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What's up Radiant Icons and welcome back to Dare To Be
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Iconic, the podcast made for icons
who are daring to be themselves.
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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,
and for today's Tea Time Sesh, we
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are celebrating the most iconic
holiday of the year, radiant Icons.
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Yes, that's right.
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We are celebrating a national
Amanda Day, also known as my
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birthday for anyone new here.
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And yes, we're celebrating National
Amanda Day, two days early because
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why the hell not Radiance icons?
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Why the hell not?
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We are just iconic like that.
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Okay.
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Okay.
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But no truly.
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I get asked all the time, Amanda, why do
you make your birthday such a big deal?
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And I believe life is a big deal.
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I believe birthdays not only
celebrate the miracle of life, right?
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And how we are so lucky and so privileged
to get another year around the sun,
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but I also believe that birthdays
are our own personal New Years.
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And if you guys know me and you know,
Dare To Be Iconic, you know, I love me
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some intention setting for the new year.
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You know, we love that because I
think Intentional Living sets us
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up to live our most iconic life.
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So why not apply that idea, right, of
intention setting , when it comes to your
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own personal New Year's, which is, in my
case and what I believe is our birthdays.
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That's why I make my birthday a big
damn deal because you know what?
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Life is a big damn deal and so is
setting intentions of how you want
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this next chapter of your life to go.
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That's why every year for my birthday,
I set a theme or I set an intention
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and that intention is what will lead me
through that next chapter of my life.
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It will guide me in every
decision and action that I make.
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Because it's allowing me to live
my most iconic life in this new,
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beautiful chapter that I get to
write, that I get to name for myself.
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So as we say goodbye to Radiant
26, because what a beautiful,
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radiant chapter 26 has been, we are
saying hello to drum roll, please.
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Sexy 27.
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I am so excited to dig deeper
into what does sexy mean to me?
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How can I be sexy in my everyday life?
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How will I let that intention of
sexy, right sexy 27 guide me in every
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decision and action I decide to take
in this new chapter of my life because
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I am being blessed with another year
around the sun to write my own story.
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I think that is so beautiful.
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And while that is what we are spilling
the tea about today, radiant icons.
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But before we get into that , make
sure to connect with me on
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socials on Instagram and TikTok.
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It's @amandapaolicelli_
and @daretobeiconic_.
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And if you're on LinkedIn radiant icons,
you already know what I'm gonna say.
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Make sure to connect with me on there.
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It's Amanda Paolicelli.
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All of my socials are linked
in the show notes below.
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And also, since we are speaking of show
notes, radiant icons, make sure to secure
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your exclusive Sexy 27 offer, which is
an exclusive bundle price of our breakup
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with the past fall in Love with the
Future Healing Journal, and a piece of
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Radiance Reign merch of your choosing.
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So secure your sexy 27 offer today by
clicking that link so you can wear your
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DTBI pride all holiday season long.
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Oh, radiant icons.
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This is gonna be a good one.
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Okay.
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So let's just get to it.
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When I think of Sexy 27, right?
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And what does Sexy 27 actually mean
to me, I think of the art of becoming.
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We've spoken about it a lot on the
podcast, especially in this radiant
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reign era of my life, post breakup,
it's like a buzzword almost becoming
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right, becoming this, becoming that.
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And, and I think it's true.
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When I think of Sexy 27, I do
think of the art of becoming.
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I think of evolving, I think
of expanding, and I think of
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allowing yourself to change.
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And that's exactly what I
have done in this last year.
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I have evolved.
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I've been two different
versions of myself.
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Both iconic, both confident, both amazing.
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But I have evolved and
that's been amazing to watch.
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I have grown, I have expanded,
and I have allowed myself to
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change for the better, right?
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So this art of becoming that I've
experienced in Radiant 26, has
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prepared me to get ready to explore
or redefine what sexy means to me in
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this chapter of Sexy 27 of my life.
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Honestly, the truth is radiant
icons i've been wanting to explore
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the definition of sexy and what
it means to me for a while now.
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In fact, I've been planning
Sexy, sexy something, right?
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For two years now.
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I just didn't know what year
it would fit best for me.
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I just knew I really wanted to have one
year of my life, one chapter of my life
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dedicated to exploring sexy and sexiness.
