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Genesis 39:7-12 | Resolved: Pursuing Purity & Avoiding Temptation
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Resolve to love God so much that you hate sexual sin.

Genesis 39:7-12

I. Expect Temptation’s Targeted Attacks (v.7)

II. Enumerate the Reasons Why Sin is Very Stupid (vv.8-9)

III. Draw the Battle Lines Far From Temptation—Not on the Edge (vv.10-12)

Application Questions

  1. Consider some of the prominent former pastors who have given in to sexual sin. What lessons can you glean from these public failures?
  2. Read Genesis 39:9 and 1 Corinthians 6:18-7:1-5. While it is true that "all sin is sin," what makes sexual immorality uniquely grievous to the Lord?
  3. Read Genesis 39:8-9 and Psalm 103:2. Start working on your own personal list: What are the reasons that giving in to sexual sin would be particularly stupid and destructive in your life? How might regularly revisiting a list like this, inspired by Psalm 103:2, fortify your love for God over sin?
  4. Read Genesis 39:10 and Matthew 5:29-30. Joseph drew his battle lines far from temptation by refusing even to "be with her" day after day. In your daily routines, where might you be "dancing on the brink" of sin, such as through media, relationships, or environments? What practical steps can you take to ruthlessly eliminate gateways to temptation and pray daily against it (Matthew 6:13)?

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Last time we came together, we looked at Daniel in Babylon, and I

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still want to carry that analogy forward.

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You live in a world that could

call, could be called baby.

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Now we don't live in the ancient

city of Babylon, but even scripture

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carries over the idea that the city

of Babylon will return in a new form.

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Babylon as descriptor and scr in

scripture is meant to show the world

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actively opposing God, Babylon.

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That's what we're working with.

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While we're looking at a new kind of

Babylon and we're looking at a new, a new

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way of living that actively opposes God.

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And what's so challenging about it is

that we're immersed in this culture.

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The culture that we live in actively

opposes God in one major area.

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There's actually several that you

can think of, I'm sure, but this is

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one area where I know you feel it.

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Let's talk a little bit

about our sex saturated world

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and what that means for us.

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Uh, let's take a quick

look at this graphic here.

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If you see this, it says, reported

porn use among Christian men and women.

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This is for people who

claim to be Christian.

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This was done in, you can't see this.

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This is October, 2023.

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Uh, this is a study by Barna.

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Barnard does these kinds of

surveys on a regular basis.

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And so you'll see here that

75% of Christian men, at least

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professing Christian men, 40% of

Christian women report viewing

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pornography at least occasionally.

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Now, that means, uh, I think the

way that they defined occasionally

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was once a month, once every

other month, something like that.

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So, uh, there's daily use, there's weekly

use, there's, there's things like that.

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But the occasional use is the one that

would be, I think, most helpful for us

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because this means that the majority

of men and getting close to, uh.

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A majority of women, at least

a, a, a sizable portion are, are

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viewing this with some regularity.

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Um, well, let's look more at this.

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Uh, this, this is also barna,

these, these colorful graphics.

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Here you see 20, the 20

through the third,:

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Uh, practicing Christians tend

to see porn as bad for society.

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That's a good sign that's promising.

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Overall, do you think that it's

good or a bad thing for our society?

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Practicing Christians will

say 45% would say very bad.

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22% would say somewhat bad.

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22%, neither bad nor good.

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And then the others we, we

don't need to pay attention to.

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But look at that.

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45, 22, 22.

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Majority of Christian men will

say it's bad, but some are saying,

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well, it's just somewhat bad.

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It's not the end of the world.

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It's not terrible for you.

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And others will say, well,

it's neither bad nor good.

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It's hard to know.

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Depends on the context perhaps.

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And then of course others will say

what they will say, but I'm interested

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in that first line practicing.

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Christians will look at

pornography as maybe something

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that's not so bad after all.

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Uh, further here, Christians comfort with

their porn use versus their conviction.

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This is where it gets

even more interesting.

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Um, for practicing Christians,

they answered 49% of them answer.

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I am comfortable with how

much pornography I use.

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49% of practicing Christians

said I'm comfortable with it,

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which means, you know, I'm not

looking to change it necessarily.

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It is what it is.

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I'm gonna let it be what it is.

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That second column here, I wish I didn't

use it as much as I do, but some is okay.

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A number should be zero

for practicing Christians.

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But you'll see here that at least

one out of five men will say,

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well, um, some, some is fine.

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It's tolerable.

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A third column here, I wish I

didn't use pornography at all.

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21%.

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Um, again, if you're a Christian,

that should be the number that we say,

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yes, I wish I didn't use it at all.

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I'm, I'm repenting of it.

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I'm living a life above reproach and

I'm seeking to be removed from that.

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One of the reasons why it pervades

and continues to be pervasive is

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it's probably this right here.

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Most porn users lack accountability.

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You have anyone in your life who's

helping you avoid pornography.

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The survey asks, 14% said yes.

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The vast majority said no.

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Now, here's what you have to

know on this particular question.

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This is US adults.

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This is not necessarily practicing

Christians, you see, but it still shows

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us that for most people, accountability

in this department is considered.

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Challenging, at minimum, maybe

socially awkward, something that

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we don't wanna talk about because

it's so pervasive and so destructive

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and perhaps shameful, rightly so.

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This category here tells us that what men

need most right now is a lot of other men

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who say, look, we're, we're gonna pursue

holiness and God fearing living together.

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And that means that we're going to,

we're gonna be open about these things.

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This sermon is not about pornography.

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But it is about sexual integrity.

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And as I thought about what the sermon

means for all of us, I had to say,

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okay, what is the typical usage of

something that destroys men's integrity?

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And this is gonna be this category here.

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Uh, usually a man doesn't become a

serial adultery without taking mitigating

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steps leading up to the larger sin.

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I don't want you guys to sin by blowing

your marriages or giving yourselves away

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in inappropriate ways and sexual ways.

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I don't want you to go into massage

parlors and asking for happy endings.

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I want you to be men who

are above reproach this.

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These stats tell me where

we are as a culture.

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It doesn't tell me about where we

are as a church, but it gives me an

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idea and, and I've been counseling

men long enough to know that this

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is one of the most difficult and

pernicious sins that men struggle with.

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I don't know where you're at

with this, but I do know that.

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You're, if you have red blood

running through your veins, you

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likely have a sex drive and perhaps

have struggled with this before.

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I remember being a young man struggling

with this and saying, Lord, I'd

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rather not have this if this is the

way that my mind works and my, I'd

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rather just not have a sex drive.

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If it means I'm going to do

things that dishonor you.

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If you know what that feels like,

um, then you're in good company.

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Here's how scripture tells us

to wrestle with these things.

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Uh, of course we're gonna talk about

accountability and openness, but I

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wanna look at the story of Joseph.

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Joseph's gonna give us a really

good picture of what it looks like

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to resist sexual temptation and to

run in the polar opposite direction.

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And sure, there are techniques that I can

give you and I'm gonna give you today.

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I think things that

will be helpful for you.

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But what we really have to wrestle with

is the heart behind Joseph's denial.

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It's one thing for me to

say, Hey, don't do this.

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Don't go to these places late at night.

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Make sure that your computer has this kind

of software on it, and that's helpful.

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Sure.

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But that's not gonna be ultimately.

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It's not gonna ultimately

deliver you from this.

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There has to be something massive that

takes shape in your heart, such that you

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want to say, no more sexual sin, no more

idolatry, no more sexual immorality.

