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When does patience turn into straight-up delusion?
Big Party and Molly dive into a listener situation that hits a nerve — three years in a relationship… and still no proposal. So what’s really going on? Are you building a future… or just waiting around?
They break down the difference between emotional connection vs real commitment, the pressure around marriage timelines, and how long is too long before you start asking the hard questions.
Then it flips to family life — how kids actually see their parents (even when you think they don’t), and how those dynamics shape their own relationships. It’s real, it’s relatable, and yeah… a little uncomfortable in the best way.
And because it’s The Big Party Show… it wouldn’t be complete without some chaos at home — from movie nights to cooking fails and the little everyday moments that somehow turn into stories.
👉 If you’ve ever questioned a relationship… this one’s for you.
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Topics in this episode:
- How long is too long to wait for a proposal?
- Relationship timelines vs reality
- Emotional connection vs commitment
- Parenting dynamics and what kids actually notice
- Family life, movie nights, and everyday chaos
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You kidding me?
Speaker A:My God, help the girl that likes him.
Speaker A:He'd be like, what?
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Speaker B:I just watched Anaconda, by the way.
Speaker A:How funny is it?
Speaker B:Oh, my God.
Speaker B:That was a good show.
Speaker B:That's with Jack Black.
Speaker B:I didn't know what to expect, because I love Jack Black, but it does remind me of the other one.
Speaker B:What was that?
Speaker B:Where they're in jail, Not Jumanji.
Speaker B:It reminds me of when they're refilming that.
Speaker B:The.
Speaker B:The army movie.
Speaker A:Oh, Tropic Thunder.
Speaker B:Yes, because he was in that.
Speaker B:Jack Black was.
Speaker B:Yeah, that's what it reminded me of.
Speaker A:Oh, really?
Speaker A:Yeah, because dirty.
Speaker B:It was not as dirty because we.
Speaker A:Watched it with the family.
Speaker A:I don't think I would watch Tropic Thunder with the kids.
Speaker A:Hey, kids, I want to see something real grimy.
Speaker B:One thing that sticks in my head is when he was taking those.
Speaker B:Would he take some hallucinogen in that.
Speaker A:Movie because he was a drug addict?
Speaker A:That was part of the reason that he was on the set is because he was trying to get clean from, like, heroin.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:He was tied up to a tree, and he said, you know, give me some, please, and I'll, you know, do whatever and swallow the gravy.
Speaker B:Swallow the gravy.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Again, not a family movie.
Speaker A:Not gonna be snuggling up on Friday night with fresh pop popcorn, being like, all right, kids, let's fire it up.
Speaker B:Yeah, it was pretty good.
Speaker B:I like it.
Speaker B:We're trying.
Speaker B:We're trying to go down the.
Speaker B:All the Oscar, like, winners and nominees is what we're going.
Speaker A:I wasn't nominated.
Speaker A:It's a weird segue.
Speaker A:You're like, we're going through all the Oscar movies.
Speaker A:So obviously Anaconda.
Speaker A:You're like, ye.
Speaker A:What Oscar list you got?
Speaker A:But that's different than the one I got.
Speaker A:I think I would have watched all the Oscar movies if stuff like Anaconda was on it.
Speaker A:I would have been like, yep, check that.
Speaker A:K Pop Demon hunters.
Speaker A:Yep.
Speaker A:Watched that.
Speaker A:Did you watch Hamnet?
Speaker A:I'm like, I did not not watch that.
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:That's what we're trying to do.
Speaker B:And during the Oscars, I saw Wylene had a pad of paper, and so she was writing down, you know, in Rapid Night.
Speaker B:And I had to say, you know, we can just go online and print it out.
Speaker B:But she wanted to do it, so I let her.
Speaker B:But then as she was doing that, I had said.
Speaker B:Because it is funny to see.
Speaker B:I had said, you know, Molly watched this Anaconda, and it's coming out here, like, soon.
Speaker B:I think it was on.
Speaker B:I don't know, what is Netflix or something.
Speaker B:And then.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So it's in the mix of.
Speaker B:It's in the mix of Oscars.
Speaker B:And right in the middle is Anaconda.
Speaker A:You're like, oh, yeah.
Speaker A:But for sound mixing.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Special effects.
Speaker A:How funny is the character?
Speaker A:That is the snake handler.
Speaker B:Oh, my God.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:He was so funny.
Speaker A:He's like, this is my best friend.
Speaker B:Yeah, I know that guy.
Speaker B:I know.
Speaker A:Great.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:What is that guy's story?
Speaker A:I was like, he is a wackadoo.