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And I originally did think it was
going to be this year, chapter 26.
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Eventually we ended up with the Radiant
26, and what a radiant here it has been.
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But when I was originally thinking
of 26, the word that kept coming
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up was sexy and sexy and sexy.
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But something within me
just knew I hadn't evolved.
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I hadn't expanded, I hadn't become
the Amanda I needed to be to explore
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that intention and let it guide me in
every decision and action in my life.
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I wasn't ready for that.
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In 27 years of my life, I have never
allowed myself or given myself permission
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to explore what sexy means to me.
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Right.
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I never gave it a personal definition.
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The only concept or idea of sexy I
have in my mind is what the media has
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told me, but that's not true to me.
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Just like I think confidence
is an individual journey.
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I think sexiness or
sexy is the same thing.
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I think it is an individual
personal definition.
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Right.
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It's a personal journey because
what is sexy to me could not be sexy
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to someone else, and that's okay.
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Right.
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That's the same concept
with confidence, right?
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So it is a personal journey, and
I hadn't become the Amanda that I
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needed to be to go on this journey.
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And I can confidently say that
Radiant 26 prepared me for sexy 27,
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and it was because of this art of
becoming that that I allowed myself
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to go on in chapter 26 in my life.
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I didn't even know it was gonna happen
until it actually happened to me.
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And I had seen myself go from one
version of Amanda to another version of
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Amanda, which is this Amanda that you are
listening to right now, or this Amanda
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that you are seeing right now depending
on how you are consuming this podcast.
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And so when it comes to my personal
definition of sexy and what does
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Sexy 27 actually mean to me?
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I think sexy is an energy.
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I don't think it's an aesthetic.
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I think it's an energy that
you carry and that you embody.
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My personal definition of
sexy is that sexy is about
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embracing all parts of becoming.
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I think that's sexy, I
think it's sexy to be free.
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I think it's sexy to be liberated.
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I think it's sexy to be empowered
by the stuff that you've gone
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through and owning your truth.
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And that is what I'm going to be
doing in chapter 27 of my life.
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I am embracing every part of becoming.
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I am embracing every part of
me more than I've already done.
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It's my story, it's my truth, and I'm
gonna own it because no one and no
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thing will make me feel ashamed for
the Amanda that I am evolving into.
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And the Amanda that I'm evolving into
is sexy and is hot, and is iconic,
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and she's accepting everything that
has happened to her in her life.
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So now that we have defined my personal
definition of sexy and what I think
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of this art of becoming, let's say
goodbye real quick to radiant 26,
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because, oh my God, chapter 26,
radiant icons truly was radiant.
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I truly did live out my intention,
and it allowed me to live my most
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iconic life in chapter 26 of my life
because radiant 26 was the chapter
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where I proved myself to myself.
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I think of the growth
that I've experienced.
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I think of the evolution that I
saw myself go through, and I think
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about my confidence being tested
in ways that I never expected.
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I never expected my confidence to
be tested in the way that it has
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in chapter 26 and one of the main
ways my confidence was tested, was
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actually a trajectory point for me.
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And it was, you guessed it, my breakup.
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In chapter 26 of my life I got into
my first relationship after being
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single for three years, and then
that relationship very quickly ended.
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And through that three month relationship,
my confidence was tested in ways that I
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truly never expected it to be tested in.
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I learned through that three month
relationship and saw within myself
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is that my confidence never faltered.
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Even as shaky and rocky as my relationship
was, I knew it wasn't a me thing.
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I knew it was a him thing.
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I knew I was good enough.
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He wasn't good enough for me.
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That's why when he walked away, I still
was able to love myself unapologetically
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and step into this new era where I was
more free and empowered, and liberated
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than I have ever been in my damn life.
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So when it came to Radiant 26,
my confidence just got stronger.
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No matter what I went through, whether
it was my breakup, whether it's the
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ups and downs of being an entrepreneur
at 26 years old, no matter what it
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was, my confidence did not falter.
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I was fulfilling my
intention of Radiant 26.
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And one big thing I noticed radiant
icons in chapter 26 was that I
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proved to myself that I can do all
the scary and hard things that I
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once told myself I couldn't do.
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Right.
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All my I can't's became the I'm becoming.
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I truly stepped into this becoming
era in Radiant 26 of my life.