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And that's gonna be the

heart of the sermon.

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So while there's gonna be practices

and techniques, I want to give

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you the heart of the issue.

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But before we get there, let's open

up the story of Genesis chapter 39.

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We're gonna pick up in the

middle of Joseph's story.

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You might know at this point,

Joseph has been sold into slavery.

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He has now been, uh, moved from,

from walking with nomads to now he's,

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he's living in Potiphar's house.

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Potiphar's, a high

ranking Egyptian official.

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Not exactly sure what rank he is or

what, what, why he is what he is.

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But he's a high ranking person.

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He has, uh, he has

authority, he has power.

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He has a kind of prestige that

a lot of people would look for.

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Oh, well one of the things that

God blesses Potter for with is

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Joseph, take a look at chapter 39.

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We're gonna at least get the

gist of what's happening here.

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So I can focus in on verse

seven through 12, but follow

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with me Chapter 39 verse one.

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Now, Joseph had been brought down

to Egypt and Potiphar, an officer

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of Pharaoh, the captain of the

Guard in Egyptian, had brought,

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not bought him from the Ishmaelites

who had brought him down there.

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So he sold, he's handed

off to Potiphar, verse two.

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The Lord was with Joseph and he

became a successful man and he

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was in the house of his Egyptian.

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So he's not just a field slave,

he's a high ranking slave.

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Joseph is shown to be valuable to

pot defer, and so he's not gonna be

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out in the fields doing other things.

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He's in the house, which is the

honorable place to serve as a slave.

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This is where Joseph is Verse three, his

master saw that the Lord was with Joseph.

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Now, the Lord caused all that

he did to succeed in his hands.

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So Joseph found favor in

his site and attended him.

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He made him overseer of his house and

put him in charge of all that he had.

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So now he's not just a house

slave, he's not just honored as

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being a slave within the house.

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He is slave who's in charge of over,

over all the house, and this charge is,

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is put, it puts Poter in a good place

because he says Joseph is trustworthy.

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Look at verse five.

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From that time, he made him overseer

in his house and over all that he had.

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The Lord blessed the Egyptian's

house for Joseph sake.

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A blessing of the Lord was on all

that he had in the house and field.

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Everything that Joseph

touches is being blessed.

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He's got, he's got the

Midas touch here, verse six.

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So Potiphar left all that

he had in Joseph's charge.

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And because of Joseph, he had no concern

about anything but the food he ate.

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So in verse six here, the, the concern

about only food is interesting because

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it's kind of odd that it stands out.

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Why does he give Joseph charge

of everything but not the food?

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And there's two ways to

approach this, either a.

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There's a ceremonial thing that

the Egyptians prefer not to have.

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The, the, the foreigners touch their food.

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And we see a sense of this later on.

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When Joseph, remember his brothers come

to him, they're bowing down to him.

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They have a meal.

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Joseph eats at the other table because

the Egyptians don't eat with the Hebrews.

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That could be it.

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Or the context leans or suggests

that maybe that what he means

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by this is actually his wife.

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And I'll point out, I'll

point out the proof to you.

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For that in a second.

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Carrying on this, this

next paragraph here.

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Now, Joseph was handsome in form

and appearance and after a time

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his master's wife cast her eyes

on Joseph and said, lie with me.

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But he refused and said to his

master's wife, behold, because of

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me, my master has no concern about

anything in the house and he has put

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everything that he has in my charge.

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He is not greater in this house

than I am, nor has he kept back.

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Kept back anything from me except

you because you are his wife.

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There you go.

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Everything he's in charge of except you.

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His food perhaps.

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So maybe the food is a

reference to his wife.

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He's kept everything back.

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He's kept nothing back except for you.

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How then can I do this Great

wickedness and sin against God.

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And as she spoke to Joseph and, and

as she spoke to Joseph Day after

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day, Joseph would not listen to her

to lie beside her or to be with her.

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But one day.

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When he went into the house to do his

work and none of the men of the house

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was there in the house, she caught him

by his garment and said, lie with me.

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But he left his garment in her hand and

he fled and got out of the house, and

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as soon as she saw that he had left his

garment in her hand and had fled out of

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the house, she called to the men of her

household and said to them, see, he has

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brought among us a Hebrew to laugh at us.

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He came into me to lie with me,

and I cried out with a loud voice,

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and as soon as he heard that, I

lifted up my voice and cried out.

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He left his garment beside me and

fled and got out of the house.

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Then she laid up his garment by

her until his master came home.

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That's her husband, and she told her

husband the same story saying, this Hebrew

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servant whom you have brought among us

came in, came into me to laugh at me.

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Mocking playing with her.

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As you know, of course it's

sexual innuendo, but she's saying

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the this young servant that you

brought in, he's mocking us.

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He's laughing at us, he's

making sport of me, verse 18.

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But as soon as I lifted up my voice

and cried, he left his garment

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beside me and fled out of the house.

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As soon as his master heard the words

that his wife spoke to him, this

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is the way your servant treated me.

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His anger was kindled and Joseph's

master took him and put him into prison.

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The place where the king's prisoners

were confined and he was there in

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prison, but the Lord was with Joseph

and showed him steadfast love and gave

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him favor in the side of the keeper

of the prison, and the keeper of the

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prison put Joseph in charge of all

the prisoners who were in the prison.

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Whatever was done there,

he was the one who did it.

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Keeper of the prison, paid no attention

to anything that was in Joseph's charge

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because the Lord was with him and whatever

he did, the Lord made it succeed in this.

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Introductory.

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Well, this is not the intro

in, in this story about Joseph.

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We see a few things.

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We see Joseph's commitment to the Lord.

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We see his resistance against sin, and we

also see Potiphar's wife going after him.

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She cares, she, she not,

doesn't care about him.

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She lusts after him.

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And we see this operative here.

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I wanna focus your attention

starting on verse seven.

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In fact, the second half of verse six.

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But I wanna focus your attention

on a few key details as we start

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to open up verses seven through 12.

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Look at verse six B where

it says now, Joseph.

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Now, Joseph was handsome

in form and appearance.

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This same exact phrase is used

for Rachel in contrast to Leah.

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Now, Rachel was beautiful

in form and appearance.

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It is exactly the same phrase.

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The word yaffe for beautiful

or handsome just means someone

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that's really attractive.

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He is really attractive and not

just attractive in appearance.

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He's not just good to look

at, but he's well built.

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Some might say he's chiseled.

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He is a gifted man.

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God has given him the gift of.

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Just, you know, one of those

people that's like, wow, that

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dude's handsome and he's stacked.

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He's got great muscles and whatever else.

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He's a, he's a standout kind of guy

of the beauty and likeness to Rachel.

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He's a standout guy.

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Now, this gift actually is a, a two edged

sword because in verse seven, notice here,

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after a time, that is after a long period

of time, his master's wife cast her eyes

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on Joseph and said to him, lie with me.

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Now, here's what you have

to know about Joseph.

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He was sold into slavery

about 17 years old.

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At least that's what we find

out in Genesis 37, verse two.

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He's 30 years old when he

begins to serve Pharaoh.

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So we now know that Joseph was sold

at 17 and he was serving Pharaoh

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at 30, which means that time inter

in between is when he's with Poter.

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Can we narrow it down a little further?

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Well, we find out that he's 28 years

old when he's imprisoned by pot.

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Her.

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So somewhere between 17 and

28 is where Joseph is now.

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For most of us, we're gonna

acknowledge this is the pri,

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this is the prime of our lives.

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This is when your body is as

strong as it's ever gonna be.