Speaker A:They're like his best friends.
Speaker A:A snake.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And Paul Rudd was great, too.
Speaker B:Oh, my God, he's good.
Speaker B:Have you ever met him or anything?
Speaker B:Paul Ruddy?
Speaker A:No, I have not met Paul Rudd.
Speaker B:Yeah, very cool dude.
Speaker B:Like, I mean, that's the kind of thing.
Speaker A:I've heard nothing but great things about him.
Speaker A:That he's a really nice guy and so.
Speaker A:But, yeah, he's so funny.
Speaker A:He just seems like so.
Speaker A:And he just has a great sense of humor about himself.
Speaker A:Like, he's so willing to laugh at him.
Speaker A:At himself.
Speaker B:Yeah, because he's.
Speaker B:He's what you would call in the movie, like, kind of like a starving.
Speaker B:You know, like a actor is what he is.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:So trying to get a part is.
Speaker A:The idea that they're all childhood friends.
Speaker A:Unlike it's not a remake of the.
Speaker A:That was the thing that kind of held me off.
Speaker A:I was like, anaconda wasn't that great the first time?
Speaker A:Like, why would I want to watch a remake of Anaconda?
Speaker A:But then I saw the cast, and I was like, well, that's weird, because it was sort of meant to be serious.
Speaker A:The.
Speaker A:The original Anaconda.
Speaker B:Yes, yes.
Speaker A:And then what you realize is that Jack Black and Paul Rudd are childhood friends and they had a dream of making movies.
Speaker A:One kept doing it.
Speaker A:Paul Rudd wanted to be.
Speaker A:Is like, a struggling actor out in Hollywood, but Jack Black kind of hung up the dream and just does, like, wedding videos back home in Buffalo or wherever.
Speaker A:And then they come back together for a birthday party and decide, well, what about if we went back to making movies like we used to?
Speaker A:And Paul Rudd's like, I've got the rights.
Speaker A:Yes, to Anaconda.
Speaker B:And he didn't.
Speaker A:Spoiler alert.
Speaker B:Well, hey, I mean, it's not an Oscar movie, Molly, so it doesn't matter.
Speaker A:Spoiler Alert.
Speaker B:Hey.
Speaker B:Well, there was, there was.
Speaker B:Ice Cube was in it.
Speaker B:Jlo was in it.
Speaker B:I mean, I love Ice Cube.
Speaker B:Oh my God, that guy's all attitude.
Speaker B:I love that dude a lot.
Speaker B:Everyone in that movie I would hang out with, you know, including JLo, I would hang out with her as well.
Speaker B:But yeah, I thought it was good.
Speaker B:It was a fun little movie to watch.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah, definitely fun.
Speaker A:We've been trying to do.
Speaker A:We try to do family movie night and you know, sometimes like the kids just try to use it as an excuse for me to fall asleep.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So that they're like, yeah, okay, fine.
Speaker A:We'll do family movie night.
Speaker A:Figuring that family movie night's gonna last about 15 to 20 minutes.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:Because the rule is family movie night only lasts as long as the first person who falls asleep.
Speaker B:Oh, really?
Speaker A:That's really good.
Speaker B:That is a great role.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:So I ruined it for everyone because they're like, the minute she falls asleep, unless it's a good movie, like, I am out of here.
Speaker A:I have video games to play.
Speaker A:So they were just so.
Speaker A:Because I stayed awake for all of Anaconda.
Speaker B:Oh, you did?
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:I was like, this is great.
Speaker A:Are you kidding me?
Speaker A:Jack Black and Paul Rudd.
Speaker A:I am in it to win it.
Speaker A:They're like, mom, you didn't even fall asleep.
Speaker B:Isn't that sad?
Speaker B:I fall.
Speaker A:I'm a hero.
Speaker B:I, I do too.
Speaker B:I get up early still.
Speaker B:I, I mean, I guess it's going to take a long time for me to, to actually sleep in.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:My schedule is what my schedule is.
Speaker B:But yeah, I, I get up early too, and I don't nap anymore.
Speaker B:So I, I'm like, you know, knocking out by 8 o' clock and poor sweet, while he's watching whatever we're watching.
Speaker B:And then I don't realize I fell asleep until she tells me.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Then tells me the next day you fell asleep.
Speaker B:I'm like, I didn't fall asleep.
Speaker B:So, yeah, that's, that's that.
Speaker B:But she watches everything, so I always have to double back or make her re.
Speaker B:Watch it.
Speaker B:So the movie night ends when you fall asleep, huh?
Speaker A:Unless the.
Speaker A:It's a movie that they want to watch.
