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Hey, I am your host, Mari Wagner,
and you're listening to The Ever Be
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Podcast where Faith Meets Lifestyle.
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I'm so excited you're here.
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Whether you're a new listener
or a longtime follower, I know
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there's something here for you.
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Pull up a chair and listen in for
insightful, real life conversations and
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actionable steps on how to claim the.
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Full life God created you for.
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If you're a woman desiring to live
a Christ-centered life in today's
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modern world, then this is for you.
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Welcome to ever be.
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mari_2_09-16-2025_214934: Ah,
you guys, we are literally back.
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Ever be is back, baby.
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Can you tell, I'm so excited.
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I have really missed you
guys these past three months.
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It feels so good to hit record again
and be sitting here with a microphone.
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Imagining you just
listening on the other side.
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If you're brand new here.
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Let me say welcome.
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This is really an exciting episode to
be tuning into because you are part of a
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whole like fresh and new start to ever be.
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This podcast is all about living
a Christ-centered life in today's
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modern world, whether that's
marriage, homemaking, faith, clean,
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living, fashion, all the things.
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And if you've been here since
the beginning, welcome back.
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Thank you for sticking
with me during the break.
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Let's dive into everything.
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I wanna start out by just
saying thank you to you.
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This pause from the podcast was totally
necessary for me this past summer, and
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I just wanna thank you for supporting
me in that and also just being excited
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for this podcast to come back and
for being here listening right now.
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I got several dms the past few
months and especially the past few
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weeks, , from you guys just asking
when the podcast was coming back,
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sharing how much you've missed it and
how much you look forward to it each
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week, and that just truly made my day.
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Every time I got a message like that,
it's so encouraging to hear from you
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because all I really see is just me
on this side of the screen or on this
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side of your earbuds or whatever.
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So I love hearing your feedback
and excitement about it all, and
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it makes me feel like we're both in
this together and someone's actually
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listening, although I see the numbers.
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I know y'all are listening, but I
love interacting with you guys so.
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Thank you for all that.
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Thank you for the love.
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Thank you for the support today.
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I just wanna give you a major catch up.
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Consider this your major bestie catchup
call, um, about what life has looked like
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the past three months, new updates that
I'm implementing to the podcast, and then
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a super exciting invitation at the end.
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So stick with me through it
all and we will get there.
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First, let's recap and
just really get into it.
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Why the break?
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Why come back now?
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How was it?
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All the things?
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So when I stepped back from the podcast,
it was, I know my last podcast aired was
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June 25th, so almost three months ago.
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And I honestly didn't know how long the
pause would be when I took a step back.
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Um, I just knew that I
felt this nudge from God.
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Telling me that I needed to slow down
and kind of recalibrate in my life.
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I feel like I needed to pray and
lean into prayer and rebuild that
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consistent prayer life because it
was kind of out of whack, honestly.
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And I know that I only can servee
you and pour out into you after
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the Lord has poured into me.
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So it wasn't that the podcast was bad
or it dragged me in any way, it was.
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It was good and it was a good thing,
but I just felt God nudging me to be
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present to him more, to be present to
Trey, to the people in my life, in front
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of me, to my health, to my wellbeing,
to truly just take a slow summer.
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And maybe you've had a season like
that where everything you're doing
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is actually good, but you just still
feel like God is nudging you to like
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come away with him for a while, to
be with him, to rest, to slow down.
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Um, so in this time.
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Here are a couple things that I feel like
God taught me that I wanna share with you.
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One slowness is not wasted.
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I've realized, and I've shared this
before, I've realized that I have measured
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my worth so much by productivity, by
what I can put out into the world.
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And it's really hard.
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It's really hard for me guys, because
I love to create and in so many
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ways, I get to do that with my job.
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And my job is literally my
dream, creating, evangelizing,
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building up God's kingdom.
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All at once using all my gifts, but God is
reminding me that he is more interested in
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who I'm becoming than what I'm producing.
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And I know that I need to be rooted
in the Lord and receive his grace
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before I can produce anything
of real value or impact for you.
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So that's number one.
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Number two, community is everything.
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You know this, I've said this and I've
had conversations with so many women
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lately who feel isolated in their faith.
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And I know I felt that same thing
years ago, which is what prompted
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me to start this whole platform
and ministry seven years ago.
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And I know it's hard for women to
meet other truly practicing Catholic,
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cool normal women that are just like
them out in the wild in the world.
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So at the end, I'm gonna share how
I'm making this reality come to life
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and gonna make a beautiful Catholic
community possible to all of you.
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And especially, yeah, just for anybody
who really feels like they need that and
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they don't have that locally for them.