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This is when you're, you know, you're

gonna be as young and attractive

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as you probably will ever be.

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Hope I'm not offending any of us.

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This is just the reality.

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This is the prime of his life

when she casts her eyes upon him.

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So let's make some observations

then, if this is a high ranking

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official in Pharaoh's house.

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These guys got the best

pick of the land, right?

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And when it came to the ladies, there

was not a shortage of beautiful,

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attractive females for them to choose.

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And so it makes sense that

Potiphar would choose a very

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attractive woman to be his bride.

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We agree with that.

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There's nothing in the

text that says that.

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Just making an observation,

that's likely the case.

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She was probably not a bad

looking woman, is my, is my point.

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Joseph is in the prime of his life.

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She's not a bad looking woman.

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She comes to him and remember,

she is his master's wife.

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His master's wife.

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Which also suggests that she's

got authority over him as well.

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So this woman now looks at Joseph,

and I want you to pay attention here

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to how this actually comes about.

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And verse seven says, after a time

that is over the matriculation of

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time, there's a, there's a growing of

her lust in her heart toward this man.

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And then notice here, after a

time, his master's wife, it's not

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Joseph's wife, it's his master's

wife, she cast her eyes on Joseph.

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Think about the phrasing of that word.

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Cast her eyes.

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That's a decision.

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It's one thing to notice that someone is

attractive, yaffe, beautiful or handsome.

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It's one thing to say, oh, that's

a really attractive person.

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But there's a difference between

saying, oh, I noticed that, versus,

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I'm gonna look at that and I'm

gonna feast upon that with my mind.

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That's what she's doing.

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Potiphar's wife casts her eyes on him.

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There's a decision to say, I'm going to

feed now what feels attracted to you.

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I'm going to enjoy that.

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I'm gonna feast them and maybe I'm maybe

gonna visualize what all that means.

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We see in Potiphar's wife, the

beginning and budding stages of lust.

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Finally, her feasts, uh, the feast

of her eyes can't be satisfied.

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She now has to consume it with her body.

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And so she comes to him

and says, lie with me.

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Come and in, and forsake,

forsake the Lord and lie with me.

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Joseph could have said, well, A, she's

attractive, and B well, she is my master.

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She is my master.

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I should, I should do this.

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This is my master.

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And think about the timing of Genesis 39.

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When do you get the 10 Commandments?

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This is not meant to embarrass you, is it?

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Is it in Genesis?

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Do you get the 10 Commandments?

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In Genesis, you do not.

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10 Commandments doesn't appear

for several hundred years.

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We are in Genesis 39.

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So Joseph doesn't have anything to

point to and say, well, the Bible

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says, you know, he doesn't have that.

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There's no there.

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There is no law of Moses yet.

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Moses isn't even on the scene

until after Joseph is dead.

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So you have Joseph potentially

saying, well, she is my master.

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There's no law that says I can't.

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It's at least nothing from that I've

heard from Yahweh that says, I can't.

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She is attractive.

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Well, maybe this is a gift of

God for all the wrongs that have

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been done to be to this point.

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Joseph doesn't do that.

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He denies it.

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Joseph rejects this, of course,

but I wanna point your attention to

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something that should be obvious to us.

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But sometimes we just forget.

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I want you to see how this.

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The devil uses everything that

could be positive against Joseph.

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The devil was quick to take him and misuse

him and and deliver him to temptation.

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And I want you to do the same.

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I want you to expect that when you are

in a good season of life or whatever

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God is taking you to, actually,

Joseph was not in a good season.

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You should expect temptations

targeted attacks to your life.

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Remember, Joseph is

young, he's attractive.

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Joseph has a sex drive like any

other guy, she comes to him.

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I could, I can imagine that

he would struggle with that.

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Again, he could use all these kinds

of justifications to say, well,

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maybe this is the gift of God.

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Maybe this is the right thing.

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Maybe this is what God wants me to do.

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And yet Joseph recognizes,

no, this is not of the Lord.

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I need you to expect temptations,

targeted attacks, expect that

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temptation is gonna come after you.

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And I don't mean temptation

as a per a persona.

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Uh, the world, the flesh and the

devil are all working against you.

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You expect that.

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Your enemy has time to observe you, to

find your weaknesses and to exploit them.

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In fact, have you guys ever had

this suspicion that your, the ads,

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uh, on, on your phone or the ads

on your Facebook are coming from

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somewhere that aren't exactly good?

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You think maybe your, my

phone is listening to me.

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It was a Washington Post article that

ran a few years ago, uh, trying to dispel

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the myth that your phone is listening to

you and so they have conclusive evidence.

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Your phone is likely not eavesdropping.

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Maybe that's comforting to you, but it

should not be because they actually say

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they have so much more information on you

that that's the least of your concerns.

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Here's the things that they said.

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They're getting such a deep picture

of us as individuals, more so than

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listening to your conversations.

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In other words, the, the ad data

available for you online is so vast

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that they don't need to listen to you.

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All they need to do is

have your wifi network.

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All they need to do is, is have your,

you know, the cookies that track you on

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the different websites, and so they say

in the hypothetical dinner conversation

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that you think they're overhearing.

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Maybe you didn't search the web for

ice skates after your chat, but your

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spouse did over your shared wifi

network and perhaps your home apps, your

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phone apps rather have logged the time

you've spent in or near a skating rink.

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Advertisers could also have bought

information about the age of

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the children in your household.

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All that data could be collated

to, to building a really powerful

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picture of who you are in order

to target you with advertisements.

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And so when it seems like your

phone, or your Facebook or whatever

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else is listening to your phone

conversations, it's not that they're

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actually listening to your soul.

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They're inva invading your privacy

by learning a whole lot of things

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about you, and that information

is sold to the highest bidder.

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What's interesting about that

is that they're really good at

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targeting attacks because they're

observing things about you.

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They observe that you know the

car that you drive, you know the

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apps that you have on your phone.

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They can collate all that data.

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Who do you think has been

doing that the longest though?

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It's not advertisers.

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It is our enemy.

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He's had a lot more time to observe you

than anything your phone has ever done.

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In fact, advertisers are

just late to the game.

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The devil's been doing this

for all time in eternity.

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Well, it's not exactly true.

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Not eternity.

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He's not, he's not an eternal

being, but you get my point.

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He's had a long time to watch you.

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There are, I'm sure demons assigned

to our church that are said, just

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go watch them, see what they're

doing, see what their weaknesses

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are, listen to their conversations.

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Find ways to exploit them.

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If you ever read screw tape letters,

uh, screw tapes, letters from CS

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Lewis, that's well worth your time.

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It's hard to read 'cause you

have to kind of do the reverse

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and say, okay, this is not God.

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This is the opposite of God.

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Read that and I think you, you, you

get a clear picture of how, how the

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spiritual word world tends to work.

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There are three areas that

I want you to be aware of.

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Three targeted areas of, of

the phone, not the phone.

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The devil attacking you.

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These are huge.

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Um, I got the ideas for these three

areas from Costen Berger, but I need

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to give you my own spin on them.

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He, he offers them in the

context of his book on marriage.

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Lemme give you a couple of these though.

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Number one, of course, sexual temptation.

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There's never a time in your

life I think that you can

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never let your guard down here.

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Sexual temptation is gonna be one of

those areas that you should expect

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the devil to use things against you

because you're a visual creature.

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You're designed by God

to have a sex drive.

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It's his good gift to you.

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And you should expect that This is

always going to present a challenge

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for you unless God makes you a eunuch.

