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Amanda Paolicelli:
What's up, radiant icons?
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And welcome back to Dare to Be
Iconic, the podcast made for icons
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who are daring to be themselves.
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I'm your host, Amanda Paolicelli,
and for today's tea time sesh, oh my
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goodness, radiant icons, we've made it.
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We've officially made it to 100 episodes.
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So welcome to a very special,
very iconic milestone of the
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Dare to Be Iconic podcast.
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This is our 100th episode celebration.
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Let's get it.
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And radiant icons, before I get all
mushy gushy, 'cause you already know
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that's going to happen, you already
know . But before we get into all of
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that, I dare you to connect with me
on socials, on Instagram and TikTok.
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It's @amandapaolicelli_
and @daretobeiconic_.
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And if you're on LinkedIn, radiant icons,
you already know what I'm gonna say.
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Man, I've missed saying it, you guys.
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Whoa.
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But anyway, it's Amanda Paolicelli on
there, so make sure to connect with me.
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Oh my goodness, radiant icons, I
literally I've missed yapping to y'all.
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Like, let's be real, I know we all know it
has been rerun city, rerun galore, however
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you wanna phrase it, radiant icons.
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We've been doing a lot of
reruns since I've had, um, I
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guess a very big life change.
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I guess I haven't spoken about it on
the podcast, and I will speak about it
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more during the season four premiere.
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Oh my goodness, you guys, we're
on 100 episodes, and we're gonna
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be on season four in October.
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That's insanity.
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That is actual insanity, you guys.
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We have been spilling
the tea for that long.
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That's insane.
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Oh my God.
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Oh my God, I love you guys, and I
love that I get to do what I love.
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Oh my goodness.
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But anyway, I guess I haven't been able
to tell you guys this on the podcast
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if you're not following me on socials.
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Um, I'm in New York City.
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Um, I am living my most
iconic life in New York.
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Yes, I did the big, the
big move, the big flight.
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I'm here for a little bit of time, and I
truly am making the most of it, radiant
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icons, but I will spill all the tea on
New York and what New York has taught
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me during the season four premiere.
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That will be in October, just in
time for our year three celebration
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of Dare to Be Iconic as a business.
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Like, oh my gosh, what
a big-ass year for us.
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Like, the most iconic year truly,
and who would have thought in the
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beginning of this year I was crying
my eyes out every single day?
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And now I can't stop smiling.
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Like, truly, truly, I think New York
City has something to do with that.
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But it's just when you are fully in your
essence, radiant icons, and you are, like,
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doing what you love and you are just,
daring to be yourself, the world is just
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magnetized to you, and opportunities.
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Like, everything just falls into place.
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And truly, I think that the beginning
of this year was so, so fucking hard.
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It was a lot of heartbreak, it
was a lot of trauma, and it was
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a lot of healing, as we know.
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Season three, woo, I, I have given y'all
some serious-ass tea time sessions,
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but I wouldn't change it because where
I am right now in my life on this Dare
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to Be Iconic journey, I'm celebrating
100 episodes with you guys in New York
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City, in New York City, radiant icons.
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And I am happy, I am free, I am sexy, I am
iconic, I am hot, and I am healing 'cause
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we're never fully healed, radiant icons.
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But oh my goodness,
okay Enough yip-yapping.
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Like, whoa, the energy, insane.
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I guess that's what happens when you
haven't been able to chitchat on a mic,
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or I guess in my case, I'm doing it
from my phone, which has never happened
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in the history of Dare To Be Iconic.
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But you know what?
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100 episodes, a special case scenario.
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Um, my mic is still in Florida, LOL.
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Anyway, radiant icons, I've decided
to celebrate today's very special and
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iconic milestone with, well, an iconic
100 episode celebration that I could
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only do it the Dare To Be Iconic way.
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Welcome to the Iconic Awards.
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I have categories, and I have picked the
winner for each category, and I'm gonna
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share a little, uh, behind-the-scenes
snippet, thoughts, feelings, emotions,
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'cause you know with Dare to be Iconic,
there's some type of lesson behind
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each time I have pressed record.
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And well, this episode, 100 episodes
later, I am finally spilling the tea
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on some of the most iconic episodes
in Dare to be Iconic history.
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So are you ready, radiant icons?
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Because your tea time sesh is starting
now, and it's starting with the
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one, the only, the Iconic Awards.
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Let's get to the first
iconic award of the evening.
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The first award of the evening goes to
the episode that changed my life, and
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well, this can be no other than the
first very episode of this very podcast.
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It is season one, episode one, Healing
After Heartbreak: My DTBI Origin Story.
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This episode not only changed my life,
but I remember truly how nervous I
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was recording this, radiant icons.
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I remember what I was wearing, I remember
who I was speaking to on FaceTime before
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this, I remember my exact setup in my
room, 'cause I hadn't had it all figured
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out yet, and I remember before I pressed
record, my dad knocked on my bedroom
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door and said, "Good luck, sweetie.
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Don't stay up too late."
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Because he knew, he knew,
he knew his daughter, okay?
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And I am a perfectionist.
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That is no secret, radiant icons.
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100 episodes later, you basically
know everything about me.
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And well, he knew I was gonna hit
stop and record, stop and record, and
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you know what I did, radiant icons.
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I really did.
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Um, I listened back, actually,
to the first episode ever of
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Dare to Be Iconic recently, and
I could hear how nervous I was.
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I literally laughed.
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I literally laughed, you guys.
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And I was like, "Aww, poor Alcita.
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Like, she's so nervous.
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Oh, my goodness."
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But you know what?
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I did it scared, radiant icons.
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I did it scared, and it was all worth it
because that episode, that episode truly
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was the episode that changed my life.
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Because if I didn't do it scared,
I never would've hit publish.
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I would never be here 100 episodes
later talking on this mic, yip-yapping
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to you, and having all these
iconic, amazing memories, right?
