Season 3 is here, Radiant Icons ✨

Amanda kicks off the new season with a powerful reminder that being solo doesn’t mean being lonely. In today's tea time sesh, she shares life post-breakup, how she’s been balancing the single life with DTBI, and the lessons she’s learned from intentionally taking herself on solo dates.

From reclaiming her presence and falling in love with her own company, to reconnecting with her body and embracing emotions she once avoided, Amanda shows how these experiences can transform your relationship with yourself.

She also breaks down why the relationship you have with yourself is the most iconic one you’ll ever have—and shares actionable steps to start becoming your own best friend today. Plus, the DTBI Hotline is back, answering real questions about loneliness, self-trust, and the courage to stand boldly on your own.

If you’ve ever doubted your own company, let this be your wake-up call: stop waiting for someone else to show up—be your own iconic love, your own biggest cheerleader, and the boldest version of yourself. 💋

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Timestamps:

0:00 Welcome to Season 3 of DTBI!

02:01 Embracing All The Emotions Post-Breakup

02:31 Building a Relationship with Yourself

4:20 Sexy, Single & Iconic: The Solo Diaries

20:51 Five Steps to Becoming Your Own Best Friend

27:21 DTBI Hotline Time

31:26 See you next week!

What's up radiant icons and welcome to Dare To Be

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Iconic, the podcast made for icons

who are daring to be themselves.

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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,

and welcome to the season

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three premiere radiant icons.

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Oh my God, we did it.

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We are here.

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Oh, I've missed yapping on a mic to y'all.

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Oh my goodness.

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Can you believe it?

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We've made it to three seasons of this

podcast, three seasons of me yapping on

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this mic, spilling the tea about my life

and all the lessons that I'm learning.

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That's literally, that's insane.

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And what's even more insane to me, radiant

icons, is that we will be celebrating

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two years of Dare To Be Iconic on Friday.

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I literally like as a founder,

right, that is the most surreal

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feeling of my life that we have

made it to two years of business.

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I literally remember recording the

first episode of the pod in my room,

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and I remember how nervous I was.

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I remember how anxious I was.

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I remember thinking, oh my gosh, I'm gonna

sound like a blabbering idiot on this mic.

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I hope someone takes away something

from this podcast and, well, three

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seasons later and over 10,000 downloads.

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Yes, you heard me right, you

radiant icons have been loving the

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episodes and we're here, we are

here spilling the tea on a new era.

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As you know, we are in our radiant

reign era because we are daring to love

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ourselves no matter who walks away.

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And in this era of singleness

and iconicness and freedom, and

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liberation and empowerment, oh

man, it's been, it's been amazing.

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And I am here to spill the piping hot

tea on how I'm doing post breakup.

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Like really?

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How am I doing post breakup and well,

how you can be your own best friend

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because being solo is not being lonely.

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We are breaking that myth

right here, right now.

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I am so tired of seeing everywhere

that being single is a punishment.

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No, no, no, no, no.

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Being single is a blessing.

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You get to work on the most important

relationship in your life, and that

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is the relationship with yourself.

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But how do you start building

that relationship with yourself

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and being your own best friend?

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That is what we're spilling the tea

on today, and your girl has a lot of

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secrets that she is ready to spill.

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But before we do that, radiant

icons, make sure to connect with

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me on socials on Instagram and

TikTok, it's at @amandapaolicelli_

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and at @daretobeiconic_.

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And if you're on LinkedIn, radiant icons.

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You already know what I'm gonna say.

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Make sure to connect to me on there.

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It's Amanda Paolicelli.

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All of my socials are linked

in the show notes below.

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Okay, radiant icons.

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I'm gonna let you in on a little secret.

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As you know, we are in our radiant

reign era and for me in this era, I have

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been finding little things that make me

feel powerful, that make me feel sexy,

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that make me feel unapologetically me.

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And one of those is my

iconic signature scent.

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I have crafted mine with Oakcha,

I do sinful layered with that girl

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vanilla, and it is delectable.

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It is sinful and it is sexy if I

say so myself . Every spritz just

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feels like confidence bottled up.