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Um, number three.
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God's timing is perfect.
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I thought maybe the break would slow
things down or would make people
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not wanna come back and listen to
the podcast, but in reality, it gave
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me space for a new vision to grow.
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I feel more excited about this podcast
than I ever have before, and I know
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God is going to bring people that
need to tune in and be part of this
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community at the time that they need it.
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I trust that and I've surrender,
surrendered it all to him.
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So if you're listening right now.
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You are literally meant to be here.
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God literally wants you to be here
listening right now and tuning
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in, so I'm grateful for that.
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So that's what the Lord has been
teaching me the past few months,
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and if I'm being honest, it has
been such a wonderful summer.
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I feel like for the first time I have
actually felt like summer has been slow
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and I feel like for years, the past few
years, like I can't even remember the
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last year that I didn't say this, but for
years I have just been saying how fast
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summer goes by and how it goes by faster.
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Every year.
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And I feel like how every season goes by
faster every year of life that passes.
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And I don't want that to be
my reality as I grow older.
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I don't want it to mean that becoming
more of an adult or being in my
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vocation or growing older means getting
busier and being just less present
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to my day to day, less present to the
season that I'm in all the things.
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And so this summer with the
break from the podcast and.
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With an increased prayer life and
just tuning into where the Lord
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was actually leading me in rest
actually, and actually implementing
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what I have learned about balance
and order and boundaries and really,
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really sticking to those it has been.
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Like one of my favorite summers.
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It has felt slow.
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It has felt peaceful.
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I have felt like I have lived every
day and I've enjoyed it and I feel
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rested and I feel like a new creative
energy that has like been given to me.
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And so I'm really excited about that
and I'm really, it just confirms
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even more that I needed to take a
break from things over the summer.
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Especially to be able to come
back and give y'all the very best.
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So that's my life update there.
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But today's comeback isn't just about
my break and how it was and how great
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my summer was, although it was amazing.
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Um, it's about the podcast starting again.
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It's about the beginning
of a brand new chapter.
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Forever be with a fresh.
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Structure and a deeper way
for us to walk this journey of
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Christ centered living together.
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And that's what we're gonna
be chatting about today.
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So now that we're all caught up with life,
let's get into the new rhythms that we're
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gonna be introducing here on the show that
I think you guys are really going to love.
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We are adding two new
segments to the podcast.
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That will be a part of every episode.
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Also, I say we because Trey is like
my right hand man in everything I do.
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So.
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It's really both of us
and you're here too.
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So it is a we, um, anyways, the two
segments we're adding are called
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Ever Be Moments and Ever Be Answers.
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And aren't those just like really cute?
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Like I love, I love,
okay, one of my favorite.
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This is like context.
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One of my favorite parts of this podcast
is honestly the name and how the name came
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about ever be is the song that I walked
down the aisle to when I got married.
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And the symbolism of that was basically
that I was always going to have the
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Lord's praise like ever be on my
lips no matter what he threw at me.
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No matter what we experienced
in our life, I was.
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Always going to be praising, always having
the Lord's Praise ever be on my lips.
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And considering this is a podcast
and I'm literally talking, I
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thought it was really fitting.
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So that's why The Ever
Be Name is what it is.
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And this is about to become one of
my favorite parts of this podcast.
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It's going to be sharing little glory
stories of how God has been moving.
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So I'm keeping that alive in this
next chapter of the podcast through
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something I'm calling ever Be Moments
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and it's exactly that,
sharing glory stories of how
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God is working in our lives.
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And we're gonna do it at the
beginning of every episode.
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So let's just jump in right now to
our first ever be moments together.
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Right now, for me in this break, I
have been so much more consistent
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with going to Eucharistic Adoration.
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I felt like my prayer life needed
a resurgence, and I knew that I
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needed to pray outside of the house.
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I knew that I needed to be in the
presence of Jesus, and I told myself
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like, we are going to buckle in.
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We are gonna get our, you know,
butt outta bed early in the morning.
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We're gonna get ourselves together and
we are going to go to the chapel to pray.
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At the adoration chapel
as many times as we can.
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And so I gave myself a goal to go Monday,
Wednesday, Friday, and I've been doing
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that for a few weeks now and I can't
tell you like the resurgence of life
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that I feel and the re-energized like.
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Life that I feel right now.
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I feel like ever since I've been going
my days don't feel like they're dragging.
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My days don't feel tired or impossible.
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My to-do list doesn't
like overly stress me out.
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It just like, I know things are gonna
happen as they need to, and I know God's
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gonna be leading the way every single day.
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Um.