Speaker A:Like, but if it's a movie where.
Speaker A:I mean, there are sometimes.
Speaker A:Keep in mind, they're 16 and 14.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And they're very like, we've got a tight knit family.
Speaker A:Like, they're very much hanging out with us.
Speaker A:Like, it's not like they're like, gross.
Speaker A:But there are times where Friday night I'M like, I want to do a family movie night.
Speaker A:And they're like, come on.
Speaker A:Like, can I just.
Speaker A:Like, I had a week, mom.
Speaker A:I had stuff at school.
Speaker A:I got up early at homework, and now you want.
Speaker A:Like, it's my Friday night.
Speaker A:I just want to kick back and play games.
Speaker A:Game with friends.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And I'm like, no, you got to watch a movie with your mom.
Speaker B:Does Peter likes movie night.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Because I didn't.
Speaker B:Because when we had movie nights growing up, that was the thing.
Speaker B:My dad would get popcorn, and in a big old thing, they'd cook it.
Speaker B:He would do the jolly time.
Speaker B:He loved that thing so much.
Speaker B:You know, the jolly time that you cook and.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And it gets big.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:With the foil one.
Speaker A:But he did on the stove top.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So that's what I remember about movie time.
Speaker A:Declan's the popcorn guy.
Speaker A:Peter doesn't necessarily like, the rest of us don't really eat popcorn.
Speaker A:But he.
Speaker A:He makes popcorn.
Speaker A:He'll eat it.
Speaker A:But we are like, you know, So I would say at least once a month, we do family movie night, but we don't do it every week.
Speaker A:It's just.
Speaker A:Because it really is like.
Speaker A:It's funny to think, but it's like, school's a kid's job.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And it does get to be Friday.
Speaker A:And unless they really want to.
Speaker A:It's like.
Speaker A:It's like a choreograph.
Speaker A:Like, you are gonna sit here and watch a movie.
Speaker A:They're like, I will watch this as long as you do.
Speaker A:That's basically the line.
Speaker B:Are there girls at a Declan school?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Oh, there are.
Speaker B:So it is a mixed.
Speaker B:Okay, how is he doing that?
Speaker B:How's that going with old Declan?
Speaker B:Because he went to an all boys school.
Speaker B:Now he's in high school now.
Speaker B:It's mixed.
Speaker A:He didn't go to an all boys school.
Speaker A:He went to a great school.
Speaker A:He went to a co ed grade school.
Speaker B:Oh, okay.
Speaker B:I didn't know that.
Speaker B:I thought it was all boys.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:All right, cool.
Speaker B:I guess your sister.
Speaker B:His sister went with the school with him.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Dumb.
Speaker A:So they were.
Speaker A:Went to school together?
Speaker A:No, he's at a coed school.
Speaker A:Somebody was just asking me the other day.
Speaker A:They're like, so.
Speaker A:Yeah, you kidding me?
Speaker A:Like, God help the girl that likes him.
Speaker A:He'd be like, what?
Speaker A:Huh?
Speaker A:She be like, I like you.
Speaker A:He'd be like, me to what?
Speaker A:Grab you something?
Speaker A:Or no, she's like, no, like, I like you.
Speaker A:Like, I like you like you.
Speaker A:And you'd be like, like, me.
Speaker A:Like Me to what?
Speaker B:Yeah, it would be so.
Speaker B:He'd be clueless about.
Speaker A:Oh, he would be so clueless.
Speaker A:And unless this girl could talk, like, city infrastructure, because he does city skylines, okay?
Speaker A:He's like, mom, I've got a whole new sewage grid that this whole stuff going.
Speaker A:I was like, wow,.
Speaker B:Say there's somebody for everyone.
Speaker A:So there is.
Speaker A:There's a girl out there who is a city planner just waiting.
Speaker B:And you know what?
Speaker B:She's.
Speaker B:She's doing the same thing as Declan.
Speaker B:You know, some guy's like, I would like you.
Speaker A:She's like, you'd like me to what?
Speaker A:Grab you a napkin.
Speaker A:Seriously?
Speaker B:All right.
Speaker B:Well.
Speaker B:Hey.
Speaker B:Oh, no.
Speaker B:Birds and the bees.
Speaker B:Did you guys even have to do that yet or.
Speaker A:That is not my terror.
Speaker A:Nobody wants.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:No boy wants to talk to his mom about that.
Speaker B:No, no.
Speaker B:Did Peter have to do that yet?
Speaker B:I didn't get to.
Speaker A:I'm sure Peter did.
Speaker B:I don't.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:No, that's cool, because I. I don't.