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And so that episode, no matter how
nervous and scared I was, I still
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pressed play, and I still hit publish.
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And that episode truly changed my life.
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So let's take a listen back to the
episode that changed my life, Healing
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After Heartbreak: My DTBI Origin Story.
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He ended three and a half years
of our lives through a letter,
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and then requested that we never
talk again, and then blocked me.
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And everyone I knew.
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As you can see, that was traumatic.
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So for the months following the breakup,
I really let what he wrote about me in
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that letter define how I saw myself,
and I really let it dictate the course
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of my life for about two months.
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And I remember getting to the end of 2023
being like, "I am so tired of running
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away from every single thing in my life."
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I was running away from myself, I
was running away from my family, I
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was running away from my friends.
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I was pretending to be okay when
really I was just a broken mess on
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the inside because, again, I was
truly letting his words define me.
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I was letting his actions
dictate who I was.
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I truly thought in my mind that
his actions were a reflection
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of me and not him, when in fact
it's the complete opposite.
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Someone else's actions will always
be a reflection of them and not you.
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Someone else's words do not
define how you see yourself.
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All that truly ever matters
is how you see yourself.
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The next iconic award of the evening
goes to the episode that you all could
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not stop talking about, and honestly,
I can't stop talking about it, because
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you guys will never let me forget
the craziness and iconic-ness and
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chaotic-ness that was my trip to Spain.
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So the episode that you all could
not stop talking about, Iconic
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Award, goes to season one's Fangirl
Confessions: Spanish Grand Prix Edition.
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You guys were so concerned,
and I love you all for that.
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I love you all for that down bad.
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But oh my goodness, I
will never live that down.
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For as long as I live, I will never
never, ever, ever live down that I
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got lost in Spain, and I had three
strangers, three men Guide me and
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Danny to where we were supposed to go.
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Like, only in Spain
would that happen to me.
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My first time across the
country without my parents.
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Like, only me, you guys.
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And I think that's why this episode is an
episode you all can't stop talking about,
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because of that iconic story of my life.
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I mean, Spain in general was
just so iconic, you guys.
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I met Logan Sargeant.
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I had the most amazing experience
at the Williams fan zone.
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I got to meet some of you.
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I met Kimi there, and then we ended
up doing Lando Bash a year later.
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Like, all of these crazy, iconic, magical
things happened in Spain, and it was
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because I stepped outside of my comfort
zone, and I traveled alone for the first
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time without my parents across the world.
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I've never been out of the
United States until then.
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Like, that is so crazy, you guys.
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And to think that Spain was the
catalyst trip for me, where I
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embraced my independence and stepped
outside of my comfort zone, and just
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really embraced this free spirit
that I have within me that I never
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allowed myself to truly, unleash.
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Insane, and I owe Spain, the
Spanish Grand Prix, to that.
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And I also owe the Spanish
Grand Prix to you guys giving
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me Lando's lucky charm title.
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So thank you, thank you, thank you.
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I love the Spanish Grand Prix 2024 so
damn much, and I love you guys so damn
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much, because you will never let me
live it down, that I got lost in Spain.
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And I know it's out of
love, and I love you guys.
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So let's just listen to
that episode, shall we?
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The iconic award for the episode you all
could not stop talking about, Fangirl
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Confessions: Spanish Grand Prix Edition.
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Oh my God, we're getting pit pocketed.
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Like this is the distraction.
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But the good thing about how Danny and
I were standing is that she could see
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behind me and I could see behind her.
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And we had a good view at like the sides.
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We were not getting pickpocketed.
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I guess the guy just
like fell or whatever.
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But like at that moment I was like,
of course this would happen to us.
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Of course this would happen to
us on this particular night.
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We would get pickpocketed, but we didn't.
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We didn't, everyone, we
have never the doors open.
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We never looked faster
train station in our lives.
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It was beautiful.
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When we saw the Ciara Familia at the top
of the steps, we said, thank you, God.
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We said thank you, God.
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Where can I put my donation?
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Because you literally saved our asses.
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Because that, that was
very scary, you guys, okay?
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Um, so, there are still good people in
the world that truly care about others.
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Those three angels, the first guy
in Formula One merch, the security
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guard, and the guy who walked
us to our platform, if you are
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listening to my podcast, Thank you.
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All right, radiant icons, our third
iconic award of the evening is the
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most emotional episode to record.
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And, well, as you know, radiant
icons, I never shy away from
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crying on this very podcast.
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I wanna say around 95 to 99% of
these tea time seshes I am crying
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my eyes out at one point or another.
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Um, and you know, that's just me, okay?
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That's just me daring to be iconic.
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I am daring to be myself,
and I am emotional gal, okay?
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I'm an emotional icon.
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And when I was looking at this
award in particular, there are a
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lot of episodes that come to mind.
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But the first one that I think
of, that I always come back to,
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is season three's Hot and Healing:
How to Turn Your Pain Into Power.
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And to date, this episode was
the scariest and most emotional
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episode I have ever recorded.
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Oh my God, not me already
getting emotional for the most
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emotional episode to record award.
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Um, but this tea time sesh proved to
me just how strong and courageous I am.
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And here's what you never
knew about this episode
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I swore, after I was raped, I swore that
I would never, ever talk about it to
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anyone, to my parents, to a therapist,
to romantic partners, to my friends.
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Um, let alone the entire world
on the scale of which Dare To
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Be Iconic is heard from, right?
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Um, I swore that I would never, ever
talk about the sexual violence I
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experienced when I was 18 years old
in my dating violence relationship.
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And I truly did think that it was
a secret that I would die with,
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that no one would ever know.
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I rather actually die than talk
about it, was my thought process
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when it came to a therapist.
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Um, and, well
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I did talk about it, spoiler alert.
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Um, this year has really been
dedicated to me finding the courage
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in my voice and taking my power back
that was taken from me when I was 18.