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Like I told myself I couldn't
be in a relationship.
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I told myself I couldn't
have hard conversations.
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I told myself that I couldn't heal from
a specific traumatic event in my life.
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I told myself that I couldn't travel solo.
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I told myself I couldn't be sexy.
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I told myself that I couldn't
enjoy my own company.
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I told myself all these, I can't.
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I can't.
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I can't.
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Well, in fact, I can.
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I can, I can.
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I can do all these things that
I told myself I couldn't do.
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Because here's the thing, radiant icons
when I did something that I previously
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told myself I couldn't do, right?
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So for instance, traveling solo, I told
myself for years that there's no way
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that I am capable of traveling solo.
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I can't do it because X, Y, and
Z and blah, blah, blah, blah.
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Like, I told myself all these things.
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And every time that I traveled
solo or I went on a solo date,
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i, I did these things by myself
that I told myself I couldn't do.
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I was reframing my mindset.
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I was rewiring my thoughts
and being like, oh wait.
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I can do this.
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Look at me now.
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Look at me actually doing the
thing that I said I can't do.
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That was me reframing and rewiring
my thoughts and my mindset.
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I was doing a good old mindset switch,
which in turn allowed me to strengthen
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my confidence, which allowed me to
live out my intention so that I can
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live my most iconic life in Chapter 26.
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So now that we've said goodbye to Radiant
26, we are saying hello to Sexy 27.
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And the way we are saying hello to Sexy
27 is we're getting to the nitty gritty.
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How are we going to see Sexy 27 in action?
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How will I be living this
definition of sexy in my daily life?
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And I first have to start off with that.
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I think sexy is an energy and
it's something that you embody.
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So how do I embody this energy of sexy?
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I need to think of my personal
definition of sexy, right?
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That is going to guide me in every
action, decision and scenario
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in this new chapter of my life.
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And that personal definition of
sexy, like I mentioned earlier is
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embracing all parts of becoming.
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So how does that show up in my daily life?
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I think that shows up in the
way I move through the world.
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It shows up in how I honor my body and
it shows up in how I choose myself.
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So let's break it down even more.
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How am I going to do all those
things that I just listed, right?
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With that personal definition
of sexy leading me.
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The first part is I'm going to
honor those solo dates, right?
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I'm going to honor that commitment
to choose myself and accept that
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part of me becoming more comfortable
with my own presence, and falling
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in love with myself deeper.
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I'm going to keep on going on solo
dates, and I'm going to keep on
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pushing the envelope a little bit
of me stepping outside of my comfort
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zone when I go on these solo dates.
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That's how I'm going to be
embodying this energy of sexy.
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The next thing that I choose to do is
going to be honoring my body through
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movement and I'm going to do movement
that truly does excite me and bring
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joy and allows me to get in touch with
my feminine energy and my sensuality.
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And I think you guys already know
where I'm going with this, but
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you know, I wanna say it again on
this podcast 'cause I'll never get
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tired of talking to my new hobby.
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Heels dance classes has truly
changed my relationship with being
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sexy and my sensuality and honoring
my body and being connected to it.
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And I'm gonna keep doing that
because it brings me immense joy
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to see myself learn a routine
and put it all together and just.
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You know, just do the damn thing
and just feel myself and give myself
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the opportunity and permission to
explore my body and explore this
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energy of sexy in a movement capacity.
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And it's also so healing for me.
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You know, and I know we spoke about
sexy being confidence and healing, and
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well, I am healing in heels out loud
every Wednesday evening, and I love it.
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And that's me.
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That's me honoring my body
and honoring my intention.
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So I'm gonna do it.
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And another way for me to embody
or live out this sexy energy
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daily is to speak my truth and
speak honestly and choose freedom.
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For me personally, there are things
that are connected to this definition
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of sexy that I have just allowed myself
to tiptoe in, in the pool about this
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year in Radiant 26, and especially in
the latter half where I've seen myself
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evolve, right, and, and be more free.
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And I just think I'm on the precipice
of it at the end of this year.
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And I'm really excited to see how I
allow myself to heal out loud and speak
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my truth and own my freedom, and take
my power back when it comes to specific
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situations and scenarios in my life.
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And it's all connected to Sexy 27, and
we'll get into that more next year,
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um, when I'm ready to talk about it on
a deeper scale, a larger scale, but.