Speaker B:I never had it talk to me at all growing up, so.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah, my parents never.
Speaker B:Never did that.
Speaker A:So what?
Speaker A:They discovered it at school?
Speaker B:I don't even remember it at school.
Speaker B:Now you just kind of understand what's going on, you know?
Speaker B:You know, sure.
Speaker B:You know, you just kind of.
Speaker B:All right, there's a girl.
Speaker B:I remember sitting in class once, and it was a German class, all right?
Speaker B:And basically how that works is.
Speaker B:So there.
Speaker B:It was American school, but we're trying to learn German, and it was a German teacher.
Speaker B:And so what happened was if you get in trouble, if you're disrupting the class in a German school, you are going to go up to the board and clean the board, okay?
Speaker B:That's.
Speaker B:That's kind of the punishment, and that's what she was teaching us and stuff like that.
Speaker B:Anyway, school went on, blah, blah, blah, you know, days later, classes later, whatever the case is.
Speaker B:I was at a young age and for some reason, it grew down below, right?
Speaker B:So get this.
Speaker B:So I'm.
Speaker B:I'm like, oh, God, what is going on?
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:And then the teacher goes, mike, get up here and clean the board.
Speaker B:And I stood in defiance and said, I didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker B:So I sat there and refused to stand up because if I would have.
Speaker B:You know what I'm saying?
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Well, I mean, what's wrong with you now?
Speaker B:It happens to boys all the time.
Speaker B:What are you talking about?
Speaker B:At that point, I went to an.
Speaker A:All girls high school and I have no brothers, so I don't know what you're talking.
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah, that happens.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:For some reason when you're going through that puberty, it'll just pop up with the wind.
Speaker B:It's weird.
Speaker B:Sick.
Speaker B:Listen to you.
Speaker A:Your bodies are so weird.
Speaker A:Bodies are so weird.
Speaker A:It's like you're embarrassment.
Speaker B:Huh?
Speaker A:I mean seriously, it's like God's like, you know what?
Speaker A:I'm gonna knock these guys down a couple pegs.
Speaker A:They always think they're so great.
Speaker A:Well, guess what?
Speaker A:Ta da.
Speaker B:I cleaned that up for any kids that might be listening.
Speaker B:But I'm sure every boy that might be listening goes, I get it.
Speaker A:All right.
Speaker A:I want to dumb it down so bad.
Speaker B:Hey, we got Easter.
Speaker B:What's we want to get to a couple questions here real quick.
Speaker B:But we got Easter coming up and Yeah, I, I, everything's just speeds, you know, just kind of surprising us right now.
Speaker B:I mean I was just over at the, my brother in law and sister in laws and we talked about it.
Speaker B:I mean normally this is something that's planned way ahead.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So basically it's going to be at their house in the early afternoon and then, and, and then I'm, I'm charged with bringing a ham.
Speaker A:Yeah, Death ham.
Speaker B:Got a ham.
Speaker A:Got a ham.
Speaker B:And then baking bread for them all.
Speaker B:So that's kind of my deal.
Speaker B:But the thing is, is that I, I made a ham one time really good and, and that was like eight years ago.
Speaker B:And so that's my job every time to bring the ham.
Speaker B:And I never.
Speaker A:How did you make it?
Speaker A:So I mean, I don't make it.
Speaker B:A lot of times when, when ham's cooked, it can dry out.
Speaker B:You know, I have a way of not it being dried out at all.
Speaker B:So what do you do?
Speaker B:I can't tell you that because then you would know somebody else might be.
Speaker A:On tap to make the ham.
Speaker A:You were just complaining about the fact that you made it.
Speaker A:Well, now eight years later, you still have to make it.
Speaker A:But when given the opportunity, it's mine.
Speaker A:Share this knowledge so that somebody else can take the reins.
Speaker B:No, they won't take the reign because they know they can't do it.
Speaker A:Tell anybody?
Speaker B:Yes, I won't tell anybody.
Speaker B:Kfc.
Speaker B:Kfc.
Speaker B:Do they tell everybody their ingredients when they make that fried chicken?
Speaker A:I guarantee you what you're probably doing is putting some sort of liquid in there and tenting it so that while it cooks it's in a moist environment and you probably are using something sweet.
Speaker A:Like I would say, no, I don't do pineapple juice.
Speaker B:No, no.
Speaker B:I don't do sweet at all.
Speaker A:So you're using, like, liquid smoke or something?
Speaker B:Not using liquid smoke at all.
Speaker B:But that.
Speaker B:That's the key.
Speaker B:Thanks, Molly.
Speaker B:You just ruined it.