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And this episode was the most emotional
episode for me to record because it
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took so much courage to even make
that choice to start talking about
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it and to, you know, heal out loud
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with you guys and with my parents
and with the amazing iconic
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support system I have around me.
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I am truly so proud of
myself, radiant icons.
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I don't think I vocalize it enough,
so what better way than to vocalize
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it on this milestone episode?
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I am so, so proud of the conversations
that I have had within this 100
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episodes of Dare to be Iconic, and
I know for the future of Dare to be
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Iconic, we will continue to have these
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Amazing tea time seshes where we
discuss topics that aren't really
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spoken about, that are maybe taboo
or carry an element of shame,
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guilt, embarrassment, frustration.
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Like, on Dare to Be Iconic, it has
always been my mission and my goal
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to talk about topics that, you
know, aren't really spoken about.
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And if I can't find the answers to
them, well, I'm gonna start the damn
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conversation about it because I know
there's someone else who needs to
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hear it on the other side of this mic.
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Because clearly, if I'm looking
for the answers or I'm looking
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for the conversations to be had,
then I know someone else is.
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And if no one else has them, then
I'm gonna be the person to do it,
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and I'm gonna talk about what I'm
feeling and what I'm experiencing.
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And when I was 18 years old and I was
violated by my boyfriend, like I, I
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didn't have anyone to talk about this
to, and I, I didn't have the resources
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and the education that I wish I had.
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And so to even record Hot and Healing:
How to Turn Your Pain into Power and
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say the words that I was in a dating
violence relationship, and then later
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on in season three to actually say the
words that I experienced sexual violence,
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like I never would have thought of that.
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And, like, this episode, like I
never would have thought that I
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would ever get to that point in
my healing journey, you know?
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Like, I really did think that
this would be like a secret,
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quote-unquote, "that I would die with."
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And this episode means so much
to me, and it was so emotional to
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record because it was so scary.
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Um, but it marks a turning point in my
Dare to Be Iconic journey where, you
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know, I am no longer letting my pain
of my sexual assaults define me and
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I never thought I would see the
day where I would talk about it
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and have the conversations that
I'm having and to be an advocate.
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And, like, seeing the impact that my
words have had on you and the impact
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that my story has had on you guys, as
I find the courage and power to talk
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about it, you know, truly shows me the
beauty of Dare to be Iconic, of this very
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podcast, and in using your voice even
when you're terrified to do it, you know?
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And that's me daring to be iconic.
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It's one of the many ways, and yeah.
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So let's take a listen to the
most emotional episode to record,
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season three's Hot and Healing:
How to Turn Your Pain into Power.
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Amanda Paolicelli: In my dating
violence relationship, there were a
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lot of moments that hurt me the most.
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However, each particular instance
in that violent relationship
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caused me a multitude of
emotions and feelings.
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The core ones being
shame and embarrassment.
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It has fed and perpetuated this
false narrative that I have allowed
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to run my life for almost a decade.
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I had to break up with that
narrative because that was not
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my narrative, radiant icons.
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That was the narrative that he
forced upon me when he violated
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my trust and he caused me pain.
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He is the one who should feel shameful.
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He is the one who should feel embarrassed.
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That is not on me, but I took it
upon myself and made that my story.
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That's not my story, radiant icons..
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My story is, is that I have created
and will continue to create a rich,
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full life where I love myself even
deeper, and I live my most iconic life
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with no shame and no embarrassment
of the actions that he forced upon
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me, that is me owning my story.
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Hot & Healing Ad: Okay, radiant icons,
I promise we will get back to the piping
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hot tea, but first I have something
very iconic that I want to share.
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This month we will be celebrating 100
episodes of the Dare to Be Iconic podcast.
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And for the last 100 episodes, radiant
icons, we have talked about healing,
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confidence, and daring to become
the most iconic version of yourself.
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But the most powerful part of
this iconic community isn't just
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what happens on the podcast.
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It's what happens when we
come together in real life.
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And don't just take my word for it.
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Here's what our radiant icons have to say
after experiencing our first Radiant Icon
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Club meetup, our Hot and Healing Picnic.
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I wanted to take a second to share
my experience in the first Dare to be
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Iconic meetup here in Orlando, Florida.
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First and foremost, Amanda is
one of the sweetest, kindest
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people that you will ever meet.
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She's so warm, she's so inviting, and
I really did not think I was gonna
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let it all out when I was there.
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We got there, we had our snacks, she
had some warm-ups, and when it was
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time for me to share, you know, the
thing that's really dug in there that
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bothers me, I truly felt so comfortable
that I just opened up to the girls.
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It felt so warm, I felt so held, I
felt so seen, and I felt so invited.
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I felt like just another girl.
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If you are wondering whether you
should go to one of these meetups, my
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suggestion is you should definitely go.
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You will be seen, you will be heard,
you will be held, and you will release
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the traumas that are deep within.
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Amanda, thank you so much for inviting me.
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Thank you for allowing
me to be a part of it.
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And yeah, love you forever.
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Can't wait to see the
success of Dare to Be Iconic.
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So are you ready to experience the
iconicness for yourself, radiant icons?
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Then make sure to join us for Becoming
Iconic, a Hot and Healing Experience, an
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intimate wellness event celebrating 100
episodes of the Dare to Be Iconic podcast.
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Together, we'll transform our pain
into power through our signature
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Hot and Healing workshop, a guided
release ritual, and a sexy, sultry
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jazz class, all designed to help
you heal, embody your confidence,
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and step into your most iconic self.
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So join me on Sunday, July
26th at 3:30 PM Eastern at Fort
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Tyron Park in New York City.
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Reserve your spot today
at daretobeiconic.com
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or click the link in the show notes below.
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I cannot wait to celebrate
with you radiant icons, and
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I'll see you very, very soon.
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Now let's get back to the piping hot tea
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oh my goodness, radiant icons.
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The iconic award of the evening goes
to the episode that I almost never
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released, and that is season two's
How to Pivot While Staying Iconic.
