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Ep. #45 Why Women Suppress Their Anger (And How It Leads to Self-Abandonment)
Episode 452nd July 2026 • Alive & Awake with Alicia • Alicia Kay
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What if your anger isn't the problem... but the years you've spent abandoning yourself every time you felt it are?

In this episode of Alive & Awake with Alicia, we continue the conversation from my first Awaken with Alicia coaching session by exploring one of the most misunderstood emotions we experience: anger.

For generations, we've been taught that anger is dangerous, unspiritual, unfeminine, or something to suppress. But what if anger isn't asking you to become more reactive? What if it's asking you to finally become more honest?

In this episode, I unpack why so many women judge themselves for feeling anger, how that judgment turns into self-abandonment, and why reclaiming your righteous rage is often the first step toward reclaiming your voice, your boundaries, and your authentic power.

Because every time you silence your anger... you're often silencing yourself.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why anger itself isn't the problem, self-abandonment is

• How women are conditioned to suppress their anger to feel accepted and safe

• The difference between destructive anger and righteous rage

• Why suppressed anger keeps us stuck in people-pleasing and self-betrayal

• How childhood experiences shape our relationship with anger

• The connection between anger, boundaries, truth, and self-worth

• The questions to ask yourself when anger arises instead of judging it

• How embracing your anger can become a pathway back to your authentic power

If you've ever felt guilty for being angry, swallowed your truth to keep the peace, or believed that expressing your needs would make you "too much," this episode will completely shift the way you see one of your most powerful emotions.

⏱️ Timestamps:

0:00 Why We Were Taught to Fear Anger

1:06 Why This Conversation Matters Right Now

2:20 The Hidden Cost of Suppressing Anger

3:00 "What the F* Is Wrong With Me?"

4:15 Where Your Relationship With Anger Began

6:00 The Birth of Self-Abandonment

7:45 Anger as a Messenger, Not a Problem

9:45 Why Boundaries Feel So Hard

11:45 Self-Abandonment vs. Self-Protection

13:40 Reclaiming Righteous Rage

16:35 Questions to Ask When Anger Arises

17:25 Anger Is the Pathway to Power

18:15 An Invitation to Do This Work Together

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Trailer Music Credit

Alis Reflective Soul – Howl

https://open.spotify.com/track/6FkSVtVl1FZwPRmTKAXLjp?si=401711feb98644d9

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