Speaker B:You just ruined it.
Speaker B:Basically, what you do is.
Speaker B:And that's what people do.
Speaker B:They bake.
Speaker B:They.
Speaker B:Because the ham's already cooked, all you're doing is warm the thing up in the end.
Speaker B:So basically cut it up, and you just submerge it underneath whatever liquid you want.
Speaker B:And it never dries out.
Speaker B:It's so stinking.
Speaker B:Simple and easy.
Speaker B:It makes no sense.
Speaker B:But now I'm the ham guy.
Speaker A:Now you're the ham guy because of the ham.
Speaker A:So you slice it, and then you heat it up.
Speaker B:No, I actually.
Speaker B:No, because that could.
Speaker B:That could mess it up as well, because it can't stay in liquid forever because then it gets hard, you know?
Speaker B:So basically, I warm it up, I cook it, and then I put the.
Speaker B:The liquid on it.
Speaker B:And then you just kind of.
Speaker B:You don't want to completely submerge it, but then you kind of have the pieces.
Speaker B:That way, people can come and grab whatever pieces they want.
Speaker B:You know what I mean?
Speaker B:No one's having to slice during the.
Speaker B:During the whole deal.
Speaker B:So that's what I do.
Speaker B:And that's what did.
Speaker B:I mean.
Speaker B:I used to go to.
Speaker B:I can't remember the meat place, but it's in wahoo.
Speaker B:I used.
Speaker B:I don't know if it's wahoo, but anyway, I used to go and get those hog legs, remember?
Speaker B:And that's kind of where that came from, is how to do that, because you don't want to spend that kind of dough on a hog leg and then dry it out.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:It'd be a nightmare.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So, yeah, that's.
Speaker B:That's my secret.
Speaker A:It's not really a secret.
Speaker A:That's why I was like, I guarantee you, he's just heating it up with some sort of liquid.
Speaker B:You know what it is?
Speaker B:They don't want to take on the.
Speaker A:Ham, which is the easiest thing to do.
Speaker B:Oh, I know it's the easiest thing.
Speaker B:It's like.
Speaker B:I just.
Speaker B:I'm like, I got to go get the ham.
Speaker B:I got to go.
Speaker B:You know what I mean?
Speaker B:Then I got to transfer the whole ham over.
Speaker B:They just.
Speaker B:I. I don't think any wants to do the ham is all.
Speaker B:So I think they pat me on the back and.
Speaker B:And say I'm awesome, because I know how to do a good ham.
Speaker B:And then I go, okay, thank you.
Speaker B:I'll do it this year.
Speaker A:You make the best toast.
Speaker A:You should keep making toast so good when you make it.
Speaker A:Tell me again how.
Speaker A:What's your.
Speaker A:What's your iced tea recipe?
Speaker A:Is that.
Speaker B:Make the iced tea?
Speaker B:Yeah, the same thing with the.
Speaker B:Now I'm just complaining to complain.
Speaker B:I mean, I make those.
Speaker B:Those green bean casserole, you know, that Alfredo style.
Speaker B:I make that.
Speaker B:And that's like crack.
Speaker B:People can't stop eating that stuff.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So I mean, I did offer just to make stuffing.
Speaker B:I'm like, I'll just make stuffing and then ham.
Speaker A:Thanksgiving, it's Easter.
Speaker A:Why would you.
Speaker A:Yeah, Stuffing.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:Because every time I make stuffing and it's not during Thanksgiving, everyone's always says the same thing.
Speaker B:Why don't we eat stuffing all the time?
Speaker A:Because nobody needs to eat a loaf of bread for every meal because it's delicious, but it's also really indulgent.
Speaker B:Yeah, it is.
Speaker B:It is.
Speaker B:I always have a few boxes of it just in case.
Speaker B:So I'm back to the ham.
Speaker B:I'm doing the ham.
Speaker B:What are you guys doing?
Speaker A:Bringing you.
Speaker A:You're also bringing the green bean casserole.
Speaker B:No, I'm not doing that.
Speaker B:They want some bread also.
Speaker B:So they shot me a text and said, you know, can you do some.
Speaker B:Bring.
Speaker B:Maybe bring some bread too.
Speaker B:And I shot a message back and said, you get ham or bread?
Speaker B:Pick it.
Speaker A:No, you didn't.
Speaker B:I was in a mood.
Speaker B:Then Wylene said, you didn't do that.
Speaker A:And I did.
Speaker A:And I meant it.
Speaker A:Like, it wasn't like, haha, laugh face.
Speaker A:Like, you got it.
Speaker A:I'm bringing both.