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Now, for this tea time sesh, I remember
the exact emotions I was feeling the days
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leading up to this recording that caused
me to press play on this very episode.
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And the reason why I almost never
released this episode was because of fear
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of how raw it was for me at the time.
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We all want to belong, radiant icons,
and at this point in building Dare to be
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Iconic, it had just hit year two, and I
was trying so hard, you guys, so hard, to
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partner with other organizations back in
Orlando, and I kept getting rejected and
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rejected and rejected, and things fell
apart, and things weren't working, and
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I was just embarrassed, and I was lost,
and I was like, "Oh my goodness," like,
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"Is anything going to work out for me?"
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Like, "What am I doing?"
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It was like I hit year two, and now I
don't know what the hell is going on,
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like the direction of what I thought I
needed to do, what I thought I needed to
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do, is not working out, and it was because
I was doing what I thought I needed.
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I needed to do things the Amanda way.
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Every time I do things the Amanda
way, it always works out for me
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because I'm daring to be myself.
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I'm doing it the way
that only I can do it.
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And so radiant icons, when I think
of this episode, I think of the
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importance of doing things your way.
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Everyone's path and journeys
in life are different, and
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that's what makes us iconic.
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We should follow the footsteps
of what makes us different.
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We should follow that gut instinct,
because what I know and feel in
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my gut is right for me may not
be that for you, and that's okay.
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That's the importance of this
episode, but I almost didn't release
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this episode because at that time,
I was so embarrassed, you guys.
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I was so embarrassed, and
there was so much fear.
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There was so much fear.
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But I am so, so happy that I
pressed play on that recording.
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Because if I never pressed play, if
I never talked through my thoughts
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like I always do on this podcast and
learned that pivoting actually is the
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strongest thing you can do in business
and in life because it leads you to
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exactly where you are supposed to.
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And for me, being able to pivot at that
early stage in year two of my business
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led me to, well, our first event service
in our empowerment event service for
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DTBI which is the master classes,
our iconic behavior master classes.
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And if I never started that like I knew
in my gut was right, we never would
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be to where we are now, which is our
Radiant Icon Club meetups and our bigger
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scale community events like the one
we're doing in July here in New York
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City to celebrate 100 episodes becoming
iconic hot and healing experience.
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If I never pivoted, and I never took
that chance, and I never published that
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episode, I never would be here now.
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So let's listen to the episode I
almost never released, Season Two's
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How to Pivot While Staying Iconic
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. Amanda Paolicelli: Pivoting is such a sign
of strength because you have that strength
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from within to be like, you know what?
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It's okay to walk away from something
that once thought was right for me,
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or what I once thought I wanted.
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It's okay to walk away
from that and realize it.
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And I think that's beautiful
because it's steering us back
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to where we are meant to be.
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And maybe it takes a little bit longer
for us to figure it out, but okay.
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We end up exactly where
we are meant to be.
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And I think that's what I'm figuring out.
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All right, radiant icons, let's get to
our next iconic award of the evening, and
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I'm gonna preference it with saying this
is another emotional iconic award, okay?
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But this is the last one that's
emotional, I promise you, radiant icons.
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But it wouldn't be Dare To Be
Iconic if I didn't, you know, share
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an episode that healed me, too.
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That is our next iconic
award of the evening.
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And so for the episode that
healed me, too, it has to go to
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season three's Healing Out Loud:
How To Find Safety In Your Body.
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Now, radiant icons, I actually just
listened back to this episode this
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morning while I'm recording the
iconic awards, and I'd forgotten how
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vulnerable I was in this tea time sesh.
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I forgot that I specifically used the
words, "I experienced sexual violence."
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And that took me aback, you guys, with
how candid I was in disclosing the trauma
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that I experienced in my dating violence
relationship and how for the rest of
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that tea time sesh, I was so candid, I
was so raw, real, honest, and vulnerable
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of how ever since I experience sexual
violence, I've been so disconnected
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to my body and There's just something
now in my healing journey, 'cause as I
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mentioned, oh, this year, Radiant Icons
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2026
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Like, I was crying a lot in the
beginning of the year because I was
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doing a lot of intense healing when
it came to healing from the sexual
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violence that I experienced in my life.
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And so there was a lot of heartbreak.
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There was a lot of heartbreak, and there
was a lot of grief, and there was a lot of
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guilt and shame and frustration and anger.
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Oh my God, I was so angry, you guys.
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But I was also really fucking sad,
really sad and desperate and almost…
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00:28:38
Not, maybe not desperate,
but I was hopeless for a
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good first half of this year.
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And now being in the second half of
the year where I am happier, freer,
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more joyful, more iconic, just, like,
truly in my essence, you guys, like,
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it's so interesting listening back to
Healing Out Loud: How to Find Safety
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in Your Body, 'cause I'm at such a
different point in my life than when
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I recorded that episode back in April.
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And it's only July now, so
that's April, May, June, July.
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Four months.
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Four months later, and I'm at
such a drastically different
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point in my journey and
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It just healed something in me, you guys.
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Like, listening back to how vulnerable
I was and how I was saying the words
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that if I can survive the abuse,
then I can survive the recovery.
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Like, these were all words that I
wish, I wish, I wish, I wish I heard
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when I was 18 years old and I had
just gone through all of the trauma.
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I wish I heard those words.
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And it's so interesting and cool and,
like, surreal to listen now at 27,
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at this point in my life and in my
healing journey, and think back to that
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18-year-old version of me who needed that.
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Like, I needed that episode.
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18-year-old Amanda needed this episode,
and it healed something within me.
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And to just hear that growth
and strength in my words, it's
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pretty powerful, you guys.
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00:30:27
And man, I just wish that 18-year-old
Amanda had this episode because it would
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have been so, so, so impactful, and,
like, she just needed it, you guys.
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And I'm…
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Hmm.
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I guess I truly am the icon
that younger me needed.