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I'm really, really excited to embody
this sexy energy and live out this
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definition of sexy, embracing all parts
of becoming by speaking my truth and
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being honest and taking my power back
and choosing freedom over everything
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else that's really sexy to me.
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And I'm gonna do it.
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I'm gonna do it even if I'm scared
to do it right, because sexy is about
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embracing all parts of becoming, and
I'm just becoming stronger and wiser
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and hotter by speaking my truth and
owning, owning my power and taking
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it back, and choosing freedom.
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And speaking of freedom, radiant icons.
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The core intention of Sexy 27,
I think comes down to freedom.
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I think it comes down to being
free in my body, free in my
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sensuality, free in my voice, free
in my joy, and free in my choices.
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I want to be free.
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That is what Sexy 27 comes down to.
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And I think that's why my personal
definition of sexy is sexy, is
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embracing all parts of becoming.
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And to embrace all parts of becoming.
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I need to be free.
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I need to be free in every aspect of
my life, and that's what I'm gonna
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do in this next chapter of my life.
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And I know it may not make sense right
now, but I know for me, I'm currently in
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the healing process of something that's
been really big on my mind and my heart
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for the last nine years of my life.
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I know I've alluded to it on
the podcast for a while now.
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Um, and I know in my heart that
Sexy 27 is the chapter of my
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life where I will truly be free.
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I will truly be free from that,
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and that's how I'm going to
embrace my sexiness, is by
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embracing that part of my becoming.
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Because every version of
Amanda was necessary to
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become this version of Amanda.
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And as much as I hate that,
I had to go through that to
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become this version of Amanda.
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It only made me stronger and I can't wait
to finally explore sexiness for myself
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and give myself permission to explore
my sensuality and to finally be free and
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not held back and to own my power and
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just be free.
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That's my main intention with Sexy
27, is I can't wait to just be free.
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All right, radiant icons.
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That is your tea time sesh for today.
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If you enjoy today's tea time sesh, make
sure to subscribe to leave a rating, a
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review, to tell your friends about us,
to tell everyone and anyone, because
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you know we love what More radiant
icons in our iconic communityof ours.
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But honestly, radiant icons.
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Thank you guys for celebrating my
birthday with me, also known as
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National Amanda Day, the most iconic
holiday of the year if I say so myself.
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But no, truly I, oh my gosh.
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I would not have been able to do
half the stuff I did in radiant
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26 and chapter 26 of my life.
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If it wasn't for your unwavering
love and support and belief in
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myself and dare to be iconic.
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I was able to make so many dreams
come true at the age of 26.
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Because of you guys, because of the
love you have shown me , because
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of the belief you have in me and
the support you have shown me on
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this Dare To Be Iconic journey.
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And there is no one I would
rather celebrate my birthday
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early with than you guys.
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You make my life so magical and sparkly
and just amazing and iconic, and I love
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you guys from the bottom of my heart.
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It's just been an amazing journey seeing
this art of becoming in the last year
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for me, and I know becoming isn't linear.
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I know firsthand becoming is not linear.
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It is messy, but it is so powerful
radiant icons, and I hope if you
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take anything away from today's
tea time s, is that you don't need
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to explain your growth to anyone.
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You don't need to be fully
healed, to be worthy of joy and
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happiness and celebration, and you
are allowed to evolve and grow.
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To become new versions of yourself.
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In fact, it's celebrated that
Art of becoming is something
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you should be celebrating.
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Watching yourself evolve should be
your favorite TV show to tune into.
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I know it's mine.
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I love seeing you all evolve with me
as we are on this Dare to Be Iconic
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journey together, and I truly cannot
wait for what this next chapter Sexy 27
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has in store for all of us because I'm
going to be exploring this definition of
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sexy with you guys right alongside me.
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I'm going to bring you along for the
journey like I do with everything else
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in my life and I'm really excited.
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So I hope if you take away anything.
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Is that the art of becoming is
powerful and it's messy and it's
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not linear, but it should be one
of the most beautiful masterpieces
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that you ever lay your eyes on.
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And with that radiant icons, I'll let
you continue the party on actual national
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amanda day, which is December 19th.
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I'll chat with you next week.
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Remember, radiant icons,
dare to be iconic.
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Bye.