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And you know, when I was a young man, I

used to pray, God, please take this away.

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I used to pray this.

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God, please, I'd rather not have this.

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Um, I realize now that's

a foolish thing to ask.

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I don't want that.

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I want the good gift, man.

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I'd rather not sin, but

I want the good gift.

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I wanna enjoy the good

gift that God has given me.

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And I'm sure you do too.

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You need to be aware that one of

the areas a devil will attack you

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is in the area of your sex life.

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Um, let me just open the kimono with

you and talk a little bit about some of

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the counseling sessions that I've had.

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Obviously no names here.

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Um, you probably haven't talked

to a man who's married, who

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struggles to perform for his wife,

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doesn't know why he's perfectly healthy.

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But if you dig below the

surface, you might uncover that.

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He spent a lot of time with pornography,

spent a lot of time with pornography,

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and so his mind struggles now to be

attracted to his not so attractive wife.

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I mean, she's not, she's not gonna

be someone on a cover of a magazine.

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You know, you're not gonna

see her on an advertisement.

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She's just ordinary, and he now

struggles to feel the strong attraction

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that is necessary for that performance

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when he does.

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He struggles to take it

all the way he could.

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He could get the car started, as

it were, but struggle to get to the

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destination and the car loses gas.

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We're tracking with what I'm saying here.

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One of the worst satanic attacks

that we are facing today is this

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ongoing feeding of our sexual

proclivities with pornography.

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Our young men are facing it.

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We're facing it.

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We know what this is like.

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You just have to know this is

something that the devil is

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using against your marriages.

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Your kids' marriages.

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This is an area that you

have to guard and protect.

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You are the one that God has

called to protect your home.

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That means protecting your own heart.

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That means making sure that you are not

giving yourself to these things, and

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then telling your sons and your daughters

and your grandkids, Hey, don't do this.

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Do as I say, don't, don't do as I do.

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You know, speaking of a, a husband and

wife engaging in physical intimacy, I

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want you to write down one Corinthians

seven, five, right this down.

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You're gonna, I'll have you look at

it later, but here's what it says.

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First Corinthians seven, five.

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Do not deprive one another except

perhaps by agreement for a limited

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time that you may devote yourselves

to prayer, but then come together

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again so that Satan may not tempt you

because of your lack of self-control.

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First Corinthians seven, five tells

you married men, that you are to

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give your wife her conjugal rights.

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You are to give them to her.

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You're to perform in this area.

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This is, this is your obligation.

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In fact, scripture, this is one of

the only places, and this is the only

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place Scripture says You have rights.

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You have rights.

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Your right is to receive your

conjugal rights from your wife.

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Her right is to receive her

conjugal rights from you.

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You are commanded to give

your wife what's hers?

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This is, this is something

I can't overstate.

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Uh, I've, I've canceled couples

and we've talked to other

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pastors who counsel couples who.

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It just doesn't happen.

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It doesn't happen for a lot of reasons.

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You know, there's busyness and there's,

there's seasons of life where there we

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can't find time and all, you know, things.

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One month turns into two, turns into

six, and then suddenly it's like,

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well, we don't really need to, I

don't feel the attraction anymore.

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Like, we've got our, our got

our plans working, you know,

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we're getting our jobs done.

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This is an area you have to protect.

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You have to protect this,

and you have to pursue this.

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This has to be an ongoing

practice of your life.

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If you're married, this is

something you have to do.

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It's can imagine a single guy hearing

this saying you have to pursue your wife.

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Yeah.

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When you're young, you don't

even think that this is an,

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this is gonna be an issue.

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Um, but as you know, as you get older,

things change, plumbing changes.

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Uh, you have to, you have

to do the work though.

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This is something God calls us to.

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This is a right and

good thing for us to do.

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You have to pursue this.

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God gives you the opportunity.

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You have to do it.

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At some point, things change.

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You're not able to anymore.

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I get that.

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This is one area you need to be aware of.

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Relational, uh, sexual temptations.

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Relational temptations.

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Can I tell you one of the,

the tools of the enemy?

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Um, and obviously we're talking about

sexual morality here, but one of the

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tools of the enemy is to isolate you.

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And so one way to isolate you and get you

bored and figuring like, what do I do now?

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And I have friends I hang out with.

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I'm just gonna go look at porn,

um, or I'm gonna pursue this

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relationship on this, you know, this.

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Nefarious website.

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One of the ways that the devil does

that is by isolating you from other men.

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And so I'm glad you're here.

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I'm preaching to the choir.

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This is good.

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I'm glad you guys are here.

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But if the devil can get you by

yourself, left to your own devices,

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this then frees you to do things

with a slightly less loud conscience.

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'cause I don't have you

to tell me this is wrong.

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I don't have you confronting me.

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I don't have anyone asking

me, Hey, how's your pro?

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How's your browsing going?

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How's your marriage going?

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How's your intimacy going?

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I mean, that's not the question

we ask each other, but maybe

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it's a question we should start.

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We should start investing time to ask.

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You can't ask this to everybody.

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I know that you can't ask anybody in the

room, Hey, how's your sex life going?

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But you could say, I care

about you and not say How.

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How's your heart?

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How's your walk with Christ?

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What does it look like?

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Uh, you're single.

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You're single right now.

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How?

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How is, how is your sexual

purity in your singleness?

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Um.

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This is the area where we have to

care for for each other enough to say,

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look, I'm gonna risk offending you

and potentially hurting your feelings

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when I talk about these things.

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Relational temptations are

those that the church is

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a uniquely susceptible to because our job

is to be in each other's kitchen, and when

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that happens, the risk that I possess here

is that you, you get mad at me for that.

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Even as your pastor,

my job is to call you.

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If I send something's up,

my job is to call you.

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You should expect if things are

going wrong in your life, one of

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your pastors is gonna find out

about it and they're gonna call you.

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You know how much trepidation

I feel about that?

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'cause like he's, I'm gonna get him

mad, he's gonna be upset, he's gonna

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leave our church because he's not gonna

appreciate the fact that he's being

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called to the, the mad about something.

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The relational temptations that

are part of this whole equation are

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legion, and all I'm saying here is

that you should expect this targeted

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attack because of where you are.

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The devil doesn't want you

to be part of a church.

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Devil doesn't want you to have godly

friends who call you to the mat.

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The devil doesn't want you to pray

with other Godly men so that you

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can guard your marriage and love

your wife and lead your kids.

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Of course, he doesn't want that, so he's

gonna bring you by herself, put you in

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isolation so that you'll focus on other

things, fleshly temptations or just

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disassociating from the church altogether.

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The targeted attack for you may

not look the same as Joseph.

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You may not be a strapping young

man with bulging muscles, but

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you're a husband, you're a father.

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Those are areas that God.

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Will want you to expect that the, the

enemy will attack you in if you're single,

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:

you should expect the enemy to attack

you in your singleness and to lure you

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:

and say, well, you're not married yet.

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It's fine.

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It's fine.

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There are some images

that you'll never forget.

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Relationships for those in the

room who are married, marriage

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:

temptations, there's a lot of them.

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I thought about this given the fact that

there's a lot of singles in the room,

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but I, I think marriage is so important.

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Hebrews chapter 13 tells us that

marriage should be held in honor

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among all, not just the marriage.

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Marriage should be held in

honor among our congregation.

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There are unique temptations that come

with marriage and it's a good thing.

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So we should expect the targeted

attacks of the enemy to try

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to break our marriages apart.

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Um, marriage temptations for you

would be anger, unforgiveness,

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bitterness, a wife that will not

submit, a husband that will not lead.