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Like, I became her, you guys, and this
episode, like, solidifies that for
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me, and it healed something in it.
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Because sometimes we create content
as founders, entrepreneurs, content
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creators, as artists, because
we need it ourselves, and, well,
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that's what this episode is for me.
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So, let's listen to the episode that
healed me, Season 3's Healing Out
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Loud: How to Find Safety in Your Body.
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My body was violated against my
will, point blank and period.
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And all the emotions that come
to it that I've put upon myself,
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I, I do not deserve that.
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No one deserves that.
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But we put it upon ourselves as
it's, it's our fault, it's our doing
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that this happened to our home,
that it happened to our bodies.
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It's not our doing, it's theirs.
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It's their actions.
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They are responsible for their actions.
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And what we can do
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is we can try our damnedest to survive.
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Because if we survived the abuse,
if we survived the assaults, if
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we survived X, Y, and Z happening
to us, we can survive the recovery
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oh my goodness, radiant icons, we are
almost done with the Iconic Awards.
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I do not want it to end, but anyhoo
anyway, let's get to our second
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to last Iconic Award of this tea
time sesh, and it goes to the
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episode that best represents DTBI.
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That is season two's Own It or Rewrite
It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.
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Now, I know this could be a little bit
of a controversial pick, and that's
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okay, because I know you could argue,
"Oh, Amanda, wouldn't season one,
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00:32:37
episode one, Healing After Heartbreak:
My DTBI Origin Story fit in this one?"
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00:32:41
Sure, it could.
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00:32:42
It probably does as well.
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00:32:43
But I think this one hits the
nail in the coffin because, well,
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00:32:51
we all love this episode, okay?
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00:32:53
We all love this episode so much that it
was season two's most downloaded episode
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after Thank You 25, Hello Radiant 26.
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00:33:04
Okay, so I guess second most
downloaded episode, but anyhoo anyway.
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00:33:07
This episode, Own It or Rewrite It:
Reclaim Your Narrative 101, would be
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00:33:11
in my DTBI podcast starter kit for
sure because it sums up, well, one
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of the core principles of Dare To Be
Iconic, reclaiming your narrative.
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00:33:21
This episode was an absolute
blast to record, radiant icons.
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00:33:25
I mean, I was just yapping
away my life on the mic, okay?
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00:33:29
Like, I, I was having a good ass time
and, well, you guys enjoyed it too, okay?
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00:33:34
I mean, it's the second most
downloaded for a reason.
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00:33:37
Um, but I mean, who doesn't love a
good reclamation, radiant icons, okay?
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Okay, so now let's listen.
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00:33:44
Man, I just crack myself up.
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00:33:46
I've missed yapping on this mic.
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00:33:49
And man, I do miss this episode.
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00:33:52
Like, I miss Own It or Rewrite
It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.
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00:33:56
I just had so much fun
recording this one, you guys.
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00:33:59
But anyway let's listen
to this one, shall we?
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00:34:01
Let's listen to the episode that best
represents DTBI, Own It or Rewrite
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It: Reclaim Your Narrative 101.
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Amanda Paolicelli: My boyfriend for
three and a half years decided to
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end our relationship by leaving a
letter in a box at my front door and
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00:34:16
I never heard or saw from him again.
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00:34:19
That is exactly how he ended
that chapter of my life.
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00:34:22
And I know I said in the season
two premiere that it was the
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best thing that ever happened
to me and I still stand by that.
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00:34:28
Him hurting me the way that he did
was the best thing to ever happen to
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me because I have what is now dare to
be iconic because your pain does not
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00:34:37
define you, what you do with it does.
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00:34:40
And for me, it was rewriting my narrative.
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00:34:43
Owning what happened and
taking it into my next chapter.
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00:34:47
Oh my God, radiant icons.
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00:34:50
Time just flies when you're having
fun, and I truly am having a blast.
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00:34:55
I hope you guys are as well at the Iconic
Awards, our 100th podcast celebration.
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00:35:03
Oof.
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00:35:04
Man, it's been a while since
I, I sang on the mic for y'all.
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00:35:07
But, we are sadly at our last
iconic award of the evening.
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00:35:10
I know you guys.
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00:35:11
I know, I know we're all sad.
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00:35:13
I may have to do this again
for our 200th episode.
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00:35:17
Oh my goodness, that's
actually insane to think of.
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00:35:20
Like, oof.
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00:35:22
But I know we're gonna get there.
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00:35:23
I promise you it's gonna go by so fast.
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00:35:26
But anyway, let's focus
on the 100th, okay?
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Let's focus where we are.
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00:35:29
Okay.
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Okay, radiant icons.
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00:35:31
So, for our last iconic award
of the evening, it is the Most
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Amanda episodes, and it's plural
because I couldn't choose just one.
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00:35:44
In true Amanda fashion, I couldn't
choose just one episode to, I don't
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00:35:49
know, describe my full essence.
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00:35:51
Like, I don't know.
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00:35:52
So I picked my top four, and it
was very hard, but let's just,
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00:35:56
let's just go through them.
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00:35:57
Now, the first most Amanda episode
goes to the season two finale,
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00:36:02
From breakup to breakthrough,
rising into the radiant reign era.
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00:36:07
I feel like this episode truly
was the start of our evolution of
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00:36:15
becoming even more unapologetically
iconic than we ever were before.
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00:36:19
I, I think the season two finale truly was
that turning point in Dare to be Iconic's
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00:36:27
history books of being bolder than ever,
more iconic than ever, more sexier than
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00:36:33
ever, and really having this courage to
truly dare to be ourselves on a level
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00:36:40
that we've never even touched before.
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:
00:36:42
And I know, listening back to this
episode, this tea time sesh in
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00:36:48
particular, I can hear it in my
voice, me gaining my independence.
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:
00:36:53
I can hear that switch from who I
was in the beginning of season two
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:
00:36:58
to who I was at the end of it, and
it was just, it just the touch of the
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:
00:37:03
beginning of one of the most iconic
eras in Dare to be Iconic's history.