Speaker A:Like, it was like, no, pick one.
Speaker B:And then I. I saw the disappointment in her eyes, and I immediately, as fast as I could, responded again with just happy laughter faces.
Speaker B:Like it was a joke.
Speaker A:Wasn't.
Speaker A:Wylene just gave him a look.
Speaker A:He was ready to just be that.
Speaker A:That big of a jerk about it.
Speaker A:I'm not doing both.
Speaker A:Were you in a mood?
Speaker A:What had gotten you so riled up?
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:We were.
Speaker B:What were we doing?
Speaker B:Oh, we were.
Speaker B:We went to.
Speaker B:We went to the.
Speaker B:Wylene felt like going thrift store shopping.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And we go to the thrift store.
Speaker B:We went to three of them.
Speaker B:She was looking for some, like, gardening, you know, like backyard stuff, which you never find there.
Speaker B:Anyway, so that's what we were doing.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And each one of those Goodwills.
Speaker B:We went to the Goodwill.
Speaker B:Molly.
Speaker B:It was so packed.
Speaker B:It was unbelievable.
Speaker B:I have never been to a thrift store that was that packed ever which probably says a lot about the economy, because we went to the next one, and it's just packed, just full of people just buying junk.
Speaker B:And then I saw this.
Speaker B:I mean, it's.
Speaker B:I understand you're buying stuff.
Speaker B:And then I saw the saddest thing.
Speaker B:I'm like.
Speaker B:And I said some.
Speaker B:I think some people just buy or just buying for.
Speaker B:To make them feel better or something like that.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And then as I.
Speaker B:As I leave, I. I see a lady who had a shopping cart, an older.
Speaker B:Older woman full of clothes.
Speaker B:And then she goes to her vehicle, and her.
Speaker B:Obviously, there's a mental thing going on because her whole vehicle was full of clothes, really.
Speaker B:And that she was a pickup truck, too.
Speaker B:And so the whole vehicle is full of clothes packed up to the window.
Speaker B:And then in the back of the truck, there were bags just full of clothes that she was just putting them in.
Speaker B:I was so fascinated by that.
Speaker B:I'm like, oh, my God.
Speaker B:This.
Speaker B:That's obviously a mental thing.
Speaker B:You know, my mother used to buy stuff like that.
Speaker B:I think it's just, I need to buy.
Speaker B:I need to buy.
Speaker B:But no, anyway, there was so many people.
Speaker B:It's just like you're dodging people, and you're just dodging.
Speaker B:And then.
Speaker B:Then all of a sudden, that message came through, and I'm like, what are the other.
Speaker B:I'm crazy.
Speaker A:Yeah, one or the other.
Speaker A:Happy Easter.
Speaker A:Oh, Lee.
Speaker A:Gee whiz.
Speaker A:Crawled up his button.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:The millions of people.
Speaker B:And then now I'm like, when is a good time to go to a thrift store?
Speaker B:And when do they stock.
Speaker A:Was it on the weekend that you went to a thrift store?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:That's always a terrible time to go anywhere.
Speaker A:Thrift store or any place.
Speaker A:That's just an awful time to go shopping.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:I mean, there was a billion people.
Speaker B:Everybody.
Speaker B:What I noticed on Saturday, I mean, because it was decent, everybody was shopping, whether it's thrift store, whatever.
Speaker B:But it seemed like every parking lot, at every restaurant, at every strip mall or whatever is just a billion cars.
Speaker B:Everybody just out, you know, having fun, I guess, shopping and eating and everything like that.
Speaker B:But, yeah, I guess you're right.
Speaker B:It's packed.
Speaker B:And so what I found out is that.
Speaker B:Which is that at Goodwill, apparently what they do is they constantly are bringing stuff out and putting them in a way.
Speaker B:So there's that aspect there now.
Speaker B:There's a billion people in there trying to get around, and then you got those people trying to stock.
Speaker B:I'm, like, stuck when we're not there.
Speaker B:So Now I'm looking up how things like, when's the best time to go?
Speaker B:When's the best time to go?
Speaker A:I think that Wylene should just go by herself.
Speaker B:Why?
Speaker B:I don't mind going.
Speaker B:I like going.
Speaker B:I was going to get some new pair of.
Speaker A:Jordan, what did you just say?
Speaker A:What did we just.
Speaker B:Well, there's a million people there.
Speaker A:Last three minutes.
Speaker B:No, but the last time I've gone there, there's not been that million people running around like that.
Speaker A:It's never go by herself places.
Speaker B:I understand that, Molly, but you're not listening.
Speaker B:What I'm saying is that there was a billion people there.