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It is my reminder that I am evolving

for myself, not anyone's dusty ass son.

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And you can have that too, radiant icons.

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Make sure to build your own

fragrance through Oakcha.

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Use the discount code linked in the show

notes below to save yourself some cash,

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because icons do not follow trends.

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We set the standard.

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So enough chitchatting, I know

you are here for the piping hot

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tea and I am ready to deliver.

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So are you ready?,

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Radiant icons, because your

tea time sesh is starting now.

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Let's start today's tea time session with

a little check-in, a little post breakup

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check-in because one of the most requested

or honestly, I guess, asked questions

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since the season two finale has been,

how am I doing post breakup and what am I

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doing differently in this healing process

for this breakup as compared to that

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breakup that caused me to start dare to

be iconic And well, the number one thing

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I can say is that this time around I am

living the single life with intention.

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I am balancing my day job and dare to

be iconic and having an actual social

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life for the first time in like forever

in my life, like for the first time in

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26 years, I actually have a social life.

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And I know that's weird 'cause it's

like Amanda, you're like always out

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with your girlfriends or you're always

out celebrating life and like living

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life and blah, blah, blah, blah.

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But really I've never felt like I, I

truly started living until this breakup,

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until I started my radiant reign era.

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And I think because in this breakup,

what's so different is that I have such

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a strong sense of self coming out of

this breakup because I did all that

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internal work, that first breakup with

the letter in the box, right, that

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caused me to start dare to be iconic.

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I did all that internal work.

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I looked at the really ugly or not

so shiny, not so pretty parts of me.

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And I worked on them for

three years by myself.

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I didn't talk to anyone

romantically during that time.

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I didn't even try to put myself

out there, and I was very anti-men.

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Again, I think the common

denominator is that I've always been

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anti-men, but that's not the point.

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That's not the point of

this check-in, actually.

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But still, right?

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Like I did all that internal work

and I built a strong sense of

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self so that when I went into that

relationship with now my most recent

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ex-boyfriend, I knew who I was.

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I knew what I was capable of, but I

didn't know it to the full extent,

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I had an inkling of what I was gonna

learn with my recent ex Sebastian.

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I knew what I was gonna learn

in that relationship as soon

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as I stepped foot into it.

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And it was true.

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It was true.

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I manifest everything in my life, and

I guess I manifested that one, and I

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knew that in that relationship with my

current ex Sebastian, that I was going

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to heal from a past trauma in my life.

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That it was going to be the kickstart

to finally healing from it because

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I've been putting it off for now,

eight to nine years of my life.

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And being in that relationship with my

recent ex really showed me what I was

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capable of in healing from that trauma,

but also showed me all the work that

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I've done on myself shines through.

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And I am so, so thankful for that

because it allowed me to step into

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this next era of my life, right?

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Where I embrace the freedom and the

liberation and the empowerment and

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all those other amazing adjectives

that I keep using to explain this era.

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That's what I've been feeling,

and that's what I've gained.

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On the other hand of what I haven't

really shared on socials yet, and

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I've decided, well, you know what?

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Let's go big on the season three

premiere and just talk about it.

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Um, well, it may not seem like it, but I

have been struggling with this breakup.

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There is so much happiness and

independence that I gained from

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this breakup, and that is beautiful

and that is amazing and I love that

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for me, what I don't love for me

is owning both sides of the coin.

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And that's owning the really hard

parts, it's owning the frustration

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and the hurt and the embarrassment.

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And I know you're probably like Amanda,

you have nothing to be embarrassed about.

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And that's so true.

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Like you are so right and

I know you're so right.

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Like even my friend Amanda had

told me when we were going to

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heels class, like, there's nothing

for you to be embarrassed about.

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But the truth is, I am, I am so

embarrassed that I opened up my heart

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to someone after three years of being

single and believing in them and

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trusting in them, and talking about it

on this podcast and sharing that part

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of my life with you guys for it to

only kind of like, blow up in my face.

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And I didn't think I was gonna get

emotional because this episode is not

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supposed to be like, sad or whatever.