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:
00:37:06
I mean, truly, from breakup
to breakthrough, I remember.
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:
00:37:11
I remember that breakup.
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:
00:37:12
Like any good DTBI thing, a breakup
is always the trajectory point for me.
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:
00:37:18
And well, that breakup that
caused this era, that caused
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:
00:37:24
this episode was truly unmatched.
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:
00:37:27
Like, genuinely, you guys, I became the
version of me that I needed to become
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:
00:37:33
so that I can lead us into these tea
time seshes where we are more vulnerable
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:
00:37:38
than ever and really leaning into the
magic of who we are on a deeper, more
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:
00:37:43
intimate level than ever before, and
this episode was the start of that.
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:
00:37:48
And I love it so much because
I remember planning this era.
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:
00:37:51
I remember how it all came to me
literally less than 24 hours after the
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:
00:37:55
breakup, and the vision for it came
like that because I was so inspired.
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:
00:38:01
And well, it's been the best era yet.
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:
00:38:02
So I'm gonna shut up now, and we're gonna
listen to one of the most Amanda episodes.
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:
00:38:08
Amanda Paolicelli: This shift in
energy Radiant icons is because I'm
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:
00:38:11
giving myself the permission that
I've never given myself before.
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:
00:38:15
I'm giving myself permission to be free,
to experience joy, and to be unstoppable.
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:
00:38:22
Give yourself this permission that
you've been maybe holding back,
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:
00:38:26
give it to yourself in this era.
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:
00:38:28
That is what this era is all about, and
I'm just so damn excited for you guys
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:
00:38:33
because honestly, this is the character
development that we needed to get to
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:
00:38:38
this next evolution to unlock this next
version of who we are supposed to be.
583
:
00:38:44
I'm so damn excited.
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:
00:38:45
Let's reign radiantly together.
585
:
00:38:47
Now, our second most Amanda episode goes
to the season three premiere, Solo Not
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:
00:38:51
Lonely: How To Be Your Own Best Friend.
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:
00:38:55
Now, this season three premiere was
so, so special for me because for
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00:39:01
the first time in my life, in my
singlehood, I was embracing freedom and
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:
00:39:07
independence like I never had before.
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:
00:39:10
I know that season two, the season
two finale, Breakup to Breakthrough:
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:
00:39:14
Rising into the Radiant Reign era that
we just spoke about, right, was the
592
:
00:39:18
mark of the beginning of a new chapter.
593
:
00:39:20
Well, the season three premiere took
it one step further, and at that point,
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:
00:39:25
while I was recording that episode and
then published it, I was around two to
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:
00:39:30
three months single, right, post-breakup.
596
:
00:39:34
And for the first time in my life,
I was truly allowing myself to
597
:
00:39:41
enjoy singlehood and being in my
presence, being my own best friend.
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:
00:39:47
And while I was on this newly single
journey, again, I was deconstructing
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:
00:39:54
this narrative that we once were
fed as young girls that a man has to
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:
00:40:00
complete us, and that romantic love
is, like, the ultimate end goal.
601
:
00:40:06
You don't need a man.
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:
00:40:08
You do not need a man to
live a rich, full life.
603
:
00:40:12
And the season three premiere, Solo Not
Lonely: How To Be Your Own Best Friend,
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:
00:40:18
was me deconstructing the narratives
that I was fed as a young girl, that I
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:
00:40:23
know most of us were fed, and learning
that life, honestly, is so much more
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:
00:40:30
iconic when you have a rich, full
life that you built for yourself, and
607
:
00:40:36
learning how to love being in your own
presence and being your own best friend.
608
:
00:40:41
This episode was the beginning of me
loving being solo and going on solo dates.
609
:
00:40:47
That all started because of the time
I took before season three premiered,
610
:
00:40:55
and that's why we have Solo Not Lonely,
because we wouldn't have the Amanda that
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:
00:41:01
I am today without that precious time of
learning how to be my own best friend,
612
:
00:41:05
and that's why this episode is one of
the most Amanda episodes out there.
613
:
00:41:09
Amanda Paolicelli: Loneliness
is an emotion and we all will
614
:
00:41:12
experience loneliness or that
feeling of loneliness in our lives.
615
:
00:41:16
No matter if we are single in a happy
relationship, whatever it is, we all will
616
:
00:41:22
experience that emotion of loneliness.
617
:
00:41:24
And I challenge you that when that
emotion of loneliness comes up,
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:
00:41:28
you need to look at the root of it.
619
:
00:41:30
What is coming out of it?
620
:
00:41:32
Am I seeking attention, validation
company, whatever it is, you need to
621
:
00:41:37
get to that root of that emotion of
loneliness and give it to yourself.
622
:
00:41:42
Our third most Amanda episode Radiant
Icons is Season 3's The Dating
623
:
00:41:46
Dilemma: Crushing on Potential.
624
:
00:41:49
Now, radiant icons, the reason why
this episode is one of the most
625
:
00:41:53
Amanda episodes is because, well,
626
:
00:41:58
I said what I said, and I have no regrets.
627
:
00:42:03
This episode was the episode
where I truly let myself be bold.
628
:
00:42:10
I let myself not be sugar-coated.
629
:
00:42:12
I let myself show anger and frustration
and, you know, I, I have to laugh
630
:
00:42:18
sometimes listening back to this episode
because, you know, I said some things.
631
:
00:42:21
I said a lot of things like, "Why
do we give men 30-day trial periods?
632
:
00:42:25
They never give us trial periods.
633
:
00:42:27
Men will never get better."
634
:
00:42:27
Like, I said a lot of stuff, okay?
635
:
00:42:29
I said a lot of things.
636
:
00:42:30
But you know what?
637
:
00:42:30
I regret nothing.
638
:
00:42:31
I regret nothing, and that's how
I know it's one of the most Amanda
639
:
00:42:36
episodes, because I regret nothing.