Speaker B:Normally, when I go and I don't mind going, there's generally not a billion people there.
Speaker B:So that got my frustration going.
Speaker B:So you get one or the other.
Speaker B:You asked me what's got me all riled up, and I told you.
Speaker A:I mean, and trust me, that kind of.
Speaker A:That kind of environment will set anybody off.
Speaker B:Yeah, I just.
Speaker A:I'm surprised you just didn't wait in the car.
Speaker A:I would have been like, I will see you in the car.
Speaker A:You come on out when you're done.
Speaker B:Now, because I don't mind going in there and shopping and stuff like that.
Speaker B:I just don't mind.
Speaker B:It was just.
Speaker B:Again, it was just too many people, and it wasn't in the mood for a bunch of people.
Speaker B:But I do know when the best time to go is now, because I did my research, so that'll change things.
Speaker A:Where does one research I did?
Speaker A:I went to the library.
Speaker A:I took down some reference materials, and now I have zeroed in.
Speaker A:And guess what?
Speaker A:It's my secret.
Speaker A:Just like the ham.
Speaker A:I'm not telling anybody.
Speaker B:Well, if I tell everyone, then it will ruin it.
Speaker B:Now everybody will be going at the.
Speaker A:Same time again, just like early.
Speaker B:Ruin it.
Speaker B:Don't ruin it, Molly.
Speaker A:Come on.
Speaker A:All right, excellent.
Speaker B:What do we want?
Speaker B:We got a couple questions we got to hit up.
Speaker B:All right.
Speaker B:If you.
Speaker B:If you guys want to send us some questions.
Speaker B:I guess we never got to what you're doing on Easter.
Speaker B:We'll do that Wednesday.
Speaker B:How's that?
Speaker B:Yeah, we're gonna run out of time.
Speaker B:All right, so what did you.
Speaker B:What do you want?
Speaker B:I got.
Speaker B:I got a relationship one right here.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It's waiting, pretty much.
Speaker B:This is from Jenny.
Speaker B:Says that she's been dating three years.
Speaker B:Oh, this is such a fun question.
Speaker B:Every time.
Speaker B:Three years.
Speaker B:All right.
Speaker B:She's been locked down for three years.
Speaker B:No ring.
Speaker B:He says he's not in a rush She's 33.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:And the, the question is, at what point does this patience become a delusion for her?
Speaker A:Well, a couple things.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:I mean, you're in a committed relationship.
Speaker B:Huh.
Speaker A:So, I mean, not in a rush.
Speaker A:One side of it where you're like, it's basically like, we're married, so why don't you just do it and let's just get married.
Speaker A:Because it's obviously making me crazy.
Speaker A:I guess the number one thing would be like, do you want to have kids?
Speaker A:Because if that's the case, then you are going up against the clock a little bit, you know.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:It does become more and more not to say that 33.
Speaker A:I mean, I, I have friends that were 43 when they had babies for the first time.
Speaker A:There's time.
Speaker A:But it's also not always.
Speaker A:I mean, it's better to get started if you know that that's something that you want.
Speaker A:Now, if you take kids out of the equation, what's around.
Speaker A:Obviously, like, obviously, like, I kind of like, what is the rush?
Speaker A:I mean, you just want to be.
Speaker A:Some people are like, listen, I just want you to make that commitment to me.
Speaker A:I want us to be in a, in, in a legally committed relationship.
Speaker A:I will say that there are benefits to being legally married.
Speaker A:I mean, tax wise, all that kind of stuff.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:But I mean, three years, I went five years, you know, and I just, I think you know, when, you know, But I mean, just the braveness of saying not in a rush.
Speaker A:It's like, okay, you're like, well, what kind of timeline?
Speaker A:I guess the conversation needs to be.
Speaker A:What's that timeline look like?
Speaker A:You say not a rush.
Speaker A:And I'm saying, I'm saying I would be interested in doing that.
Speaker A:Now you're saying not a rush.
Speaker A:Well, can you give me a better idea of that timeline?
Speaker B:I'm assuming he doesn't have a timeline, you know.
Speaker B:You know, because all he, all he would probably do is do something like, you know, within the next, like, I don't know, a few years.
Speaker B:You know, I just want to get this done.
Speaker B:And maybe if he says maybe a red flag.
Speaker A:I know a lot.
Speaker A:Maybe.
Speaker A:I mean, I've had friends where they have put down the ultimatum.
Speaker A:I mean, they have laid down the law.
Speaker A:Like, you have a year to figure it out.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:I mean, you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Speaker A:And you know that.
Speaker A:And, and just it's all about, figure it out.
