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Feel Offended When I Don't Listen to Their Advice?
Episode 11423rd July 2024 • Why Does My Partner • Rebecca Wong, Juliane Taylor Shore, Vickey Easa
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We love it when our listeners come to us with their YOU-turn already built into the question, not just because it means that what we do is helping someone, but because it means the door is already open for curiosity, vulnerability, and discovery. Today’s question does just that. Join us for a discussion of the vulnerability of taking in advice from another person, feeling really deeply known by your partner, psychological boundaries, and how to come out of defensiveness and into repair.

Plus, we’ve got a really great episode of Modern Family to recommend you.

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“Does your partner know about your desire to be known more deeply?”

“We all carry different learnings in our psychological floor, in the way we learn to be in the world.”

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