You had a beautiful weekend. The doubt settled, you felt close, it all felt good. And then on the drive home, or maybe right after sex, or maybe just sitting on the sofa, it came back. The ick. The distance. The suddenly very annoying shoes. And now you're spiralling again, wondering if the whole relationship is wrong because surely, if this person were right for you, you wouldn't feel like this. In this episode, Lucy goes into what is actually happening in that cycle and why the reassurance seeking, the pros and cons lists, the forum posts, and the asking Claude at 11pm are keeping you stuck rather than helping. You will find out why moments of closeness can trigger the most powerful impulses to run, what the protector inside you is actually trying to do, and why that ick or disgust or sudden doubt after intimacy is almost never about the person in front of you. And you will leave with a completely different question to ask yourself when the spiral starts. Find out more at www.lucymaeve.com.

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