. And the truth is I've been through this

process enough. I've had enough layers come back over time,

so many, that the process is the same every time. That now I just

know the process, but it took time for me to understand that for me,

it's often a flash of insight, a full body knowing, super hard feelings, and

then the mind's going to attack me. The mind is then gonna attack me with

self doubt. It's gonna call me crazy. It's gonna try to keep me from

going deeper into this because it's trying to keep me safe. It's really such

a inherent part of our body is survival. And so processing

trauma often puts us into that survival mode, right, that fight or

flight. And so we have to learn to connect back to our

body, slow down, take care of ourselves in order to

process this. Because with for you with your question, I believe

that if you take the time to slow down and to

be with yourself and to ask yourself in that quiet place,

in meditation, in journaling, in nature, is this true about

my dad? Your body will communicate to you what is true.

But my guess is, as many trauma survivors are, you're often in that fight or

flight place. When we're in fight or flight, the mind is often going

crazy. So I just invite you when you're reflecting on this to also ask

yourself, am I in fight or flight right now? Am I feeling stressed? Am I

feeling overwhelmed? Or am I in a peaceful place and still doubting

myself? Because I find that doubt is much more common when we're stressed

and when we're stressing ourselves out and when we're judging ourself and we're in that

fight or flight. It's when we're in that peaceful place where the truth

arises, but we often run away from that place because what also lives

there are really hard feelings. We often

don't allow ourselves to slow down enough because we're avoiding

the immense grief that needs to be felt. The

heartbreak, the devastation, the despair,

the fear that we won't survive how hard of an experience

this is. I assure you, you will. You already survived

it. These memories are only coming up because your body knows

you are ready to be with these really hard feelings. And this

leads me into the importance of acceptance when

healing from repressed memories. I have found that a key part

of processing repressed memories is believing yourself and accepting the

truth. Now I also find that that means you have to accept the

feelings and the body sensations and not attach to

details and information that you haven't gotten yet or you

may never get. When processing repressed memories, I have found

that the mind, when I'm in that stress place, can become obsessed with details

and getting information I hadn't received yet, and that would keep me

stuck and from moving forward and from fully

processing this, the obsession with details. When I was first processing

being sexually assaulted in my childhood, I was obsessed with what was I

wearing? Did this happen to me in the bedroom or the basement? I couldn't

figure out if it was the bedroom or the basement. And for some reason that

detail was so important to me. I actually didn't receive the answer to

that question until I accepted this horrible thing happened to me.

I know it happened to me. And I don't need to know what I was

wearing, how I got there, or where exactly it happened,

but I know this happened to me. And I accepted it

fully, that I may not get any other information about that experience. But I

accepted what my body had communicated. And once I accepted

what my body had communicated, and then it gave me more information about

that experience. And it was the same thing with my gang rape in my teen

years. I also repressed and forgot that experience as well.

And each time, I had to accept the information I had been given. At

first, I had to accept, something really bad happened to me in the woods. I

may never know exactly what it was. Then I got more pieces of the puzzle.

Then I had to accept, I was sexually assaulted in the woods. Then I had

to accept, I was sexually assaulted by multiple people in the woods.

Oof. That was a hard one. Then I had to accept,

oh, it was violent. I was pinned down and strangled.

Okay. Then I had to accept there were bystanders. And

there were more layers as well. But I mention that because I had to

accept each layer before I was given more

information. We often keep ourselves from the next step of our healing

journey by living in that self doubt and not

accepting what happened. And the reason, again, we don't accept

what happened is because accepting what happened involves the hardest

part. It involves feeling all the really hard

feelings that you have been avoiding for a very long time or that you

also repressed. So we repress the information, and with that information, it's like

we're given this package at our door. And on the package, it says,

repress memory. And you're like, ugh. I don't wanna open this. I don't wanna

open this. I know what's in there. And you open the card, and it tells

you what's in the box. And you're like, oh, when I open that box, I'm

gonna have to, like, fully dive into that box. Maybe this box isn't for

me. Maybe this present isn't mine. Does anybody else want this present? But it's when

you take that box inside and you open it and you

feel all the feelings in that box that you will begin to feel free.

You'll begin to trust yourself. Pieces of your life that didn't make sense will

begin to make sense, and you will learn to love yourself

in a new way is what's coming to mind. Because this process of

processing repressed memories is an act of self love.