640
:
00:42:38
I showed you guys my true thoughts and
feelings at the time, and you know what?
641
:
00:42:43
I still believe in those things.
642
:
00:42:45
Everything I said in that
episode I believe wholeheartedly.
643
:
00:42:48
I don't take it back.
644
:
00:42:50
I didn't hold shit back, and I love
how it resonated with all of you
645
:
00:42:54
because I love this episode so damn
much, and I guess it really did
646
:
00:42:58
give me my man-hating reputation.
647
:
00:43:00
But, you know, it's okay because
this is such an Amanda episode.
648
:
00:43:05
Let's go listen back to it.
649
:
00:43:08
Amanda Paolicelli: Men will
never get better, okay?
650
:
00:43:10
They will never get better.
651
:
00:43:11
Do not give them a 30 day
trial, because you know what?
652
:
00:43:14
Men never give us trial periods.
653
:
00:43:16
They never give us trial periods.
654
:
00:43:19
So why the hell are we giving them one?
655
:
00:43:22
All you bring is
emotional turmoil, my boy.
656
:
00:43:24
That's what every man brings into
your life is emotional turmoil.
657
:
00:43:28
Okay?
658
:
00:43:28
I don't understand.
659
:
00:43:29
Where men think that they are the
prizes now because that is not true.
660
:
00:43:32
We are the prize.
661
:
00:43:33
And prize is do not go looking
for the people winning them.
662
:
00:43:37
Right.
663
:
00:43:38
They don't.
664
:
00:43:39
If a boy makes you feel like shit
about it, he can go fuck himself.
665
:
00:43:46
Let's get to the last most Amanda
episode, and that has to be…
666
:
00:43:50
Ooh, this is one of my favorite
episodes actually, so I'm really happy.
667
:
00:43:55
It is season three's Own Your Sexy:
Stop Shrinking and Start Reclaiming.
668
:
00:44:01
I love this episode so
fucking much, you guys.
669
:
00:44:04
Like, I love this episode.
670
:
00:44:07
I was so excited to record this
episode because it was marking
671
:
00:44:12
the start of us dipping our toe
deeper, if you will, into this taboo
672
:
00:44:18
topic of sexiness and sensuality.
673
:
00:44:22
And honestly, I never allowed
myself, I mean, clearly we
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:
00:44:27
all know I have sexual trauma.
675
:
00:44:29
I've experienced sexual violence
in my life, so the thought of being
676
:
00:44:34
sexy and sensual is very daunting.
677
:
00:44:38
It's very terrifying.
678
:
00:44:40
Um, yeah, no thank you.
679
:
00:44:42
Like, it was something that
I was like, big X over.
680
:
00:44:45
Like, I'm not even gonna touch it.
681
:
00:44:47
Okay.
682
:
00:44:47
It's, like, very, like, almost
forbidden fruit in the way.
683
:
00:44:50
Like, I wouldn't allow myself
to even explore the definition
684
:
00:44:55
of sexy for me, right?
685
:
00:44:57
And what does sensuality mean, and how do
I feel sexy in my skin after, you know,
686
:
00:45:04
being violated the way that I have been?
687
:
00:45:06
And I didn't give myself permission
to explore this topic of sexiness
688
:
00:45:12
and sexuality until it came to
National Amanda Day, Sexy 27, right?
689
:
00:45:18
And sexiness being my intention
for chapter 27 of my life.
690
:
00:45:23
And, you know, this episode, Own Your
Sexy: Stop Shrinking and Start Reclaiming,
691
:
00:45:29
was kind of like my catch-up tea time
sesh, if you will, of everything that
692
:
00:45:34
I learned thus far at that point in my
life of this, uh, Sexy 27 journey, right?
693
:
00:45:42
And of me owning my sexy.
694
:
00:45:44
And it was really exciting
being able to dive into it.
695
:
00:45:48
And listening back to this episode,
it's also really cool to see where I am
696
:
00:45:52
now in my Own Your Sexy journey, right?
697
:
00:45:56
Or I guess own my sexy journey, right?
698
:
00:45:58
Like, how am I owning my sexy now?
699
:
00:46:01
Have I become more confident, X, Y, and Z?
700
:
00:46:03
And I really do think I have.
701
:
00:46:04
This is the only New York snippet
I'm going to be sharing with you
702
:
00:46:07
guys, 'cause I'm waiting till
season four to give you all the tea.
703
:
00:46:11
But I did take a chair-ography
class for the first time.
704
:
00:46:16
And you guys, oh, my goodness, I
have never felt sexier and hotter,
705
:
00:46:23
and, like, owning my presence.
706
:
00:46:25
Like, I felt like a sultry seductress.
707
:
00:46:28
I think that's, like, the wording of it.
708
:
00:46:31
Um, yeah, no, I devoured that shit.
709
:
00:46:34
Like, it was amazing.
710
:
00:46:35
So to see how much more confident
I have become on my personal, like,
711
:
00:46:39
owning my sexy journey is really cool.
712
:
00:46:43
And this episode, also Radiant Icons,
is so special to me and so Amanda
713
:
00:46:48
to me because it was also the start
of our Own Your Sexy campaign that
714
:
00:46:53
helped raise awareness on sexual
assault education and prevention.
715
:
00:46:58
And as you guys know, I haven't been shy
about using my voice and sharing my story
716
:
00:47:06
when it comes to the sexual violence I've
experienced in my life, and it was really
717
:
00:47:11
important for me this year as I made
the deliberate choice to start talking
718
:
00:47:18
about my experiences, is that I wanted
to do something that gave back, you know?
719
:
00:47:23
And the Own Your Sexy campaign that we did
all of April meant so much to me, and this
720
:
00:47:32
episode was the start of this campaign
of giving back and making a difference.
721
:
00:47:39
You know, we were daring to make a
difference together, And to see this
722
:
00:47:43
campaign come to life the way that
it did is just such a surreal moment
723
:
00:47:48
as a founder and as an advocate.