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But, um,

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it's the embarrassment of trusting the

wrong person that really like, cuts me

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to my core and kind of like stabs me in

the heart to be very graphic so you guys

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can kind of feel, feel what I'm feeling.

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I get really, really, really frustrated

at myself because it's like, oh,

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I should have known better, right?

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Than trusting him.

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I should have known better and

I should have just kept on going

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the way I was going because my

life before him was so great.

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But then I also think I

was in blissful ignorance.

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I was avoiding this huge part of my

life that I just like kept avoiding

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and pushing off for nine years.

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And when I was with him, I was

forced to deal with it head on.

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And again, like I wouldn't

have gotten that if I didn't

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go into that relationship.

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Right?

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And that's been so, that's

been so life changing in this

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journey for me in healing.

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But I still get really embarrassed and

I still get really hurt and frustrated,

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but it's all directed towards myself

because I feel like I should have

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known better because I know better.

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Right?

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And that's what keeps coming up sometimes

when I'm, I'm trying to heal even when I

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am choosing my time intentionally to enjoy

my own presence and be in my own company.

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Those waves of frustration

and embarrassment and hurt and

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honestly even shame still come up.

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And the mindset switch that I have

tried to use right when it gets really

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hard and like everything just hits

me like a load of damn bricks, right?

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It just smacks me in the face.

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I remind myself of this : it is more

embarrassing for him to have fumbled me

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because it is never embarrassing to fall

in love or to love someone so openly.

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It is never embarrassing

to lean into your feelings.

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It is never embarrassing to

wear your heart on your sleeve.

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What's embarrassing?

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Is fumbling someone

who gave you that love?

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That's embarrassing.

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So if you are also in this post breakup

era and you're like, damn, Amanda, I

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feel a lot of embarrassment and shame and

frustration and hurt and I don't know what

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to do, I encourage you to do a mindset

switch because, you know, we love a good

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mindset switch here at Dare to be iconic.

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And I realized that I was using

this mindset switch in every other

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area of my life except in this area,

and I really need it in this area.

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So I encourage you and I challenge you

to do the same when you feel those, those

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waves of, um, not so shiny emotions,

but apart from those not so shiny

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emotions that I allow myself to sit in

and feel, even though I don't want to,

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I feel immense waves of fun and freedom

and joy and happiness in this era.

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Going back to living the single

life intentionally, right?

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It's allowed me to learn how

to be my own best friend.

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I know that in my breakup from

the letter and the box ex.

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I never learned how to

be my own best friend.

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It was a lot of that nitty

gritty internal work.

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I never got to the stage of learning

how to enjoy my own presence, and how

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solitude really can be empowering.

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And if you've been following me on social

since the Season two finale, then you

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already know what I'm hinting at here.

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It is my new series: Sexy, Single,

& and Iconic: The Solo Diaries

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where I romanticized the single

life one iconic date at a time.

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And for the month of September,

I took myself on solo dates.

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I intentionally made time for myself.

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I intentionally embrace the

empowerment of solitude.

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I intentionally embrace this learning

process of how to be my own best friend.

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That series has been so transformative

for me because not only was it fun going

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on these different solo dates, they

transformed my relationship with myself

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because I'm a firm believer that the

longest relationship we will ever be in

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in our lives is the one with ourselves.

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So we need to learn how

to be our own best friend.

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And each solo date that I took myself

on in this new era allowed me to walk

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away with a lesson and get to know

myself on a deeper, more intimate level.

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And you know what?

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I would've never learned that about

myself if I didn't push myself outside

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of my comfort zone and go on that

solo date, no matter how scary it was,

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no matter how overwhelming it could

have been, I took myself on the date

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because I chose to put myself first

in a different way that I never have

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done before in my past breakup, right?

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In that past healing journey of, you

know, becoming who I am meant to become.

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And I just wanna go through real quick

what I learned from each solo date.

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When I went to the singles mixer,

that was my first solo date.

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That was the most terrifying

thing I've ever done in my life.

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I don't have that many single

friends to begin with, but even the

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single girlfriends that I do have,

none of them could go to it, right?