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:

These are areas where you need to

recognize that God is going to hold

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us accountable for these areas.

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In fact, verse Peter, chapter three,

we're gonna get to it in a couple

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months, I believe, where Peter says,

your relationship with God can be

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disrupted because you're not showing

honor to the woman as the weaker vessel.

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You're not caring for her the way

that God calls for, and therefore,

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:

he's not gonna listen to your prayers.

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:

You need to expect targeted attacks

from temptation, from your enemy,

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the world, the flesh, and the devil.

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:

That's what happened to Joseph.

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That's what's gonna happen to you.

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:

It's part of the story here.

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:

Let's continue on the

next few verses here.

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Let's take a look at how Joseph

responds to this, and this, of course,

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is one of the reasons why we're

studying this in the first place.

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Take a look at verse

eight, Genesis chapter 39.

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If you have your Bibles, look,

look along with me, please.

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I love this, but he refused.

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Let's just take a moment to honor that.

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This attractive woman's coming

up on him, but he refused.

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And I want you to pay special

attention to what he says.

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:

Take.

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Take a look at here.

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He said to his master's wife,

again acknowledging that

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:

she doesn't belong to him.

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She belongs to Potiphar.

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It's says Master's wife.

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Behold, because of me, my master has

no concern about anything in the house.

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And he has put in, he's put

everything that he has in my charge.

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He is not greater in this house than I

am, nor has he kept back anything from

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me except you, because you are his wife.

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:

As though she needed the

rationale to understand, and

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:

I guess that is a point here.

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:

Lust does make you stupid.

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Lust and sin is not sanity.

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It's not sensical.

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This is why we, we go after each other

because we know we're just, and sin.

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We're not sane.

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He hasn't kept back anything from me

except you, because you are his wife.

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Now, I want you to pay attention

to this last sentence because it's

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the opposite of what you'd expect.

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:

It's an ironic twist.

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:

You expect something, but

you're gonna get another thing.

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And that's what emphasizes

this verse among the rest.

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:

Okay?

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Pay attention, I'll read it the way

that we expect it, and then you'll

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:

read it the way that it's there.

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:

Here's the way that we're gonna

expect, let, let me back up just so

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:

I can give you the sense of this.

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Um, because of me, my master

has no concern about anything.

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He's not greater in this house than I am.

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:

He's not kept back anything

except, uh, from you, except

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kept back anything from me.

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Except you because you're his wife.

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How then can I do this great

wickedness and sin against my master?

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:

Do you see it?

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:

Where you would expect

him to say, my master.

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He says, my master.

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:

So this whole time Joseph is

giving her a litany of reasons.

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My master's authority, my master's

trust, my man, my master's care,

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:

everything my master's given me.

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:

I, man, how could I, how

could I dishonor my master?

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:

And yet he doesn't say that.

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:

He says, how can I do this great

wickedness and sin against God?

685

:

This, this verse is in neon blinking

flashing lights in the Bible.

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:

Because it goes in a completely different

direction than what you're expecting.

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:

It's like going on a rollercoaster.

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:

You expect it to go right, and it twists.

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:

You left and you're like,

whoa, I wasn't expecting that.

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:

You got whiplash.

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:

That's what's happening here.

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:

Moses, who we believe to have written

the Pentateuch is writing to highlight

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:

off the page what drove Joseph.

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:

What drove Joseph to say no

to this great wickedness.

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:

While it was his high view of God,

his honor for God, everything leading

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:

up to that one sentence is my master.

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:

My master, my master.

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:

But then he reveals his true master.

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:

And he says, I could.

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:

I could never do this against

God, my sin against God.

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:

So temptation will come.

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:

The question is, will you be ready?

703

:

And I want you to do at least a little

bit of what Joseph does, and I want you to

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:

list the reasons why sin is very stupid.

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:

List the reasons why sin is very stupid.

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:

Actually, I put enumerate

'cause I wanna be fancy.

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Number a system.

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:

Number two, enumerate the

reasons why sin is very stupid.

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:

I dunno about you, but in my house,

stupid is not a word that we encourage.

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:

It's close to a cuss word.

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:

In my family, we only allow our kids

to use it when it's appropriate.

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:

So I hope you understand.

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:

I'm not trying to be, I'm not

trying to, uh, insult you.

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:

Uh, I'm just trying to help you understand

here, I'm not using this word casually.

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:

I, I don't think stupid is a helpful word.

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:

Most of the time we, we don't

tell our kids to use it, but I

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:

wanna use it with you guys and

I think all of us would agree.

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:

Sin is very stupid.

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:

But rarely do we take the time

to do what Joseph does here.

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:

He's got a list of, I can find elements,

things that he says to Potiphar's

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:

wife to diffuse the situation.

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:

At least in his mind, I don't even

know if she's talking to her as

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:

much as he is talking to himself.

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:

He's saying, look, my master.

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:

Has no concern.

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:

I've got my master's trust,

I've got my master's charge.

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:

I've got my master's

position and authority.

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:

I've got my master's generosity, and

I really care about King Jesus Honor.

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:

I mean, obviously it's an anachronism

here, but you get the idea.

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:

He has a list at the ready to pull out

whenever temptation comes along, do you,

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:

do you have a list ready to pull out?

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:

When temptation comes along, you need to

have something in your heart and mind.

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:

You need to have a list of reasons why

sin is very stupid, at least one practice.

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:

You spend time doing this, you're

journaling you and the Lord.

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:

What would happen to

my life if I did this?

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:

What's the fallout of my sin

against my wife, my kids, my church?

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:

This began a fallout.

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:

Um, we recently passed the 80 year mark

where the, the first atomic bombs are drop

739

:

dropped on, uh, Hiroshima and Nagasaki.

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:

So time, uh, time Magazine

produced an article.

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:

From, from survivors of the fallout.

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:

This is gnarly.

743

:

I mean, they have little stories

from people, uh, little anecdotes

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:

about what it was like to experience

the fallout of an atomic bomb.

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:

Here's Yasujiro Tanaka.

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:

Let me just read to you

briefly what he says.

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I was three years old at

the time of the bombing.

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I don't remember much, but I do

recall that my surroundings turned

749

:

blindingly white, like a million

camera flashes going off at once Then.

750

:

Pitch darkness.

751

:

I was buried alive under the house.

752

:

I've been told.

753

:

When my uncle finally found me and

pulled my tiny 3-year-old body out from

754

:

under the debris, I was unconscious.

755

:

My face was misshapen.

756

:

He was certain that I was dead.

757

:

Thankfully, I survived.

758

:

But since that day, mysterious scabs began

to form all over my body, I lost hearing

759

:

in my left ear, probably due to the blast.

760

:

More than a decade after the bombing,

my mother began to notice glass shards

761

:

growing out of her skin debris from

the day of the bombing, presumably.

762

:

My younger sister suffers from

chronic muscle cramps to this day

763

:

on top of her kidney issues that has

her on dialysis three times a week.

764

:

That's what that says, I'm told.

765

:

So that's a translation for you.

766

:

You know, I suspect that if we were able

to see the fallout from sexual sin as

767

:

easily as the fallout of an atomic bomb,

we would probably more eagerly fight it.

768

:

You can see the fallout of an atomic bomb.

769

:

Its physical effects

are, are, are terrifying.

770

:

The disfigurement of the bodies and you

can even today still see black and white

771

:

images of people's bodies that were

charred, charred to a, I mean, to a crisp.