724
:
00:47:50
This episode will always have
such a special place in my heart.
725
:
00:47:54
So that's why it's one of the
most Amanda episodes, and it's
726
:
00:47:57
one of my personal favorites.
727
:
00:47:58
So please enjoy
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:
00:48:01
I think the first thing that I do wanna
lead with is that chapter 27, sexy 27,
729
:
00:48:07
has been one of the most challenging and
difficult chapters of my life, 1,000%.
730
:
00:48:14
And we're only five months in.
731
:
00:48:15
There's a lot of things that
I apparently didn't deal with.
732
:
00:48:20
And sometimes you forget that
trauma sticks with you, and it
733
:
00:48:24
bleeds into every area of your life.
734
:
00:48:27
And that's been really frustrating, is
coming to terms with everything that
735
:
00:48:32
happened within that relationship really
has affected a lot of areas in my life.
736
:
00:48:38
It has affected how I view myself.
737
:
00:48:40
It's affected how I view my body.
738
:
00:48:42
It has affected how I view my friendships.
739
:
00:48:44
It's affected how I view trust.
740
:
00:48:47
It's affected how I view sexiness for
myself, and it's affected how I view men.
741
:
00:48:53
I need to feel it because
that's part of my becoming.
742
:
00:48:57
That is how I embrace my
sexiest, most iconic self
743
:
00:49:03
All right, radiant icons, that
is your tea time sesh for today.
744
:
00:49:06
If you enjoyed today's episode, make
sure to subscribe, to leave a rating,
745
:
00:49:10
a review, to tell your friends about
us, to tell everyone and anyone,
746
:
00:49:14
because you know we love what?
747
:
00:49:16
More radiant icons in our
iconic community of ours.
748
:
00:49:20
But honestly, radiant icons, I cannot
believe it, 100 episodes later.
749
:
00:49:27
Like, we did the damn
thing, radiant icons.
750
:
00:49:29
We did this.
751
:
00:49:31
It wasn't just I.
752
:
00:49:33
We did this.
753
:
00:49:34
You guys tuned in every single week.
754
:
00:49:38
You guys gave me a chance.
755
:
00:49:40
You guys helped me find my voice.
756
:
00:49:43
You guys helped me find my courage,
and you guys made me feel less alone
757
:
00:49:47
in moments where I was really, really
scared and I felt really, really alone.
758
:
00:49:52
I knew I was gonna cry, but man, I didn't
realize it was gonna be, like, this early
759
:
00:49:56
on in my, like, mushy gushy talk to y'all.
760
:
00:50:00
I truly, truly cannot do Dare to be
Iconic without your support and love
761
:
00:50:08
for Dare to be Iconic and myself.
762
:
00:50:12
Dare to be Iconic is my baby.
763
:
00:50:16
The idea of Dare to be Iconic, everything
that you see, whether it's a podcast,
764
:
00:50:21
merch, uh, an era idea, right, as in,
like, the Radiant Reign era, uh, the
765
:
00:50:25
masterclass content, event concepts,
partnerships, like, whatever it is,
766
:
00:50:31
like, it all just came from my brain,
and it came from that little Sharpie
767
:
00:50:35
notebook and my 1,000 Google folders
with all of my ideas and my long-ass
768
:
00:50:43
voice memos and voice notes on my phone.
769
:
00:50:48
Like, Dare to be Iconic
is my pride and joy.
770
:
00:50:53
It is my heart.
771
:
00:50:55
It is my brain.
772
:
00:50:56
It is my soul.
773
:
00:50:59
And the support that you guys have
shown for Dare to be Iconic throughout
774
:
00:51:06
its whole journey, whether it's showing
up for an event, or buying merch, or
775
:
00:51:11
buying a journal, or listening to this
podcast, or coming to a meetup, or
776
:
00:51:16
even just DM-ing me and saying that
an episode changed your life and made
777
:
00:51:20
you feel less alone and has helped
you, like, it means the world to me.
778
:
00:51:25
My mission with Dare
to be Iconic is simple.
779
:
00:51:28
It's to empower you to embrace who you
are with true confidence, because we
780
:
00:51:33
all are iconic in our own unique way.
781
:
00:51:37
And you guys have helped
me live out my mission.
782
:
00:51:41
And I am so, so grateful for you guys.
783
:
00:51:45
Thank you for 100 episodes.
784
:
00:51:48
Thank you for tuning in.
785
:
00:51:50
Thank you for making me feel less alone
when I felt really alone at times.
786
:
00:51:57
Season 3 was a really hard season for me.
787
:
00:52:01
I opened up my heart
788
:
00:52:05
In ways that I never, ever thought.
789
:
00:52:07
I mean, trust me, I know we, we talked
about it earlier in this podcast episode,
790
:
00:52:11
so I don't need to go in depth more.
791
:
00:52:14
But, like, you guys gave me the courage
when I was really fucking scared.
792
:
00:52:20
You guys believed in me, and you believed
in my dream, and you've supported me
793
:
00:52:27
And whether you've listened to Dare To
th in:
2024
794
:
00:52:34
you found me along the way in season
two or season three, or you're just
795
:
00:52:38
listening now for 100 episodes, welcome
to the most iconic club out there.
796
:
00:52:44
I am so happy you're here.
797
:
00:52:46
I'm so happy you're a radiant icon.
798
:
00:52:48
Thank you for being a part of
my Dare To Be Iconic journey.
799
:
00:52:51
I'm so honored to be a part of yours.
800
:
00:52:53
Here's to 100 episodes, here's to
Dare To Be Iconic, and here's to us.
801
:
00:52:58
I love you guys so much.
802
:
00:53:00
Remember, radiant icons,
dare to be iconic.
803
:
00:53:03
I'll chat with you soon.
804
:
00:53:05
Bye.
805
:
00:53:05
I love you.
