Dear Listener, we have some exciting updates—and a big life change—to share!

In this special episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on what’s ahead for the podcast, our work at The Relationship Center, and our family! We’re excited to share some personal and professional changes that will dramatically shape what we’re up to in 2025, including temporarily pressing “pause” on creating new episodes.

Don’t worry – while we’re tending to the exciting happenings behind the scenes, there are many ways you can connect with us, whether through our past episodes, blog content, or working with us directly via therapy or coaching. If you’ve been thinking about deepening your relationship skills or getting dating support, now’s the perfect time to explore what we offer.

Plus, we take a moment to reflect on our recent big life changes and how they might encourage you if you feel down about your relationship prospects. Tune in for all the details—we promise, this is an update you won’t want to miss!

We’ll miss you during our brief pause, Dear Listener, but we’d love to hear from you! Send us your questions, thoughts, and encouragement to podcast@relationshipcenter.com.  

We’ll be back before you know it. Until then, we love you too!

Resources and links

If you’d like to work with one of us or another talented clinician on our team, go to relationshipcenter.com/apply-now to apply for a free 30-minute consultation.

If you’d like to learn more about intensives, check out our brochure here: https://relationshipcenter.com/s/Intensives-Brochure.pdf

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From the Relationship Center, I'm psychotherapist, couples counselor, and

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dating coach Jessica Engle, and this is I

Love You Too, a show about how to create

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and sustain meaningful relationships.

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Josh: I'm dating and relationship

coach, Josh Van Vliet.

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On today's episode,

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we're going to share

some announcements with

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you about, the podcast

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and what expect

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in 2025 from us.

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We're so happy you're here.

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Hello, hello, dear listener.

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This going to be a short little update

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episode for you today.

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we've got some announcements to share

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with you and we want to let you know.

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what's coming up

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the podcast this year.

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and the the version is

we are now the proud

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parents of a

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month old kiddo

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and it's been a

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beautiful

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and delightful and, uh, stressful,

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you know, all things

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that come with people say

about being a new parent.

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And given that, we have decided that we're

going to take a break from podcasting

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until December of this year because,

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uh, love this

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podcast and we want to make sure

that what we're putting out is our

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best work and at the moment, our

energy and focus really needs to be

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on tending to our our sweet kiddo

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and and to our center.

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Jessica: Yeah, our original plan was

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to start

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to create episodes and to record

those during our kiddo's naps.

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Are you laughing as you hear

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Josh: Any parent of a child

is probably like, yeah, ha.

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Jessica: Ha We have a

low sleep needs baby.

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And

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yeah,

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we

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we that

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it didn't feel right in our hearts

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to create content that didn't

feel extremely valuable for you.

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Josh: So, we'll

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be back

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with a new episode in December

of this year and we'll resume our

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regular monthly schedule that time.

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And in the

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meantime, if you like what we're

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up here and you want more of

what we do, more of us there

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are a few

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ways that you can continue

to engage with us.

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You're obviously welcome to

explore our back catalog,

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There's a lot of

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content in there.

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You can also check out our website,

we've got some wonderful written

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materials there, some blogs articles

that Jessica has put together.

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And

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if you want to work

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with somebody either or Jessica or one

of the other clinicians on our team

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we're available that.

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We're offering some

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intensive type work.

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Jessica will share a little

bit more about what that is.

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And then we also have a wonderful team

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of relationship obsessed clinicians

here who love working with folks

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around dating, relationships

social anxiety, couples work.

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we'll drop a link in the show notes

here for how to learn more about

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that and explore whether working

with one of our team is the right fit

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for you.

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And just a note there, we offer

both therapy and coaching.

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of licensing laws, we only offer therapy

to folks in California and the U.

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S.

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And then coaching we are able

to offer around the world.

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There are some exceptions

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Jessica: that and that will

lead into the intensives work.

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We are able to offer shorter term therapy

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people in Florida, Arizona, and

Colorado, our licensed clinicians are.

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And if you interested in working with me

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and you're outside

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of California, Arizona,

Colorado, or Florida One

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option

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is to

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fly to California for an intensive.

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So let's talk about intensives.

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These are accelerated forms of therapy.

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So they include a planning session

and then a three hour session

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one to three days in a row.

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So,

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you might fly in say on a

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Friday,

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do a three hour session with me

Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and then fly

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back.

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The cool thing about intensives

is it's a really targeted,

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accelerated way to reach your goals.