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They didn't wanna go, or they

were busy, whatever it was.

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So I decided, you know what?

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I'm gonna go by myself, and I'm so

happy I did, because from that first

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solo date, I learned how to own my

power and how to own my presence.

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I was so comfortable with being

in a room full of single people

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and just owning who I am.

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I've never done that before in my life.

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That was challenging and scary,

and I'm so happy I did it.

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I think it was a great kickoff

to the solo date series for me.

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Then I went to Howl O Scream Orlando.

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Fun fact.

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I was actually supposed to go on a

date to that event, but he canceled

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on me, and you know what I said?

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Fuck that.

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I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go on that

date 'cause I want to do this.

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And from that solo date, I

learned that I can do what I want.

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I fucking can do what I

want because I'm single.

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I have no one holding me back.

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I am not tied to anyone.

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So if I wanna go to Howl O Scream Orlando,

I'm gonna go to the damn thing and I'm

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gonna have a good ass time because I was

falling in love with my own company again.

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I truly was by myself and embracing

that feeling of being solo and that

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that freedom to do what I want.

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The next solo date was a journaling date,

because that week was so damn hard for me,

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and I was really battling those waves of

embarrassment and frustration and hurt.

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So I challenged myself to sit with the

emotions that I have been avoiding.

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I was accepting the hard stuff so

that I can finally break free right or

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break up with the past to fall in love

with this future that I am creating.

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After that, I went to a heels class.

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You guys have probably seen that on social

media, but it's been really hard for me in

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this breakup to connect back to my body.

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And by going on this heels class, not

only has it allowed me to go back to an

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art form that I loved when I was younger,

I loved and loved and loved dance class.

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And now being able to go back to dance

class, I've been able to reconnect with

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my body and reconnect to my sensuality,

which is a new feeling that I've never

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really allowed myself to feel before.

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And it's been really interesting and nice.

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The last solo date or the most

current solo date because it

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will not be the last is I took

myself out to lunch in a new city.

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I went to the under 30 summit.

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You guys probably have

seen it on social media.

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Um, and it was in Columbus, Ohio, and

I was representing Dare to Be Iconic.

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It was my first big solo work trip

for DTBI, and it was the most mind

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blowing experience of my life.

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It was so, so cool to be in a room

that I've only ever dreamed about.

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But I decided to fly in a day early

and have that whole day for myself

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and really challenge myself more

than just flying on a plane by myself

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because, you know, I hate flying and

that to me is already challenging, but

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I decided to take it a step further.

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I decided to take myself out

to lunch and explore the city.

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And at first it was really

intimidating you guys, 'cause I

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thought everyone was looking at me.

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But the matter of the fact is no one

gives a shit about what you're doing.

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No one is so focused on you.

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Everyone is focused on themselves.

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No one is wondering why you're

going to lunch by yourself.

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No one is wondering why you have a journal

with you and you're journaling by the

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window and eating your brown sugar pie.

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No one gives a shit.

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No one truly gives a shit

about what you're doing.

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No one does.

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Okay?

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That is all in your head.

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And that's what I learned is

that it's all in your head.

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That fear of judgment, that fear of

people looking at you, that fear of

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whatever it is, it's all in your head.

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Because people are so concerned

with themselves, they do not notice

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that you are at lunch by yourself.

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And that solo date in particular gave

me confidence in being seen alone

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because again, I had this huge fear

of judgment of people wondering, oh my

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God, why is she eating lunch by herself?

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Oh my God, why is she there by

herself, sitting by the window

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and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

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Like I thought everyone was looking at me.

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No one could give a shit less.

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It was a Saturday afternoon in Columbus,

Ohio, and I was there by the window

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eating my brown sugar pie, enjoying

my life and enjoying my presence,

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and enjoying being seen alone.

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I gained confidence in that skill.

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And also I was open to new connections.

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You never know what's gonna

happen when you are by yourself.

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So I started talking to the people next

to me and I met this really cool group

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of people that they even invited me

to their house party later that night.

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Like that would've never happened

if I was with someone else, because

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I would've been so engaged in that

conversation with that other individual.