The more you sit with it, the more you process those hard feelings, the more

you allow your truth to be mind bending for yourself,

the more you allow that truth to come forward and rewrite that life

narrative that was never true, the freer you will feel and the more

connected back to yourself and your heart you will feel, and the more you will

love yourself, and the more empathy you'll have for yourself and others. And

so with all that, it's going to require an immense amount of

gentleness with yourself in order to process these

repressed memories. Processing repressed memories is when I personally

began meditating daily. I talk about that a lot on the podcast, and I've

had people say things to me like, oh, it must be nice, or I don't

have time to meditate, or I can't believe you meditate for an hour. What a

luxury. Yes. It is a luxury at this point, but it also was a

lifeline. It was also necessary for me

to begin quieting my mind, getting out of fight or

flight, and feeling those feelings daily. It was

important for my own sanity and my own survival

because I couldn't live in the crazy thoughts of am I sane

or am I insane every day. And oftentimes, when my

memory comes back, I live there for a while. I live in the self doubt

until I can no longer doubt myself anymore, and then I begin feeling those

hard feelings. And I live in the self doubt place less and less now. I'm

personally hoping I've hit the end of my barrel and that there's no more repressed

memories, but I've also accepted the process and that there may be more that needs

to come forward, and that's okay with me. I know I've

got my back. I know I have my own. I know I'm strong. I know

I'm resilient. And I know that my body will not give

me anything I can't handle, and it will only give it to me when I'm

ready. And so for you, I think it's important for you to prioritize time

for yourself. Meditating, journaling, therapy. Maybe you need

to go to therapy more than once a week. I know I go through times

in my life where I go to therapy twice a week. Maybe you need to

spend some more time in nature. Maybe you need a vacation that might not

feel so much like a vacation. It just might be space for you to process

some of this really difficult stuff. But for me with repressed memories,

I had to do it for a full time job for a long time,

and I had to do it on my own. It's a process that only

you can really do that work. You know? Each of us has our

own inner work. And processing repressed memories, there are people who can support you through

that. Like I said, I'm glad you work with a professional. Maybe you wanna invite

in a trauma professional or another day a week of therapy. I don't know what's

best for you. But at the end of the day, it's gonna be you who

has to feel those hard feelings, and it's gonna have to be you who begins

grieving the childhood you thought you had and accepting the one

you did have. And that's one of the hardest parts. So throughout this process,

it's also really important to dive into inner child work and to

be with that 6 or 7 year old. I'll link some inner child resources on

my website at newgoodadvice.com/113. I have a

meditation and a dialoguing with your inner child, but I also always

recommend letter writing exercise. So maybe writing a letter to that 6 or 7

year old who is likely terrified in that movie theater,

telling them that you believe them. Because when we don't believe

ourselves, it's that we're really not believing those young children within us,

the ones who were young and who needed an adult to believe

them. And so through processing repressed memories, we become the

adult who believes that child who did not have the safety

or the trust they needed at that time. And so it's

so important and so healing to connect to that inner child.

It really is a beautiful union is how I see it. I think

the repressed parts of us almost live outside of us for a long time,

and processing repressed memories is bringing that part of us home to ourself. And that

has been such a gift in my life to bring all these pieces of me

home to myself that I labeled wrong, unworthy, not enough,

liars, insane. By bringing those home and saying, I am

so sorry. I love you. I'm here for you no matter what. I'm here for

all your hard feelings. I have created a deep love of

self that has taken time for me to cultivate, but it's pretty

unshakable at this time. And so though, as I've said many

times, this process is extremely difficult. I do believe there are gifts in

healing, and those gifts often include getting to know ourselves,

our own heart, and that love of self, which we all deserve. It becomes

easier and we get to feel that deeper within ourselves.

The last thing I wanna say before I wrap up this question is if you

take anything from this episode, I want you to take that you can trust yourself.

Something I also like to remember is that nobody wants to remember being sexually

abused. Nobody wants to view their parent like an abuser when they hadn't remembered

that. Nobody wants this to be their truth. I know that was true in my

life. I don't want my story to be my story. I'm gonna be

honest. There are days I look out the window as I write about my

story that I'm like, can I have a different story? And

I joke about that because the truth is this is my story. I accept

it. But nobody wants to have to go through

this process. So when you're doubting yourself, remember that you're not asking for

this. You didn't want this. This isn't your fault. This is just part

of healing, and it's okay. And you can trust yourself.

And I found in my own life that the more I trust myself and choose

to believe myself, the more these memories settle. Processing repressed

memories often feels like a battle is waging within, and it

stops waging when I trust myself. And I know my own

truth. And that self trust is really developed throughout this process. And I

just wanna reassure you that you can trust yourself. This process takes patience. You are

doing the work. I hear it in your question. You wouldn't be asking this question

if you weren't doing the work. And though it can be

mind boggling and very disorienting, you are on the right

path. You are always being guided, and you can trust yourself.

So I hope something in this answer was helpful. I'm sending you so much love.

Thank you for this question.

Thank you so much for joining me for this episode of New View Advice. If

you haven't already, I have bonus episodes on the podcast that I'm calling

my reflection series, which is stories of me reflecting on my own

healing journey. I mentioned that here because if you listen to reflection 2, this

story took me a very long time to piece together. Some

of these things I always remembered. Some of these things were repressed memories that came

back later, and it took me years to be able to put together an

articulate narrative. So I share that here because if you listen

to reflections number 2, you can hear a story that wasn't always clear for me,

that is clear now, but that is a gift I got through

processing repressed memories. So if you give it a listen, please let me know.

Or if you like this episode, I invite you to leave a rating or review

or send me an email. I always love connecting with the new View Advice

community. And thank you so much for joining me for this new View

Advice. As always, I hope I was able to offer you a new View on

whatever you may be going through. Sending you all my love. See you next time.