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So if you were listening to some of

our podcasts, you're like, okay, I've

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got some

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work to do to

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Fix the pacing of my dating life to

really get clear on what I'm looking

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for in a partner, to tackle some of

these repeating patterns where perhaps

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I'm getting stuck in a Groundhog's

Day experience of toxic relationships.

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I need Jessica's help.

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You would meet with me, we'd have a

very, very targeted period of time where

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we'd work on those things together.

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So

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these can be really helpful, you

know, with weekly therapy there

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can be the kind of like getting

back up to speed every week

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and then time taken to

integrate at the end

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so you only really get

25 minutes of deep work.

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With an intensive you can have

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a lot

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work in a short period of time.

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that is an option Josh is

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also offering sessions via telehealth via

telehealth and in intensives so if you

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are a and want both a man and a

woman to work with you, that is also

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option.

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Josh: And in addition my focus really

is around coaching and I love working

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with folks around particularly the

dating strategy, dating skills,

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clarifying your vision for what you're

looking for and how to get there as

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well as supporting couples around

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creating their vision for their

partnership, creating shared agreements

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for how you want to be with each

other, navigating the inevitable

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kind bumps

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along the road and how do you

hold those agreements together.

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those are the

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that I really love working with folks

around here in terms coaching work

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in both with individuals and couples.

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if

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that sounds

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intriguing to you, to reach out to our

team and schedule a free consultation.

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I want to just also take a moment

to acknowledge that You know, we

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have a lot of dear listeners who are

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searching for their person, and also

who want to start families and what a

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beautiful thing it is that you and I have

arrived at point, married, with a kiddo,

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And I, I

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re entered the dating pool in my mid

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30s.

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And I think

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I've mentioned on other podcast

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episodes, I terrified

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that I wasn't gonna, uh,

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find someone, to have a kiddo with.

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Josh: So I, I just

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Want to highlight that to say if you are

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low

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on hope, dear listener, and you are

searching obviously I am an N of one,

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but I the N of 1 that is the host

of this podcast and giving you

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advice.

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So,

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um, you know, there, there are ways

to, to find your way to a family.

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As Josh said, it is messy, and

it is imperfect, and it is also

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exquisite.

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what I

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love about what you're saying is, when

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we're dating, especially if

we've been at it for a while, it

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is very easy to get dispirited.

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our brain naturally pulls for danger,

what's wrong, what's not working.

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And a healthy thing it's normal.

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But it also is very easy then when

we're doing something like Looking

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for our person to get down and

to just see all the examples of

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why it worked or why it won't work or why

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worked for somebody else.

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And so it can be really helpful just

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to have some other examples

that it is possible.

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I love that you're sharing that and

yeah, just know, dear listener, that

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if that's you on that journey right

now, while we won't be with you in

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the podcasting space for a few months,

we're very much with you in our

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hearts and, uh, and cheering you on.

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Yeah, and

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we're also with

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you, dear couples who may be listening,

who are going through these huge life

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changes that we can go through as couples.

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We, we are with you in it.

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We are finding

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our way and solidarity

the new parents out there.

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We salute you.

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This is, this is joke.

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Yeah.

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And, uh.

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think it.

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We're going to miss

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y'all.

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Actually,

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you know, if you would like to

throw encouragement and love our

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way around returning we want to

encourage you to send us a question and

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um, and you can do that.

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How did they do that, Josh?

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Yeah, you can go to

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the relationshipcenter.

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com slash podcast for all the information

about how to Send a question, phone

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number, you can text us, call us,

send us a little audio note by

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email, a couple different ways there

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and we'd love to hear from you.

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Jessica: makes our day to hear

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Josh: your questions, your thoughts,

what you're thinking about, what you're

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wondering about and give us a chance

to support you and share what will be

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helpful, I think, for other listeners

as well, because it's likely if you

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have question, there's someone else out

there who has that same question could

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benefit from hearing it.

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Absolutely.

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And as always, the podcast, share

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it with a friend as our numbers

grow, we have more and more of a

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case to return and make lots content.

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So, you can put a vote in

for more episodes when we

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return by doing those things.

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Okay.

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I think

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That's it for today.

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Yeah.

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And for the next months, we

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as Jessica we will miss making

this podcast is a joy for us.

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And so, we are very excited to get back to

it when we have a little bit more space.

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And until next time,

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we love you too.

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Bye.

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Bye.

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Oh.

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Speaking of.

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I'm get a baby.

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Oh my God.

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laughing so bad i'm gonna