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I never would've, you know, had the

courage to one, go to lunch by myself,

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but also turn to the table next to me and

be like, Hey, are you guys from Columbus?

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Like, what's good around here?

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What should I do?

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And we started that conversation and

you know, they enjoyed it so much.

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They invited me out to their

birthday party, like, girl, what?

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That was insane.

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But the point of this is each

solo date was a step toward

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becoming my own best friend.

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. These solo dates weren't just fun for me.

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They were intentional

in my healing journey.

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It allowed me to learn that.

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You know what?

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Being your own best friend is the best

foundational skill that you can gain.

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This will be the longest

relationship you have in your

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entire life, is being with yourself.

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So why not make it iconic?

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Why not learn how to enjoy

your own presence, how to

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be confident in being seen?

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How can you transform your

relationship with yourself?

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That was the challenge that I, I

took on this solo date journey.

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And so I know you're all

wondering, Amanda, how do I

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become my own best friend?

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I got you, radiant icons.

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Here are my five simple steps on

becoming your own best friend.

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Let's get into it.

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Step number one, date yourself on purpose.

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You need to make time just for you,

and you need to be intentional with the

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time that you set away for yourself.

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Whether it's five minutes of your

day or whether it's a whole night

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dedicated to dating yourself.

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You need to do it, and you

need to be intentional with it.

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Step number two, sit in those feelings.

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Sit in the happiness.

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Sit in the joy, but

also sit in the sadness.

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Sit in the hurt.

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Sit in the embarrassment.

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I know step two is not fun.

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Trust me.

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I've been there a lot in this healing

process of sitting in my feelings and

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sitting in the not so fun feelings.

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As you guys know from earlier in this tea

Time sesh, I've been struggling with a lot

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of embarrassment and a lot of frustration

and hurt and sadness, honestly.

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And well, you gotta force yourself to

sit in those feelings, whether it's

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journaling or meditating or just being

honest with yourself, like having a

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tough conversation in the mirror, or

you know, going on your hot girl walk,

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putting your headphones in and having

those tough conversations and pretending

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you're on a phone call with someone else.

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Yeah, no, you gotta do it.

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You gotta do it.

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As uncomfortable as it feels, we grow

in the uncomfortability, we grow in

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that uncomfortability, radiant icons.

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So you gotta force yourself

to sit in those feelings.

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You gotta force yourself to deal with

the ugly truth that you've been avoiding.

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Sit in them.

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It's not pretty, but it's going to be

worth it on this journey of learning

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how to be your own best friend.

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Step number three is

reconnecting with your body.

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And I know I mentioned in my little

recap of my solo dates that this

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step is connected to going to heels

classes and really celebrating and

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honoring my physical self and honoring

the movement that I want to do.

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And for me, I choose to do dance.

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I choose to do heels dance.

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And I think it's because a big part of

my, my healing journey this time around

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is embracing my sensuality and embracing

my body and being so confident in my body.

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Because as we know from previous tea

time sessions, I haven't always loved my

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body and my journey with my sensuality

has always been hard 'cause it's linked

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to traumatic events for me, and in this

stage of healing from this relationship,

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I'm making it a point to reconnect with

my body this time around and reconnect

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with my sensuality or honestly just

start exploring it and what feels good

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and looks good to me in that sense of

movement, what does that look like?

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How do I carry that with me?

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How do I carry that sensual confidence

when it comes to a heels class?

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How does it trickle into

every other area of my life?

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Right?

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I, I know what I say on socials.

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I'm like, oh my God, I'm

so hot like this and that.

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And I do believe that about myself.

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Like that is, that's my

confidence right there.

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But there is a part of

me that's not healed.

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And doing a heels class has allowed

me to slow down and take that time

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because heels classes, I don't

know if you guys are familiar

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with it, it's very slow movements.

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They're all slow and intentional

and just sensual and that boom.

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And I don't think I've ever taken

the time to truly think about how it

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feels to reconnect with my body and

be comfortable in my skin in that way.