Speaker A:You've got one year.
Speaker A:I'm not telling you.
Speaker A:You got to figure it out next week.
Speaker A:You've 365 days.
Speaker B:Well, there's.
Speaker A:Wisely.
Speaker B:There's also, you know, and that happens all the time.
Speaker B:The pressure of finding the right ring, you know, because guys get a.
Speaker B:Get squirrely when they find out how much it really is and how much it could be.
Speaker B:Now, if you're.
Speaker B:If she's like someone who says, I don't even care if it's a rubber band, you know, then, yeah, that's.
Speaker B:That's a good person.
Speaker B:But yeah, but if you're a type of person that.
Speaker B:That has some high tastes, that puts a lot of pressure on a guy, a hundred percent pressure, and that probably pushes some dudes away because, you know, that's the.
Speaker B:That's the big purchase.
Speaker B:I mean, that was one of the biggest purchases I've ever made.
Speaker B:Was.
Speaker B:Was that.
Speaker B:That ring that size?
Speaker B:Does that make sense?
Speaker B:I mean, I have a car that cost more, but the ring.
Speaker B:What are you looking at me like that for?
Speaker B:You were with me.
Speaker A:I mean, I have car, see?
Speaker A:Or the love of your life, but I've got that car in the driveway.
Speaker A:You're like, huh?
Speaker A:And that car is gonna last you how long?
Speaker A:And I'm gonna.
Speaker A:For you for how long?
Speaker B:Well, see, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker B:See?
Speaker B:So I don't know.
Speaker B:I mean, if he says maybe red flag.
Speaker B:But yeah, you.
Speaker B:You kind of need.
Speaker B:Need to figure that out.
Speaker B:I mean, I. I don't know.
Speaker B:I. I don't think three years is.
Speaker B:Is a.
Speaker B:Is a.
Speaker B:A time to be like, this needs to happen.
Speaker B:You can probably wait.
Speaker A:Three years is usually.
Speaker A:No, three years is amount of time to start.
Speaker A:Like, what are we doing here?
Speaker A:Because if.
Speaker A:If.
Speaker A:If he's really like, I never want to get married, and now it's three years in, and you're realizing he really, like some people try to wait it out.
Speaker A:Like, I've had friends in relationships where they're like, he said he didn't want to get married.
Speaker A:I'm like, then take him at his word.
Speaker B:Yeah, I mean, exactly.
Speaker B:Okay, this is my advice from big party.
Speaker B:What I want you to do is go get a ring, okay?
Speaker B:It's not as expensive as the female side, so go get his ring.
Speaker B:You spend a couple hundred bucks, whatever, and then go a drop on a knee and propose to him.
Speaker B:I have friends that have done that.
Speaker B:Alana, a good friend of mine has done that, forced it.
Speaker B:And granted, they're not together any longer.
Speaker A:I was gonna say, are they still married?
Speaker A:Because if anybody that sometimes.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:And I am.
Speaker A:I am very much a person that is, like, you know, all for, I'm a man.
Speaker A:I'm a woman.
Speaker A:You can do whatever.
Speaker A:Like, that's fine.
Speaker A:But when it comes to that, make sure that you're with a guy that thinks that's okay, because guys would be against that.
Speaker B:I. I don't know why Lean had.
Speaker A:Dropped down on any and proposed to you with the ring.
Speaker A:I wouldn't have thought your guy friends.
Speaker A:Oh, well, he proposed to me.
Speaker A:I'll be like, she did what now?
Speaker A:She gave us ring.
Speaker A:Look at this.
Speaker A:We're getting married on a mountain with unicorns.
Speaker A:I can't wait.
Speaker A:I'm gonna be the prettiest groom that anyone's ever, ever, ever seen.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:Your guy friends will be like, for real, man, that's good news.
Speaker B:Let's leave it at that.
Speaker B:All right, we're gonna out of here.
Speaker B:We'll get out of here.
Speaker B:We'll find out about Molly's Easter coming up, and then.
Speaker B:I never got to that the dress code, but we'll hit that tomorrow for sure.
Speaker B:Wednesday.
Speaker B:So get it wherever you.
Speaker B:Get a podcast and leave some reviews, leave some likes, get some follows, do what you got to do to help us, and then go, go get some merch.
Speaker B:It's out there for you guys.
Speaker B:It's Party Crasher merch.
Speaker B:So we're out of here.
Speaker B:We'll see you guys on Wednesday.
Speaker B:Wow.
Speaker B:Wednesday, the beginning of April.
Speaker B:All right, do yourself good.
Speaker A:It.