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And not just my energy, I feel like
I'm like talking about like the
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benefits of like a new like wellness,
like hack or like a bio hack.
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Like so much more energy than before.
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But it's true you guys, like I have
so much more energy than before.
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I have so much life to me, I have so
much like zeal and like joy every day.
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And also I feel a whole new wave of
creativity and a whole new desire
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to be creative and to create.
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And I have so many ideas.
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That are just like bouncing all around
my brain and that I'm just super excited
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about and it's not on like all fronts.
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I love to create in so many ways, both
for my work and outside of my work.
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And so I've been painting, I'm
like doing things in the kitchen.
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I am even, you know, I've been hosting
all these dinner parties if you've
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been following around on Instagram,
and I'm getting really creative
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with them and just the content that
I make and the way that I bring my
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vision to life, like in so many ways.
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I feel like the Lord is allowing me to be
creative and it brings me so much life.
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And sometimes when like that is
so much of what I do both inside
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and outside my job, it's really
easy to get creatively drained.
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And I feel like that's kind of where I was
in the spring, which led me to the break.
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But since going to adoration multiple
times a week, the past few weeks, um,
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this summer, I, yeah, I have just like.
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I have felt like a whole new wave of
creativity has been given to me, and
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I'm so grateful because it just gives
me so much life and I'm so excited.
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And if you're listening to
the podcast, I feel like you
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can hear me smiling right now.
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And if you're watching the podcast,
you can definitely see me smiling.
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So.
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Y'all know, I get so giddy when I talk
about creativity and, and all that stuff.
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So that is my ever be moment.
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Um, from this week.
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It's just like, go to adoration.
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I know it's like the easy thing to
say because it feels like a cop out.
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It feels like, oh, I know this.
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Like, yeah, go pray in the chapel.
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But like, seriously, you
guys, it's such a superpower.
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God gives us the grace that
we don't have ourselves.
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So this is my encouragement to you.
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To go to the adoration
chapel as much as you can.
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Even if you can go once a week, trust
me, it's gonna change your life.
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It's literally changing
me from the inside out.
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I'm gonna have to do a whole different
episode, but I literally feel like
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I'm going through like a new deeper
conversion in my life, which is,
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which is so exciting, and I feel like
it all stems back to the Eucharist.
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So surprise.
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That's basically it.
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That's what ever be moments
is gonna look like every week.
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And when I have a guest on the podcast,
I'll also be inviting them to join me
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in sharing their Abe moments as well.
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And I wanna keep this section like
relatively short and sweet and just
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always pointing back to the truth
that God is alive and he's active
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in our lives every single day.
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And there's a.
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Always a reason for his
praise to ever be on our lips.
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How cute is that?
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So as you're listening, I encourage you
to also pause and also think like, what's
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one glory story in your life this week?
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I want you guys to be reflecting
on this as well in your own
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life, and then share that.
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Share that with a friend.
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Share that with your small group.
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Call your mom, tell your sister,
like actually share that with
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people and have the Lord's praise
ever be on your lips as well.
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Okay, now let's get into the
new structure of the podcast.
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So I told you about Ever Be Moments,
and so here's basically what you can
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expect each week for each episode.
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I'll intro the episode of that week and
then we'll get into the Ever Be Moments
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segment, which is the glory stories.
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God working in our lives.
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Everything I just did.
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Then we're gonna dive into
the regular topic discussion.
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You know, whether it's a solo episode
and I'm sharing about something,
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or we have a guest and we're doing
kind of like an interview style.
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We'll just dive into the discussion like
today, you know, and we'll talk about
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faith, marriage, homemaking, living,
clean, living, whatever it is, you know,
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all the things I normally talk about.
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And then we'll end with a new
segment called Ever Be Answers,
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which is your questions answered.
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On the podcast every single week.
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I went back and looked at the
episodes that I've put out, and the
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most listened to episodes are Q and
as by far, and I think people just
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want to hear real applicable advice.
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From someone they trust.
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And I get it.
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Like I want that too.
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And I love knowing.
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I loved seeing that, and I love knowing
that Q and As have been so helpful to you.
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So from now on, literally every episode
is going to have a q and a at the end,
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and this is how it's going to work.
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I am going to answer one question
at the end of every episode during
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the ever be answers segment.
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Okay.
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And then this is another new part.
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The rest of the questions are
going to be answered by both
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Trey and I at the after party.
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The after party is our
brand new post show segment.
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So after every single episode, there's
going to be basically like a bonus
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mini episode where you get to hear
from both Trey and I answering your
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top questions, your juiciest questions,
basically your most unfiltered questions.
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LOL.