772

:

You could see this, you could see the

fallout, and yet with sexual sin, I would

773

:

argue the fallout is actually worse.

774

:

Spiritually speaking, it's not a physical

fallout, but the spiritual effects

775

:

of sexual sin are so pernicious, so

evil, and so far reaching that we'd

776

:

be crazy not to give it attention.

777

:

So here's what I wanna do for you.

778

:

Um, as you think about this, I'm

going to ask you to, to do a, a little

779

:

bit of a, a practice with me here.

780

:

I want you to envision something and got

this idea from a book that I recently

781

:

read on the subject of sexual purity.

782

:

And I thought, oh, this is so good,

it's so helpful, I wanna give it to you.

783

:

Okay?

784

:

So I want you in your mind's

eye to envision what this

785

:

might look like for you.

786

:

You have just committed some kind

of sin against your, your wife,

787

:

your kids, your family, your

grandkids, something like this.

788

:

Sorry about that.

789

:

Okay, let me take you

through this scenario.

790

:

Envision yourself calling together,

your elders, your pastors, and sitting

791

:

in their midst and telling them

how you have betrayed their trust.

792

:

See their sunken faces and

feel their broken hearts.

793

:

Listen to them.

794

:

Consider how they'll tell your

community group and the church, and

795

:

then imagine your brothers and sisters'

confusion and how it will affect

796

:

those with whom you've done life with.

797

:

Imagine how the name of Christ will be

mocked in your community and beyond.

798

:

Then picture walking out

to your car and getting in.

799

:

Drive down the road near your house and

circle your neighborhood a few times.

800

:

Picture the place where you walked

your dog, where you walked with

801

:

your wife, and where you played

with your children in the evenings.

802

:

Now pull into your driveway or your garage

and walk up to the door of your house.

803

:

Hear the scampering feet of your

children running up to you and putting

804

:

their arms around your legs saying,

daddy's home in your mind's eye.

805

:

See the way they love and they trust you.

806

:

Drink that in deeply.

807

:

Now, tell your kids to go play

outside because you have to

808

:

talk to mommy about something.

809

:

And as you walk to the kitchen where

she's faithfully going about her day,

810

:

serving you dinner, preparing the

meals, look at the smiling pictures

811

:

on the wall, and remember the happy

days that you shared together.

812

:

Lead her by the hand to your

bedroom where you used to make love.

813

:

Ask her to have a seat and feel your heart

scamper and the lump form on your throat.

814

:

See her eyes asking what's wrong.

815

:

And then watch her weep as you tell

her that you've been unfaithful.

816

:

Hear her whale.

817

:

See her sob.

818

:

Feel her hip your chest and watch her

knees fall to the floor in despair.

819

:

Imagine the phone call to

her parents and to yours.

820

:

Hear the silence on the phone as

they take in what you've told them.

821

:

Imagine the day you gather your

children and sit them down to explain

822

:

why mommy and daddy are going to spend

some time apart and why you have to

823

:

sell the house that they love so much.

824

:

See yourself taking down those

smiling pictures from the wall,

825

:

taping up the moving boxes, unsure

if you'll ever open them again.

826

:

Do you see that?

827

:

I hope this helpful visualizing

activity gives you a sense of the

828

:

gravity of sexual sin and its effects

on the lives of those around you.

829

:

I know for some of you, this

is not the same season of life.

830

:

I get that.

831

:

What then is our solution?

832

:

How do we, how do we deal with this?

833

:

I, I would love for you to

think about all the things.

834

:

If that could happen, if you give yourself

to sin like this, I mean, all you gotta,

835

:

all you gotta do guys, is look at the

Dallas News and you'll see pastor after

836

:

pastor after I am grieved by this pastor

after pastor, men who are disgraced,

837

:

walking away from their congregations

because they gave themselves a sexual sin.

838

:

I hate that.

839

:

I hate it.

840

:

Psalm 1 0 3 says that word to bless the

Lord and forget not all of his benefits.

841

:

This is partly where this comes

from, or blessing the Lord and

842

:

saying, well, I don't wanna forget

the things that you've given me.

843

:

I don't wanna forget the way

that you've designed my life.

844

:

I have a great life.

845

:

I have a great wife and kids.

846

:

They're not perfect.

847

:

Sure, but thank you, God for

giving me all these things.

848

:

Thank you for giving me all these gifts.

849

:

Joseph ends where I need you to to begin.

850

:

He says, how can I do this great

wickedness in sin against God?

851

:

This is the secret to our sexual purity.

852

:

This is the heart of our ability to

stand against the schemes of the enemy.

853

:

And it is simply this, that we love

God so much that we hate our sin.

854

:

We hate sin.

855

:

I love God so much that this, the

idea of sinning against God is so

856

:

pernicious, so repulsive, so repugnant

that I can't even fathom the idea.

857

:

I love God so much.

858

:

I just hate my sin.

859

:

That's where we gotta be.

860

:

That's where we have to be, gentlemen.

861

:

This is what, this is what's

gonna cause us to live faithfully.

862

:

This is what's gonna cause us

to, to love our church, to love

863

:

Christ, and to continue doing the

things that we're called to do.

864

:

Otherwise, what man among us could

withstand that kind of temptation.

865

:

I dare say not many, but here God shows us

the thing that drives Joseph is not just

866

:

that he has his masters responsibility,

trust, and all, all his generous gifts.

867

:

He's saying, but I could never

do this wickedness against God

868

:

who gave me all these good gifts.

869

:

God is the one that our hearts

have to circle to circle around.

870

:

Okay.

871

:

Time is of the essence here.

872

:

Let's continue on verses 10 through 12.

873

:

I, I want you to see then how the,

how the response is helpful to us.

874

:

Verse 10, and as she spoke to Joseph

Day after day notice, she wasn't,

875

:

she, she was very persistent.

876

:

She didn't give up after

the first rejection.

877

:

He, she spoke to him day after day.

878

:

He would not listen to.

879

:

To lie beside her or to be with her.

880

:

But one day when she went into the

house to do his work, when he went

881

:

into the house to do his work and

none of the men in the house was

882

:

there in the house, she caught him

by his garment saying Lie with me.

883

:

But he left his garment in her hand

and fled and got out of the house.

884

:

So many good things here.

885

:

First of all, notice that Joseph

withstands her temptations day after day.

886

:

This is what got Samson in trouble.

887

:

Delilah, day after day said, tell

me the secret of your strength.

888

:

And eventually his soul was

vexed to death is what it says.

889

:

It's fine.

890

:

I'll tell you.

891

:

He gives in, and then of

course, his life is lost.

892

:

As a result of that, Joseph consequently

could have given in and we, we may not

893

:

even hold that against him, of course,

who could withstand that, and yet he would

894

:

withstand her advances day after day.

895

:

But one day, verse 11 says, one day.

896

:

He finds himself at the wrong

place at the wrong time.

897

:

She catches him.

898

:

And it's interesting here, the word

for caught, the one that she says here,

899

:

caught him by his garment is the same

word that's used in Deuteronomy 22 that

900

:

describes the violation of a virgin.

901

:

If you catch my drift.

902

:

It's a word that's used

for something else.

903

:

She catches him in order

to consume him physically.

904

:

He escapes and he leaves

his cloak behind, of course.

905

:

Then she tells her her husband,

look at what he's done.

906

:

This is the second time in

Joseph's life where his clothes

907

:

are used to lie about him.

908

:

Interesting.

909

:

But here's the thing I

think we see in Joseph.

910

:

One of the things that we can take

away from this experience that he

911

:

has is that he does everything he can

to put temptation far away from him.