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And so when it comes to step three,

I encourage you to push yourself

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outside of your comfort zone or do

something that you've always wanted

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to do, whether it's a heels class,

whether it's reformer Pilates, whether

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it's going on a walk, a run, a jog,

a Zumba class, like whatever it is.

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Do whatever it is to reconnect with

your body because it is so worth it.

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You guys, that honestly paired

with step number two has been

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the most transformative in

this healing journey for me.

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Now, let's go to step number four.

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Step number four is hyping yourself up.

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I'm talking affirmations.

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I'm talking mirror pep talks.

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I'm talking celebrating those wins

because you know, here at Dare to

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be Iconic, we love celebrating those

big and small iconic wins because

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every win is a win radiant icons,

and so you need to hype yourself up.

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You need to tell yourself that you're

doing a damn good job at enjoying your

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own presence, that you're doing a damn

good job at learning how to love solitude,

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because embracing solitude is a strength.

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It is a strength because being

single is not a punishment.

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It is a blessing and it is freedom

and it is so many other words, but you

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need to hype yourself up when you're

not feeling like the radiant icon that

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you are, you need to hype yourself up.

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Talk to yourself as if you

would talk to your best friend.

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Oh, wait.

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You already are your best friend.

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You already are your best friend,

so let's put that skill in use.

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Okay?

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And step number five, stay curious.

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Stay curious.

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Radiant icons, try new things alone.

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Try new things alone to learn

who you are outside of others.

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If I never took myself out to lunch,

if I never went on that trip to under

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30 by myself, if I never went to that

heels class alone, if I never went

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to Howl O Scream alone, if I never

went to that singles mixer alone, I

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would've never known or learned who I

am outside of others, because I was so

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used to having someone there with me.

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I was so used to always having that one

go-to person that I can lean on by being

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by myself, by being solo, not lonely.

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It forced me to learn who I was outside

of the company of another individual.

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And I think that is one of the

most amazing things about learning

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how to be your best friend, is you

need to learn how to stay curious.

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'Cause that's where you learn

the most about yourself.

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All right, radiant icons, before we

wrap up today's tea time sesh, we're

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going back to one of my favorite

segments is the DTBI hotline.

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So let's get into these questions

because you guys sent some good ones.

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The first one is, what's your

advice for handling waves of

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loneliness as a single woman?

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Loneliness is an emotion and we all

will experience loneliness or that

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feeling of loneliness in our lives.

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No matter if we are single in a happy

relationship, whatever it is, we all will

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experience that emotion of loneliness.

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And I challenge you that when that

emotion of loneliness comes up,

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you need to look at the root of it.

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What is coming out of it?

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Am I seeking attention, validation

company, whatever it is, you need to

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get to that root of that emotion of

loneliness and give it to yourself.

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So for instance, if I am feeling

this emotion of loneliness, I need

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to look internally of what is it

that that I really want right now?

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Because there is something at the

root of this loneliness that I am

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feeling of why it came up right?

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And it may be that,

you know what I really.

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I really just want company right now.

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Okay.

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So how can I, me, myself, and I give

myself this feeling of company that

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I am craving, because that's why that

emotion of loneliness came up, right?

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That's why I'm feeling

this wave of loneliness.

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So I challenge you to look inward,

look at the root of that feeling of

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loneliness, and then give it to yourself.

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This question is good.

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It's allowing me to look

introspectively, so let's get to it.

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How do you rebuild

self-trust after heartbreak?

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As I mentioned earlier in this teatime

sesh, I've been struggling with a

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lot of, um, not so happy emotions

in this post breakup era, right?

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And a part of my heart is broken, right?

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It's embarrassed.

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It's frustrated and it's hurt.

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And for me, learning how to rebuild

self-trust after this heartbreak.

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And I, I know it's gonna sound so cheesy

you guys, but it truly is learning how

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to be my own best friend by going on

these solo dates, by doing this sexy,

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single and iconic solo diary series.

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It's really allowed me to rebuild the

trust in myself that maybe that I lost a

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bit or that I didn't feel so confident in.

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Because, you know, I, I mentioned

I've been struggling with the,

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I should have known better.

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Right?

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That's the feeling that,

you know, comes up.