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It's gonna be a little bit more casual,
a little bit more unfiltered, and we're.
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Just gonna go deeper into what
you are asking us lately, and this
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after show, this after show, like
post-show will be exclusive to.
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Our brand new Patreon community.
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It's about time.
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You guys, we are gonna call it the
Kingdom Club, which I'm obsessed
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with this name as well, by the way.
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It's for all the gals who
are striving for the kingdom.
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It's so cute.
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And that's you.
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And that's me, and that's all of us.
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So let's break down what the Kingdom
Club gets access to because I think it's
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pretty sweet and you're gonna wanna be in
it and it's gonna be really accessible.
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I'll tell you that, like
the value is pretty insane.
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So number one, the big hitter that
I know I am super excited about and
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I hope you're super excited about is
everybody in the Kingdom Club, AKA.
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The Patreon community will
get access to a live monthly
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Bible study led by yours truly.
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Me, so literally like a live
Zoom call that you and me get
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to be on with the whole group.
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And all of our Kingdom club girlies
will meet up every month to catch up,
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chat and have Bible study together.
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This is like already what
I love to do in real life.
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And so I'm just really excited to
bring that to life in our community
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right here and to be able to walk with
you even more closely in your faith.
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Um, so that's number one.
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Monthly live Bible studies,
you're also gonna get.
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Access to the after party q and a
each week with Trey and I, which is
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this extra bonus post show like mini
episode that I told you about where
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we're gonna get deeper into the juiciest
Q and as, we'll probably answer like
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three to five at this q and a, um
after party show after every episode.
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And you'll get the chance to submit
your own questions for those q
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and a because only Patreon members
will get the ability to submit the
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questions and hear the answers.
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So that is a perk right there.
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Obviously, you also get access to this
private community of like-minded women.
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Seeking to live Christ-centered
lives like Catholic women who are
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just like you, and a place for
you to meet other women like this.
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Maybe people in your area, maybe making
long distance Catholic friendships.
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Just a place for y'all to come
together and meet other people and be
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encouraged, um, by other Catholic women.
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I know how powerful that is, so I'm
so excited to offer that to you.
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Also, you will get video access
to the podcast, not just audio.
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Video is now only going to be accessible
to Kingdom Club members and, and you'll
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get a free Kingdom Club ball cap welcome
gift if you join annually and pay the
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whole year upfront, which is so dang cute.
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You guys.
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I can't wait to show
you what it looks like.
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I wish I had it with me right
now or else I would totally be
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sporting it so you could see it.
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But it is really, really cute.
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And so basically like any Patreon,
you pay a monthly subscription.
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This is gonna be just $5
a month, super accessible.
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But if you're like, I'm all in.
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I want all those perks, and
I want the free hat, you just
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pay for the whole year upfront.
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You get a little bit of a
discount when you do that.
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And then you also get the free hat, and we
all get to have this like matching merch.
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I growing up absolutely loved like the BFF
necklaces or like the bff, like twinning
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shirts or like twin day or whatever.
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I just loved that.
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Like I loved the feeling of like, I
have my girl gang, so this is gonna
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be like our best friend necklace.
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Like if you have the hat, like
you're in the club and we all
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get to be in the club together.
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So.
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I feel like that's a pretty,
pretty fun, pretty cool perk.
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And like I said, they're super cute.
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I cannot wait to show
you what they look like.
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Um.
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So that is all that is
you here at Ever Bee?
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I know it's a lot.
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And, and that's it.
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That's it for our
comeback Premier episode.
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I am so grateful that you're here.
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I hope you're excited.
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Thank you for pressing play
after this pause that we had.
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And thank you for being
part of this community.
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I really hope that this is all going
to serve you in the best way and keep
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bringing you closer to God and helping
you live a Christ-centered life.
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I'm so excited to have more
real like in-person as much as
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possible, like virtual, but like
real live time with y'all and
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build greater community that way.
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And I think it's gonna be amazing.
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And we've surrendered it all
to the Lord and he's taken
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care of it and blessing it all.
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Okay, so to wrap up, we have to
do today's ever be Answers, and
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today's question is, what advice do you
have for those going through breakups?
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I'm going through one right now.
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Well, first of all, I'm
so sorry to hear that.
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I know that breakups can be really
hard and make you just feel stuck and
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like kind of blind from the future.
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It kind of just makes you feel like.
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You are never gonna get out of it.
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And this is, you know, the worst situation
and it's hard to see the future and it's
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hard to see the hope beyond the breakup.
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So I think the first thing I wanna say
is there is hope beyond the breakup.
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And there is, believe it or not,
beautiful, new, exciting chapters
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that the Lord has for you.