912

:

Now he only has so much control

because he's a slave in the house.

913

:

But I wanna take that lesson

for us and we'll put everything

914

:

else here underneath that point.

915

:

Number three, I want you to

draw the battle lines far from

916

:

temptation, not on the edge.

917

:

Draw the battle lines far.

918

:

Not on the edge.

919

:

There's freedom here.

920

:

There's wisdom involved.

921

:

You can make a lot of choices for

yourself about where you go, how you

922

:

spend your money, what kind of, you

know, what kind of place you go to

923

:

get a massage if that's your thing.

924

:

You get to make decisions.

925

:

But my encourag encouragement from you,

from Joseph's life is, Hey man, don't

926

:

put, don't put the battle lines so close

that you could almost trip and fall over.

927

:

As I thought about that, it reminded

me, uh, one of the most dangerous things

928

:

that I've done, which is I took little

ones to the West Rim of the Grand Canyon.

929

:

My kids were small at this point, and we

went to this place called the Horseshoe.

930

:

I colloquially named the horseshoe.

931

:

But you'll notice here it's

a grass, uh, not grass.

932

:

It's glass grass would be more scary.

933

:

It's a glass, horseshoe shaped,

uh, window that you're walking

934

:

on where you look down like six,

6,000 feet or something like that.

935

:

I forget how tall it is, but you

go here, you, you, you walk on this

936

:

thing, you see how far up you are.

937

:

Terrifying.

938

:

In fact, after going on

this horseshoe thing.

939

:

I felt more concerned about keeping

my kids nearby 'cause now I could

940

:

see how far the thing goes down.

941

:

So when we passed our way through this, on

the other side of this, uh, I don't know

942

:

what, on this side there's a lot of empty

space where there are no fences or gates.

943

:

It's just the Grand Canyon.

944

:

So I kept my kids really close

and I said, Hey, stay with me.

945

:

Don't go near the edge.

946

:

Stay with me.

947

:

Stop running away, Tabitha, stay with me.

948

:

I kept on keep, I kept him close.

949

:

I knew the dangers were severe,

so I kept him really close.

950

:

There are dangers that are severe

dangers that we need to be aware of

951

:

that will keep us close from sin and

not, and not dancing on the edge of it.

952

:

Thomas Brooks, he wrote a book called

Precious Remedies Against Satan's Devices.

953

:

I highly commend that to you.

954

:

He said he who will be so bold.

955

:

In fact, here I have it

for you on the screen.

956

:

I forgot.

957

:

He who will be so bold as to attempt to

dance upon the brink of the pit may find.

958

:

Woeful experience that it is a

righteous thing with God that

959

:

he should fall into the pit.

960

:

In other words, if you're tempting God

by dancing on the edge of the cliff,

961

:

don't be surprised if God lets you fall

over, is what Thomas Brooks is saying.

962

:

And I wanna commend that to you

as a, as a really helpful thought.

963

:

Let us not play with fire and

pretend we won't get burned.

964

:

That's another way to put.

965

:

I need you to draw the

battle lines far from sin.

966

:

First of all, let's not take a day off.

967

:

Joseph couldn't take a day off.

968

:

Her persistence was day after day.

969

:

She came after him without relent.

970

:

She was going for him after.

971

:

I mean, and she's seducing him.

972

:

So she's not just being

passive about this.

973

:

She's going after the guy

in a multitude of ways.

974

:

I'm sure day after day temptation doesn't

take a day off, and neither should we.

975

:

I need you to feel the sense that

temptation is always watching after you.

976

:

In fact, one of the things

that Jesus asked you to pray.

977

:

This lead us not into temptation.

978

:

How often does he want you to pray?

979

:

That?

980

:

Always when the disciples ask him, Jesus,

how should we, you know, how do we pray?

981

:

He says, okay, our Father, and

he goes through the prayer at

982

:

the end, he says, and pray this.

983

:

Lead us not into a temptation,

but deliver us from evil.

984

:

This is how Jesus wants you to pray, and

until you're fully delivered from this

985

:

bondage of sin and death in your body,

you're always gonna be susceptible.

986

:

Okay.

987

:

More to say about that.

988

:

But let's just go on here.

989

:

Don't, don't take a day

off close gateways to sin.

990

:

Uh, Joseph did everything

he could, uh, to avoid her.

991

:

In fact, in in verse 10, the second half

of verse 10, it says, uh, as she spoke to

992

:

him day after day, he would not listen to

her to lie beside her or even be with her.

993

:

He wouldn't even be with the woman.

994

:

I don't wanna be anywhere near you.

995

:

I'm not gonna lie beside you.

996

:

I'm not gonna be near you.

997

:

I'm just gonna, I'm

gonna be somewhere else.

998

:

I'm gonna be on the

other side of the house.

999

:

If I can avoid you, I will.

:

00:45:42,875 --> 00:45:45,875

He does everything he can to avoid

being around this woman, and I would

:

00:45:45,875 --> 00:45:49,234

love for you to do the same, close off

the gateways that lead you into sin.

:

00:45:49,444 --> 00:45:50,525

This is not what Jesus said.

:

00:45:50,734 --> 00:45:52,685

If your right eye cause you

to sin, what did you say?

:

00:45:53,555 --> 00:45:54,725

Cut it off, Guse it out.

:

00:45:54,725 --> 00:45:56,495

Do anything you can to avoid the sin.

:

00:45:57,095 --> 00:45:58,535

Run far away from that.

:

00:45:58,685 --> 00:46:03,185

Never allow yourself to be near where sin

can spark and, and take over your heart.

:

00:46:05,915 --> 00:46:10,865

Third, don't tolerate little

sins, don't tolerate little sins.

:

00:46:12,875 --> 00:46:15,365

She says to to Joseph, lie with me.

:

00:46:15,395 --> 00:46:16,145

He says, no.

:

00:46:16,475 --> 00:46:19,265

She says, in that case,

how about just be with me?

:

00:46:20,404 --> 00:46:21,725

It's a mitigating step, right?

:

00:46:21,875 --> 00:46:23,615

She tries to attempt him by compromising.

:

00:46:23,615 --> 00:46:25,234

Well, if you weren't, if you're not

gonna lie with me, if you're not gonna

:

00:46:25,444 --> 00:46:28,115

have a relation with me, how about

just, just lay with me right here.

:

00:46:28,805 --> 00:46:30,845

Be with me and we'll talk about things.

:

00:46:31,549 --> 00:46:33,589

She knows what she's doing

and he knows what she's doing.

:

00:46:34,459 --> 00:46:37,700

He won't even tolerate a little

sin, A little compromise, and let

:

00:46:37,700 --> 00:46:38,839

me encourage you to do the same.

:

00:46:39,349 --> 00:46:41,089

You know your heart well

enough, or at least you should.

:

00:46:41,660 --> 00:46:45,019

When your sin is trying to find

a reason to justify some kind

:

00:46:45,019 --> 00:46:49,399

of illicit activity like Joseph,

don't tolerate even a little sin.

:

00:46:50,329 --> 00:46:53,180

In fact, one Puritan said this way,

indeed there is no little sin because

:

00:46:53,180 --> 00:46:55,729

there is no little God to sin against.

:

00:46:56,390 --> 00:46:59,539

Every sin against God is a high

handed sin against the Lord.

:

00:47:01,265 --> 00:47:05,195

Recall David's descent, second

Samuel 11, David's descent began

:

00:47:05,585 --> 00:47:06,665

with, I'm just not gonna go to war.