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Sometimes when I feel embarrassed,

I'm like, I'm so embarrassed

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because I feel X, Y, and Z.

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Or I feel frustrated because of X, Y,

and Z, and I turn it back onto myself

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and there's no need for me to do that.

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Right.

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But it, it's so normal

and it's so valid, right?

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It's such a, a valid reaction to have in

this heartbreak, post breakup, whatever

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the hell you wanna call it, stage.

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And for me, rebuilding self-trust has

looked like learning how to be my own

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best friend again, is learning that

singleness is a blessing and I need

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to embrace this era of my life because

it's happening for a reason, right?

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It's, it's happening for

reasons that maybe I don't know.

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And I do know one of the reasons is

because it has to happen for me to become

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the Amanda that I'm supposed to become,

and I need to trust myself again and

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trusting myself again looks like taking

myself on a date every week or so and

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learning who I am away from others.

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It's learning how to

enjoy my own presence.

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It's pushing myself outside of my comfort

zone and reconnecting with my body.

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So if you're looking on how to

rebuild self-trust, I challenge you

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to take yourself on a solo date.

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I challenge you to learn how

to be your own best friend.

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I challenge you to implement

the steps that I mentioned

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earlier on in this tea time sesh.

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I challenge you to do that, and

I think that's the first step on

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building self-trust after heartbreak.

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All right, radiant icons.

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That is your tea time session for today.

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If you enjoy today's episode, make

sure to subscribe to leave a rating, a

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review, a comment to tell your friends

about us, to tell everyone and anyone,

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because you know we love more radiant

icons, in our iconic community of ours.

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Damn, I will never get tired

of saying that radiant icons.

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I never will.

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I just love you guys so much.

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I can't believe we're at season three.

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It feels like just the other day.

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I was telling you all that I'm newly

single and we're starting a new era

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and well this is the season two finale.

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Like I feel like that literally

just happened yesterday.

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So much has happened within that

like month break transition to fully

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embracing the radiant reign era.

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And I just wanna say,

I'm so happy we're here.

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I am so happy because I feel like

there is so much potential in this era.

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Not only am I learning so much about

myself, but I know you guys have been

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loving it and learning so much about

yourselves and I'm so happy that now

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season three is here and embracing

the essence of the radiance reign

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era so that we can, you know, reign

radiantly together and keep daring to

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be iconic, like point blank in period.

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We're the most iconic people out there.

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Like I just have to say

it like we really are.

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And I hope that today's tea time

sesh about learning how to be your

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own best friend has instilled a

new wave of confidence within you.

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Because honestly, being your own

best friend is the ultimate glow up.

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It is honestly, the ultimate glow up and

enjoying your own presence is so hot.

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It's so iconic.

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You guys like, please, I can't

wait to hear how you guys implement

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these steps into your lives.

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Like, please tell me the solo

dates that you take yourself on.

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Please tell me which step has

resonated with you the most.

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Like please slide into those dms.

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I love chitchatting with you all and if

you haven't already, make sure to join the

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broadcast channel 'cause I will make sure

to put some more prompts about solo dates

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and maybe some solo date ideas in there.

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But anyway.

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Thank you guys for listening and thank

you for two years of Dare to Be Iconic.

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I truly wouldn't be able to

do what I do and live out my

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dreams and run my own business.

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If it wasn't for your endless love and

support, for Dare to Be Iconic and well,

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I truly am the luckiest icon in the

world because I have you guys with me and

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we're doing it together and thank you.

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I love you guys.

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I cannot sum it up enough other

than I love you and thank you.

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Thank you so much.

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From the bottom of my heart, I

get to do what I love every single

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day, and I love you guys for that.

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And I, I just love everything.

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But anyway, I will chat

with you guys next week.

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Next week we are spilling the tea on why

you are exactly where you need to be.

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Even if it doesn't feel like it,

you are exactly where you are meant

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to be, radiant icon, because you

are not late, you are becoming.

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So I'll spill the tea on that next week.

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But any who?

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Anyway, remember, radiant icons.

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Dare to be iconic.

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Bye.