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And at the same time, it's totally
okay to feel what you feel.
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It's totally okay to feel sad,
to feel angry and frustrated and
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confused, um, even to feel like
confused or angry with the Lord.
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Especially if it was a
really serious relationship.
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You thought he was the one, or
you were getting there and you
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were on the same page, and all of
a sudden that relationship ends.
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That can be really difficult.
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I totally understand that.
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So it's okay to feel those as well.
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And it's good.
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It's good to process through
those and grieve that
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relationship before you move on.
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Now the piece of advice, and I dunno if
it's advice or just encouragement that I
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have and that I always give to people who
feel like, oh my gosh, I just got outta
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a breakup and I thought he was the one.
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Like, what do I do?
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Or like, I could never imagine
breaking up with this person.
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And we did.
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What I have to say is this.
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The person God has for you to marry
is so beyond what you have prayed for.
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It's so beyond like your best dreams
and the best guy that you think of.
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Like, I pray and I know
because the Lord did it for me.
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Like the person he has for you is even
better than that, and it's hard to imagine
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that, especially if the guy you were
just with was like absolutely amazing.
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You thought you were gonna
marry him or it was going really
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well, or you just feel like.
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Tired of dating guys and you
just like wanted that to be it.
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Just rest in the fact that like your
future spouse is even more than that.
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So to know that that man is out there
can be a little bit of encouragement.
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I know it's hard to imagine that
like a better guy could be out there
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and, and maybe that's not what you
wanna hear when you just broke up.
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But at the same time, I have found it
encouraging for me because I, I knew
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in those moments, like, okay, if this
wasn't the guy, there's gotta be another
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guy out there who is the one and.
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All the time I'm spending with the wrong
guy is less time with the right guy.
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You know what I mean?
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And so when I knew, okay, the right guy is
out there and this isn't the one that gave
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me a little bit more peace in my heart
to be like, okay, then I, then I'm done.
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You know, like, then I need to
put this, this man aside and, and
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not spend any more time there.
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I need to go back to the Lord and.
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Really ask him like, you know,
what do you want of me right now?
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What do you want in this transition
period, in this waiting season until you
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present the next man, you know, maybe
the one, and to rest in the fact that
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like the man that he has for you is
everything you've prayed for and more.
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And I know that because I
experienced that with Trey.
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I had a similar experience
where like I thought I was gonna
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marry somebody and then it.
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Absolutely wasn't the man that God had for
me, and I couldn't imagine anybody better.
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And when I met Trey, it surpassed all of
my prayers and everything I could have
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wanted, and I'm so grateful for that
because the Lord knew exactly who I needed
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and exactly how to answer all my prayers
and how to answer the prayers I wasn't
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even praying for that I didn't even know
that I wanted or that I needed in my life.
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The second piece of
advice I'm gonna give you.
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I mean, I feel like the obvious
one is lean into prayer, and
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I said that a little bit.
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Lean into the Lord and your
relationship with the Lord.
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But the other piece of advice I'm gonna
give you is lean into your friendships.
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Lean into your, your girl
gang, your girl friendships.
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Grow those relationships.
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Do a bunch of fun things.
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Make a bucket list.
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I am so about bucket lists lately,
you guys like, I feel like in hard
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times or in seasons of waiting where
it just feels like you're just waiting
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for the next phase of life to happen.
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Lean into bucket list because
it helps you stay so present
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in the season that you're in.
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And it helps make that present
season so much more exciting.
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It gives you things to look forward to.
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It gives you creative ideas
of things to try things to do.
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Um, so lean into that.
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Lean into your friends, make
a bucket list, and make this
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present season of life exciting.
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. That's all I have for you there and now
if you wanna hear Trey and me keep going
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with more of your questions, you can
come join us for the after party inside
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the Kingdom Club because that's where
the conversation is going to continue.
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And in the Kingdom Club at the
after party, these are the questions
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that we are going to be answering.
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Number one, I feel pressure to stay with
a guy because his faith is so strong, but
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I don't think we align on other aspects.
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That's tough.
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Two.
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Any tips on discerning on the
discerning period for our vocation?
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Wow, these are all very
relationship based today.
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And then three, how to trust God
if he doesn't answer a prayer the
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way that you want or the way that
you have been praying that he will.
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Those are the questions we're gonna
be answering at the after party.
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Go ahead and click the link in
the show notes to join the Kingdom
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Club if you wanna be a part of
that and join us in the after show.
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And if not, we'll just see you next week.
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And we are so back, baby.
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We are so back.
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So if you had fun in this episode,
make sure to give it five stars.
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Rate the podcast five stars and share
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