:

00:47:07,385 --> 00:47:08,285

I'm just gonna sit back here.

:

00:47:08,285 --> 00:47:09,155

You guys got this.

:

00:47:09,185 --> 00:47:12,125

And then a decision to

say, I'm not going to war.

:

00:47:12,215 --> 00:47:16,115

Turned into a decision just to

look, to look at the woman and that

:

00:47:16,115 --> 00:47:22,835

look fostered lust, leading him to

take her and beyond that to murder.

:

00:47:22,835 --> 00:47:23,705

Uriah, her husband.

:

00:47:26,945 --> 00:47:28,025

Here's where this is hard, gentlemen.

:

00:47:28,685 --> 00:47:31,565

We live in a day where

sexual sin is rampant.

:

00:47:31,565 --> 00:47:32,165

It's pervasive.

:

00:47:32,165 --> 00:47:36,634

You guys might have seen that Netflix is

promoting sexual sin to kids, um, trying

:

00:47:36,634 --> 00:47:41,225

to, trying to win their affection to the

cause of, uh, same sex attraction and

:

00:47:41,225 --> 00:47:42,785

transgendered ideology, things like that.

:

00:47:42,995 --> 00:47:45,125

What we're experiencing is

what's called the Overton Window.

:

00:47:45,785 --> 00:47:46,745

You know what the Overton Window is?

:

00:47:47,194 --> 00:47:50,524

Overton Window is designed by a guy

named Joseph Overton who said that within

:

00:47:50,524 --> 00:47:55,504

the realm of political discourse, there

is an accepted area of conversation.

:

00:47:55,504 --> 00:47:56,435

That's the Overton window.

:

00:47:57,095 --> 00:48:02,104

That window can shift left or right

depending on who's pushing the window.

:

00:48:02,944 --> 00:48:08,794

In other words, what's acceptable and

popular and is able to be public policy.

:

00:48:09,694 --> 00:48:10,954

This is the Overton window.

:

00:48:11,345 --> 00:48:13,504

But someone can say, well, let

me, let me add something that's

:

00:48:13,504 --> 00:48:15,124

sensible but not necessarily popular.

:

00:48:15,124 --> 00:48:17,704

Now I can shift the window, right,

or it can shift the window left.

:

00:48:17,914 --> 00:48:21,664

Just think about 20 years ago, same

sex attraction and, and homosexual

:

00:48:21,664 --> 00:48:23,285

behavior was not what it is today.

:

00:48:23,285 --> 00:48:25,924

It is now accepted,

embraced, and celebrated.

:

00:48:27,515 --> 00:48:30,035

My, my grandparents would

be mortified at this.

:

00:48:30,605 --> 00:48:31,475

I mean, I'm mortified.

:

00:48:31,475 --> 00:48:32,705

I can't believe how quickly

things have changed.

:

00:48:32,705 --> 00:48:35,495

That's because the Overton window, things

that are acceptable, have been shifted.

:

00:48:37,055 --> 00:48:38,540

We cannot allow this to

take place in our hearts.

:

00:48:39,245 --> 00:48:41,975

What's what we're talking about

politically here happens spiritually.

:

00:48:42,004 --> 00:48:44,584

We become desensitized to sin

such that we no longer see it.

:

00:48:44,765 --> 00:48:47,075

We're no longer bothered when we see

sin on the, on the screen or when

:

00:48:47,075 --> 00:48:48,904

we see sin out in the in the wild.

:

00:48:49,205 --> 00:48:51,725

Our job then is to say, I need to

be aware of these things and make

:

00:48:51,725 --> 00:48:55,055

sure that my opinion of something

is not being shifted by popular

:

00:48:55,055 --> 00:48:56,825

opinion, but by, but by scripture.

:

00:48:57,095 --> 00:48:59,975

I need scripture to guide me and

tell me what is popular, what

:

00:48:59,975 --> 00:49:01,504

is acceptable, what is right.

:

00:49:01,910 --> 00:49:03,890

Don't let the Overton

window work against you.

:

00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:07,789

So we can't tolerate little sins,

and as we see in Joseph's example,

:

00:49:07,789 --> 00:49:09,289

we need to flee sexual immorality.

:

00:49:09,529 --> 00:49:11,240

There are some things that

God tells us to run from.

:

00:49:11,269 --> 00:49:12,289

One of them is idolatry.

:

00:49:12,289 --> 00:49:15,140

The other one is this

flee sexual immorality.

:

00:49:15,289 --> 00:49:17,240

There are some things God doesn't

want you to stand and fight.

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He doesn't want you just to sit

around and say, well, let me just

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see if I can knock this thing out

by, by standing up against it.

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Maybe.

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I'm sure there's a couple Christians in

the world who have done this successfully,

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but scripture says, one Corinthians

six 18, flee from sexual immorality.

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Flee from it.

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Every other sin a person commits is

outside the body, but the sexually

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immoral person sins against his own body.

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This is an especially pernicious sin.

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All sins send you to hell,

but some sins are heavier and

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weightier and far more destructive,

and this is one of those sins.

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As I close here, I just wanna remind

you what people have said before.

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Alexander McLaren said

The best advertisement of

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Christianity is a good life.

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People read us a great deal more than

they read the Bible, and that's true.

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But I have to ask where where

does a good life come from?

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Where does a good life come from?

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A good life comes from a good

heart, a good heart, and a good

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heart has a good love mobilizing

it, a good love that drives it.

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And the kind of love that God warns

us against is the love of the world.

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Do not love the world.

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If anyone loves the world, love of

the Father's, not in him, the way that

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we love God, or lack love for God is

going to either win us or lose us.

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The battle against sexual

temptation, Thomas Chalmers.

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Um, who wrote, this is a sermon

I commend this book to you.

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It's a short book.

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Um, it's probably a 45 minute read, maybe

an hour 'cause it was from a sermon.

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His short book said this.

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This is basically the sum summarization

of his book, of his sermon called The

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Explosive Power of a New Affection.

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The best way of casting out an

impure affection is to admit a pure

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one and by the love of what is good

to expel the love of what is evil.

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That's exactly what I'm trying to say.

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It says it better than I do.

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Your Love for God will allow

you to expel a love for sin.

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What will protect you against

sexual sin is not the practices,

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the practices come afterward.

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It's a development of love for God

that looks like faithfulness, day

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in and day out, fostering care,

commitment, concern for his, his

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affairs, and in fact, what does he say?

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He's a seek first.

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The kingdom of God and his

righteousness and all these other

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things that you con concern yourselves

about could be taken care of.

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You gotta resolve to love God so much that

you hate sin, particularly sexual sin.

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The consequences are

devastating and deadly.

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Please men resolve to be

faithful to Christ in this

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particular era of your life.

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Let's pray that help us.

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Um, I, I know there are many

of us probably within this room

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who have struggled with sexual

sin, maybe even still today.

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Uh, be naive not to think otherwise.

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Please help us, Lord, to be

honest about these areas and

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to fight for purity in them.

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Help us to be open and willing to

confess areas of, of weakness and,

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and lapse or not to coddle one

another, but to help each other be

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accountable and faithful to our wives.

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Our kids, our grandkids, our churches,

ultimately to be faithful to you Lord

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far be it from us, that we shame the

name of Christ by allowing sexual sin

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to steal affection from our heart.

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Help us Lord, to experience the

explosive power of a new affection by

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loving you so much that we hate sin.

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Give us grace to discuss

these things in our groups.

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Now, we ask this in Jesus name.

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Amen.

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